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How do i deal with all this?
My friendship with a guy (best guy friend...or was...) is over...and i dont know what to do...i dont know what to think...i dont know how to feel...
im in so much pain...and right now i feel numbed to it...and that is really scary because i know its gonna hit me really hard later than...its happened before...but the thing that really gets me is that i dont think he notices anything is wrong...like he has no idea that our friendship is gone down the toliet or he does and he just doesnt want to do anything about it...he just doesnt care...
i dont know...any advice on this would be greatly appreciated!
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Well, what you should probably do is keep talking to him. I know it feels weird talking to him, and you would rather he talked to you first. You probably want HIM to show an interst in being your friend. The reality is, his isn't interested and doesn't care. You therefore have two options: try to make him your friend, or move on. Whatever you decide, don't sit around moping.
Let me know how it works out =)
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What was it that happen to cause all of this or for the friendship to be over? If this is a friendship you want to save then it may be worth trying to talk to him about it and try to resolve the problem or at least ask him if he really doesn't care anymore about the friendship. It's hard to really say without knowing the details but if you at least try to save things then at least you will know that you did try and not, like him, not bother at all. If in the end it does come down to it all being over then it will hit hard and will feel like a hit to the gut but sometimes this is how life plays its hand. Friends leave and new friends come in - sometimes there is no stopping it. All I can really suggest though is that if you feel this is a friendship worth saving then by all means try and talk to him about it and see where he stands on this. You might even want to wait a while before trying to talk to him as itmay just seem like he doesn't care at the moment becase he is also feeling the numbness that you are going through.
I hope things work out.
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Just try talking to him about it. From what you said, it seems like you haven't talked to him about it. Maybe he really doesn't realize that things aren't so well between you. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel. I think it would help you out a lot if you just sat down and talked to him about it. If you are afraid to do it in person, then you can do it through e-mail, texting, on the phone, there are a lot of ways to do it without having to ask him to his face. I noticed something like that was happening between me and one of my friends, and I finally said, "Is there something wrong between us? Because we don't seem to be as good friends as we use to." They said tha tthey didn't realize anything was wrong. What had happened was that we got different classes and didn't talk to each other as much. Now we are friends again. Just try sitting down and talking. It really does help.
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