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My friend needs help.
My friend Michelle has a big problem. Her boyfriend whom she has been dating for a year now is acting strange. She thinks he may be having an affair with some other girl because he's been seen to be hanging out with her a loottt during the day.
Also, our friend Alyssa has an art class with him and she said she was hanging around him a lot. Michelle really doesn't want to break up with him but she needs to do something. She's asked him a billion times if he liked someone else or was dating someone else and he always got mad and said NO and walked away. She said if she doesn't talk to him today she's not going to talk to him tomorrow. ???
She wants to take a break but she's thinking he won't like her anymore if they do. SOO what should she do?? I really don't want him to hurt her anymore. I'm sick of it. She's my best fried and I hate him. =] Thanks.
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hey!! ok....so i think that your friend should spend more time with her boyfriend maybe learn to trust him a bit more...cuz relationship is all about trust...if she cant trust him then its not gonna work...they could go out on more dates and stuff....and talk more about different things and she could bring up the subject about the girl that he's been hanging a lot with...but really gently ..and ask him some stuff about her..what they do together? is she cool? etc.
if after that he still hangs out with her a lot and your friend is annoyed...then maybe they should have a little bit of time apart...if he really loves her he'd miss her and go back to her...
but if he doesn't like her anymore then she's better off without him...it means he really didn't care as much as she did...
from wat your saying it sounds like he hurts your friend most of the times and if that does happen...then let her do it on her own....let her suggest time apart and then we'll see what happens with her boyfriend...but dont pressure her or anything...in the end its all her choice on how she wants to deal with this... =) tell me how it goes! hope i helped a little! tc...hopefully it'll go ok! =D
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Hmm, judging from the way he was acting when confronted I'd say he has something to hide but then people all react in different ways and he may just be fed up being asked the same thing over and over so it's starting to irritate him that she doesn't trust him.
The thing with trust is that once you question it things usually get from bad to worse. My initial suggestion would be that they both sit down and have a heart to heart chat. She needs to be fair but needs to tell him how she has been feeling and how she is scared to lose him and how people are noticing about him and this other girl and it's scaring her. That pretty much is the only real way to go about it initially.
Although I would never suggest it the alternative is to do some snooping and detective work to try and find the answers but the catch here is that is can back fire in a very horrible way if caught. I strongly suggest that they both have a proper chat about this somewhere at home with just them alone. That way he can't just wonder off. Also just plain shouting at him will not work - your friend needs to talk to him and explain her fears and what she is going through because of what is happening.
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