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fairy tale girl
hey hun , thanks for getting back to me.
I have doing some thinking. but then also things have been happening that make me think twice. I first decided I think I should slow things down with Brent. I think I should let him make an effort to see me . He sent me a message telling me he was going to be at his family’s house (same town as the club) for his sister's graduation and wanted to know if I wanted to come down there and hang out. I was thinking " hmm an effort sorta .... but it is only because he is already going to be there. “Kinda felt like subliminally I was told "if you want to see me you better come down." I know that sounds silly. I just want him to make an effort to see me without having something else being the main reason he was there.
Any who I have this other guy that I have been friends with since High school. Chris. well I kinda knew Chris always liked me but then I was not into liking guys that were younger then me.(He is over a yr younger then me and I know that was a silly reason to not like him. high school was 4 yrs ago and I think differently now.)well even after high school we kept in touch when we weren’t in school or work. Also we went to the same church so we kinda knew each others families. Then 2 yrs ago he had to move to Arizona with his family.( I live in northern Cali) well at his going away party( 2 days before he was leaving) we were watching this movie and wrestling around tickling and we started kissing. I am not really that type of person and there were people around us. usually I am really shy about stuff like that. So I got to hang out with Chris the next day ( last day before he left) so we have been trying to keep in contact since he has been down in Arizona. Sometimes there would be spurts like a month or 2 where we don’t hear from one another because of school or work. Also Chris had a spill of bad depression too. Worse than what he has had in the past. which I was able to help him out of it. Never anything dangerous though. He couldn’t hurt a fly. But we have been communicating a lot more lately like we used to. Wants me to go down and visit. he even made an effort to come and visit up here. over 12 hrs of driving. And says he still cares for me the way he did in the first place and would let nothing ever hurt me. He never has and never will. I told him this joke ( hope you like it)
Stumpy and his wife Martha went to the state fair every year. Every year Stumpy would say, "Martha, I'd like to ride in that there airplane.” And every year Martha would say, "I know Stumpy, but that airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” One year Stumpy and Martha went to the fair and Stumpy said, "Martha, I'm 71 years old. If I don't ride that airplane this year I may never get another chance.” Martha replied, "Stumpy, that there airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” The pilot overheard them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal, I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you, but if you say one word it's ten dollars.” Stumpy and Martha agreed and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word was heard. He did all his tricks over again, but still not a word. They landed and the pilot turned to Stumpy, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn’t.” Stumpy replied, "Well, I was gonna say something when Martha fell out, but ten dollars is ten dollars."
I asked him if he would ever do that. he said to some but not with me. I said I was glad I was worth 10$. He said "No, you are priceless." Kinda made me feel special.
Well he just told he may be moving again but now only an hour away from me!!
Now I don’t really know what to do. Do I try to make things work with Brent or do I wait for Chris to move back? I need reassurance!! Thank you! talk to ya later
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Heya! I don't blame you for thinking twice.. Chris seems like a really nice guy, the sweet generous type =). I don't know what's wrong with Brent, he invited you to his sister's graduation (which is also meeting his family [big step] and celebrating with them) but at the same time he's telling you in an indirect way that you should come if you really wanna see him :S. I say discuss it with him. Ask him why doesn't he come to your town?? Doesnt' he wanna see you? and tell him that he should try seeing you too. See how he replies back. Btw how often do you guys talk?
Who do you like more? Bent or Chris? I mean Chris was always there for you and he liked you since high school and he tried seeing you (even though he is over than a year younger than you) is chris a better guy that you can see having a serious relationship with or is he a good little brother to you that you enjoy talking to all the time?
And Brent? Do you think he's gonna try and make an effort? How much do you really like him? Don't push Brent out of the picture just yet. Talk to him first. See what his real reason is? If it's as pathetic as 'gas is too expensive' then i say forget about him and move on. The guy isn't worth it if he doesn't care at all. =( Good luck with all of this, i bet its hard =( im here...talk to you later...btw if you want give me your email and ill add you on msn =) take care! update me soon =)
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