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I have an attraction to older men. Like today, I went to my uncles party and met one of his friends... An older guy who turned out to be really cool and easy to talk to. We had a lot in common, music wise and I just found myself really attracted to him...
But this is common for me, I usualy tend to go after older men. Men who are much much older than me. I'm only 19 and this guy had a 16 year old son already, So i'm guessing he was maybe around 40...
I'm not talking like old wrinkled men either.. so dont think im crazy. lol

Anyway, is this normal & what could be the reason behind it?? cause 20 year old guys just don't do it for me.

Maturity. For your type of guys, the older guys are more mature than the younger ones. Unfortunately, most but not all guys, won't mature until their late 20's. Therefore, you probably want a guy who's more mature & has been through more things in life. A 40 year old, especially with kids, will be more mature & went through more life experiences than someone who's only 20 or so. Also, they probably have more experience with relationships. A lot of girls are in this situation. You shouldn't really go by that though. All guys are different. A lot of girls feel that an older guy will treat them better & give them a better life. Basically will take care of them better & won't be too interested in finding another girl since they've done that when they were younger. They're most likely past that whole partying stage. Nothing is wrong with you though. Your situation is actually normal.

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So, I have a Motorola razr, V3m to be exact. A few days ago, the inside screen turned completely white. The outer screen is blue. It has stayed that way since. It will occasionally flicker the normal screen for just a few seconds. My phone has never had any water damage. I have, however, dropped it a few times in the 10 months of owning the phone. I have already tried taking the battery out for at least a few hours, turning it off, and putting it on the charger. Still, nothing works. I don't think that the LCD screens would be broken because if they were, they would just be completely black. Anyone know what's going on or how to fix it?

You'll have to take it to the store. My friend's did that & it was only because she kept opening & closing it. I'm not saying that's why yours is like that, but it could be a possbility. Depending on if they can fix it/what happened to it will decide if you need & what you may have to pay for.

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Hi! I'm Kristina a.k.a Munchie! So yea I'm 14/f and I'm like 5'2 or 5'1! Idk really anyways that doesnt really matter. I would love to know how to make yourself happier. I dont know if its just the way you think or what. But I think it's a lil bit of both. Like your life plays a role on how you act. So how do I change my life so that I think happy and act happy as well?

Exercise. Yes, that might sound completely weird, but exercise produces endorphins which help you become happy. This doesn't have to be exteme workouts, but do something you enjoy. Running, Walking, Biking, Swimming, Sports, etc. Just doing things you love will make you happier. Also, surrounding yourself with people who care about you/you care about will help you become happier in general. Thinking does have a lot to do with it. If you are an optimistic person & doesn't let minor things bring you down, you'll be happier & more relaxed.

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So I have a pretty small upper half and huge hips and thighs.
I need something that will shrink my thighs and firm them. What kind of exercises can I do? And is there any product out there at helps with this specifically? Like a fitness program or pill or something?

I would not suggest using any kind of pill. Those are dangerous & not always effective. There are quite a few exercises you can do. If you target that area & do workouts, you should be able to lose weight. Here's a few websites-

http://www.lhj.com/home/Thigh-Exercises.html
http://www.flat-stomach-exercises.com/love-handles.html
http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Arthritis/arth_hip-and-leg-exercises.htm
http://www.iloveindia.com/fitness/exercises/thigh-exercises.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/health/story/0,,1808522,00.html

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15/f

I have a few questions about applying to jobs:

If I went to like a drug store or something, would I ask for an application or would I ask if they're hiring first?

Oh and If I want to a restaurant, who would I ask for an application? (non-fast food)

Go to the store/restaurant you want to work at and ask for the manager. Usually other employees don't really know much about getting applications or if they're hiring, so asking for the manager would be the best bet. Ask the manager if they are hiring & if so, if he/she could give you an application. Then all you need to do is fill it out & hand it in.

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ok, on my moms outter thigh on the left side there is an indention. it started comming up about a month ago. it is about as big as the palm of your hand, and it it noticable. where the indention is, it doesnt hurt, but it hurts around the hip & butt area and makes her whole leg ache. she cant bend that leg as much as she can the other one. what could be the cause of this and what needs to be done?

Your mom needs to go to the doctor. None of us here are doctors, so we can't say "oh its definitely this". I would suggest for her to make an appointment asap. It could be nothing, or it could be something more serious. It could be a Neuromuscular Disease but there are more symptoms.

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I was recently madly in love with this girl, Jess,..and i got to accept tha me and her aint gunna happen...
I stated going out with another girl, becky, recently..yet whenever we talk about the "future" i just think about how i want my future to be with jess..even though i really like jess, i want things to work out with becky..
do you think my feelings for jess will change with time?

They could, but it really isn't fair to Becky. She is your girlfriend & she probably thinks you're dating her because you really like her. You might like her, but your feelings are obviously stronger for Jess. It would only be fair if you told her. Even though you may want to be with Becky, If you still have feelings for Jess & Jess were to start liking you, you would most likely leave Becky for Jess, causing her to be upset. Talk to her about it. Maybe you should just be friends with her until you decide how you really feel about each girl. Feelings do change over time though.

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what is it asking for when it says the name meaning and symbol meaning??? i have no idea what this is even asking for.

4. Write the "name" meaning:
a. 0.1 gram=
b. 0.01 meter=
c. 0.000001 liter=
d. 100 liters=
e. 1,000,000 grams=
f. 10 meters

5. Write the 'symbol' meaning:
a. 0.001 L
b. 0.1 g
c. 0.01 m
d. 10 m
e. 1000 g
f. 1,000,000 L

Here's a website-

http://lamar.colostate.edu/~hillger/common.html

We can't do your homework for you, that isn't what advicenators is for, but there's a lot of information on that website. The name meaning is basically grams, meters, liters, etc. The symbol is L, G, M, etc. Basically its what the units/symbols stand for.

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Ok so ther's this video on myspace or youtube that i've heard about but want to watch and dont know how to find it i know somewhere in it somone says "let me see here very nice.. very nice" does anyone nkoe what video i'm talking bout???

That's Borat the movie. There's probably clips on youtube of it.

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Ok, I posted a while ago about my boyfriend of two weeks going to California for two months to work with his dad. He used to live there, so he has friends there. He'll be working, hanging out with friends, partying, etc. We never really talked about what was going to go on between us while he was gone but when his mom asked if we were going to date other people he said no, like it was obvious.

Well, I haven't talked to him since he left on Sunday. I spoke to him briefly on MySpace a day or two after he got there, but that's it. He hasn't been online since then and hasn't called me. I figured he was busy working and catching up with friends and I was going to wait for this weekend to see if he calls so we can talk about our situation.

A couple days before he left he told me he loved me. I didn't know if I believed him, and now I'm thinking it may have been all a trick to see if he could get into my pants before he left. Also keep in mind that he hesitantly told me he was a virgin, but I don't know if that's the truth. I trusted him completely before today.

This girl on MySpace from California added me. I added her back and noticed that my boyfriend was #4 on her top 8, so I figured she was a friend of his who was adding me, no big deal. Well, she messaged me asking how I knew Jesse. I told her we dated for 2 weeks before he left. She told me she met him a week ago and wanted to know if he was a good guy. I told her yes, and she said "good, because he's coming over to my house so I wanted to know". I didn't jump to conclusions, but I wasn't naive either.

She said she's been hanging out with his friends for about a week. And she said "she hopes" that he's coming over by himself, but she doesn't know for sure. She told me she'd ask him if he was dating anyone and tell me what he says, because I told her that I didn't know what was going on with him now.

Well since he has time to call this chick he doesn't know but doesn't have time to call his supposed girlfriend, I messaged him on MySpace (not mentioning this girl) asking if we were going to be dating other people. I told him I just want him to be honest with me, not be afraid to hurt my feelings, and no BS. I don't know when he'll sign on again, but this whole situation is confusing the hell out of me.

Am I overreacting? Am I jumping to conclusions? What should I do? Should I call? What would any of you do/feel in this situation?

I don't think you're overreacting or jumping to conclusions. I would be extremely mad if I were you because of the girl messaging you & asking if he's a "good guy". It seems like she knows what she's doing & she's planning things. Why wouldn't he have one second out of his time to leave you a message or call you? Especially if you know he's calling her. That's a bit shady to me, but that's just my opinion. Since you haven't been dating for that long, maybe he doesn't take the relationship as serious. Don't call him. Let him go & see what happens because you won't be able to stop him from making his own decisions & doing what he wants. You might want to talk to him when he comes back & ask him whats been going on. He doesn't seem like the best guy to be in a bf/gf relationship with so you might want to reconsider that & see if it would be better just to be friends with him. You really can't trust people like that. You're being very mature about it though so just keep that up & wait for him to call you. Don't sit by the phone either. Go out with your friends & enjoy yourself. Get his side of the story before you make any decisions though. She could be saying those things to make you mad & he may not even know about it.

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So, I work at Six Flags, it's my first year working here and I have this crush on my Team Leader, whose been working there for three years!

I really like him. I talked to him last night on the phone for three hours, and we talked about a bunch of stuff and I just felt so comfortable talking to him. I keep putting hints in like, "Let's go watch that movie!" Or stuff like that, and he even said, "Let's go out."

So, he can't drive because he got in a car accident and he doesn't have a car. But, I'm going to be getting my license in a week. I'm thinking maybe like, after work sometime I'll drive him home so we'll get some alone time. But, otherwise I'm not sure what else to do.

Do you think that this would be a bad idea? We're both aware that it's fraternizing. But, we've already talked about favoritism, and how it won't happen. He knows I like him, but how else do I enforce the fact that I want a relationship with him? :]

Thank you.

I think you both should talk about it. You're right, there's always a bunch of coworkers that do date & never get caught for fraternizing. I think it should be more of a personal decision. As long as you don't make it public at work it should be ok. I think the driving him home thing would be a good idea. It'll give you guys a chance to be alone. Also, why not asking him to hang out? Maybe grab a bite to eat before/after work. As long as you become friends with him first, it could work out just fine. You have to tell him how you feel though.

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whats the best type of bubble gum that tastes the best with the longest lasting flavor, and blows respectively big bubbles? thanks.. ive tried trident, stride, juicy fruit, bazooka bubble gum.. but idk.

I would probably say Hubba Bubba. It lasts a lot longer than the one's you listed, but i'm sure there's probably a gum that lasts much longer that I haven't tried.

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ok heres the deal i was going out with this kid about a year ago and we ended up breaking up because i caught him with another girl but i dont care any more he is definately out of my system but afyer we broke up he started getting really close with my cousin it botherd me at first but now i dont care .... she ends up telling him that she loves him and he has a girl friend and hes telling her to just wait for him and basically saying that when i get tired of my girl i'll move on 2 you ... so then he ends up asking her out while he has a girl and when she tells me he did she said she wants to so bad but she wont and making it all my fault. the thing is i really dont care about him but thats my cousin and you just dont do that 2 your family . should i be mad at her if she went out with him?

Well, you really are the only one to decide if you should be mad or not. If you're mad, that's completely understandable. If you're not, you're not. You shouldn't force yourself to be mad. Yes, it is a pretty shallow thing to do. Your cousin should know that any ex's are still ex's & you did date him once. If he's dating your cousin, you'll have to see him more often. Talk to her about it. The relationship you guys have is way more important than the relationship with him. Guys come & go & plus he has a girlfriend.

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i'm in what you could call a love HEXAGON. there's 5 boys and i'm not sure what to do i'm 15 by the way.. guy #1-he's cute sweet blahblahblah he's 19- yeah i know about the age okay? he just turned it this month. but i've called him beofre & 3 times a girl has answered his phone.. & i've chewed him out for it before plenty of times before. i was talking to him the other night & i layed down the law of how screwed up that was & he made this deal that if it happened again he wouldn't blame me for not talking to him anymore. well lastnight we were on the phone & someone sent him a wierd text message from a number he didn't know so he 3 wayed them while i was on the phone. it ended up being a girl & the convo lasted longer than it needed to so i hung up. HE DIDN'T EVEN BOTHER TO CALL ME BACK. so i sent him a text telling him i didn't want to talk to him again and that he was a jerk. he's been at work all day so i'm not sure if he's read yet or not.don't get me wrong, that is screwed up what he does, but he can be sweet.
guy #2- he's the PERFECT guy... in my dad's mind. he plays football, he's tall, goes for auburn, good head on his shoulders, & attractive. i just don't know if he's the perfect guy for me.. hes 16(just turned in may) & drove 20 minutes to see me for like 2 seconds before he got in trouble.. he really likes me and always calls & asks to hang out but i just don't know..
guy#3- he was my little 3 grade boyfran:) hes 15 he's too cute. we get in little fights and he just gets me. we're so alike and have so much fun together. the problem? he moved in 4th grade & we didn't talk until this year we happened to stumble across eachother. the bigger problem, he lives a good 30 min away so we both know we cant have anything.. but i know we would be perfect for eachother if we lived closer..
guy#4 he just turned 18 in may. hes not at the top of my list.. but something always drags me to him. we've been on and off for about 4 months now & i still smile when he calls or texts me. i just don't think he could be ready for a real relationship (hes sort of a manwhore). hes met my parents, first guy to in about 2 years & they liked him and stuff but i just don't know anymore..
lastly, guy#5- wow, he's been around since last summer. hes 16 & been my bestfriend since 6th (we were together in 6thgrade- cute right?) & we've both told eachother we love eachother blahblah but i got tired of waiting for him to ask me out. so i moved on to guy #4 in jan. now hes back & we're hanging out again, but i just don't think i have strong feelings for him anymore..

& let me just say i am NOT a whore. i do not "hookup" with all of these guys... & plus.. ladies is pimps too, right? but i think i'm just ready for one... but.. WHICH ONE?? HELP!

Obviously, no one can really help you out on this one. People can tell you who they think is better, but you're the one that's going to date him, not us. To me, the guy who sounded more appealing & the better choice would be guy 2. Not because he's an attractive football player, but if he drove 20 minutes just to see you for 2 seconds, he truly likes you. Guys would not just do that. That's just my opinion though. What you do need to do is make a list & carefully analyze it. You aren't a whore for liking a few guys at a time. You just should make your decision so they don't get hurt. You should realize that you need a guy that will be your friend, be there for you physically or emotionally when you need it the most, is trustworthy, loyal, kind, sweet & funny. You have to be good friends with him. Going by just a few things, you can narrow your decision down. Sit & talk with all of them though.

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i have a question about the special k diet.
it says you can lose up to 6-7 pounds in 2 weeks. after that two weeks if i continue it.. will i lose another 6-7 pounds in 2 weeks? i will be running everytoher day and such

If you stay strictly to the Special K diet, you'll lose 6-7 lbs in the first 2 weeks, but if you keep it up, you will lose some weight, but not as much & it will take a longer amount of time. You can't just eat two bowls of it & lose weight. You have to replace 2 of your meals with Special K [original is probably the best for losing weight] & then eat one regular meal, healthy snacks inbetween [such as fruit & veggies] & exercise a few times a week.

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I’m 16 and I’m upset about (Girl), who is 15.

I understand I’ve already messed up any chance I had with her, and I don’t deserve her because of that. But she doesn’t even want to talk to me. She won’t even let me tell her how I feel about her, or explain why I never asked her out.

I’m really worried my friend (Guy), who is 15, likes her. The reason I never asked her out has to do with my previous girlfriend, (Slut). Long story short, I messed up with (Slut) and she ended up with my best friend. I was miserable for two months. It took me two years to be able to like another girl again, I then I met her, (Girl). I really liked (Girl). I wanted to ask (Girl) out, and I knew she would say yes. But every time I tried to ask her out, for four months, the feeling game back. I kept thinking, what if I mess up and she ends up with my best friend? It was a stupid thing to think, I know. Finally, she got tired of waiting for me and moved on. So, after all, I did mess up, and that’ll set me back another year. But if she ends up with (Guy), one of my best friends, I don’t think I’ll be able to ask a girl out until I’m out of college. She and (Guy) have been flirting like I used to flirt with her.

What should I do?

Talk to her. Trust me, I'm a girl & if she knew all of this she would probably give you a chance. You can't let her go just because she might've moved on yet. You have to let her go when she knows everything about the situation & still decides to move on. But for now, she doesn't realize it. Explain it to her & talk to her about it. It wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to your guy friend either. You just have to relax & go with it. You're only 16. You're going to meet so many different people, especially in college. Loosen up a bit & just talk to her. That way you won't be wondering years later that if you explained to her what really happened, if you still would've had a chance. Plus, you can still be her friend.

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Hm, I know that I'm not bulimic. But do I have EDNOS? I was reading info. off of google today and there wasn't too much of a help. I hate my body and I'm so self consious it makes me miserable. I will eat dinner or a normal amount of food, not binge, and I'll purge. I feel so much better after I do it. I'll go through periods where I won't do it for weeks, and sometimes I do it multiple times a week. What is wrong with me? (I started doin this over a yr ago)

Well, EDNOS is an eating disorder that can either be a form of anorexia or bulimia. Therefore, you do have symptoms of bulimia, but that isn't being a true bulimic. Do not do this to yourself. I know what you're going through. I do not have bulimia myself, but I do have symptoms of Anorexia so I guess I could have EDNOS myself. I always watch what I eat & it has been an ongoing thing for a long time. I have a similar problem to you mentally, but I do not throw up my food. It is definitely worse than getting weight and just because you eat 3 meals does not mean you are gaining weight. If you throw up forcefully, your teeth enamel could be ruined totally & a lot of other conditions. You can google them if you'd like, but I'm sure you're aware of them & have been lectured about it someway or another. You're self image is what is wrong with you. You have to realize that you're allowed to eat. You're supposed to eat. People eat to stay alive. Do not do this to yourself. You should eat all 3 meals and exercise. You'll be fine & will not gain weight if you do that. It would be next to impossible. If you eat fruits, veggies, meats, crackers, etc. & stick to a healthy, regular workout schedule, you can stay the weight you want without throwing food up. Think of it this way. If you eat only healthy food with a few favorite foods here & there, why would you need to throw it up? It isn't bad for you, so you wouldn't. I think you should talk to a professional. You said it's been going on for over a year & that's way too long for an eating problem. Here's a website-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eating_disorder_not_otherwise_specified

It sounds like you do have EDNOS. Try talking to a family member/friend about it.

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okay, i need someone that knows this stuff DECENTLY well. i have a test on friday, and my teacher has done a wonderful job preparing everyone cause no one understands anything!

i have several questions.

1.) how do you tell the difference between a gerund & a gerund phrase?

2.) how do you tell the difference between a participle & a participle phrase?

cause i know phrases have more than like 1 word, but if you had like:

working hard is often its own reward.

is WORKING the gerund or is WORKING HARD the gerund phrase?!

please help!

Here's a website that explains gerunds & participles in detail-

http://owl.english.purdue.edu/handouts/grammar/g_verbals.html

That will help you learn about both & answer all of your questions. It's a lot easier learning from a site sometimes.

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ok so i got this abercrombie and fitch kind of jeans vest type thingy (you kow like with the sleeves cut off)
ok anyways i was going to look it up at abercrombie.com for the price but i cant find it

can anyone help??

If it isn't on the site, there aren't any ways to look it up. It is probably around $60-$100 though, just because usually any jean product from abercrombie & fitch is ridiculously expensive. You can't google it either because other sites can change the prices & make it cheaper usually.

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