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boyfriend!!!!!!!
My boyfriend and I have been having serious problems. I don't trust him AT ALL!! And that makes our relationship stressful. Although he has given me reasons not to trust him so it's not 100% my fault. Well heres my question, yesterday I went to his house and when I got there, he was asleep and his phone was on the counter. So I went through it and found all these texts to girls and theres more to the girls, but we got into a HUGE fight about it, and I'm still with him. Some of those girls are his friends (but I've heard that one of the girls have him head) and 2 of the other girls, hes either had feelings for or I have a VERY strong gut feeling her has feelings for her now. I dont know what to do!! It's been almost 2 years, and I'm sick of being unhappy, and not trusting him, yet i love him and I want to be with him.. what do I do? How should I approach this situation?
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I'm just going to tell you what i believe and i've always believed this. If there is no trust in a relationship, then it won't work out. I'm not saying that you should give up just yet, because you seem like you really love this guy. But there is no easy way to fix this.
I think you should talk to him calmly. Have a calm conversation sharing both of your feelings, and no arguing or yelling or fighting. Tell him how you really feel, that you love him but cant trust him, and its upsetting you and hurting you so much. Just let it all out and let him know that you care about him and that he should show that he cares about you too.
To fix it, i think that you guys should spend more time with each other. You guys can go on more dates like movies; dinner; dancing etc. anything and you guys need to talk more often.
Two years is a LONG time. You guys may need to consider some time apart and see where it takes you. But don't look in to that just yet. First talk to him and spend more time together and talk more.
Anyways i hope that helped. If you need anything else ask away! Update me and tell me what happens. Take care and Good luck! <3 =)
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If you cannot trust your boyfriend, and there are good reasons not to, then you need to confront him about it. If you've heard that she's given him head, it could only be a rumor so don't assume because if it's not true, you'll be in the wrong, and you'll look dumb.
Just confront him about these things. Tell him to be completely honest with you, & you don't wanna hear any bullshit. If he's lying to you about this shit, then leave him. Why the hell should you stay with someone who does this to you?
You deserve much, much better. This guy is continuously lying to you, breaking your heart & giving you reasons not to trust him. You can do much better, and you'll find someone that really loves you as soon as you leave this guy.
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ok. I think you should tell him what you said right now. Say you are unhappy and u can't trust because and say your feelings. If you TRUELU AND LOVE HIM TOTALLY. (please, be sure you do) give it at least a yr., then see if you still want to get back together. He might change. (if he does, that means he REALLY loves you) He might not change. (means that he doesn't take your realtionship seriously) follow you heart on your final decion.
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