I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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I'm not going to lie.
I took ECP after unprotected sex. A week later I did it again. I know its bad for my body to take such high doses of ECP. I know there are other methods. IWe started having sex with a condom until yesterday when it was unprotected.
What I want to know is, what my chances of being pregnant are, and if anyone has had this happen to them.
Normally I always use a condom. Yeterday it was sex and he didn't come at all. Still unprotected sex, not knowing when I would be ovulationg considering I just took my last ECP less than two weeks ago.
This may seem one of the stupidest questiosn ever. Any advice or experiences do help. (link)
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I'm not so worried about your continued use of ECP. I'm more concerned about your lack of any contraception at the time of intercourse.
Although you may find sex very enthralling, I can assure you it will be a lot worse if you don't start taking a little more responsibility with your body. Other than the obvious risk of STI's such as Chlamydia and Gonnorhea, you are putting yourself at risk from STD's like HIV. You may be preventing yourself from getting pregnant at the moment but you can't use ECP's every time because they will start to have worse effects on you and they may not work as well with prolonged use.
You can still get pregnant if the man does not ejaculate because sperm still leaks out when they are aroused.
What you need to do is go and see you doctor as soon as possible and arrange to go on The Pill. I would also recommend you always ensure you carry condoms with you and use both together. I never recommend girls use condoms alone because they split quite easily with vigorous sex and they are less effective as a form of contraception than the Pill so please do use both.
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I was recently with my boyfriend for 5 days straight all alone, and we had sex many many many many times...and we of course knew that there were possibilities of having a baby.
I was wondering if the number of times you have sex in a period of time increases your chance of pregnancy...or if it just doesn't really matter? (link)
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Well in theory, yes it does increase your chances. The number of sperm going into you would be far greater than it would if you only had sex once.
You haven't said that you used protection so I'm guessing perhaps you didn't. Since you spent 5 days like this, it's too late for the morning after pill.
Most pregnancy tests work from around 4 days before your period is due so I would recommend that you purchase a pregnancy test and do it as soon as possible. You may have got lucky but I hope you learn from this experience. Yes, sex is fun and enjoyable but it's also something you need to be responsible with. Next time, use condoms or at the very least, get yourself put on The Pill, which is much more effective.
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okay i've been eating the same foods i normally do, not healthy..idk juss regularly, but i've been weight lifting, & i thought i'd probably lose weight. i gained 2 lbs!!! could this be turned into muscle & that's why i gained more??
thanks!! (link)
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Hate to say it but muscle weighs a lot more than fat! So although you may notice a little initial weight loss, it will increase the more you work out!
That being said, it's much better to turn fat into muscle, within reason so please don't be put off by this.
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i went out with this guy named alex two years ago. we went out for 3 months. the next year we were getting closer as friends and i had always liked him since we broke up. we are closer then ever now and i can tell him anything, hes even closer to me then any of my girl friends. so now hes going out with one of my friends, they have been going out for like 6 months. so a few weeks ago alex had told me that he really did still love me and that he wanted to go out with me. well katie ( his girlfriend ) is a little, how can i put this, controlling and she said that they we not going to break up now matter how alex felt. and alex is like the nice guy who hates to hurt peoples feelings and so he finally got the courage to break up with her. well that night he was going to ask me out over the computer ( aim ) but i had to go but he said he had to ask me something so i said to ask me tomorrow, so he said okay. but the next day i found out that he and katie got back together(the controlling girlfriend). (just to fill you in, i am a tomboy and i dont cry and i havent cried in like 3 years) i was hurt baddly for him leading me on like that and you know what i did. i cried all night long. well now i want him even more even though he did all of that to me. i know that hes not going to break up with katie anytime soon. so why do i still want him? and why do i keep like obsessing over him like this. oh and do you think i should get over him, and if you do can you tell me how i could do that. can any one help. thanks (link)
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Oh I really do feel sorry for you. First love is almost always the greatest. And the most painful. Ironically, my first experience with love was also with a guy called Alex!
I really don't think you should give up on him just yet. From what you have said, it's pretty clear that he has feelings with you but he's intimidated by this Katie. And from your description, I can't blame him. The problems here are that it's his choice to be with her but also that he's made it obvious that he doesn't really want to be.
The best thing you can do at the moment is tell him how you feel about him and how you felt when he said that he and Katie were going to get back together. Tell him that when he broke up with her, you thought you might finally get your chance with him, and in view of the bad things he had said about her, you never thought they would be getting back together again.
I know it might be embarrassing to tell him this but there is a reason for it. He needs to know how you feel about him because if he does feel the same way, it might just give him the courage to break up with her. If he decides he wants to stay with her, you won't always look back wondering how he would have reacted if he had known how badly hurt you were. Not to mention that you may change the way you are around him now when you see him and it will confuse him as to why you're acting differently if you don't explain. Even just as a friend, you need to tell him this.
As far as getting over him if he stays with her goes...I wish I could offer you a cure. I truly do. Love is the most amazing and most agonising experience in life and getting over a lost love is one thing which will be different for every person. Although I can't offer you a cure, I always recommend a vast quantity of ice cream (the most expensive stuff in your case. The worse the heartbreak, the better the ice cream should be), your pyjamas, several boxes of Kleenex and a good few weepy movies over the weekend. It won't take your mind off him but it's not supposed to. You need time to let all your emotions out. I know you say you're a tomboy but even tomboys feel pain that needs to come out. So sit in your room, drown in ice cream, tears and films for two days and after that, draw a line under the whole thing. Don't resign yourself to getting over him but resign to getting on with your life. Go out and face the world smiling (even if you don't feel like it) and get some friends together to do something you enjoy without him. Remember there's a whole world of guys out there and in time, the right one will come to you and you'll forget all about this guy.
Don't worry. You WILL be fine.
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me and this guy tyler are really close.. we're pretty much already going out. we just haven't made it official yet (he hasn't asked me!). i'm tired of waiting forever for him to ask me. do you think that i should just go ahead and ask him myself? if so, what do i say?
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You definitely should ask him out!!
It's really nervewracking asking a guy out. Traditionally it's the man's duty to ask out the woman but this is a new century so we can chuck all that out the window!
Tell him that you've enjoyed spending time with him and you really like him so would he maybe want to do something with you sometime, as a date.
If you're already close and virtually dating, it shouldn't be a problem and with any luck, you'll be going out officially before the weekend's over!
Good luck!
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Ok, my problem is that my boyfriend's really jealous of my friend, troy. He thinks that Troy's gonna steel me away from him or something and i don;t really get why cuz i treat troy the same what i treat my other friends and i think it mught have something to do with the fact that my bf's really insecure and everything, but i was just wondering if there was any way that I can assure my bf that I won;t leave him for my friend...... without never speaking to troy again.... and please don;t say there's nothing i can do, cuz there has to be something! (link)
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Really the only thing you can do is put down a firm hand with your boyfriend. You need to explain to him that you care a lot about him but his jealousy is making life difficult for you. Tell him how you feel about him and that you have no interest in Troy in that way.
He also needs to understand that he has to trust you. If he can't, there's no point in being together because eventually, his jealousy will drive you away.
Hopefully this will make him understand but at the same time, you will need to accept that if he can't keep his jealousy under control, you may need to end the relationship. Any man who makes you choose between him and your friends - whoever they are - is not worth your time. You can do a lot better than a jealous fool.
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i tried out for a play for the first time. i was so suprised when i actually started reading the poem we were supposed to recite because i actually felt more comfortable with people watching me and i wasnt nervous at all and i think i did good... then the director said "thats exactly what i wanted" or something like that. then, the next person up he said "see how jackie did it? :)" in a good way. does that mean i'll get a part in the play?? or is he just being nice??? (link)
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Sounds like you could be in with a good chance! Generally, directors and casting people are very particular as to the type of actor/actress they want and praise is a rare thing in the acting business!
Take the compliment and run with it! I'm sure you'll get a good part. If you don't, don't get too upset. Just take some feedback and use it next time you audition. Clearly, you were meant for the stage!
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Okay, I have just been treated for depression. I have dealt with it for 4 years now, but now Im so happy. I have found God in my life, and everything is fine mentally. But for some reason I am tired all the time, like I can get alot of sleep and still be soooo tired, like it's fatigue, my eyes are so heavy all the time, also right after I eat I usually feel sick or even more hungry, like I cannot get enough, and I feel just blah and Im loosing weight even though I eat alot. Also for more info, my diet is something like this: morning: coffee and cereal lunch: salad/soda/water or pasta, supper is usually anything like pasta or a burger or something, I drink water too and take a vitamin everyday, and I usually walk like 15-20 mins a day.. Sometimes I am weak too, like I cannot even lift something like 10 lbs sometimes, I have no idea what is wrong with me? I know I should see a doctor, but I want opinions first!! Thanks so much for your advice. (link)
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Your symptoms sound very similar to something I have called Coeliac Disease. I don't know if you have heard of it but basically it's where your body is allergic to a protein in wheat called gluten. If you eat gluten-containing products, it kills off the finger-like things in your intestine called villi, which absorb nuritents from your food. The result of this is that you feel ill, lethargic and can't put on weight because your body doesn't absorb anything properly. Unfortunately, there's no cure for Coeliac Disease but it means you have to avoid anything that contains gluten for the rest of your life. Don't panic. Although this would mean cutting out any bread, cakes, pasta, biscuits etc etc, there are gluten free alternatives and they taste normally very nice so it's not a massive life restriction.
Now, all of this is based on my own experience so I want you to bear in mind that although this is what I suspect it could be, I'm not a doctor and you would need to have blood tests and a gastroscopy before it could be confirmed. There are probably a number of things it would be so please see your doctor and check to make sure.
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I've been losing alot of hair lately, mainly when I take a shower/bath there is a large amount of hair on top of the drain and when ever I run my hand though my hair there is always a few strands.
so I was wondering if its because of bad nutrition, dying my hair, or from straighting it.
I've died my hair many times before just this time its black. So maybe I'm just seeing all the hair now because its black and not the light brown it was before.
I'm vegan so I know I don't get enough calcium or protein ( I take a multivitamin for everything else ).
So could my hair loss be because of either those three things or some other reason? (link)
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You lose between 100 and 200 hairs a day anyway so don't worry, chances are that you are well within 'normal' territory here.
However, there are a number of things which can cause some hair loss in women.
Iron deficiency can cause it to fall out from the root, in which case you would need to begin iron supplements. Normally an iron deficiency (anaemia) is accompanied by other symptoms like lethargy so if you are concerned you may have this, make sure you see your doctor for some blood tests to confirm it.
Stress can also make your hair fall out. If you've been dealing with a lot of stress lately, this could be the cause, in which case it might be a good idea to exercise more often and perhaps consider taking a calming exercise like yoga or pilates, as these are not high impact exercises. You should also start taking some 'you' time where you pamper and preen yourself or just chill out and do something you enjoy.
Overstyling can play a part in hair loss but generally this causes hair to break, rather than fall out from the root. If you think this could be what's happening, try to invest in a protecting serum or spray for your hair and use it before styling. Also try doing a hair mask once a week and taking more breaks from your heated styling products. A good conditioner and/or a leave in conditioner should also help to reduce breakages.
If it still continues and you've ruled out any of these options, definitely make sure you see your doctor to make sure there's nothing else wrong.
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Okay, so I'm on birth control pills and my periods are always evenly spaced apart, but this month I got my period like a week early. A day and a half before I got it though my boyfriend and I had sex a few times. Could that have made it come early or is there something wrong with me that I started so early? (link)
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As far as I am aware, a lot of sex can't bring a period on but sometimes these things do just happen. If you've been on medication or perhaps taken your pill a little late or been stressed etc, this can upset your hormoncal balance and affect when you get your period.
Generally, my rule of thumb is as long as you do get your period, there's not a lot to worry about but if there's anything else significantly different about this period (more painful or lighter or heavier flow that normal) it might be worth seeing your doctor, just to be on the safe side.
Good news is, at least you're not pregnant!!
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I'm 13 and have pretty big boobs. I'm tall and thin and I wear a 36D. I like hanging out with guys and only have a few female friends just because I don't really prefer their company. The only problem is the guys (and basiclly the rest of the school) are constantly staring and commenting on them. I try to hide it with loose clothes but people still seem to notice. My boyfriend is ticked about this and so am I. (I'm happy that he agrees with me and never makes rude comments on them or constantly stares or touches them.) But anyway I need to know what I should do about all these guys saying things. They're alays giving me rude nicknames or just flat out telling other people how they want to touch them. Me and my boyfriend have tried telling them to stop politely and forcefully but they continue anyway. What do you think I should do?
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Really you can either ignore it or you can try to take a tip off the TV and try to throw a few comments at them, like "Well take a good look boys because with attitudes like yours, this is as close as you'll ever get to a pair."
If nothing like that works, then the only thing you can do is ignore them. They're immature and clearly don't have a grip on their hormones yet. If talking back to them doesn't work, chances are that nothing will and ignoring them is the only way you'll get away from it. Just remember to yourself that they're just silly little boys and if they could get near a pair, they wouldn't need to ogle over yours in the first place!
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Does anyone have any insight into why my boss has suddenly turned a 180 degree on me? She always used to be pretty nasty to me. I was kind of afraid of her somedays because she could yell at me and be really hard on me. Lately though she's been SOO nice. She told me twice today what an awsome job I've been doing. This one lady that used to be one of her favorites found a better job. She had seniority over me. She is still working for us but has restricted hours. She hasnt been showing up; and today my boss told me that she wasnt going to give this lady any more hours and that I could have them. Do you think this has something to do with her attitude change? Also do you think it got back to the manager how she had been treating us and she got talked to? (link)
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It's hard to say but it's possible that word got round about her unacceptable behaviour. There's a lot of 'office politics' which Managers tend to get involved in. It means they can get away with treating their staff like dirt but in most cases, unless they are friends with their Manager, it will come back and bite them in the behind!!
It might also be that something in her personal life has changed. Perhaps there have been problems at home that she's had trouble dealing with for a while and she's been taking all the stress out on your and your colleagues. If it's now cleared up, she might be feeling more pleasent.
Sadly, there's no sure-fire way of knowing what's caused her change in temperment but do you know what I say? Make the most of it cos you never know when she's going to turn again!!!
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I think i might have ocd...cuz like weird things happen to me like i was sitting in my room and i coodnt concentrate on anything but washing me hands...i started shaking and i got dizzy until i washed them and this morning i was getting my deoderant out and something in my cupboard fell over and i closed the door.....i walked away but all i cood think of was fixing it and it started to drive me crazy and i had 2 fix it and like it happens all the time (link)
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I've had OCD for years so I know what a nightmare it can be to cope with but without knowing more detail about this compulsions of yours, it's a little difficult to say whether or not you have it.
Washing hands is the most common of all OCD tpe behaviours. Some people have literally scrubbed their hands raw. A symptom of OCD is never really feeling like your hands are clean and you have to wash them time and time again.
It is possible you suffer from a form of OCD but I would recommend you speak to your doctor for confirmation. It may be that they feel you should seek treatment for it, in which case you may be offered a form of therapy (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is the most common for OCD) or anti-depressents which should help suppress your anxiety.
Whatever you do, please don't worry because it's an extremely common condition and one that you CAN control with the right treatment.
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ohkay so i have naturally wavy hair, the only thing i can do with my hair is straighten it, i really want to be able to like scrunch it or curl it, does anyone have any ideas on like a mouse or spray i can put in my hair as to where it will scrunch or curl easier (( please not expensive!!))
thanksss bunchesss (link)
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I don't know if you have it over there but I use Wella Strong Hold Curls Mousse. I dry my hair a tiny bit so that it is still quite wet but not dripping so much. I comb it through and then use a load of mousse on it. Comb it through again and dry it on a medium heat, with the nozzle pointed downwards all the time and with the hairdryer on a low speed. Keep smoothing the hair down with your hand while it's drying and it should give you hair that's flat and straight on top but curly at the bottom.
You could also try doing the same thing but curling the ends round your fingers where you want the curls.
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My b/f and i had sex on March 10 & on March 17. i was supposed to get my period on March 16. i still haven't gotten it. my b/f used condoms both times and there were no rips in them when he 'pulled out.' i have some of the symptoms of being pregnant. AM I????? please help. i will rate high for great responses.
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If you only had it that short a time before your period, it's unlikely that it's caused through pregnancy.
That being said, it is still a possibility so it's best that you do a test and make sure. However, I would recommend that rather than doing this test alone, you see your GP. Although it's unlikely you're pregnant, there are a great number of possible other reasons why you haven't had your period and it's a good idea you see your GP to make sure nothing else is wrong.
Don't worry, you will be fine and on a side note, I would recommend that if/when you see your GP, you also get yourself started on The Pill. Condoms are only around 93% effective as contraception but The Pill is around 99.9% effective. If you want to be extra careful, you can do what the Dutch people call "Going Double Dutch" and use both condoms and The Pill. That way, you know you're covered.
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I'm the person who asked what to do about a test if you don't know anything that's on it. Well I still can't/don't understand it. It's just too confusing to me. I still study it, but I thought about something. I might bring a cheat sheet and hide it and take the test, and if I am totally lost then I'll look at it, if not then I'll just answer the questions.
Is this bad? Well I know that it's bad, obviously, but if you just can't get all the studying done and don't understand everything what else can you do?? I tried everything everyone else told me to do and it isn't working. (link)
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Well you have 3 options to consider here.
1) You go into the test and do the best you can. If you fail then you fail and you see if you can re-sit another time.
2) You can take the cheat sheet in, hope to god you don't get caught and risk the, usually extreme consequences if you get caught, at the same time compromising your potential future reputation as a good student.
3) You can go speak to a teacher. Explain that you're concerned because you don't feel you understand the material and is there any way they can help you by explaining it again or just giving you some tips with learning it.
Personally, I would recommend option 3. Teachers have a great respect for students that go to them when they are struggling. I know it might make you feel stupid to do it but at the end of the day, it's what they are there for and if you're not going to get them to help you learn then there's no point in them being there at all! Nobody will laugh at you and nobody will think your stupid. If you really want to pass this test, your best hope is to ask your teacher for a little extra help.
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Is it normal to like more than one guy at a time, because i think i like this guy in one of my classes whos really cute and we have alot in common. then theres this guy whos a year younger than me who im really close friends with because of swimteam and hes just someone i talk to alot and sit next to him everyday on the bus and stuff lik that. then theres this other guy on my track team that i think i might like just because hes really nice to me and i dont really know but i just like having him around me all the time and flirting with him. And then theres another guy also on my team thats really cute and in some of my classes and we're always flirting and hes always trying to grab me then hugging me after he teases me. So i dont know who i like, who i just like as a friend and who is just a crush, please help i will rate 5's! guys advice too please! (link)
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It's VERY normal to like more than one guy at a time and it's what makes life so difficult sometimes!!
Unfortunately, I can't tell you who you should date because you need to make the decision by yourself. However, there are some options available to help you make the decision.
There's the time-honoured tradition of making a list of pros and cons about both of them and doing a little comparison. It sounds a bit of a cliche but it can be very helpful.
You can also spend some time away from each of them in turn and see which of them you miss the most.
Of course, the other alternative is to not date either of them. I know it sounds like a pretty rotten alternative to you but the problem is that you clearly like both of them. They're both nice guys who treat you well (and so they should) and if it's really going to be that hard to decide between them, don't decide because if you get together with one of them, you're likely to spend a lot of time wondering if you picked the right one. So although it sounds like the unfair option to pick, it may be the best.
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Everyday when I get home, I know I should do homework. But I always find something else to do, like going on the computer, going outside, etc. I'm always up really late. One time I came home and started doing my homework, but my mind was jumping allover and I couldn't do it. Any suggestions?? Thanks and I rate 5's for good answers... (link)
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I spent the majority of my life at school doing exactly the same thing! It's a right of passage for most people at school to procrastinate from their studies. I was lucky because I actually did come away with some good results...but I look back now and wish so much that I had made more of an effort!!
Here's the thing, when you've been at school working all day, your brain needs some time switch off, tune out and relax for a while. If you think about it, when your parents come home from work in the evenings, they probably collapse in front of the TV or computer for a bit, rather than get straight on with housework, don't they?
What you need to do is make sure that every day when you come home, you have set amount of time to do something relaxing that you enjoy. Set yourself an hour on the PC for example, or an hour in front of the TV. Then, no matter what, get on with your homework. You can also give yourself a bribe. Mine was always a piece of chocolate for every piece of homework I finished.
I hate to say it, because it makes me sound like my parents, but although it sucks and you hate homework right now, it's never a good idea to put it off because you will regret not working harder when you have left school!
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i REALLY like this guy. but we kinda just got in a fight.. he wasnt in a good mood in the first place.. and i was trying to tell him how hes feeling.. and i dont know. im just not, good at calming people down. i seem to make them madder obviously.. anyway, now hes mad and he blocked me.. and i dont wanna call him because if i do i think ill just make it worse. and i like him A LOT. what do i do? (link)
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Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do right now except leave him time to cool off. Some people, when they are in a bad mood prefer to be left alone and what you're seeing now are the consequences if you don't!
Don't worry, when he calms back down, he'll realise you were just trying to help and he will start speaking to him again. Just make sure that when it happens, you try not to say anything about it, because unless he mentions it first, chances are he'd rather just forget it happened.
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On the Sims 2 Nightlife how do you turn into a Vampire? My friend can't seem to figure it out so she was wondering if anyone here knew. (link)
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I've had a look at this and it seems that if you go to one of the darker towns you can visit in the car and stay outside when it's dark, you could get bitten by a vampire and this is how they turn you into one.
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