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shyness
well,i have this problem that im mad shy and its ruining everything.I need help overcoming it and how do you start by making freinds with someone?I have alot of freinds but like,in the beginning of theschool year,how do I start it the freindship!?HOW DO I OVERCOME SHYNESS!!i need help on this,ive been in situations where im with even my own family and they all talk and i just sit there,smile and look pretty lol HELP!
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Well here goes my brilliant answer. yeah so see I'm shy,too just not as shy as I used to be. and I always hate when guys say i'm shy because I feel like they don't want to be around me because I think I'm boring. There is a way to overcome some of your shyness. The reason why I am shy is because I'm afraid of rejection. And 1st off you have to figure out why your so shy around people and then you can find a way to get over it and say so what I'm a little shy but I can get over it. Okay now if it is rejection then just walk up to someone and just say hi. They will be nice to you but you have to find something that you have in common and then talk about that. If they dont like you then move on to another person cause after all there are not all gonna be your friend. I used to be really shy but then I started talking to different people and they really liked me and now I'm shy but not that shy. And know that you will have people that dislike you. But there will also be people that think you're really cool. I used to think nobody liked me but I just talked and it was so easy to make new friends after that. And I dont know what your deal is with not talking in front of your family but your family is your family they wont judge you or laugh at what you have to say, in other words they wont reject you so just talk with your family. They love you, right? so they are also gonna respect you its not like they'll make fun of what you do or say. Also try doing things that make you a more funner person like hang out with a friend and do something crazy but not too crazy. Do something that's "ok crazy!" Something that ppl will respond to and think you're cool. That doesnt mean smoke or drink or have sex. Just let lose and get a lil crazy like play a practical prank on somebody. Not one that will make you get in trouble but you know what I mean. Well I hope this has helped you!
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Munchie!
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What helps sometimes is to think of the person you want to be friends with or talk to as if they were a close family member like your mom or dad or brother or sister and just talk to them like you would your family members. It's no different at all.
When you are talking to someone new visualize the person as needing to hear what you have to say and pretend that their life or whatever hinges on your every word. That's another good technique.
I also like to look people directly in the eyes and talk to them and that goes easier. You also have to know that there is nothing to fear nobody will attack you, tell you to shut up or worse for you just talking to them and that everyone needs friends.
Go in thinking that you're likeable, loveable, friendly and have all the qualities people need in a friend and a whole lot more and that they've been dying to meet someone like yourself. The only difference between you and them is that they believe this about themselves and you don't. Once you start believing it it's second nature and your guard goes down.
The situation with your family is a great one. It allows you to practice the techniques I told you about above. pay attention to what they talk about and just jump in with them. They won't judge you and you'll get used to talking to other people.
Ask for help practicing normal conversation with others. They'll give it to you and tell you what you can do to improve. I would also talk to your guidance counselor and mention your fears and shyness with others and work on social skills, coping skills and other ways to make friends, keep 'em etc as they definitely have a lot of tips.
Instead of sitting looking pretty and smiling force yourself to jump in there and talk. If you keep doing it and you see your own family responding positively to you you'll be able to do it everywhere. You don't have any less skills or likability than anyone else.
You'll thrive--but first you must believe in yourself to sell yourself to others. These tips should help you as it's from my own experience. I wouldn't dream of telling anyone something if I didn't experience it myself.
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haha i used to be the same way. kay, what you need to do is say somthing random in the middle of conversations. like, switch the conversation to ponys and then ask how you got to talking about ponys and then everyone will laugh. thats how i met my best friend in the world. AND because of the sudden friendships, it boosted my self esteem, and now i can stand in the middle of a mall and scream "I LOVE YOU MICHAEL JACKSON!"
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yess!!
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i hope i helped!!
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