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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I want to have sex with my aunt Is that bad?
Having sexual relations with a family member is incest which is a crime. Yes it is very bad and morally wrong.
ok lets just keep it brief... I am 18 and my brother is 19/20. whenever we are around eachother it gets akward, i get wet and i have seen him have an errection over me. :/ he has tried foreplay with me but i refused. we both want sex with eachother really bad,what should I do???
That is called incest and incest is a crime.
Having sexual intercourse with family members is wrong. Like one of the users said, your brother does not want you he wants the idea of having sex. Also, your brother? Really? That's just gross
Im in this relationship with this guy that i've liked for a few years now. AT first he was only my bestfriend but then it got more when i told him i liked him. We went out once for about 3weeks and then i broke it off. About 2-3months later we got back together. Anyways its been a year now, and this guy, well he's the type of person that girls will be bestfriends with. Our relationship is great, and im crazy for this guy. Its just, i dont want to be. I hate that i care, and i hate that with him i get jealous. I dont want to care for anyone this much, this young. Ive tried not talking to him, ive tried ignoring him. Iv tried to tell myself, remind myself thats its only a crush. That it will end soon, but im lying to myself. But somehow, he always has me answering the phones, he has me waiting for his phones calls, i dont want to be tied down this young. But i cant help it. He just makes me smile everyday, he just makes life better. How do i STOP caring about this guy?
If you want to distance yourself then you need to set boundaries. Meaning, Talk to him once in awhile. I a.m not sure of your age but why can't you just be friends with this guy? Not caring about someone is not going to come overnight and ad long as you allow yourself to associate then you are making it harder on yourself.
Ok so ive been to 2 recent amazing dances and the same guy has asked me to dance at each twice. He and i dance very close and i yhink i might like him a bit. Hes really nice anhilarious and he is super cute. He and i have been frirnds for years and he has dated my best friend. She told me she wouldnt care if we dated but i know another girl who likes him alot. She gets so pissy after i dance with him and idk what to do. Please help!!
This girl has no say on what you or he does.
She is not dating him, She also does not own him.
If you like him then ask him out. Nobody's immature actions should ever decide for you, You decide for yourself. If she wants to act immature then so be it, she is only giving him more reasons to not like her anyway. ;)
K so a few months ago, there was this thing between me and this guy at school. He lead me on and and I initiated some as well. So when he made further plans if we could go on a date and stuff, i of course said yes. But then
when it came closer to the date, a few days before it he cancelled and bailed on me and said that he just couldn't go through with it at the moment cause he still had feelings for this girl that he never went out with. So of course I felt hurt and disappointed , but eventually I moved on and didnt give a crap about him. But then today, he came up to me after weeks of not talking to each other and asked if we could talk. He said that he did a lot of thinking and that he wanted to give us a try again and said that he was really sorry of what happened.
So then he asked if we could go on a date, and of course me not wanting to say no and disappoint him I said yes... It was a spur of the moment kind of thing . So now here after a few hours of thinking I just don't have a good feeling about it.. Like now I just keep doubting that I may not have that same strong feelings for him as before ... Help !
P.s that girl never liked him back in the first place and he supposedly told me that that girl now has a boyfriend and that he and her are now on good terms and are friends
I wouldn't blow it off, I would just go with it. At least he was honest about having feelings for someone else instead of dating you anyway. Perhaps he needed some time to get over it and sort out how he really feels. If he blew you off again then I would move on and say no if he asked again.
I'm afard to have my first period at school HELP!
What should I do ?
I will be inbrssed if I have it at school and it bleeds throo my pants HELP ME PLE.AS
It is not uncommon for people to get their period while at school. If this does happen, You can go to the school nurse as they carry extra pads for emergencies. Sometimes in the girls locker room they will also have tampon venders in the bathroom stalls. Please see the nurse and she will be more then happy to give you a pad. Nothing to be embarrassed about as every female gets her period.
If im 16 years of age is it legal to have sex with someone the same sex as me?? And how can i get tested for STI and STDs??
You can get tested for STD by going to a lab where they do blood work.
Also, Depending on the state you live in most states require you to be 16 to be able to legally consent.
I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady. She is 28 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time and I can't stand the thought of not being wit her. I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have one of my friends outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. IF she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do? I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over. And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? Also she is not married. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me
I do not know how much more clear we all have to be with these questions....
Your teacher has authority over you and you are a minor. Its wrong to have relations other then Teacher/student. A relationship with your teacher could lead to her getting fired and face prison time and you could be looking at time in juvenile.
What you just described is sexual assault and considering your age you could be tried as an adult and face serious charges. Your thinking is fucked up and you need to get help asap.
Now stop asking the same question please
Hi guys.. I met in end of october in the airport a beautiful young girl of 26 (half from Japan and half from Jordan) with her son of two years. After some weeks we connected a lot through sms and we chatted for hours with jokes. And then we met for first date and she kissed me. She is a traditional value girl and she said she kissed me because she wants something serious between us. Afterwards we had many dates and the passion,the connection was there and still there. The problem is that she told me after the second date she does not know if it is good to start a relationship now because she was married but was separated with her ex husband and they do not have any attraction whatsoever, but she thought to try again to be back with him for the last time. This guy was so bad to her and she even do not like him but she says for the kid they have together she wanted to try for the last time. She planned that a bit before she met me. And now I am there and she had a crash on me. She also said that she need to be focus for sometimes for her business too.She says her ex who they are separated but not divorced yet will harm me if he learn that i am with her because he is jealous. but they have no physical contact for 3 years and dont live together. it is a traditional family with muslim value. she told me last time that she loves me and i mean so much for her. She told me since mid november that we need to take a break. But i did not accepted because her reason to try to go back with somebdoy she does not love was ludacris for me. And she is not sure she can do that and sometimes she say she want to try how a single life is, but i knew she was separated from her husband for 3 years. so why need single life when she loves me.I was scared to lose her because she told me if her love grow at a point she will stay with me that is why i tried to charm her and always she want it a break but the next day she invite me, we kiss, there is a strong passion.. i continue like that until now , we travelled , we had sex ,everything, and yet she talk about the break. She told me now she loves me really. Today she told me we need to stop now because she loves me very much. i dont wanna stop then. but i do not pressure her ever. when i call her she does not complain and want to meet me so it is a weird situation. She said if she calm down and found that her ex husband will not be back and she is less stress in her biz , she will be there for me and we can get back and have a real relationship. but is too much if. My game plan is since she is passionated about us, and since i know if she loves me soo much she will not leave me. so i want to not accept it and as usual charm her meet her and make sure she loves me more because it will not take time before it happens.I know she wants me so bad but she is insecured, but at the same time i am worry she can be serious one day and leave me. I know she has this passion and love me so i feel it will not happen but we never know. SO SHOULD I KEEP BE WITH HER, INVITE HER GO OUT OR SHOULD I ACCEPT TO BREAK OR BREAKUP FOR SOMETIMES AND LEAVE HER ALONE? WHAT IS THE BEST SOLUTION BASED ON MY SITUATION.
Thanks
C
The fact that she was thinking of giving her ex husband one more chance tells me that she is not over him and is not ready for a relationship. Now that her ex is not coming back she focuses herself on you more which sounds like she is using you as a rebound. Basically, She is crawling too you because she has no one else. Its hard to say whether you should break it off but I would give her time to get over her ex husband first. You don't want to be that guy she uses to satisfy her loneliness.
My wife and I have been married for 20+ years. We are both in our mid-40's and have two teenage boys. Both my wife and I were in multiple failed relationships before we met. So, we both had other sexual partners before our marriage. Since our marriage, I can't speak for my wife, but I believe our relationship has been monogamous; at least I have been monogamous. My wife even after kids, still has the figure of a 20 year old. I am still in good shape only 15 pounds heavier than when we married, but I am not chiseled anymore and have a slight muffin top form with a receding hairline. I think that our sex life is great! We still go at it like rabbits 4 sometimes 5 nights a week. Although, I must admit that I am not the man I was 20 years ago. I used to be able to maintain an erection all night and hammer away at the wife time and time again. The past 10 years or so it seems that after the first shot, I am ready to go to sleep; one and done. Even those little blue pills don't seem to help. Recently, my wife tells me that I don't satisfy her sexually anymore. My wife tells me that she still loves me. She claims that her love for me will never change since she has 2 kids and 20 years invested in me. But, my wife says she wants to sleep with other men. Not only that, but black men as well. My wife tells me that she dreams of screwing a black guy at work. She tells me that her girlfriend at work, another married woman has had an affair with this same black guy. Her girlfriend's husband knows nothing about the affair which my wife thinks is absolutely wrong! She says it is one thing to sleep with other men with your husband's approval and just plain down right dirty to sneak around behind your spouse's back. Her girlfriend tells her that this black guy has a 13 or 14 inch cock and thick as her arm. Now, I am fairly well endowed; I am about 10 or 11 inches and pretty thick but I am not quite as big as him. Although it has been more that 20 years since I had another woman, I don't ever remember a woman complaining about my cock. If they said anything at all about my cock, they said it was the biggest they ever had! My wife soaked her panties last night telling me about this black guy's huge cock. It made for some damn good sex while she was telling me about him, but afterwards it made me feel puny. I am worried. Is it lust?, infatuation?, or am I losing her? I told her I would have to think about it. I must confess that I feel like a pervert, but I have been checking my wife's panties in the laundry for some time now and have not found any unusually soiled panties. Therefore, I don't think that she has cheated. At least not yet. But I am afraid that if I say "NO", she will cheat. Her cheating girlfriend wants her to do a 3some. For your information; I am not a cuckold and have no desire to be dominated or submissive in my marriage. To me marriage is a shared responsibility and the husband and wife are equal partners. Personally, I have no desire to be with another woman, but I wonder what she would say if I had asked her for permission first? What do you think I should do?
I am going to be a bit blunt
From the sound of it, You already lost your wife. Someone can still love someone yes, but there I'd a difference between loving a person and loving them romantically. I would maybe suggest marriage counseling and as some may say that is last straw before you head for a divorce. Your wife fantasizes about other men, she does not fantasize about you. Therefore in my opinion your marriage is looking real grim. I would either talk marriage counseling or I would be heading to court. :/
I personally would rather be divorced then with someone who does not want to be with me romantically.
I like 2 girls: Susan and Victoria. i asked Susan out last year but she rejected me but i still like her, so I just like her and we're only friends. But at the same time i like another girl, Victoria, we are also just friends but she hugs me sometimes. I joined the play and both of them are there. i dont know what to do, how to make them notice me and more interested in me. I cant just stat here and look at victoria,shes the one i really want. I know there still might be hope, but i cant find it. PLEASE HELP!
If Victoria hugs you sometimes then you must have some type of connection. Just ask her out? Woman are more flattered by confidence so go up with a smile and ask her!
ok so here goes, i have strong feelings for a married man, about a year ago he started giving me extra attention in work,nothing to much a hug here and there, he did want to come over to my house a few times but he never did as i wouldnt allow it, he also has tried in the past to kiss me whislt we were in work,which i didnt allow, thing is that i have really strong feelings for him and cannt get over these feelings, i have to see him most days in work and cannot avoid him as we have to work together, i dont want an affair with him, but its getting really hard to work with him and lately i cannot be around him because of how i feel about him, at the moment we arent even talking much only if one of us has a work question for the other, its down to me that we arent talking because i have tried to put up a wall between me and him as i cannt conitune acting the way i used to around him because its getting way to hard for me how can i stop these feelings or should i just tell him how i feel and see can we work it out as i said i dont want an affair i dont want to be the other women in his life,
I would either talk to him about where you both stand and set boundaries or learn to keep it professional and distance yourself. I do not blame you for not wanting to be the other woman and I would also tell him that. Let him become aware of his actions.
You could say " I will not allow myself to become the woman that comes between your marriage. I would like to keep it strictly work related."
You need to keep telling yourself that he is married, Do not allow yourself to be next in line. As if he is willing to cheat on hid wife...then he is not someone you want in your life.
i have so much to ask this guy I've been talking to..i wanted to ask him before i fly to see him since he lives in a different country but he replies with stop being insecure.. i just don't want to fall for a guy without knowing where he's at with me.(we have been talking for 8 months and dont worry ive met him before) tired of the guys who see only sex in me or im just some fling. i try talking and he just gets upset. if i go see him. and talk face to face would that ruin our 4 day vacation? ugh.. what to do what to do..i just don't want to get hurt or waste my time. for expect anything from our get together.. we don't even talk the way we use to ever since i brought it up.
I wouldn't go at all personally.
Ninja pointed out something I also was going to point out
This guy has nothing too loose and instead of respecting you by listening too you, he fires back.
I really think being in s relationship with this guy IS wasting your time. From what you have written he is a little manipulative " stop being so insecure?" You have every right to be a bit concerned. This guy shows lack of respect for you and may not be very committed to your relationship as you think he is.
Don't waste your money, I suggest finding someone who is into you and will actually listen to your feelings and respect them.
i m just 23 and before three days i m going to hospiatal and take surgery operation in my first baby and doctor given me medic en but i m sufer from continously pain not tollerable plz suggest me wat can i do ,
thanks
Adoption...
A week ago I went to Florida to visit my boyfriend. It's a long distance relationship and we engaged in sexual activity for the first time.
He fingered me, and I gave him blow jobs a few times, swallowing. Half way through the trip my clitoris became a bit sore and when I got home I went to the doctor. She said it was most likely just a fungal infection and gave me an antibiotic. After that, the pain went away quickly.
However, now I'm really worried. I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone about going on birth control before our next visit and I discovered that he had not gotten STD tested after his last girlfriend who he had sex with, because she was a virgin prior.
But I don't trust his ex-girlfriend and I know people lie or you can get STDs from oral sex as well.
Should I get tested for STDs, and if so, which ones?
Am I wrong to ask my boyfriend to get tested as well, even if his ex was a virgin?
He thinks I'm being paranoid.
You can get STD by simply being in sexual contact with someone. There are many ways to get it actually. Sharing drinks, If someone was bleeding and the blood came into contact with an open womb. Etc.
Also just to correct you, Someone can be a virgin and still have an STD. There are people out there that are carriers of HIV meaning That if they come into sexual contact with someone they very well can pass it on.
No, I don't think it is wrong to ask at all as if you have been or are sexually involved with him you have that right. In fact I would recommend all your partners to be tested as you can never be too safe.
16/F
I've been with my boyfriend for a good couple of months now, he's started to sometimes act hot, then cold, I feel as though he's taking me for granted. A couple of times I've left him too it, I've gave him space and he's always texted me but I think I say something wrong again, I start talking about feelings and what's wrong with him all the time and it drives him back to being cold, then he won't text me for a couple of days, then he will and he'll act like nothings wrong. We're literally on a break at the minute, he asked for some space and I gave it him. I'm just wondering, when we do start to speak again, how should I act? What do I say?
Relationships take work, If he is not willing to communicate with you or listen to your feelings then he isn't exactly worth waiting around for. You need to sit down and have a conversation with him about communication. If he goes days without talking too you then there is something wrong. These habits of his will eventually push you away and kill your relationship. Talking is the key but it takes two to fix it not one.
19/f
This might be quite lengthy, so brief yourself.
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for almost three years. I was his first actual girlfriend, that he apparently "really loved." We had a complicated relationship for a while. I guess you can say, we were "friends with benefits" but we actually had feelings for each other after we broke up. He kind of had a hard time balancing things out with school and a relationship because he would get distracted.
Last month in December, he told me that he wanted to end the complicated relationship that we had. He said that he wanted to start 2013 fresh and he wanted to do better in his life. And of course, I thought it was predictable from his side because he always said that whenever he failed a class. And this was when I didn't see him as often during that semester.
I, personally, was hurt but I wasn't sure if he was being truthful about it or not because he has said it multiple times before and he kept coming back to me. I remember I went through 7 months of depression because I wanted him back but he was treating me very badly. He just kept pushing me away and he was saying rude things to me. So, it was like a cycle because he came back again after he saw that I was trying to move onto someone else and I don't want to always find someone else to have him realize that he still loves me and wants to be with me.
He told me he wanted to have sex with me one last time before 2013 started. His reason? He said he didn't know what was the reason. He said it was tiresome being in a relationship with me, I was "boring" because he knew everything about me already, and he couldn't see me in his future. He didn't have an explanation for any of those reasonings because I don't recall ever having him to do anything for me and I knew we were comfortable with each other, but boring?
Here's the difference in this situation: After New Years Day, I didn't see him. I sensed that he was tempted to see me but he said that he really wanted to move on. And during these two weeks, I've noticed that he's been getting drunk to the fact where he throws up and passes out with these new friends that he had recently met. Two weeks later, he was interested in a girl that he met in December. She came into town to see her friends but she lives in a completely different state. He texted me out of nowhere a few days later and said, "I hope you're happy. Everything came out the way you expected. She told me she couldn't date me."
I was not happy. I was upset that he even brought it up to her in the first place. He said that he didn't and that she did... They didn't do anything, they just Skyped and talked a lot. And he said he doesn't want to move on from her because she said that she thinks it's better to give it time. It was upsetting me because he couldn't even give me time and attention when we were dating, when we were living in the same city. But he thinks that he could make a long distance relationship work, with a girl that he just met.
He kept saying that he's moved on from me, his grades from school in 2012, and from everything that happened. But even when he said that, he's still talking to me. He's still answering. It may be harsh words, but he's still talking and answering. And multiple times when we were arguing, he said, "forget this. I'm moving on." And I replied, "I thought you already moved on." Last night, I asked him to be completely honest with me, if he really did completely get over me and he said he doesn't want to talk about it and that he was going to sleep and stopped texting me from there.
I'm not sure if it's because he really wants to move on, he's using her to project his feelings for me onto her. I don't really know how to take everything that has been going on. I have been really depressed and I have been crying for the past few days. What should I do? What could possibly be going on with him?
You both need to move on, His reason is not just what he said but he clearly fell out of love with you. The reason he keeps coming back? Well there are a few reasons...
1, You allow him too
2, He needs to fill his void of loneliness
You are not doing yourself any favors by taking him back. You are just opening new doors for ways he can hurt you all over again. His little sex stunt was cheap, He pretty much took advantage of you. You are only vulnerable if you allow yourself too be. I really think you need to cut contact with him and move on. If he tries to come back you need to be strong and tell him no. This kid has done this far too many times and YOU need to start fresh yourself. No more old baggage. Meet someone better
I am deeply attracted to my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is a such a beautiful and perfect lady and very nice to me. I like want to walk by her room and find excuses to
go wherever she is. She is 28 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time
and one of my main fantasies of course is having sex with her. How do I
stop obsessing over her nonstop like this. I am going crazy. I want her so bad but I can't have her. I feel like I am going to explode. This obsession is affecting my life
You stop being so obsessive by telling yourself that she is your teacher and has authority over you. Also, You are a minor and you and your teacher will never have a relationship other then teacher/student. You need to keep telling yourself that and once you except it you will learn to get over it. Also, This teacher of yours may even possibly be involved with someone/ married and have a family of her own. It is not happening and you need to move on.
Ok so I went to a dance friday night and danced with 2 guys (Tyson, Trevor) and then this other guy named Sam whom I have a history with came up at the end of the dance and told me that he wished he had asked me to dance during one of the slow songs. Now, its only been 2 days and I can not stop thinking about those 3 guys. The things I dont understand: 1. Trevor is on my bus and thinks Im crazy and has been kinda a hater, but Ive always like him a tiny bit. He asked me to dance and then gave me a hug before I left. 2. Tyson and I only text and talk, he likes me and flat out admitted it when we danced. Problem is that my best friend is his ex. 3. Sam has a girlfriend.. Help?
You are over thinking it.
If Sam has a girlfriend then obvious he is not available. I think you may of gotten the wrong impression with some of these boys. Just because someone dances with someone does not always mean they like you.
If Tyson and you communicate through text then it would be a bit hard to tell whether you really like him or not right?
If you like Trevor and he told you he liked you as well then maybe you should try giving him a chance?
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