Friday night i was at a party with my boyfriend jon of three months this saturday. I get drunk really easily and thats what happened. We were about to be going home and when we got to his car we ended up making out for so long. I think i gave him head. I dont exactly remember but he said he wasnt drunk so im not sure because i was pretty messed up. Im still a virgin and i think he is too. he'spretty shy and this is the first time we did anything besides him going down my pants (fingers only). I want to know what happened without feeling really stupid. How should i bring it up? I also got grounded for a month because i came home late so whatever but hes been asking when im gonna beable to go back out again and stuff. do u think he wants me more now that i gave him head and stuff? i cant exactly remember but im almost positive i did. it wasnt weird at all though but he didnt come? does that mean i was bad?
Firstly, I don't mean to be an ass with this but you really should be really careful when it comes todrinking especially if the alcohol hits you really fast. It's a good thing that you were with someone you know would look after you but if it was a complete stranger you were with and you can't remember what you did then the results can be very bad. Not scaring or anything but just speaking from experience - you should be really careful.
Hmm, as for what happen I think the best thing to do is so sit him down and ask him what happen that night and to let him know that you was drunk so you don't remember but you think this is what happen. As for him cumming or not, he is your bf so I see no reason why you shouldn't just ask him. :) If he didn't then don't worry - don't forget you were drunk at the time and if he's a virgin there can be a number of things that would have prevented him from cumming (being over anxious for one). If you are worried it was just because of you then don't be - it doesn't mean you were bad at all. Everyone is different and what turns some on may not work for others and it's all a matter of experimenting and finding those little things that work. Communication is important here as this way you can say what you like and dont like when doing something and he can do the same too.
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So i am trying to make a mix for the talent show, and like edit certain parts, but im not really quite sure what to use. Do you know any good places? Thanks!
There's various software you can use to edit music. I use Internet Audio Mix as well as Fruity Loops both of which are very good in their own respect. Internet Audio Mix is great for cutting and pasting music and taking samples out of full tracks. Fruity Loops might be expensive (full version but I think there is a free trial version available to download as well) and a little hard to use at first but is a very powerful piece of software (my cousin is a producer and is a piece of software he uses on many occasions) and you can make some very amazing mixes with it.
Another piece of software that may come in very handy is Atomix Virtual DJ.
Good luck with the mix. :]
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Ok so summer's almost here im a little nervous about getting into a bathing suit again. My thighs kinda jiggle when i walk and i dont know how to stop that...also my stomach does the same thing...i run everyday and i try to do crunches but they really hurt my back. I'm nervous I won't be in shape in time.
Be careful when doing exercises - last thing you want to do is over do it and end up injuring yourself, especially your back.
As for how you look - don't let it bother you at all. With exercise and healthy eating and such there is only so much you can do in time for the summer time but regardless as to how you look don't let it stop you from enjoying your summer. Regardless as to what you said I'm sure you will look awesome in that bathing suit so just go out there and have fun. A lot of people out there will probably feel the exact same way as you do about themselves as well so really, don't let it phase you and spoil your summer. :]
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My friend Michelle has a big problem. Her boyfriend whom she has been dating for a year now is acting strange. She thinks he may be having an affair with some other girl because he's been seen to be hanging out with her a loottt during the day.
Also, our friend Alyssa has an art class with him and she said she was hanging around him a lot. Michelle really doesn't want to break up with him but she needs to do something. She's asked him a billion times if he liked someone else or was dating someone else and he always got mad and said NO and walked away. She said if she doesn't talk to him today she's not going to talk to him tomorrow. ???
She wants to take a break but she's thinking he won't like her anymore if they do. SOO what should she do?? I really don't want him to hurt her anymore. I'm sick of it. She's my best fried and I hate him. =] Thanks.
Hmm, judging from the way he was acting when confronted I'd say he has something to hide but then people all react in different ways and he may just be fed up being asked the same thing over and over so it's starting to irritate him that she doesn't trust him.
The thing with trust is that once you question it things usually get from bad to worse. My initial suggestion would be that they both sit down and have a heart to heart chat. She needs to be fair but needs to tell him how she has been feeling and how she is scared to lose him and how people are noticing about him and this other girl and it's scaring her. That pretty much is the only real way to go about it initially.
Although I would never suggest it the alternative is to do some snooping and detective work to try and find the answers but the catch here is that is can back fire in a very horrible way if caught. I strongly suggest that they both have a proper chat about this somewhere at home with just them alone. That way he can't just wonder off. Also just plain shouting at him will not work - your friend needs to talk to him and explain her fears and what she is going through because of what is happening.
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Can you get into trouble for IMing someone?? If someone says thats harrassment/stalking when you keep IMing them with different accounts or whatever, what trouble can you get into for that? Can't they just keep blocking you? This kid said its harassment, but if they are setting their buddylist up that way that ANYONE can IM them, is that true? Thanks!!
Persistant messaging (even from different accounts and such) can be classed as harassment.
If the person reports you to the service (and they provided the IM name the harasser was using at the time) the company in question (be it MSN, Yahoo etc) will have records of IM numbers as well as the IM names they connected to with time and date stamps. From these IP numbers they can determine the ISP (Internet Service Provider) that the harasser was using to access the internet and can report you to them for misuse. The ISP simply check their records and see who was assigned the said IP number at the time/date in question and can then press charges if the situation is serious enough or simply kick you off their service for breach of terms and conditions.
It's a long process but it does work and it does happen (I myself have witnessed a similar case of harassment which led to the harasser being sacked from his work place for misuse of the Internet).
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hey guys! ok here\'s the thing...my whole life i\'ve been avoiding dating guys becasue i keep thinking that i want a serious relationship one day and im a bit young for that now...(im 16) plus i have so many trust issues...i keep thinking that somehow..someway im just going to end up getting hurt...and something is going to go wrong! btw im the type of person who doesnt want to get hurt...well everyones like that but i try to stay from it as far as possible...and i also dont like hurting people...sooo...
so i've never went out with a guy before..never dated..never kissed...etc. (and im not allowed to date well no one is here ...but everyone does it anyway...and i dnt mind that so its not an issue)
yesterday i was asked out on a date for dinner by a guy who i barely know! like we've seen each other like twice and we talk online a lil bit and then he asks me online.. you see im not sure if its a date but im taking a hint and thinking it is :s
and we've planning on seeing each other again and hang out an everything because we're in different skools and stuff... so ya..
guy: hey r you free on thursday?
me: it might be a bit difficult for me to go out on thursday...but friday sure :d
guy: ok cool i want to reserve you on friday
me: haha you have a reservation on friday :p...what time?
guy: loool would you like to go to the inter. i have dinner invetations for 2 people
me: cool from who r the invitatoins?
guy: my dad's
me: cool....wat time?
guy: i don't know i'll see...wats your number
me: *number*
guy: kk i'll see and call ya
so anyways i think hes a nice guy and it would be nice to get to know him...but the thing is ive never been on a date before!!! so not only am i nervous but im seriously having second thoughts here....i told my friends i dnt want to date and theyre like then cancel it with him and go on a group outing next time...but part of me wants to go on a date...i dunno im getting pulled on two sides here!! help ppl...any advice would be much appreciated! :D . so should i go and have dinner with him or just say i cant today im sorry i owe u one ..then we go on a group outing to a movie or something...
I think Faerie pretty much said everything I would have. :D I will just add this quote though:
"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
We all fear getting hurt but the truth is when it comes to relationships and love it's all about risk and the possibility of getting hurt. Chances are things will work out or they won't - it's all a matter of taking that plunge and that risk to see how things go.
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Ok well im a guy 15... and I dont think that I am but i might be cocky. Cuz i think im hot and well lots of other people have told me too. But im not sure whether or noit im cocky. I dont like say i am, but I know that I am pretty good looking. I wouldnt say that I was a beast or anything though
I think the whole being cocky thing is a grey area. There's being cocky to the point where you think your gods gift to the world/women (the kind of person people generally hate) then there's those who hate everything about themselves and always put themselves down (also the kind of person some people hate because they are so negative about themselves) so that leaves the people in the middle. The thing is no-one really knows who these people in the middle are.
I don't think it's wrong to think you are good looking at all. It shows you have self esteem and confidence in yourself. That's not a bad thing at all and that tome isn't someone who is being cocky.
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alright so my boyfriend and i have had sex about 5 times so far...and it just stopped hurting after the 4th time. but even thought it stopped hurting, it didnt feel like much after. isnt it supposed to start feeling good after it stops hurting? its not that he's small or anything..he pretty much fills out a magnum...which comes to my other question. how is a condom supposed to fit? is it supposed to be really tight? because the magnum seems to fit fine...just a little but more room, becasue the regluar trojan condom looks too tight. i dont know, maybe it's just me being paranoid. i just was hoping it would start feeling good soon, not just for my sake...but for him as well. i think it would make him feel good to know that im orgasming. i've never done it yet, and he has fingered me before. i hear that not everyone orgasms from being fingered though.
thanks so much!
Hello.
Actually, truth be told not a lot of women orgasm from sex alone. Studies show (or showed when I last had read up on it anyway) that it is generally through oral sex.
At least the good thing is that it has stopped hurting but as for it feeling good and you reaching an orgasm it may just take some time and patience. It could just be a mental block - if you are waiting for the orgasm to come and it is all that is on your mind that can be the mental block. Best thing to try is oral sex I think. Experiment and always try to tell him what you like and what you don't like. Usually the reason something is wrong when it comes to sex between a couple is because no-one says what they like and don't like. Instruct him on what makes you feel good and go from there. You will get there eventually though so don't worry. :)
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okay me and my boyfriend have always had unprotected sex. he had cancer when he was younger and the chemotherpy was supposed to mak him infertile. well i am 15 days late for my period. so last night i went to his house to take the test, but before i did, we ended up having sex again. i took the test and it said i was pregnant. is this just because i had sex 10 minutes before... or it that probably accurate?
i'm freaking out so bad.
i'm 16.
he's 20.
he'd go to jail.
I suggest taking another test as home tests can give false results (not always but they have been known to do so).
Also I don't understand why you both decided to have unprotected sex before taking the test knowing there is a risk you can be pregnant? If it turns out you are not pregnant then I strongly suggest you start using protection during sex. Getting pregnant at such a young age would be a very heavy burden as well as the penalty your bf can face from having sex with someone who is underage (I assume you are in the USA as the age of consent in the UK is 16). Pregnancy aside there is also the risk of std's as well. If your bf does not like having to wearprotection then it falls to you to say that he either does use protection or he waits until you are legal age to have sex because if you do fall pregnant you need to ask yourself will he still hang around knowing what the consequences are.
Good luck.
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Hey. Well, I'm 13/f and I go to middle school, 7th grade. I know, please believe me, that labels are the stupidest thing on the Earth, but I have to use them just for this particular question.
Okay, well, I used to be 'prep' but now I find myself likeing things the 'emo's' were and at my dad's house, in his neighborhood, I hang out with the 'emo' people. I really like all the things they do, like, the eye makeup, the styles[kind of], and stuff like that.
Problem is, if I just, one day 'become' 'emo' then everyone will call me a poser. What do I do?
And, I have blonde hair and blue eyes, and I love cheerleading. I know, that's kind of 'preppy' but I like being 'emo' more than being 'prep'.
Hi.
It's pretty much as you said, these labels are stupid and I also do not believe in them. I've been called emo, punk, goth... pretty much everything because I always dress different, lol. One day I will be wearing a tracksuit (like all the chavs over here) and on another day I'll be wearing my trousers with all the chains and straps all over it with my safety pin top... with me personaly I just wear what I feel comfortable in wearing and when I feel comfortable wearing it.
If you like some of the stuff that your friends wear say you like what they are wearing and where you can get something like that. It was pretty much what I had done because originally I would never have been seen wearing most of the stuff I now wear (which I love!). I even have red hair, which I've had for about 7 months now. :D
Don't think of it as becoming emo. Just think of it as experimenting with different styles of clothes and makeup. Your not changing your personality or anything like that are you? Just how you dress and maybe your makeup because you want to try something different. If people call you a poser though - who cares? Let them. At the end of the day you can wear what you want and if people don't like it then it's their problem. :] By the way - I love eye makeup. I don't wear it personally I just mean on girls it looks amazing because it almost always brings their eyes out and I think it's why I have a thing for girls who are goth, lol. So good luck with all of that and don't be afraid to experiment with differnt clothes and makeup. :]
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Addressed to males:
How do you like it "down there" (when it comes to the, you know, hair).
Embarassing question, but I need to know.
Thanks.
Hi.
Hmm, I'm not too fussy to be honest but personally I would prefer her to be shaved or at least trimmed to some extent just to make oral sex easier (as in, if she wanted me to go down on her). This is purely because I can see what I am doing and makes it easier for me but oveall I'm not too fussed about it. The only thing that would be a total turn off for me is lack of hygene 'down there'.
Hope that was some help. :]
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so this guy i like who is 18 told me about a month ago that the only thing he really wanted was sex. he didnt want a relationship. he wanted sex and that's it. He said we should hang out and get to "know each other" because we dont know each other that well. He said that honestly he isn't sure he'll fall for me or not, but the number one thing is sex. He didnt specifically say it. but THATS all ive noticed he talks about. So i talked to him & told him that he i dont respect him since obviously he doesnt respect me. So now it's become a little bit of a fight and he understands what i mean. So now he doesnt want to have anything to do with me. I still like him though.
its difficult.
15/f
This is just one guy, believe me there are a LOT of guys out there and although you may feel you can never find anyone as nice, or as kool or who is as good looking - you will do because there is always someone out there who is better.
If this guy is interested in nothing but sex (which is pretty much confirmed since he now wants nothing to do with you) I'd say it's his loss and you should count yourself lucky because you deserve to be treated better than just a sex object. I know it might be hard to get over him but trust me time will help and you eventually will get over him. The good thing is that you managed to see what it was he was after without finding out too late which is what sometimes happens and by that time it is usually too late to go back to change things.
In my opinion you are better off without this guy. You can very easily find someone nicer who will respect you and like you for who you are andnot just for what they can get from you. Guys like him are the type of guys you are better off without. :]
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slang words for blowjob ?
Most common slag words I can think of off the top of my head for blowjob are bj and head. There may be other less known terms as well since people are always coming up with various slang for things. Sorry for the delay in replying to you as well.
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You were right. It was on the season 6 part, even though it is season 7. But I found it finally, its called evidently chickentown. I just listened to it, and its just flat out creepy lol.
Thank you :)
LoL, I was actually just about to message you back this second. I had a thorough look and couldn't find the lyrics (which sometimes happens) but was going to say I'll keep trying. Glad you found them though - I may download the track myself too, it sounds like an interesting track. :D
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My friendship with a guy (best guy friend...or was...) is over...and i dont know what to do...i dont know what to think...i dont know how to feel...
im in so much pain...and right now i feel numbed to it...and that is really scary because i know its gonna hit me really hard later than...its happened before...but the thing that really gets me is that i dont think he notices anything is wrong...like he has no idea that our friendship is gone down the toliet or he does and he just doesnt want to do anything about it...he just doesnt care...
i dont know...any advice on this would be greatly appreciated!
What was it that happen to cause all of this or for the friendship to be over? If this is a friendship you want to save then it may be worth trying to talk to him about it and try to resolve the problem or at least ask him if he really doesn't care anymore about the friendship. It's hard to really say without knowing the details but if you at least try to save things then at least you will know that you did try and not, like him, not bother at all. If in the end it does come down to it all being over then it will hit hard and will feel like a hit to the gut but sometimes this is how life plays its hand. Friends leave and new friends come in - sometimes there is no stopping it. All I can really suggest though is that if you feel this is a friendship worth saving then by all means try and talk to him about it and see where he stands on this. You might even want to wait a while before trying to talk to him as itmay just seem like he doesn't care at the moment becase he is also feeling the numbness that you are going through.
I hope things work out.
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My daughter has been purging off and on for the last year...that I know of... She declares that she is at a point where she is ready to stop...and indeed has not purged for some time. However, at times, when she eats, normally, her food does not seem to stay down... and she feels like vomiting even though she may not want to... I understand that this is probably an after effect of her making herself throw-up off and on for over such a long period of time. Is there anything we could do "naturally" to help ease her body back into accepting food and keeping it down. Thank you so much for answering our question.
It does indeed sound like an after effect from her making herself throw up and her body rejecting the food. Overall I think the best thing you can do is seek professional help as they will be far better qualified in providing you with the help you need to help your daughter. Here in the UK there are many help lines you can call for advice (incase you don't want to visit your doctor) but int he USA I am uncertain (as I am in the UK).
For the time being though, I think the best thing to do in the meantime would be to start slowly with food. Like eating a small amount over a period of time and then gradually increasing as her body adjusts to the intake of the food. However, as I stated above, the best course of action you can take is to seek professional assistance and advice to ensure your daughter progresses well. Hope it all goes well and well done to your daughter for wanting to stop.
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If someone can please help me..
I just saw the second episode of the 7th season to sopranos on hbo, and does anyone know the song that was playing at the end? About blood? I know that sounds creepy but my boyfriend and I really love the song...
Hiya.
Are you certain it was season 7? I have been unable to find any details at all about season 7 even on the HBO web site.
If you can please confirm it was season 7 for me I'll look again. Also, if your bf or yourself recall any of the lyrics of the song, that may help too. :]
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14/f
so i have a boyfriend. of 3 months. i love him. and we have said i love you for about 2 months before we started dating. and he ALWAYS wants me to change, and stop talking to my best friend brandon. and he got REALLY pissed off cause when i went away for spring break i hung out with his friend rick, but nothing happened between us. i gave him a hug good bye and thats it. but we never told my boyfriend about it. and found out and now he thinks im fucking around. and he says were on break. and hes like we can still kiss and hold hands durring school. and im like whats break?
what are the standards for a break?
what are the standards when your my age for break?
advice please?
I have to agree with katie_babey when it comes to trust. Without trust the relationship is doomed to fail - trust me I know this from personal experience.
As for the whole going on a break thing... I've always found the concept to be rather lame. It seems that for guys the idea of going on a break is simply that you are single from each other so you can do anything you want but you're still bound to each other after the 'break' so you can get back together. To be honest the only time I have ever known a guy to say he wants to go on a break is when he decides he's had enough and wants to go out and 'explore' without having the guilt of seeing other people (or cheating) because you were both 'on a break' at the time yet still have the security of having his gf to come back to afterwards. I find is a stupid concept.
To me a break is simply to take a rest from each other for a little while. Just to give both parties a little breather and time to themselves but still be in that relationship - so it's not a licence to go out and see other people, if you know what I mean?
I would say you can ask him what his definition of a break is (since everyone seems to have their own definition of it) but overall if he can't trust you then you may just be in a relationship that will not go anywhere because of his distrust for you. I also hate the idea that he would try and change you. He went out with you for who you are so he has no reason to start to change you and no one should let themselves be changed just for the pleasure of someone else.
It's a big world out there and you will very easily find someone else who may well be better and will treat you better. You seem trustworthy too and that's always one of the best quality to have. :]
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I have a few questions about Myspace:
1)What is Myspace
2)What's so bad about it ? (some people's parents won't let them have one)
3)Where do you get one ?
Any help would be apreciatted and rate & feedback for good answers
1. MySpace is a profile website like many others out there but MySpace was the first to get really popular. It's like having your own profile on MSN or yahoo but you can add video clips, tons of pictures, other friends you have on myspace (or new friends you make on there) and there's always new features being added on there.
2. MySpace as such is not so bad if you know what you are doing. There were some cases involving myspace and its improper use which led to a girl being raped/murdered but this is a risk that everyone can face with myspace, msn, yahoo or anything else where you are in contact with people on the internet. As long as you're careful you should be fine. Parents look at myspace as a bad thing because of the incident I mentioned above. It has had a bad influence on the site but the truth is virtually every site of its kind can be a potential risk if the users don't know the risks and what they are doing. If you are young then keeping the profile set to private is a good idea. However, as long as you are careful about giving out personal information and being careful about what personal information you add on your profile you should be safe.
3. You can register for myspace at www.myspace.com. The registration is free. :)
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i had this dream where you have like 3 or four different ones in one night.
the first one i had, was one that's been re-occuring. it was freaky. i was in this amusement park at night and me and my bff were climbing up this weird thing that wobbles back and forth, like made of paper, and we had to sing the national anthem on the way down. it was weird...
then the second one was this room of like nothing, all black and had a band singing in it. a cartoon band. and then my favorite contestant from american idol was singing to me in it.
then the third one was the ONE WHERE I WAS SO SCARED. AND I MEAN SCARED!
I was sitting at the table and then all of the sudden my dad told me the devil was coming to help me with my math homework. so he finally got there in a huge red coat, he was really tall and in human form out of a big van. and he just stood there.
i dont know what the heck this means but i am so scared!!!
his face was the face of a character i saw in a horror movie like one or two days before.
so maybe that has something to do with it
i'm Catholic
please help!!!
Hello.
Although dreams are said to mean things their meanings are almost always not obvious. Dying in a dream can be considered as a new beginning or a new direction in life much like the death card is in tarrot readings.
However, from what I recall about dreams and the subconcious mind, you will generally dream of things that you have on your mind. Things that you have been thinking a lot about, things you worry about, things you might have been watching on tv (that horror movie you had seen for example). Things will be very distorted and out of context but they are nothing to worry about. I have had some very frightening dreams myself as well especially some months back after an accident. Because the incident was always on my mind my subconcious mind used that when I was sleeping so the dreams I had were very scary.
Try not to worry yourself about them at all. I know it's not something many people like (well, I don't anyway) but a warm glass of milk at night is supposed to be really good to help you sleep better. :)
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