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How can I insert in back hole of my gf
Dangernerd is correct ask your girlfriend and don't be surprised if she is very specific about where can put you thing and not in her. Anal sex is not for every woman. Even when done properly it can be very painful for her especially if the male is overly endowed.
Whatever you do, do not try and surprise her by trying to get in the black hole. That is the quickest way to end your sex life with this young lady I promise you that. The key to a successful sexual relationship is consensual sex. Meaning something like anal sex needs to be talked about and she needs to consent to it. IF she does and then says stop you need to stop.
As to how to have anal sex. Use your search engine and type in, "How to have Anal Sex” It will return many different ways to do so. Read them together and follow the best advice.
Strict rules to follow:
Never have anal sex without using a condom, this is for your protection. Make sure to wash your genital area with hot soapy water after. Never go from anus to vagina without washing first.
I am going to be 18 in january. I need to know if I can leave. I have somewhere to go, I have a job and will be a manager when I am 18. What will happen if I leave? If I'm not in danger and I have somewhere to go, will I be forced home? My mothers trying to quit my job. I live in Connecticut if helps.
By law parents are legally responsible for their children until their 18th birthday. If you leave home without permission your mom can declare you a runaway and have the police find you and drag you home.
If you were closer to 17 then you are to 18 it might be worth trying to be declared an emancipated minor. Given the cost involved for the lawyer, the time it takes to do the legal work and get in front of a Judge; honestly it would not be worth the money for you would be 18 or just about to turn 18.
My advise is, if you have graduated high school, have no desire to go to college and this job is your career type job. Then go talk with the local police department and see how they would handle it if mom were to declare you a runaway. The fact you are a high school graduate and this is a career type job gives the police some wiggle room as to how they would view moms complaint. By talking to the police first could save you a lot of heartache while also allowing you to do what you want.
I am 24 and work with a hot, hot, hot 41 year old woman. We started a friend with bennies relationship about 5 months ago. We have sex once a week to every other week. She was 2 kids that are in high school. Went we have sex it's mostly at her apartment when her kids are at work or staying the night at their friends house. We have mostly use condoms but their has been one or two times that she says its the safe time of the months and if I can pull out we don't have to use them. A few encounters ago we did not have any condoms so she said to me " that's ok, we can go with out them". I asked he if it was a safe time and she replied " no". I asked her if we would be safe still if I pulled out. She said that I did not have to pull out if I didn't want to. I asked her "what if you get knocked up" She replied " I will have a baby". I was kinda set back but I got turned on right away. The thought of me getting her pregnant was very erotic to me. I asked he if she wanted me to get her pregnant and she said " kinda, but it's not up to me baby. It's up to the man. I was ok with you knocking me up the first time we made love". So we have now had sex five times without birthcontrol and I do not know if I have gotten her pregnant but the more I think about it, I am starting to get cool feet about her having my baby
Razhie is right for these reasons. While she may be okay with getting pregnant and having a baby there is another side to this. ARE YOU READY FOR FATHERHOOD.
You cannot just knock her up and walk away from this child. In all states you are responsible for this child to different degrees until it reaches the age of 18. This means you must pay child support as ordered by the courts. You must maintain health insurance medical and dental as well as a separate life insurance policy sufficient to cover all of this support.
Something else to consider is her age. She is considered a high risk pregnancy. Not only is the pregnancy a risk to her life but she is more susceptible to deliver a baby with a birth defect. If she did you would be paying more in support and it doesn't necessarily stop at age 18. If something did happen to her during the delivery you could be a single father.
Those are not just the possibilities it is the law in most states. Either go back to using condoms or find a women your own age to date and have sex with. If you have trouble finding women to date I suggest Match.com
Went through our phone records and there were 100 text messages all hours of the day til late at night between my husband and his female coworker. I confronted him and at first he said he had no idea who it was. I googled the number and knew who it was. I asked if I could see the messages
and he deleted them. Even the ones he got today.
I told him that looks bad..she's just a friend he says. They just talk about work stuff. He is usually sweet to me and as I tried to make my point he called me an effing B. He has never said anything like that to me in 13 years. I feel catatonic with shock..please give me advice.
Is your husband cheating on you? Not in the full sense of the word cheating. Yes he is having an affair of sorts with this coworker though it is not a sexual one if all it amounts to is texting or sexting as the case may be.
You caught him red handed so of course he is going to be defensive and the B word comes out. This could just be a case of the 7 year itch (6 years late) that may have past on its own if you had not discovered it. It also could be a prelude to more.
What do you know about the coworker. Is she married? Is she younger than you? Does she have a reputation in the office of having office affairs? You need to know these things before you make any decision on how to proceed.
You need to ask yourself some questions as well. What if anything has changed over the years? After 13 years of marriage we tend to get comfortable with each other and frankly take each other for granted.
Things we did we don't do any more. Love making happens on a set schedule usually around the children's schedule. No more sexy nightwear no spontaneity. Little things tend to bug you both. Do you see this in your marriage. This is not your fault or his it happens we just get comfortable with each other it happens in all marriages. What she may be offering is some of the excitement that was in your marriage when you first married. He may be infatuated by the excitement that has turned to comfort in your marriage.
What I believe you need to do is talk with him. I will not use the word confront him because that is argumentative and you need to have a discussion not an argument. He has been caught having an affair of sorts, not the worst type of an affair and not cheating as in a sexual affair. On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the worst type of an affair this one rates about 3 at this time.
You need to ask him and he needs to explain what he gets out of this texting with this coworker. He needs to admit it's not all about work and there is more to it. Of course this texting needs to stop and he needs to keep his relationship with this woman at work at on a professional level only.
At this point if he has not had sexual relations with this woman I believe this marriage is salvageable. Once you have this discussion and you find out the why of his reason. I would suggest seeing a good marriage counselor to discuss whatever may have come between you and put it behind you. Of course you will need to learn to trust him again; can you do that?
Two days ago I had a hearing to make a temporary restraining order I had put against my ex permanent.
My ex had stalked me, always showing up up wherever I was and paid somebody to see if I was at my workplace. He called the police and made a fake report to find out if I was at home. He even broke into my apartment and I woke up to him standing over my bed furious.
He threatened to rape and kill me which I had in text messages.
He would chase me if I tried to get away from him and block my way.
He would harass me calling me every minute of the day for hours on end (I have call records of this) and leave me crazy voicemails.
He told me multiple times if I left him he would kill himself and even acted like he was going to jump off the side of the parking garage we were on, one night I was with him if I didn't let him stay the night.
I had evidence for all of this, but the only things the judge would look at were the texts. She didn't look at the call records or the two police reports I brought with me. She would barely let me talk and just acted like it was a bad breakup. His lawyer presented a text I had sent him months ago when we were still together where I sent him a heart and thanked him for sending me cupcakes and she acted like because I stayed with him for four months that it was my fault he did those things to me instead of breaking up with him earlier.
She wound up dismissing the case because she said I had "insufficient evidence" that he would hurt me in the future as he had moved to another state and I've moved to another city, but I still feel like this isn't fair. His lawyer even told me he was having the case sealed so nobody would ever know I tried to take him to court. He got away with everything he did because of a bad judge...
What do you think?
If you went to court without a lawyer then this is what happens. Take your evidence to a lawyer and ask the lawyer is you can file again or appeal the Judge's decision. Then if it is possible pay the lawyer to do what is needed to get the restraining order.
Should you be unable to afford a lawyer go to the clerk of the courts and ask for a court appointed lawyer. You can also go to legal aid and ask for help.
I am a 27 year old female And when I was 12 my pediatrician diagnosed me with ADHD and I have been taking Adderal ever since. As I have gotten older I noticed that I started having problems with social anxiety. When I was little I have never really enjoyed playing with the other children. I would forget my materials that I needed for school every day on purpose so I would get detention and be made to read instead but what they didn't know was that I enjoyed it. I hated going outside with all the noise and drama. I despised pep rallies so mom would check me out that. I hated fire drills and smoke alarms and trains. I went to my psychologist and they said that I was misdiagnosed and I don't have ADHD I haves Sensory processing disorder I looked it up online and everything pulled up Autism does this mean I am Autistic or can I have just the sensory processing disorder alone.
I am so confused with this new diagnosis
I found the following two Websites that may be more relevant to the information you have been looking for. From the little bit of reading I have done with each I would suggest you look at this information then talk with a Board Certified Psychiatrist about your problem,
I believe a board certified psychiatrist is better trained to talk with you and to suggest methods of treatment then ones who are not certified or a psychologist not trained in this area.
The reason you may have been misdiagnosed as a child was at that time sensory processing disorder was not accepted as a disorder by the American Psychiatric Association. It is still not accepted but many psychiatrist do recognize it and are treating it as an illness. You need to find one of those psychiatrists who do accept sensory processing disorder as an illness and can treat you. I believe seeking out a Board Certified Psychologist is your best chance of finding someone to treat you.
http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-autism-advocate/201003/what-is-sensory-processing-disorder-and-how-is-it-related-autism
I am 13 year old female and a Wiccan. I have a pentagram choker I recently bought and am considering to start wearing it. I'm going on vacation to the beach in a couple days, so I won't be wearing it that often because of the ocean and the such, however tomorrow I'm getting my nails painted. My mother has no problem with Wicca or me wearing it, however my family is mostly Christian. Most my town's areas are Jewish majority and Christians and Muslims tie in second however there is a fair amount of atheists. I'm not trying to generalize, but based off my experience atheists are chill and don't care at all, Muslims are definetly the most "anti-other faiths" however I've met completely chill ones and those who keep it to themselves, however there is this one obnoxious Muslim boy. Christians vary greatly although most of them seem to hold beliefs about old religions being satanic and those who do unlike the bad Muslims do not keep it to themselves they don't care (honestly I feel there is a lot of entitlement amongst Christians), Jews greatly vary mainly because there are a lot, and I mean a lot, like there are 4 main parts of my town, 2/4 have Jewish majority, and probably 99% I have only met two non Jews from those areas and they're both from the same family. And it's a choker, so I can't just hide it underneath my shirt. I live in New York. I don't have much experience however once I drew a pentagram on a book mark and a girl attempted to erase it. I told her to leave it alone, it's not her bookmark, and she quit it. I also know she is Christian, and once we were doing a video project together and she removed her crucifix charm on her bracelet because she felt it was innapropriate because it's school. The beach I'm going to is in New Jersey. I don't know much about laws regarding these type of things other than my first amendedment right to freedom of religion and expression. I have yet to see my principal or vice principals order Muslim students to take of their Hijabs or anything of that sort. But I do know some people take the pentagram as some sort of gang symbol, I'll have to check my dress code again as school starts not to far away for me. Most kids break the dress code very noticeably anyway. And I spent money on it I intend to wear it! What is your guys knowledge on discrimination (or lack of) for wearing a pentagram in public, specifically America, and preferably New York?
You into an area that is both easy to define as well as difficult to define. I know that is about as clear as mud right. Let's see if I can clear the waters a bit for you.
What is extremely clear and guaranteed by the constitution is your right to practice your religion as you choose. There is no argument there. One would thing there is no exception to this,, but there are. The main exception is going to be in school. While the Pentagram is very much the symbol of your religion just as the Cross or Star of David is to Christians and Jew respectively. Your right to wear your religious symbol in school may be infringed upon because of the other symbolic representations the pentagram has.
Is this right. Unfortunately this is both a yes and no answer. The schools have the right to restrict anything that may disrupt the school's purpose. If they deem the pentagram more a disruption than a symbol of your religion then they can ban it. The basis hopefully would be made based on the number of Wiccans attending your school. Unfortunately knowing full well where you live you are a minority religion and you could be told not to wear your choker. Your only recourse then would be to take the school to court to obtain a court order. This would be a long costly fight by which time you would be finished with college and probably raising a family of your own.
As for going to the beach. If it is a public beach you have every right to wear your choker. Understand that others may not like it and you could be harassed even harmed.
My advice is to seek the advice of you Wiccan leadership. They know you best as well as the communities you live in and wish to visit. They should be able to tell when and where to wear your choker.
I had a customer that was a Wiccan. A very nice lady who I enjoyed calling an and whose company I enjoyed many times for lunch. I did not learn of her choice of religion at her place of work as there was no evidence to her religious leanings. It was over lunch one day that she told me about being a Wiccan.
Because of where she works, lives and the misconceptions people have of Wiccans she kept her religion very private. I see nothing wrong with your choice of religion and you have every right to be proud of yourself and your religion. I would advice given your age and how nasty other students can be towards things they do not understand that you consider keeping your religion private until you are older and out of high school.
I really like, would almost say love my boyfriend. He's been really amazing to me and he's almost everything I want. Our relationship is healthy and we both have good futures ahead of us so we make a good power couple.
My problems is my boyfriend wants to take our relationship to the next level, but I don't.
I'm a full-time student, full-time worker, and a natural busy-bee who just moved to a new college, where I want to join a sorority, get involved in faith ministries, make new friends, join various clubs, and I want to take at least 5 classes so I can graduate early. With all this going on I just don't feel like we're at the same places in life. I want to live on campus and spend a lot of time there where as he really wants me to move in with him and spend a lot more time with him. These two things can't mix because he lives 40 minutes away from my college.
I've also previously had a SO live with me before and I'm just not ready for that again. I don't want to have to plan out my entire life around somebody else at my age. I also don't want to be held to the kind of expectations men get when they live with their girlfriend. I feel like men have this imaginary dreamland in their head of what it's going to be like where they think their girlfriend is going to be super happy all the time, do all the cooking and cleaning, where they're going to get sex all the time, where periods cease to exist, where everything is just super amazing when it's not like that.
I enjoy spending time with him, but seeing him a couple days a week is fine to me, when he wants so much more.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him, but sometimes I really feel like my interests are in places other than being in a relationship with somebody who wants to take precedent in my life over everything else when so many other things are just as important to me. I just want to take the relationship slow and see what it eventually develops into, but he wants to speed things up with me into something more serious when we've only been dating a couple months.
You two are obviously in two different places in this relationship. His choice is to accept the relationship on your terms or not. For him to continue to harass you, cajole you, into seeing things his way and moving to the next level is sexual harassment. It is sexual harassment because his desire in having you live with him includes you being available for more sex. Sexual harassment is illegal.
You have been together for just two months and already there appears to be a big difference between you as to respecting the others wishes. It appears to me his love for you may be more in the form of lust rather than love.
Since he is the one that is making the request he is also the one that needs to accept NO for an answer. You are an adult free to make your own choices. While you have many reasons for not wanting to move in with him the best one is he is moving faster than you are willing to move. Here again we are in the area of sexual relations which puts his request and any cajoling in the realm of sexual harassment.
My advice is to stay the course and follow your plan. If that is not good enough for him then his love for you may be as I said more of lust then love and you deserve better.
I have a problem with a serious office crush in the office. I was smitten by her since she has this bubbly and friendly personality that you can ever asked for. She always smile to most people she see in the office and she is the talkative type of person. Sad to say she already has a boyfriend in which I am aware of.
Basically, we often meet in the hallways of the office or in our respective departments doing our business; a simple "Hi" and "Hello" everytime we meet would suffice and I've always thought that my feelings for her would grow. At first, I told myself that I will never be friends to an awesome girl like her. And usually I would already feel satisfied even if I just see a glimpse of her.
I had a chance to got her number due to a meeting that we happen to be seatmates. After which, we became casual friends. Since I am in the I.T department I would do her some favors with her work and she would always reply it with a simple Thanks! This kept going for 4 months and she had told me that we are "BFF". Nothing serious happened through our friendship and I never jumped-in with my feelings but rather take everything as workload.
Then April came. I had to happen to eat lunch in our company's cafeteria. I usually go out at lunch with my friend but due to my friend's busy schedule I was forced to dine inside. I was there eating and it happened that she always ate there with her department workmates. She was surprised I was eating there and was happy with my company. By that time, I thought to myself why not lunch everyday at the office? And soon I knew it I was reserving seats for her and that was the start of everything. A crush that I never thought of becoming to fruition became a dream. We were close buds and during lunch breaks we were the only two talking about which left her 2 other companions out of place. We never ran out of topics and she always trusts me about everything.
I was always there for her like giving her mdicines when she is sick, giving her advice to just about everything.
Our closeness with each other grew by the day. And she said to her friends that she was really "comfortable" with me. We had times that we would talk and hide in some dark place in the office.
Fast forward this July. We were so happy with each other's company and by the next day she suddenly became cold. I don't know what happened. I tried to retrace back my steps. Maybe there is something I said that might just gone overboard like spilling my feelings for her? I still couldn't believe she would suddenly give me the cold shoulder. By now, we still go out with lunch but she is not that bubbly self of hers and would always turn me down on a conversation starter by giving a two worded replied. I tried texting her what's the problem and she wouldn't reply. Maybe because of her boyfriend? Or do you think she doesn't wan't to take our friendship to another level?
Although I gave her something on her birthday, and on ordinary days like chocolates or favors that I can do but I never told her that I like her or I loved her. But my actions are doing opposite. I'm still in limbo right now and I still can't get my head straight on why she is treating me like that.
Sorry for the long post..
Confused.
There are a lot of possibilities here but just what happened is impossible to say without her side of the story. IT may very well be that you did nothing more than you have always done but something on her side changed. Her boyfriend may have heard about you two of her girlfriends could have told her you have feelings beyond BFF's. Maybe there is trouble in paradise with her boyfriend and she is confused.
I would say at this point you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by being straight with her. At lunch tell her straight you miss your bubbly friend. That if you did something to upset her you would like to apologize. Tell her you do have feelings for her and you know when is in a relationship so you would never intrude on that relationship without a signal from her that she is open to an advance by you.
Tell her how much you have enjoyed the lunches you spend together and ask how do we get back to them. What does she need from you so that you and she can enjoy a lunch hour together without this cloud over the two of you.
Depending on just what the problem is there are a lot of answers that she can come back with. There is one though that could be a trick question that you have to be ready for. Which is, "Do you love me?"
Your answer to this question has to be middle of the road because you don't know why she is asking it. I would reply, "I have feelings for you yes. Do I love you, I think we could be in a love relationship if we took this relationship to the next level and started seeing each other outside the office. You are the type of person it wouldn't be hard to fall in love with and I have all the right feelings to fall in love with you I'm just not there yet."
My 11 y/o daughter used to eat many different types of foods, vegetables, fruit, meat, etc... even if she didn't care for a particular vegetable, she'd still manage to eat it anyways.
Since about three weeks ago, she's only wanted to eat one thing for breakfast, lunch, and dinner: Two scrambled eggs and one maple sausage. Sometimes she'll have orange juice/ a breakfast essential drink to go with it.
I've tried arguing, offering special meals, but she only wants to stick with eggs and sausage. I'm worried she might eventually lack the nutrients she needs.
Is this just a phase?
It is very possibly a phase or it could be a sign that something is wrong. I notice that what she is asking for is very soft warm food. I'm no doctor or dentist but it might very well be she is having a problem with her teeth and does not want to go to the dentist.
I would suggest two things.
1. Schedule a check up with a pediatric dentist for a complete dental check up. Make sure to tell the dentist about what she only will eat. This may be a hint of what he or she needs to look for.
2. Since school will be starting or may have started already you have a good reason to schedule a complete physical for her with your family doctor. See the dentist first then the family doctor.
If both find nothing wrong I suggest you try my mothers way of handling this problem. My mother told us, "I cook one meal for all of us." "You either eat it or you don't." "If you want something different from what I make you can make it yourself." That was providing we were old enough to use the things we need to like the stove or oven. "she also said if we made our own meals we had to clean up after ourselves or we could not cook for ourselves."
It's funny but my sister and I became much less picky after we made our own dinners a few times.
I am 16 and I have had my license for about two months now. However, I have not been able to once drive myself around somewhere because I don't have a car. There are cars available, but my parents don't allow me to drive them because I'm not registered to them or something? It has to do with insurance, I'm not sure with the specifics. Anyway, there is a BMW in the garage that is supposed to go to me, but it doesn't pass smog bc there is a part that needs to be replaced. However, this part costs like $2700 and my dad doesn't have the money to just pay all of that up front. Along with that, all of the tires need to be replaced, and a lot of other things. With that really expensive part, not every mechanic can fix it, but my dad heard about this mechanic from his uncle who can most likely fix it. So, in about 2 weeks, he's going to hear back from my uncle if the mechanic is really worth it, and then he's going to fix the car. Basically, fixing this car is a work in progress and it's going to take a couple months, most likely until November. However, it's August right now, and I just started school, so The people taking me to school everyday are my aunt and my grandpa. This whole summer, I had no idea about the situation of the car and what was really wrong with it. Every time I asked my dad about the car, he would just say that I have to finish some project for him (not going into that) and then I would get the car. However, the project was not working at all bc my dad was really hard to work with and it would have taken too long, so I told my mom that I don't want to do this project anymore and I just want the car fixed so I can take myself to school & get to places for the extracurricular activities I'm involved in without having to ask for a fucking ride EVERY SINGLE TIME. I have missed out on so many important things just because I didn't have a ride. So when I talked to my mom, I told her to tell my dad (because he gets all pissy when I ask him about it) if he can just fix the car and give it to me. I already have a 4.2 GPA, I have a really high position in the biggest club of the school, etc, I have a lot of achievements that I've done all for my parents so that they can reward me with things (like a car in this case) when I need them. My mom talked to my dad and he explained this whole car situation to her. However, the thing is that I HAD NO IDEA WHY THE CAR COULD NOT BE FIXED BECAUSE HE NEVER TOOK THE TIME TO TELL ME. The only reason I thought he wouldn't fix it was because I wouldn't finish the project, once I finished the project, the car would take about a month to be fixed and then I could start driving it. That's WHAT I THOUGHT BECAUSE THATS WHAT HE TOLD ME, I never once knew that the reason why the car wasn't able to be fixed was bc of a much more complex problem that takes a lot of time and energy to fix. Today I talked to him about it and he finally explained to me, after months of me stressing out and thinking he wouldn't give the car to me because he wanted me to work for it. Left and right everyday I would see kids in my grade getting new cars when they fail every since class of theirs and are horrible kids when I'm over here being such a great daughter, listening to my parents, doing really good in school and outside of school. It really angered me. Then, today, after he explained the situation of the car to me, he got mad and told me that I'm an idiot who just wants things right there right then. Well, of course I would want it "right there right then" if u made the car seem like it just needed a small little fix? I kept telling him that he never told me the actual situation of the car, so how was I supposed to go about it the right way? But he didn't understand. He kept calling me a moron and stupid because I keep wanting the car immediately when it's a huge work in progress, but I didn't even know because he never took the time to tell me!!!!!! Once he told me I understood completely, but he kept insulting me afterwards and so I blew up because he MADE me look like an idiot, but he couldn't handle it so he yelled really loud. Like , really loud. So I just walked away. I don't know if this made sense but who do u think is right in this case?
TO start with you and your dad are both wrong. As parents we are a strange breed. . Now this is going to sound a bit strange even dumb but it is truthful.
As parents we want a better life for our children. IF we can't provide something better than we had it hurts us and we don't want to show that hurt so we make excuses or we find reason to blame the child for not getting or providing what they need or want. My father was really good at that.
My sister and I were well into our adult lives when we realized something our dad told us was an excuse for him not having the money but he put the blame on us for not giving us something. He had converted the attic in our home into two bedrooms and a bathroom for us. We were supposed to get carpeting and we even gone so far as to pick out the color and type of carpeting we wanted. When it came time to install the carpeting he blew up at us and said. "IF you two can't keep your rooms clean I'm not paying for carpeting." "The next day when we came home from school he had installed floor tile. At the time it never dawned on us he had planned all along to put tile down when the time came rather than be truthful with us he became enraged and made it our fault. Sound familiar.
Your dads wrong for not being truthful with you and like my dad giving you a goal which he may have known you would not complete allowing him to shall we say renege on his promise to fix the car for you.
You’re wrong for harping. Your 16 by know you should understand the more you harp on something the more he is going to dig his heals in. He knows you want the car. To continue to harp after he told you what needed to be fixed, how much it would cost and he didn't have the money to fix it is wrong.
You don't say how old the car is but cars decrease in value the minute you drive them off the dealer’s lot. That $2,700 plus whatever else has to be fixed may be more than the car is worth. To you it is transportation to dad it is higher insurance bills and possibly and endless money pit to keep it on the road.
Since one of the problems is you are not listed on the insurance dads insurance bill has not yet gone up for having a teenage driver on it. If you want to be able to drive one of the working cars my suggestion is as follows.
Offer to get and after school job; yes you will have to give up some after school activities. The after school job will allow you to reimburse your dad the higher cost of you driving. This would be a good compromise until dad can decide whether it is worth fixing the car in the garage or finding a working car he can afford to purchase.
Sometimes I can be agressive when I masturbate and will also end up masturbating every night for a week or two. I've noticed that after several nights of this, I have one or two swollen "bubbles" or "lumps" under the tissue beside my clitoris and on the inside side of my inner labia almost directly beneath my clitoris. This has always happened on the right side (from my perspective.) I've tried looking it up but can't seem to find anything even remotely similar. They're sore, round, and under the tissue. They are not on the skin and not an infection. They go away after a few days to a week of inactivity. Can someone please tell me what they are? I'm not so much concerned as I am curious. Thank you!
Not being a doctor this is only an educated guess on my part. From what you are writing it sounds like a "Blood Blister" you might get any place on your body, Blood blisters for when a blood vessel leeks or is ruptured under the skin. When the blood is absorbed back into the body the blister goes away. Of course I am talking very much in layman's terms.
If you have to rub your clitoris that hard in order to orgasm you may not be a person that orgasms from clitoral stimulation. There are two types or three types of women when it comes to stimulation of the sex organ. One type is the clitoral women who only gets stimulated through clitoral stimulation. Then there is the vaginal woman she more vaginal stimulation. Then there is the woman who can be stimulate either vaginally or clitorally.
I would suggest if you are not fingering yourself that you try fingering yourself to orgasm. It sounds like your working to hard to obtain a clitoral orgasm and you may find fingering a better way to reach orgasm. I would also suggest you speak to your GYN and let him or her check that area to make sure you have not injured yourself.
Once you reach age 14 you can request to be seen by any doctor who will be examining or treating your reproductive system under a law called HIPPA. This law states that you can ask the doctor to see you without mom being in the room for this law gives you total medical confidentiality over your reproductive system.
HIPPA is a federal Law and within this law is a section that congress wrote allowing anyone 14 and older to seek medical treatment or to have questions answered concerning their reproductive system.
If you are having periods you should be having GYN exams once a year. IF mom insists on being in the room nothing you can say or do until your 14. Once you are 14 there is nothing mom can say or do concerning you medical records for your reproductive system as you must give a doctor written permission to show anyone these records.
All throughout the college, I always worked at being an overachiever. Succeeding in all of my courses and doing better than the majority of the other students.
After recently graduating, this is showing in my personality. I love the team that I work with, and our supervisor is awesome and VERY supportive - I am delighted to be working under him. He's the kind of guy who constantly takes out to lunch, has paid for some meals for us, and he's always willing to help out and give feedback. However, my subconsciousness seems to want me to throw anyone who I can under the bus.
This morning, thinking that I was following proper decorum, I sent a whereabouts stating that I was working from home today and would be returning to the office. A whereabout is basically an itinerary of where you will be for the week, if you are working on field and billing. I work as a Business Analyst and part of my job involves billing and working in the field.
My supervisor let me work from home today, since I have stuff that is going on. Very accommodating towards me. I asked him if I should send out a whereabouts, and he said that he wouldn't, if he were me, but if I wanted to I could. Thinking logically now, if he wasn't supposed to do that, I could have gotten into him really big trouble.
I ended up getting into a situation, thinking that I was following proper decorum, where he told the VP of Human Resources (who does the majority of our secretarial work and reviews the resumes) that he told me not to and that I want to be like my other co-workers (who are billing and out of training). I have only been there for two months.
I brought it up with him, and he said that they love having me, but that I have to start thinking logically and recognize the term community, to paraphrase him. He is understanding that I am new to this, and it is an informal environment, but there are things that you have to do. For example, we have to defend each other, help each other out, etc. Most of all, no one should stand out from the rest of the staff.
How can I turn this part of my personality off?
I'm going to make a stab at explaining this and I'm not sure I'm going to pull it off as it is not a great subject for a one way communication. Let's start by realizing that for 16 years of schooling or more you have been encouraged by family and teachers to do your best and to try to stand apart from others.
This is a motivator both for you and others. For you because it is realized you like to stand out, that you have grown accustomed to over achievement. For others it was look at Carol if she can do it so can you. Competition is the best form of motivation. My company uses it to motivate the sales force. What salespeople are at the top of each region each week get rewards. Those at the bottom are told to look at the guys on top that they are no different and they should be able to at least equal them.
Not all employers believe in this type of competition. Many believe it is counter productive as the over achiever is generally not willing to share information with the group for then he or she does not stand out. By community they also mean team and teamwork.
If your with me so far now comes the hard part. What you have to learn is not to jump the gun. If you have an idea that will make something you do easier or better or if you see something is being done wrong. Share it first with the group you work with and get their feedback. IF they agree with your thinking then share your thoughts with what you feel should be done and find a way that it can be implemented as a group.
IF your company has a handbook for how certain things should be done such as time reporting. Find the section that applies to your community or job and follow it. IF you have questions ask them. Remember this is all new to you and it is expected you will have questions. They expect that coming from academia to the business world is going to be a trauma of sorts for it is a drastic change to how you have been trained to do things. They expect some mistakes and they expect you will learn from them. They also expect questions even ones you think may be foolish or stupid.
Just remember the only stupid question is the one you don't ask. I hope this helps you some what.
i am from kenya i needef words to use to convince ladies to have sex with you or attract them
You don't convince a young lady to have sex with you. Sex is something that happens between adults when they have a mutual love or affection for each other. IF you harass a young lady into having sex against her will it is rape in many countries, possibly Kenya.
As far as getting a young lady to notice you or attract her to you I am at a cultural disadvantage not being from Kenya. In general a girl will spot a phony line a mile off so forget about them. Be honest and sincere. If you see a girl you like go up to her and say hi, I have been watching you and you look like someone I would like to get to know.
If a person files an EPO against another party and the person the EPO was filed against uses another family member to call the person who filed the EPO to continue asking for permission to see their child together for visits and has this other person calling them non stop to get the answer they want is that breaking their EPO
I would believe that if this person is calling on behalf of the person restricted by the EPO then it is a violation of the EPO. I'm not a lawyer and you should check with your local police department as they are the ones empowered to enforce the EPO.
I will say this that the person calling non stop is harassing you. Phone harassment is a violation of the law and the agreement for use of the phone. Do this keep a pad of paper near you or the phone. Next time they call and every time they call mark down the date and time of the call and the duration of the call. Do this for a day them call the Police and show them you telephone log of the calls.
DO NOT TAPE RECORD THE CALLS. Every state has very specific laws governing the recording of phone calls. If the police want a recording of the calls they will get a court order and either tell you how to do so or put a trap on your line to get the evidence they need to file charges.
hi..how can i gain weight fast ...like really fastt. i was a vegan for 6mths and i lost weight ...a little too much and i want it back...i am not a vegan anymore
It is not a good idea to either gain or loose weight fast as it is a shock to the body. The best way to gain weight is see if a 2000 calorie diet will allow you to gain weight. It should for most people. Then eat 3 healthy meals a day with two snacks; one in the afternoon between lunch and dinner and one after dinner before bed.
Once you gain the weight you want adjust your diet to maintain that weight. Probably an 1800 calorie or slightly less diet will do. IF your very active you will have to adjust your calorie intake. The best person to ask about this would be your doctor or a nutritionist.
This should have been asked a few months back since it already happened but I'll need advice in case it happens again. So I live in England, ok? and my school decided to screen 1 of the England games for the football/soccer tournament "The European Championships". However, I had a few things wrong with this
1) You go to school to learn , NOT to watch TV
2) It was on at the same time as a gameshow I watch called Catchphrase. And the episode of Catchphrase that was on was the first ever episode to celebrate the 30th anniversary of the show. It was an ep with Roy Walker as well, the king of Catchphrase, the original host! And it also has the original theme tune as well, and the original set and graphics. I wanted to watch this since it would show how the show evolved over time. Who in their right mind would prefer to watch a sport then a classic gameshow? If it wasn't for catchphrase we wouldn't have Pointless, The Chase, Tipping Point or Who Wants to be a Millionaire, they've all been successful thanks to catchphrase. And catchphrase wasn't a basic Q&A type of gameshow, no. It was where the contestants were shown animations, and the animation was based on a phrase and the contestants had to guess what the phrase was. They earned a certain amount of money for the number of phrases they answered correctly. Why the absolute HELL would they not show the first episode of a classic gameshow to promote the 30th anniversary just so they can show a sport? This was the first time the first episode aired since 1986, when it was originally aired and I missed it thanks to the school! It's not even like I could record it either since I don't have that type of TV!
And finally 3) Why did they only show this game if they wanted to watch football? I get that they want to be patriotic but I think it's extremely racist that they're not showing other countries' games just because they don't live in that particular country!
OK rant over
The only answer I have for you is the same one I had for my son when he was in school. Whole we may live in two different countries, you in the UK and us in the US. The freedoms of our two countries bestow on us live outside the walls of the school.
As a minor you are only entitled to the freedoms your parents allow you. When you enter the school even those freedoms are withdrawn and you have only those that are set forth in the rules of the school.
For whatever their reason the administration allowed you to watch the football game, which call soccer. I'm sure they thought they were giving you a privilege or reward of some sort by doing so.
Why only the one game and not the others. For one thing football is a national pastime of your country and allowing you to watch the game probably was better than you trying to sneak listening to it while a teacher was trying to teach and of course it would be for your home team. Just like if the Super Bowl was played on a school day and say the New York Jets were one of the Teams. Schools in New York and New Jersey would be more likely to allow their students to watch the game then say students in Tampa Florida whose team is not playing.
I really need help. Recently me and my brother were drinking. Don't worry. We are both over age. Lets say we both got really drunk. We decided to lay down in his bed and we kinda cuddled for a little while. I can't stop the awkwardness between him and I when I see he. Please help me. Is it ok to crush on your brother?
I see no problem having a crush on ones sibling. The problem comes in when you want to take that crush to the next level and be intimate with each other. Then you are committing or considering committing Incest and that is illegal as well as considered a sin by all religions.
I'm 18 years old and my friend suggested that I move in with her while I finish school. I wanted to because my family constantly yells at me and brings up mistakes in the past that I've made for something even as simple as not being allowed to date. I have calmly approached my mother, and several other members of my family about this (my siblings are all 25+ and haven't dated or left home, besides one who moved out years ago.) and they, especially my mother, just blow up and yell at me without listening. I've known this friend for over eight years and trust her and her family. My mother said one reason I'm 'not allowed' to go is that she can't keep track of what I'm doing and when I said I could tell her every day, she just got mad and said from now on she wouldn't talk to me. I don't have a lisence or a car, and can't have a job yet due to school, but my mom always tells me how lazy I am and that she doesn't want me to move because I only think of good things and will do things I'm not supposed to. My friend said that three days before school, I should pack my things, at least what's most important to me, and have them pick me up to go to their house, without my family's knowledge. My mother refuses to listen to me and everyone else sides with her. Should I do it? I'm really scared because I've never done anything without her permission but I'm sick of being guilt tripped or yelled at every time I bring this up? Also, what if my family never forgives me, or (I'm sure my dad would do this) goes to my friend's house and yells at them, for which my friend said they could call the police, which I don't want. If anyone could give me advice on this, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you!
IF you live in the U.S. and are 18 years of age or older your parents are no longer legally responsible for you. Meaning they no longer can control what you do just by saying you can't do it. Most parent keep control over children that are over the age of 18 through the child's dependency. Meaning most children are not prepared to go out in the world and support themselves. They still need the support their parents have been giving them since they were born.
If you were to move out your parents cannot come and drag you home. They cannot report you as a runaway. They do not have to buy you clothes or pay for any medical or dental needs you have. They also do not have to pay for college. These are the things you lose by moving out or could lose by moving out.
As I said your parents cannot legally stop you from moving out if you live in the US but think carefully before you do. I do not know your parents you do. What do you lose by moving out. Are you capable of supporting yourself? Will your parents still supply your basic needs if you move out? This is what you have to think about before you move out.
My birthday is coming up in 2 weeks, and for the past week or so, I've been saying I want to try a candy called Mike and Ike (They don't sell them in the UK so online shopping is the only way to get them). However the last time I asked for them, my parents said that I can only have them if I get a haircut. My hair is quite long for a male, but not that long since it's not in my eyes or anything. However, I'm quite happy with the way my hair is, and they say it looks scruffy but I don't understand how, I think it looks fine. My friends say it looks fine. My cousins say it looks fine. So it's just my parents who don't like it. But what I want to know is why can't I have control over my own hair? I've had hair quite short before but I didn't like it, but they don't want long hair because they think it gives the family a "bad image". Where I live, my hair is sort of iconic, my friends have said that it wouldn't be like seeing the same person if I had short hair and that they like how it is, but my parents say that they're in charge of me. They can't make me get a haircut, because it's MY hair on MY body. I don't care if they don't like my hair, if it makes me happy then that's what matters. For example , my dad has big ears, I don't tell him he needs to have surgery to make them smaller! My parents are so annoying. I've been wanting to try Mike and Ike for a long time.
What should I do?
Being from the U.S. I am not familiar with the laws in the UK. Since our laws are based on British common law I would say that until a certain age, here it is 18, this is called the age of maturity, and your parents are legally responsible for your well-being.
IN this instance "Well Being" means that you have a clean and proper home, clean clothes, properly cared for (this is the loop hole you hair comes under), sent to school and have proper medical and dental care. Because you parents are legally responsible they have the legal right to force you to do certain things against you will. This could include getting a haircut. Until you reach the age of maturity in the UK the freedoms your country allows its citizens are the freedoms your parents give you.
To be honest with you teenagers the world over have the same problem you are writing about. Not necessarily about a hair style but about freedom to express themselves or freedom in general. Facts are in Western society until you are solely responsible for yourself your freedom is controlled by those responsible for you.
Your freedoms are granted under the Magna Carter ours under our Constitution. Other laws put in place by lawmakers expressed how those freedoms are granted and the limitations of those freedoms. Be thankful you father doesn't haul you down to the local hair cuttery and have your hair cut against your will. I believe he would be well within his rights if he did so.
My suggestion; not knowing how long you hair is I would suggest you see if there is a compromise length your parents would agree. The definition of a good compromise is something no one likes but everyone can agree to. If so then maybe your parents will also agree to allow you to order the Mike and Ike candy which I happen to also like.