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Cheater? Overreating?
Ok, I posted a while ago about my boyfriend of two weeks going to California for two months to work with his dad. He used to live there, so he has friends there. He'll be working, hanging out with friends, partying, etc. We never really talked about what was going to go on between us while he was gone but when his mom asked if we were going to date other people he said no, like it was obvious.
Well, I haven't talked to him since he left on Sunday. I spoke to him briefly on MySpace a day or two after he got there, but that's it. He hasn't been online since then and hasn't called me. I figured he was busy working and catching up with friends and I was going to wait for this weekend to see if he calls so we can talk about our situation.
A couple days before he left he told me he loved me. I didn't know if I believed him, and now I'm thinking it may have been all a trick to see if he could get into my pants before he left. Also keep in mind that he hesitantly told me he was a virgin, but I don't know if that's the truth. I trusted him completely before today.
This girl on MySpace from California added me. I added her back and noticed that my boyfriend was #4 on her top 8, so I figured she was a friend of his who was adding me, no big deal. Well, she messaged me asking how I knew Jesse. I told her we dated for 2 weeks before he left. She told me she met him a week ago and wanted to know if he was a good guy. I told her yes, and she said "good, because he's coming over to my house so I wanted to know". I didn't jump to conclusions, but I wasn't naive either.
She said she's been hanging out with his friends for about a week. And she said "she hopes" that he's coming over by himself, but she doesn't know for sure. She told me she'd ask him if he was dating anyone and tell me what he says, because I told her that I didn't know what was going on with him now.
Well since he has time to call this chick he doesn't know but doesn't have time to call his supposed girlfriend, I messaged him on MySpace (not mentioning this girl) asking if we were going to be dating other people. I told him I just want him to be honest with me, not be afraid to hurt my feelings, and no BS. I don't know when he'll sign on again, but this whole situation is confusing the hell out of me.
Am I overreacting? Am I jumping to conclusions? What should I do? Should I call? What would any of you do/feel in this situation?
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I don't think you're overreacting or jumping to conclusions. I would be extremely mad if I were you because of the girl messaging you & asking if he's a "good guy". It seems like she knows what she's doing & she's planning things. Why wouldn't he have one second out of his time to leave you a message or call you? Especially if you know he's calling her. That's a bit shady to me, but that's just my opinion. Since you haven't been dating for that long, maybe he doesn't take the relationship as serious. Don't call him. Let him go & see what happens because you won't be able to stop him from making his own decisions & doing what he wants. You might want to talk to him when he comes back & ask him whats been going on. He doesn't seem like the best guy to be in a bf/gf relationship with so you might want to reconsider that & see if it would be better just to be friends with him. You really can't trust people like that. You're being very mature about it though so just keep that up & wait for him to call you. Don't sit by the phone either. Go out with your friends & enjoy yourself. Get his side of the story before you make any decisions though. She could be saying those things to make you mad & he may not even know about it.
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