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jealous bf
Ok, my problem is that my boyfriend's really jealous of my friend, troy. He thinks that Troy's gonna steel me away from him or something and i don;t really get why cuz i treat troy the same what i treat my other friends and i think it mught have something to do with the fact that my bf's really insecure and everything, but i was just wondering if there was any way that I can assure my bf that I won;t leave him for my friend...... without never speaking to troy again.... and please don;t say there's nothing i can do, cuz there has to be something!
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You need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend. I actually know how he feels. Once I went out with this guy who's best friend was a girl and I would always envy her. But the he reassured me that he loved me and that there is no other girl, not even his best friend, that could ever take my place. I beleived him and I never got jealous again. Your boyfriend has to realize that you love him more than anything. You love him more than Troy, and Troy is only a good friend of your's, like any of your friends that are girls. Hope he understands! xo.
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Theres nothing wrong with having friends. Just tell him if you really liked troy wouldnt you of left ur boyfriend for him already. Just be cool about it. Tell him if he really cares about you then he would understand that he has friends and so do you. If that doesnt work then hes not good enough. Ive been there and its not good to have a very insecure boyfriend. It will just escalade and im sure you dont want that.
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Really the only thing you can do is put down a firm hand with your boyfriend. You need to explain to him that you care a lot about him but his jealousy is making life difficult for you. Tell him how you feel about him and that you have no interest in Troy in that way.
He also needs to understand that he has to trust you. If he can't, there's no point in being together because eventually, his jealousy will drive you away.
Hopefully this will make him understand but at the same time, you will need to accept that if he can't keep his jealousy under control, you may need to end the relationship. Any man who makes you choose between him and your friends - whoever they are - is not worth your time. You can do a lot better than a jealous fool.
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the fact that you treat him like all your other friends might be it. he may want to feel important or special so as to insure you "love"(i hate how loosely that word is strung around nowadays.)
if hes insecure, your right it most likely will have something to do with it.
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Instead of talking to your boyfriend - if you have already talked to him about this - get him talking to Troy.
Or hang out with both of them and show your boyfriend that Troy's no different than anyone else. Your boyfriend probably is insecure, most people generally are.
Tell Troy what's going on, and tell your boyfriend you want the two of them to talk. Troy might be able to reassure him very well if he's a good friend.
I had a jealous boyfriend problem, and I didn't think of this. I think it would be a good idea to get the two problems talking to each other. Lol.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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of course theres a way, just talk to your boyfriend sit him down or talk to him on the fone and just tell him how you feel about him and let him kno that you arn't going leave him for your friend that he means a lot to you and that no friend can change that and if he still doesnt believe you then try to keep tellin him that, tell him he shuld trust you
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