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second thoughts
Hey Thought I would bring you up to speed
Well I did think about what you said and I wanted to give Brent a second chance. But I also wanted him to do it himself. I didn’t want to push it on him. Well Last week I was mentioned online to everyone what I wanted to go out on the lake for memorial Day and whoever wanted to come was invited. I was shocked hearing from him saying that he might come up for it since he was going to only be an hour away that day. I was not going to get my hopes up till that day just in case there was any cancellations on his part. Well He showed up at the right time and went creek hopping ( hiking along the creep) all day. I found it quite funny because he had never been there but was up to going on up ahead to make the trail and rocks were safe enough for the rest of us to get across. We sorta made him our guide that in reality never been there. later After I took everyone else home we went out to eat and then walked down my main st. Showed him my high school and stuff like that. we talked forever and he even took my hand which I thought was funny. Then I took him back to his car and we ended up talking for 3 hours (well mostly talking).about everything To government(which I never really talk about) to childhood memories. one point we were talking about goals in life. he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I am still not completely sure. which is what I said. and he said kinda jokingly I could always come and keep him company in Sacramento. I just laughed out loud and said “funny" and then later on he made the comment again little bit more serious adding" Like I said before you can always come stay with me.. there are lots of job opportunities up there and my rent is only this much etc. To let him be at ease I told him I would keep him in mind. I don’t know if I were to do something like that. I never lived with anyone besides my own family. Plus I don’t know if he would be able to handle the kind of relationship I want. I am the kind of person waiting for marriage if you know what I mean.( my own personal standards not religious standards) And I think it would drive him nuts that I wouldn’t be wanting to go that far because it is only a one bedroom apt. He doesn’t know about my standards which I know I need to discuss with him before he make suggestions like that before he can handle it. The next time I am going to see him is next week at the club for my friend's birthday. found it quite funny before because my friend told me before when I was a little hurt by him to not tell him about her birthday thing at the club. So I didn’t. But one of the first things she tells him was her party at the club. I was sitting right there too. it made me scratch my head like "what??" I asked that to her tonight, and she said " Oh I got over that after he made the effort to come up here and plus I invited him for you" and my friend is not young either. she is 36 but great fun to be around. Just makes me wonder some time. So if he does bring it up again( like at the party) How do you think is the best way to put it? it is a tricky topic to discuss don’t you think. Well i gotta get some sleep. my brother is graduating tomorrow and I need to be awake. Get back to me soon.
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Hey there!! It's been a looooong time =( i wasn't allowed on the internet cuz of my exmas but i just finished =) anyways congrats. on your brother's graduation. How did it go? =D Hope it was fun. Anyways here's what i think:
I love the standards, i have the same standards too. Not religious but personal. I'm only 16 years old and i've never had a boyfriend because i don't want one. I want a serious relationship that may lead to marriage which is why it's way too early at 16 years old. Anyways sorry, thats a whole different topic.
I think it's way too soon to think about moving there for him. He needs to prove himself to you first, he needs to show you how much he cares about you or how much he really wants you to be there! He also needs to sacrifice for the relationship...if he wants a relationship. Anyways i think that the idea should be put on hold! Until you both discuss your standards and if you both want a relationship. Hey its an improvement for showing up at the lake house.
How did the party go? If the topic comes up again, you're going to have to tell him about your personal standards. Try to ask him to move to your area. Why should you make the huge adjustment. If you guys really want to be together and both of you think that it will work out, how about both of you make some changes and move half way through. You know waht i mean?
Anyways best of luck!! Update me about the party and how things are going so far with Brent. How are things going with Chris by the way? Im really sorry that this is late. Since exams are over im free now =) take care. I'll talk to you soon. =) Hey give me your email and i'll add you. It'll be easier. =) Anyways up tp you, see ya!
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