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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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Ok if someone has anal and oral sex but not vaginal sex, can they consider themselves virgins?

It depends on your definition of virginity. If you consider yourself a virgin until you've had sex (i.e. intercourse, not oral) then you could not be considered a virgin to certain people since anal sex involves penetration.

When girls give BJ, I heard they swallowed the cum. is it true?

It's not a requirement, but it's easier and less messy for both people involved.

is there such a thing as a 5 dollar or a ten dollar itunes card?

or does it just start at 15 dollars?

They start at $15.

I'm 15 so i guess I'm not in "love" but I have really strong feelings for this guy whos a bit of a bad boy.

Hes ll months younger than me and the little brother of one of my best friends. I thought he was gross and not worth my time for the past 3 years that I've known him until now because I've gotten to know him. Hes white. I'm black. I have straight As and am about to skip a grade. Hes failed once or twice and is still in the 8th grade [im in the llth].

I'm a virgin and have never touched a drug or drink in my life. He isnt a virgin and used to have a habit of being under the influence. He seems to be quitting and has treated me better than any other guy I've dated or liked and he doesnt try to push anything on me like sex or drugs or anything.

Hes actually looking to me to help him stop. Both of us have strong feelings for each other. Should I be with him or am I wasting my time with this bad boy?

He's not a bad kid, really. He's quitting his bad habits and him not being a virgin has very little to do with if he can be considered "bad" or not. Trust me, there are plenty of virgin guys who are just as likely to pressure a girl (or not) as one who is more sexually experienced.

So, go with your gut. If you like him and feel safe around him, go for it.

i don't get the point of female ejaculation.
'cause guys do it to shoot sperm and start that whole reproduction cycle.
why do girls do it?

Also it's natural lubrication.

What products should I try to get rid of acne. My skin type is combination, I break out really bad around my time of the month, and most times I get these really big pimples under the skin, and they never come to a head where I can pop them. I want to know what product I can use to prevent my acne and those really big under the skin unpopable pimples.
Thanks

Hey =)

I already have an FAQ on this:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=510619

Also, don't try to pop pimples unless they've become a whitehead. Even then, be VERy careful. Acne scars take a long time to fade, and popping zits is wicked painful already.

-LM
[16/f]

I've been with my boyfriend since the beginning of January. He's the first serious guy I've been with. Gosh I love him so much. He's a sophomore, I'm a junior. He told me he is leaving in July to finish high school in a city 2.5 hours away. He said that finishing high school there would earn him a 2 year associate's degree along the way (it's a special program). I couldn't take it. I told him if he's sure he is leaving, I don't want to see him anymore. I don't want him getting my hopes up with "I love you"'s and kissing. He's basically leaving my life forever in a few short months.

Someone please help me. I'm very sad about this because I love him SO much and he doesn't seem to care! *tear*

Basically what you're saying here is, "Boo hoo my boyfriend is going to school somewhere else and that means he doesn't love me anymore". Which probably isn't the case at all. He has the opportunity to finish high school ALREADY (which is very impressive) so clearly he's a smart kid. You're both in school, which occupies a fair amount of your time already. Make a date a couple times a month (or more if you can) to see him. If you love him so much, that should be enough to try and make it work. It's not like you'll never see him again. If so (like if he was gone for months at a time) then it'd be difficult to maintain the relationship. But if there's any way to make the distance work for you, do it. You love him so much, don't you? :)

Good luck!
-LM
[16/f]

I'm 16, I wear a D36 cup and I'm 5'0. I have dark red hair and olive skin. I'm tired of hiding behind clothes that don't fit or flatter me in the correct places. Could someone put together a cute outfit [from the forever21 site] for me for an example or give me tips? Obviously I would like to stay modest with cleavage. I want to go shopping soon but I'm totally lost with style and correct colors.. My whole wardrobe needs to be revamped lol. Lots of answers would be appreciated.

I can't help much with specific pieces, because I can't guarantee that it'll fit you right and whatnot. But make sure you try every shirt on before you buy it, because a) each shirt is cut differently, even ones that are the same size and b) certain colors may look terrible or just not flatter you (since you mentioned that already it must be an issue for you)

Also, by trying to hide clevage you can sometimes actually acentuate it. Turtlenecks for example can sometimes magnify things like you wouldn't believe. So, it's okay to show a little off. You'll know it's the right amount when you try on a shirt and think "Wow, it's so cute" instead of "WOW, look at my chest!"

A couple suggestions:
http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryID=1483&sidenavTrack=apparel.tops.cami
[You can buy similar shirts @ most stores, I just happen to be on this site]
You can layer tanks, wear them under hoodies, and wear them under a shirt that's a bit see-through. Very versatile, and if you shop around you can find them really cheap too.

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=blouse%5Fshirts&product%5Fid=2048214276&Page=1
Shirts like this (doesn't have to be exactly this style if you don't like it) flatter your figure and are girly without being too revealing. Try to find some that accentuate your waist, so that it doesn't look like you're drowning in fabric.

If you got some cute basics (jeans in different washes and styles, tanks, camis, tshirts, etc) and a few cute tops you'd have a versatile new wardrobe that could be mixed with stuff you already have. Also, make sure you're wearing a properly-fitting bra. The wrong one could easily ruin an otherwise great outfit. One with two or more hooks in the back typically provides more support & is wicked comfortable too.

Good luck :)
-LM
[16/f]

Okay I'm on a diet.

and I drink Organic milk no matter what but I started drinking 1% does that help my losing weight at all or is it wasting my time. i'm 15 if that helps.

Yes, switching to a lower-fat milk decreases your fat intake. I always drink skim or 1%, and since I drink so much milk I can guarantee that if I was drinking whole milk I'd be 15 pounds heavier.

So no, you're not wasting your time, unless of course you're having an entire package of Oreos with that 1% =)

I'm confused on how to apply eyeshadow properly. can someone give me tips or some useful websites?

http://www.wikihow.com/Apply-Eyeshadow

Everyone applies it differently. Figure out what colors look best on your eye, then what application looks good. Some colors look good when your whole lid is covered, others look amazing when you use them like eyeliner =)

The crease of your eye is basically where your eyelid ends. You can feel where it is if you lightly feel your eyelid and feel the bone of your eye socket.

how do u get rid of like the black-ish spots your old acne left behind? without having to buy products and all those stuff?

Without buying anything, you'll just have to wait.
They'll fade with time.

Farily inexpensive things that will speed up the process are things that contain salicylic acid, and "acne mark fading" products from Neutrogena or similar brands.

okay.
im confused

when you shave your vagina do you shave like the undernath to? like the bottom part?
and the top?
or just the top.
and do you shave bottom to top? or top to bottom?
im confusedd!

Shave whatever you're comfortable with. It's totally up to you; it's your body.

can someone give me more of the jokes that are like?

are you a cashier? no... then why are you checking me out?

are you a lightswitch? cause whenever i'm near you i seem to get turned on.

do you work at subway, cause whenever i see you, i get a foot long

and stuff like that!
thanks (:

"Your Daddy must be a terrorist, 'cause you're da bomb" is a personal favorite.

okay so this is really embarrassing.. but im a 15/female and im looking to buy a swimsuit and in the past i always got like shorts for my bottom part.. and well now i look for bathing suits and none of them come like that anymore. And well I was wondering if your suppose to shave or trim or whatever down there.. so it doesn't show cause i have no idea what to do... help please :]

Yes, most girls shave. Go slowly, and use a new razor & plenty of shave gel. Make sure you use baby oil or something similar immediately afterwards to minimize irritation and red bumps.

my natural hair color is jet black and i was wondering if i used a REALLY light colored rinse, would it at least turn brown, or do i have to dye it?

You cold achieve a color rinse of sorts, like if your hair caught the light there would be a noticeable difference. If you want brown hair, try using a brown hair dye, and see how it works out. For black hair, though, you may need a stylist's expertise & stronger developer.

Oh, I strongly advise you to never use Garnier 100% Color Ultra-Lift Brown. It made my hair orange.

How can I achieve hair like this;
http://images.eonline.com/eol_images/Profiles/20060912/244.simpson.jessica.091906.jpg
Will A Body Wave Perm allow my hair to be like the picture above? Also, if I do get a body wave perm, what are the disadvantages?

Yes, a permanent wave could achieve that in most if not all types of hair. Just be very specific with describing what you want (bring a few pictures with you)

Pros: You wouldn;t have to curl your hair everyday
Cons: Perms can weaken hair and smell nasty when they're getting done.

any good proxys that work for blocked sites at school???? i could really use one :) or some.....

Sign up for the mailing list at:
www.stupidcensorship.com

Problem with that is, if you have a really good IT department at your school (like mine does) I think they subscribe to it, too, and block all the new ones.

If your school is that strict with their website blocking, maybe it's not worth the consequences of accessing a restricted site, just to check your friend requests. If you need to access, say, email, and you have a really good reason, administrators can usually un-block it for you if you ask very nicely.

So on AIM 6 you can text your friends on there phone

is it free for me(the person on the computer)

i know it costs for the person with the phone

but i was wondering if it was free for me?

Yes, it's free for you.

I can not remember if I took a tampon out from December and I heve been feeling pretty goggy since that date I think or maybe it could be in my mind.

DO you think something would have happened by now if i still left it in or do you think i should go doctors.

If you had left a tampon in since December, you would have smelled it by now. But if you're still not sure yeah I'd go see a doctor, that could be a serious problem if you've had one in that long.

Would it be acceptable to attach a small letter to a job application?

I wrote a small letter explaining that I was interested in working during the summer since I am attending college. I already put on the application that I cannot start until May, but I felt the need to explain my current situation of not being at home, but I will be in a couple months.

Would it be more appropriate to just wait for them to contact me?

I think that would be all right. It shows that you're interested in the job, but you can't work until summer. You're supposed to put when you're available on the application, so if a short letter helps you do that, I see no problem with it. Just make sure the letter looks nice- type it, preferably, and both print and sign your name- and isn't written on a Hello Kitty Post-It note or anything :)

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