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pregnant?
okay me and my boyfriend have always had unprotected sex. he had cancer when he was younger and the chemotherpy was supposed to mak him infertile. well i am 15 days late for my period. so last night i went to his house to take the test, but before i did, we ended up having sex again. i took the test and it said i was pregnant. is this just because i had sex 10 minutes before... or it that probably accurate?
i'm freaking out so bad.
i'm 16.
he's 20.
he'd go to jail.
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Most states in the USA the legal age consent is 16. But I hate to be the bearer of bad news if the pregnancy test says you are pregnant you are pregnant. They are not 100 percent in the face that they will sometimes say negative when you are auctually pregnat but if its says positive it is... You might want to check your state and see the legal age consent as well. Then go to the doctor as soon as possible because there is a lot of health risks you can face in pregnacy. The sooner you face it the sooner you can make the decision of your life and decide what you will do. Don't be so hasty to make the decision this will stay with you for the rest of your life. Whether its abortion, adoption, or to keep the baby its a decision you and your boyfriend have to face!!
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It's dangerous to do a paternity test before the baby is born. If you do end up being pregnant and your parents threaten to press charges tell them that they don't have any proof and that it would be silly to press charges because you would just deny everything. It would work because your boyfriend is at high risk for infertility. That definitely constitutes as reasonable doubt that he is the father until the test is done. That'll give them a lot of time to cool down about it. They'll probably be a lot more concerned about you than about him. Plus, if he handles the situation well and does everything he can to help you through it they might not be that mad at him. I highly doubt he'd get sent to jail over it either. It's not like the sex wasn't consensual and it's not like he's 10 or more years older than you. Any judge would go very easy on him. He may even get off because of the infertility thing. I think that your situation is comparable to a girl being on birth control pills and having unprotected sex. The chances are so miniscule (practically 0%) that she would get pregnant, but they're not 0%. Even if you're on the pill you should still use condoms or some other form of birth control too to avoid pregnancy. From now on use condoms no matter what. It's not like they're terribly expensive. It's better for your parents to find out you're having sex than them to find out that you're pregnant. When you get tested by a doctor and if you do end up being pregnant do NOT keep it from them. They might be angry and really upset about it first, but they can help you so much. If you're pregnant, you need a lot of help right now in making decisions, carrying out these decisions, and getting through everything from an emotional standpoint. Your parents will surprise you with how much they would help and support you.
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Your boyfriend could only go to jail if someone pressed charges. Even then, he would probably just have to pay a large fine with no jail time.
Chemotherapy is not supposed to make you infertile. It can, but it doesn't always and sometimes it's temporary, or just through the duration of the chemotherapy. It was a very immature, irresponsible decision to have unprotected sex with him without being 100% sure that he was permanantly infertile. Having sex will not affect a pregnancy test. You are probably pregnant. See a doctor as soon as you can. Home pregnancy tests aren't 100% accurate. Get tested by a doctor before you start making decisions about what you want to do. Good luck.
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I suggest taking another test as home tests can give false results (not always but they have been known to do so).
Also I don't understand why you both decided to have unprotected sex before taking the test knowing there is a risk you can be pregnant? If it turns out you are not pregnant then I strongly suggest you start using protection during sex. Getting pregnant at such a young age would be a very heavy burden as well as the penalty your bf can face from having sex with someone who is underage (I assume you are in the USA as the age of consent in the UK is 16). Pregnancy aside there is also the risk of std's as well. If your bf does not like having to wearprotection then it falls to you to say that he either does use protection or he waits until you are legal age to have sex because if you do fall pregnant you need to ask yourself will he still hang around knowing what the consequences are.
Good luck.
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Even if you are pregnant, you dont have to worry so much. Look online for places like Planned Parenthood, and you may be able to get an abortion without your parents knowing. It's strickly confidential. There are hotlines you can call, and places you can go to to figure things out.
Hope this helped.
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Pregnancy tests test for special pregnancy hormones in your body, not for anything you or your boyfriend would secrete while having sex.
The pregnancy test is more than likely returning a positive result because you are actually pregnant.
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