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Hello!! =) Ok a bit about myself! Really don't have a lot to say..I'm 16! I love helping people out and listening to others. I completely love this site. I don't have many experiences when it comes to love life (which is the cat. that i answer the most). And i have nothing else in mind to say...i'll edit it when i come up with more!
Anyways people, ask me advice and i'll give it my best shot! Leave some questions in my inbox (with your name or something that would let me know if its you) and update me whenever you can. Looking forward to it! Take care
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yea i shouldnt think too much butits hard and im pretty much getting worried because we always talk to each other in myspace and all that but Jun.3 was our last convo we had like this "one life's unfair, it's complicated, it works in was we wish it didnt. but don't be sad, i can feel you trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could you really stand the fact of separating knowing htat u guys are distant or parting knowin you guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.... " and that was our long convo we had and the rest is all short convo and we dont even really communicate with eachother no more ad she doesnt IM me in AIM like she used to, after that just a short responce and hugs thats all i commented her saying "Jun 13
damn feels like we're distant friends like you said...i'm sorry but too late huh? =/ " but she never commented me back like we always do do you think we really drifting away? i really need vacation too...
Hey there! Sorry but i answered this question yesterday and it was long and perfect but the internet shut down and it was gone =( Anyways ill try again. =)
I know its hard for you, but you should try keeping your mind off things! Like the vacation is already a good start. Kepp yourself busy, that way you wouldn't have to think about it a lot. I'm not saying that it will make you feel better or change your feelings, but it would at least be better than thinking about it all day, and that would ruin your summer.
I think that you guys will eventualy talk again. You might not talk for a while, but you'll start again step by step. So it's definately going to seem that both of you are drifting apart. It hapened to me once, me and my friend didn't talk for almost more than a year. And then one day i talked to her online, and started just saying anything random like what i did on the weekend. And now we talk all the time. So why dont you just enjoy your vacation in maryland. Go out and have fun and then tell her all about it. You know you guys can keep emailing each other. Plus birthdays and holidays are an advantage cuz then you guys can still at least say Happy Birthday or something. =)
I think things will get better in time, hopefully. If they don't then don't put your life at hold. Always look at the bright side of your life. =) Plus then its her loss, you tried and did your best by staying in touch. If she doesn't reply back or make an effort, then move on. There's nothing you can do about it, wou've done your part. (I know it sounds kind of mean =(, but you can't keep sending emails for a while and get nothing back.) If you need anything else leave it in my inbox. Good luck and i'll talk to you later. =D
P.S. i didnt understand the convo. =S who was saying what?
re:re:rE:do you know why she left me?
thank you again i seriously appreciate it yeah, i gave her a letter the day before last day of school that i regret it and i was sorry but i still mad at myself about it yea and your right, i should take a vacation just to TRY to cheer up myself i remmeber she tried to talk to me but i replied with a short answers and stuff but one time when she tried to talk to me and i talked back saying"hey can you do me a favor?" and she said"sure, what is it?" and i said"can you not leave?" when i said that she kinda laugh but she turned around and said" i cant do that" without looking at me in a eye and after that she stopped trying to talk to me a lot and thats when she slowly avoiding me like i did to her what was happening in that convo? and im really sorry for asking too much question but im thankful that you have great advice and a nice person =] and have a good sleep =]
Hey!! I think the letter is a good move. As for the conversation, who knows? Your friend probably started thinking about the fact of her leaving, so she tried to stay distant because she thought it would make things easier for you and her. That's all i can think of =(. Don't think about it too much, just go with the flow and have a great time during your vacation =).
P.S. You're not asking for too much. Don't mention it ;) Write me anytime. It's no trouble at all. You sound like a really sweet girl. =)
thanks for answering again i really appreciate it yea thats true i should try to be happy but its too hard because i avoided her and everything i wasted time and now we barely talk and not really close anymore.and i think im going to maryland to take vacation from everything and fly away my sadness does that sound weird? what do you think about this message?
"going to maryland for 3 weeks, i need vacation for myself and try to fly away my sadness"
can you please correct it if i said it wrong?
sorry if i sound dramatic but im not im just too sad = / and get away from everyone thank you so much again =]
Hey, one thing i know is you can't force the pain to go away. You can pretend that none of it happened and then pretend that it's all ok but one day it will come back to you and then the same feelings will come back with it. =(
And about avoiding her, i know there's some regret there, but you can't change it, you can try fixing it by telling her that you're sorry and telling her how much you regret it, and you can try to make up for it by staying touch =), but you can't go back and change it =(.
We all do somethings that we regret, but we have to learn from them so we can try to not let history repeat itself.
Anyways i think the message makes sense! Maybe maryland is something good for you to try and cheer up. But im sorry to say that i dont think your sadness will fly away as easily as you expect. Try to make some good times and memories there, and share them with your friend then ask her about the place she movied in to ;)
P.S. you dont sound dramatic at all...im totally used to it ;) feel free to write more, ill stay in touch =) but ill write to you tomorrow, cuz i gotta go to bed now. Take care of yourself, i'll talk to you later. Keep smiling =)
yea i guess and and i cried for like 3 hours after school when i was hanging out with my other friends and yea and i didnt eat anything execept for starbucks and thats all no rice or anything for that day and is that bad? thank you so much =]
awww! it's ok, its completely understandable to cry for 3 hours. We all go through good and bad times like these...in the end we're thankful for having the strength to get through them =) But honey eat, don't put your life on hold for this. Eat, go through life as normal as you can. There's always a part of you that is missing and it will hurt but always know that it isn't the end of the world and count your blessings. I'm sure there are lots of other people around you who care about you. Friends and family ;) Take care, if you need anything else, leave it in in my inbox ;)
Today was last day of school and the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to korea tommorow. But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying but she didnt see it yet so she asked me to take a picture with her and she saw me crying and she was trying to cheer me up by saying "its okay" and "dont cry" but i told her "its not okay your leaving" and she got quite and keep *sigh* or saying UGH and she stayed there for like 5 minutes try to cheer me up because i was still crying but next thing you know she said 'im going now dont cry okay?" and she turned back and turned around and looked at me last time and went somewhere. and i stopped crying for a while and i couldnt find her after school and i cried for like 3hours after why did she leave when i was crying? and what do u think about this situation?
Aww..Hey! I think she might've needed to do something before leaving the school. Or she probably couldn't stand seeing you cry because she might end up crying too. =( You know..? Maybe she doesn't want to show it because it's too much for her. Don't worry.
I went through it once, my close friend left to Paris last year =( it was hard for me, but we still keep in touch and we text each other all the time. I miss her but i also know that we'll get together again someday. Don't worry it'll turn out ok. As long as you guys stay in touch then its fine. If you need anything else, leave a question in my inbox =)
Take care and good luck! =D
Hey Thought I would bring you up to speed
Well I did think about what you said and I wanted to give Brent a second chance. But I also wanted him to do it himself. I didn’t want to push it on him. Well Last week I was mentioned online to everyone what I wanted to go out on the lake for memorial Day and whoever wanted to come was invited. I was shocked hearing from him saying that he might come up for it since he was going to only be an hour away that day. I was not going to get my hopes up till that day just in case there was any cancellations on his part. Well He showed up at the right time and went creek hopping ( hiking along the creep) all day. I found it quite funny because he had never been there but was up to going on up ahead to make the trail and rocks were safe enough for the rest of us to get across. We sorta made him our guide that in reality never been there. later After I took everyone else home we went out to eat and then walked down my main st. Showed him my high school and stuff like that. we talked forever and he even took my hand which I thought was funny. Then I took him back to his car and we ended up talking for 3 hours (well mostly talking).about everything To government(which I never really talk about) to childhood memories. one point we were talking about goals in life. he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I am still not completely sure. which is what I said. and he said kinda jokingly I could always come and keep him company in Sacramento. I just laughed out loud and said “funny" and then later on he made the comment again little bit more serious adding" Like I said before you can always come stay with me.. there are lots of job opportunities up there and my rent is only this much etc. To let him be at ease I told him I would keep him in mind. I don’t know if I were to do something like that. I never lived with anyone besides my own family. Plus I don’t know if he would be able to handle the kind of relationship I want. I am the kind of person waiting for marriage if you know what I mean.( my own personal standards not religious standards) And I think it would drive him nuts that I wouldn’t be wanting to go that far because it is only a one bedroom apt. He doesn’t know about my standards which I know I need to discuss with him before he make suggestions like that before he can handle it. The next time I am going to see him is next week at the club for my friend's birthday. found it quite funny before because my friend told me before when I was a little hurt by him to not tell him about her birthday thing at the club. So I didn’t. But one of the first things she tells him was her party at the club. I was sitting right there too. it made me scratch my head like "what??" I asked that to her tonight, and she said " Oh I got over that after he made the effort to come up here and plus I invited him for you" and my friend is not young either. she is 36 but great fun to be around. Just makes me wonder some time. So if he does bring it up again( like at the party) How do you think is the best way to put it? it is a tricky topic to discuss don’t you think. Well i gotta get some sleep. my brother is graduating tomorrow and I need to be awake. Get back to me soon.
Hey there!! It's been a looooong time =( i wasn't allowed on the internet cuz of my exmas but i just finished =) anyways congrats. on your brother's graduation. How did it go? =D Hope it was fun. Anyways here's what i think:
I love the standards, i have the same standards too. Not religious but personal. I'm only 16 years old and i've never had a boyfriend because i don't want one. I want a serious relationship that may lead to marriage which is why it's way too early at 16 years old. Anyways sorry, thats a whole different topic.
I think it's way too soon to think about moving there for him. He needs to prove himself to you first, he needs to show you how much he cares about you or how much he really wants you to be there! He also needs to sacrifice for the relationship...if he wants a relationship. Anyways i think that the idea should be put on hold! Until you both discuss your standards and if you both want a relationship. Hey its an improvement for showing up at the lake house.
How did the party go? If the topic comes up again, you're going to have to tell him about your personal standards. Try to ask him to move to your area. Why should you make the huge adjustment. If you guys really want to be together and both of you think that it will work out, how about both of you make some changes and move half way through. You know waht i mean?
Anyways best of luck!! Update me about the party and how things are going so far with Brent. How are things going with Chris by the way? Im really sorry that this is late. Since exams are over im free now =) take care. I'll talk to you soon. =) Hey give me your email and i'll add you. It'll be easier. =) Anyways up tp you, see ya!
how do you become a featured columnist? I know you have to have answered at least 1OO questions, but idk anything else. help!
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Haha beats me, but honey right now you are a featured columnist! :D Congrats. =)
hey hun , thanks for getting back to me.
I have doing some thinking. but then also things have been happening that make me think twice. I first decided I think I should slow things down with Brent. I think I should let him make an effort to see me . He sent me a message telling me he was going to be at his family’s house (same town as the club) for his sister's graduation and wanted to know if I wanted to come down there and hang out. I was thinking " hmm an effort sorta .... but it is only because he is already going to be there. “Kinda felt like subliminally I was told "if you want to see me you better come down." I know that sounds silly. I just want him to make an effort to see me without having something else being the main reason he was there.
Any who I have this other guy that I have been friends with since High school. Chris. well I kinda knew Chris always liked me but then I was not into liking guys that were younger then me.(He is over a yr younger then me and I know that was a silly reason to not like him. high school was 4 yrs ago and I think differently now.)well even after high school we kept in touch when we weren’t in school or work. Also we went to the same church so we kinda knew each others families. Then 2 yrs ago he had to move to Arizona with his family.( I live in northern Cali) well at his going away party( 2 days before he was leaving) we were watching this movie and wrestling around tickling and we started kissing. I am not really that type of person and there were people around us. usually I am really shy about stuff like that. So I got to hang out with Chris the next day ( last day before he left) so we have been trying to keep in contact since he has been down in Arizona. Sometimes there would be spurts like a month or 2 where we don’t hear from one another because of school or work. Also Chris had a spill of bad depression too. Worse than what he has had in the past. which I was able to help him out of it. Never anything dangerous though. He couldn’t hurt a fly. But we have been communicating a lot more lately like we used to. Wants me to go down and visit. he even made an effort to come and visit up here. over 12 hrs of driving. And says he still cares for me the way he did in the first place and would let nothing ever hurt me. He never has and never will. I told him this joke ( hope you like it)
Stumpy and his wife Martha went to the state fair every year. Every year Stumpy would say, "Martha, I'd like to ride in that there airplane.” And every year Martha would say, "I know Stumpy, but that airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” One year Stumpy and Martha went to the fair and Stumpy said, "Martha, I'm 71 years old. If I don't ride that airplane this year I may never get another chance.” Martha replied, "Stumpy, that there airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” The pilot overheard them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal, I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you, but if you say one word it's ten dollars.” Stumpy and Martha agreed and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word was heard. He did all his tricks over again, but still not a word. They landed and the pilot turned to Stumpy, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn’t.” Stumpy replied, "Well, I was gonna say something when Martha fell out, but ten dollars is ten dollars."
I asked him if he would ever do that. he said to some but not with me. I said I was glad I was worth 10$. He said "No, you are priceless." Kinda made me feel special.
Well he just told he may be moving again but now only an hour away from me!!
Now I don’t really know what to do. Do I try to make things work with Brent or do I wait for Chris to move back? I need reassurance!! Thank you! talk to ya later
Heya! I don't blame you for thinking twice.. Chris seems like a really nice guy, the sweet generous type =). I don't know what's wrong with Brent, he invited you to his sister's graduation (which is also meeting his family [big step] and celebrating with them) but at the same time he's telling you in an indirect way that you should come if you really wanna see him :S. I say discuss it with him. Ask him why doesn't he come to your town?? Doesnt' he wanna see you? and tell him that he should try seeing you too. See how he replies back. Btw how often do you guys talk?
Who do you like more? Bent or Chris? I mean Chris was always there for you and he liked you since high school and he tried seeing you (even though he is over than a year younger than you) is chris a better guy that you can see having a serious relationship with or is he a good little brother to you that you enjoy talking to all the time?
And Brent? Do you think he's gonna try and make an effort? How much do you really like him? Don't push Brent out of the picture just yet. Talk to him first. See what his real reason is? If it's as pathetic as 'gas is too expensive' then i say forget about him and move on. The guy isn't worth it if he doesn't care at all. =( Good luck with all of this, i bet its hard =( im here...talk to you later...btw if you want give me your email and ill add you on msn =) take care! update me soon =)
does anyone known the song that was at the VERY end of greys anatomy?? It went something like just breathh breath or something and i really liked it. i already tried google but none of them were it.
i'd appreciate it, thankyou!
Its called Breathe (2 AM) by Anna Nalick! Here are the lyrics.
"Breathe (2 AM)"
2 AM and she calls me 'cause I'm still awake,
"Can you help me unravel my latest mistake?,
I don't love him. Winter just wasn't my season"
Yeah we walk through the doors, so accusing their eyes
Like they have any right at all to criticize,
Hypocrites. You're all here for the very same reason
'Cause you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button, girl.
So cradle your head in your hands
And breathe... just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe
May he turn 21 on the base at Fort Bliss
"Just a day" he said down to the flask in his fist,
"Ain't been sober, since maybe October of last year."
Here in town you can tell he's been down for a while,
But, my God, it's so beautiful when the boy smiles,
Wanna hold him. Maybe I'll just sing about it.
Cause you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable,
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table.
No one can find the rewind button, boys,
So cradle your head in your hands,
And breathe... just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe
There's a light at each end of this tunnel,
You shout 'cause you're just as far in as you'll ever be out
And these mistakes you've made, you'll just make them again
If you only try turning around.
2 AM and I'm still awake, writing a song
If I get it all down on paper, it's no longer inside of me,
Threatening the life it belongs to
And I feel like I'm naked in front of the crowd
Cause these words are my diary, screaming out loud
And I know that you'll use them, however you want to
But you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable,
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button now
Sing it if you understand.
and breathe, just breathe
woah breathe, just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe.
So i have 2 friends who were dating. one was my best friend since like 4th grade and the other i have become really good friends with and have had feelings for since i met him
so these two met and started dating about half way through the school year and then broke up recently (as he said).
well they didn't date that long and it wasn't too serious or anything.
so one night me and the boy hung out and we cuddled and did stuff but nothing major at all.
well i felt bad so i had to tell my best friend and she was like omg f you we were still dating when you did stuff and broke up the day after
and now she won't speak to me and kicked me out of her prom group what do i do?
Hey there! Tough situation =(
Explain to your bestfriend that you thought they broke up, and you only told her because you felt bad about it since they used to date. If she refuses to listen to you then talk to the guy and let him explain it to her. Unless she doesn't talk to him either. Let your bestfriend know that you never meant to hurt her.
And you need to ask the guy how come he told you they broke up? He might have feelings for you :S ...anyways good luck with this! Update me soon ok!
Hope i helped. Take care!
hey I thought you would like a little update on my dancing guy.
well I got to see him last Saturday at the club and we were having lots of fun and everything. as it was time to go he was walking me to the car and I said, "One of these days you are going to have to come up to (my town) one time." hoping for anything like a "soon I will come up" or a maybe, even if it wasn’t true. But all I got was " no I don’t think so, it is so far away, and gas is too expensive." It kinda hurt my feelings. Like this was the only time we would see each other. I am feeling like i should not pursue this too much if I am the only one that wants to make a sacrifice for us to be together. am I wrong? Or do you think with what I said kinda scared him off, which shouldn’t be hard because we already live so far away from each other. I know I should talk to him about it but i am not sure how to bring it up in a way that wouldn’t cause to much heat and drama. Can you please help me with this predicament. I don’t want to end it but I don’t want to feel like I have to be the only one to make it work. In my experience it does not work like that. What should I do??
Hey there! I'm really sorry i didn't get back to you sooner. =( Anyways, thanks so much for updating me. I'll try my best...
Ok, this is a little bit hard. Its kind of a tough situation to be in =(. First of all no girl would expect an answer of 'gas is too expensive' =( i think if a guy really cared about you they would try their best just to see you. Cost shouldn't matter. I don't think your wrong, i think your totally right. For a relationship to work, both of you should work together. Both of you have to make some sacrifices, not only you, cuase thats just not fair. If he truely cared, he would've made sacrifices too. You deserve way more, you deserve way better.
Don't lose hope just yet. To bring up the subject again, just be like 'Hey you should really come visit sometime! I can show you around and we'll spend the day together' if he says no again, then this is what I would do, just stay distant for a little bit i guess...:s i think he'll miss you and come to you..if he doesn't then honey =( i dont know about the way he feels ... Man i wanted the fairy tale to have a happy ending...but there isn't an ending just yet. Don't give up ok! =) I'm here for you if you need anything!!
I'm not sure if that helped...i really hope it did somehow! Anyways update me later ok, ill reply sooner i promise! im really sorry again! Anyways take care of yourself, talk to you later. Good luck, hope it works out!
I have a friend who's a guy. We've been friends since 3rd grade and I care about him very much. Although lately these feelings have escalated into love. I really want to be with him but I know he doesn't want to be with me. He might go out with me just to make me happy, but I know in my heart that he wouldn't be happy. I don't know what to do.
Hey!! I definately agree. Love is too hard!
You have 3 choices. Either you TRY to move on and find someone else or you never tell him and keep hiding it or you can tell him and come clean about it no matter what gets in the way. It's your call, no one will make the desicion for you.
My advise is be honest with your feelings. Take a risk for love. You can take a chance and tell him how you feel. If its too hard then maybe you can write it on a note or a letter.
If you dont take a risk, you might end up like me. I've never taken a risk, and my result is ive never been in a relationship. Im always too scared of having my heart broken. Im a very cautious type of person. But dont be scared like me. IF your heart does break =( it will heal. Maybe quickly, maybe slowly but it will heal.
But if it was me, id never have the guts to tell him, not only that, but id be too afraid. Id be thinking that maybe if i told him it might ruin our relationship as friends. Also it would be really hard for me to move on to someone else pretty quickly. I would just keep hiding it and hope maybe one day he would return my feelings. Dont follow my footsteps.
Maybe that wasn't much help and was too confusing. But think about it and see whats best for you. Good luck with everything. Take care.
ok so i like this guy and i kinda want him 2 notice me. but the thing is that i am NOT pretty. so what can i do 2 make him notice me? he's in a different grade so it'z kinda hard 2 talk 2 him and i don'T wanna talk 2 him yet , i just want him 2 notice me for now...
help??
Hey there!
How about you try and join different clubs or activities in yours school that he joins. If they interest you that is. Just be yourself and go with the flow. Since he's not in your grade then just try and join the clubs he joins. Or you can meet the people in his grade and you guys can go out as a big group together. Then, that way you guys can get used to each other and start talking. I don't know if that helped. Hope it did! Take care
Okay there's this kid, let's call him Henry.
I can't stop thinking about Henry. But my best friend is like in love with him. He doesn't talk to my best friend and my best friend doesn't talk to him. She just "worships" him from afar but tells everyone that she likes him, when she herself does not talk to him. Me on the other hand I talk to him all the time in school. In lunch I always feel like he stares my way when he walks past the table with his friends. Henry likes this freshman. She is using him as like a safety, avoiding him when he tries to ask her out and falling back on him when she is lonely. What I want to know is why do I think about him when he doesn't even like me? I don't want to like him. I want to like someone whose available and who likes me back. Please help me I don't know what to do and my life sucks as it is. Thanks in advance.
Hey there hun. =)
One thing that's for sure is you can't help who you like! If you have feelings for this guy you won't be able to change them or ignore them easily. He will stay in your life, and you guys are going to talk, so you have no control on it. You can't ignore him all of a sudden. (That's a not mean =( )
I think you like him, because he's a good friend to you. Once again, you can't help how you feel about him.
But this is like trying to get over someone. What you can do is just think of him as a friend. And try going out with different people. When you guys hang out, hang out in a big group.
I don't know if that helped! Hope it did. Good luck, update me and tell me how things are going. Take care.
ok well my parents have a huge rule about boyfriends and Sex. but ive had a boyfriend for months now and im thinking about having sex with him. What do you think i should do should i do it...i really cant figure this out on my own.
Hey there! If i were you i wouldn't! But thats just me. I wouldn't risk it. A lot of things can go wrong. Plus i believe waiting till you get married is the right choise.
I agree with the coulmnist that says that you should KNOW when you're ready first. When you're completely sure that you want this and you're definately know you're ready for this. Then i guess you can go with it. It depends on how you feel about it. And it's your choise; your call. No one will make the decision for you. As i said, i would never risk it. It's best if you wait. =)
I don't know if that helped. Hope it did. Take care! =) If you need anything else ask!
pls i want to know if it is bad for me to have a girlfriend if i am not ready to marry.
Hello...
I don't think it's bad for you to have a girl friend when you're not ready to get married. As long as you like the girl then it's ok to go out with her. There are kids right now who are dating and are definately not ready to get married.
Plus having a girlfriend might change your mind in the near future. You never know. You might really fall in love with your gf and ready to spend the rest of your life and settle with her. So having a girlfirend is good! It's ok if you're not ready yet! ;) Good luck! Hope i helped! Take care
My boyfriend and I have been having serious problems. I don't trust him AT ALL!! And that makes our relationship stressful. Although he has given me reasons not to trust him so it's not 100% my fault. Well heres my question, yesterday I went to his house and when I got there, he was asleep and his phone was on the counter. So I went through it and found all these texts to girls and theres more to the girls, but we got into a HUGE fight about it, and I'm still with him. Some of those girls are his friends (but I've heard that one of the girls have him head) and 2 of the other girls, hes either had feelings for or I have a VERY strong gut feeling her has feelings for her now. I dont know what to do!! It's been almost 2 years, and I'm sick of being unhappy, and not trusting him, yet i love him and I want to be with him.. what do I do? How should I approach this situation?
Hey!
I'm just going to tell you what i believe and i've always believed this. If there is no trust in a relationship, then it won't work out. I'm not saying that you should give up just yet, because you seem like you really love this guy. But there is no easy way to fix this.
I think you should talk to him calmly. Have a calm conversation sharing both of your feelings, and no arguing or yelling or fighting. Tell him how you really feel, that you love him but cant trust him, and its upsetting you and hurting you so much. Just let it all out and let him know that you care about him and that he should show that he cares about you too.
To fix it, i think that you guys should spend more time with each other. You guys can go on more dates like movies; dinner; dancing etc. anything and you guys need to talk more often.
Two years is a LONG time. You guys may need to consider some time apart and see where it takes you. But don't look in to that just yet. First talk to him and spend more time together and talk more.
Anyways i hope that helped. If you need anything else ask away! Update me and tell me what happens. Take care and Good luck!
we were humping with our clothes on, what is that called?
i also rubbed his dick adn he touched my vagina with clothes on, what is that called also?
Hey there! I honestly don't think there is a right term, if there is i don't know about it. But you can call it grinding or rubbing i guess :S. I don't think that helped, sorry but i don't know if it has a name. Take care, if there's anything else ask me!
I have a boyfriend... of 4 months... and i just cheated on him with my ex..... i dont know what to do?
and I can not tell my boyfriend... pease... help!
F-- 15
Hey there!
I think that your boyfriend will find out sooner or later. But it would be way better if it came from you and it would be way easier if it was sooner. Becasue imagine if you told him after a few weeks then he'd get mad or imagine he heard it from someone else he'd still get mad since he trusted you and you hid from him the truth.
First of all, you need to ask yourself why did you cheat on him with your ex? You and your ex might still have feelings for each other. If thats the case then you need to sort it out and break up with your boyfriend. But be easy on him.
If you don't have feelings for your ex then when you tell your boyfriend make sure that he knows it was a mistake and you never intended on it to happen, you'd never want to hurt his feelings.
If you choose to not tell your boyfriend and hide it from him, then you can either break up with him (if you have feelings for your ex) or you can stay with him and hide from him the truth (but you might end up feeling guilty)
As i said before, if i were you i'd see where my feelings are nealing towards if its my ex then id break up with my boyfriend; if its my boyfriend then im gonna tell him about it and how it was a mistake! (I know this just sounded kind of confusing) I really encourage you on letting the whole truth come out! But once again its your choice and no one can make this decision for you!
Hope i helped! Tell me what you decide and tell me how it goes! Update me soon ok? Take care and if you need anything else ask me!!
Okay... I am like.... in love with one of my really good guy friends. But I don't know if he likes me. I recently had a friend-M.- who I hate now, and she told him she likes him... and he didn't like her. Now they're not friends. I have two best friends... A. and L.. A. likes him as much as I do and he knows she likes him cause he figured it out but I don't think he likes her. I'm debateing wheather (sp?) or not to tell him.... I'm worried if I don't I'll burst... and I know he thinks I don't like him because he saw a note I passed to A. about how I like a guy with gold/brown eyes and he asked me if it was him and I chickened out and said no like 12 times. I'm so upset. I'm torn. And he sort of likes my best friend L. but he would go out with her to make M. jelous. I'm so torn and upset.. but I think I'm in love. And if you think I should tell him... how should I go about it?? WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????
Ok, first you need to calm down, and take a deep breathe!
Second, if you really want to let him know then tell him. Only if you feel like your going to burst out and because your so torn up about it that you want to get it off your chest then tell him. You can be like, "I lied earlier when i said it wasn't you i was talking about in the note. It was you...etc." or however you wanna tell him.
You don't have to let him know if you don't want but it sounds like you do. It's up to you, it's your choice!
I don't know if any of that helped. Tell me what you're going to do. Tell me how it goes with him. Take care if you need anything else ask me. =) Good luck.