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I don't want a haircut
My birthday is coming up in 2 weeks, and for the past week or so, I've been saying I want to try a candy called Mike and Ike (They don't sell them in the UK so online shopping is the only way to get them). However the last time I asked for them, my parents said that I can only have them if I get a haircut. My hair is quite long for a male, but not that long since it's not in my eyes or anything. However, I'm quite happy with the way my hair is, and they say it looks scruffy but I don't understand how, I think it looks fine. My friends say it looks fine. My cousins say it looks fine. So it's just my parents who don't like it. But what I want to know is why can't I have control over my own hair? I've had hair quite short before but I didn't like it, but they don't want long hair because they think it gives the family a "bad image". Where I live, my hair is sort of iconic, my friends have said that it wouldn't be like seeing the same person if I had short hair and that they like how it is, but my parents say that they're in charge of me. They can't make me get a haircut, because it's MY hair on MY body. I don't care if they don't like my hair, if it makes me happy then that's what matters. For example , my dad has big ears, I don't tell him he needs to have surgery to make them smaller! My parents are so annoying. I've been wanting to try Mike and Ike for a long time.
What should I do?
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I agree with everything Razhie said. I will only comment on Mike and Ike as I live in the U.S. where we can buy it. I had some recently after a few years of not having any and realized that at least to me, they weren't a big thing. The fruit flavored ones are just like jelly beans with a more narrow shape rather than bean shaped, and maybe a bit tougher to chew than a jelly bean. The licorice version with pastel pinks and white candy shell on outside and licorice on the inside just weren't as good as I remembered either.
After eating some whole, i decided to eat the candy shell off a couple and then just eat a coule licorice parts and thats where the problem was for me. The licorice didn't taste very good, very artificial for licorice. I can buy dollar candy with better licorice which I love. I personally wouldn't do something as drastic as get a hair cut to get those candies. My take on it, they are worth the bargain.
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Welp. You are right your parents can't physically force you to cut your hair.
However, they absolutely can refuse to buy you candy if you don't cut your hair. That isn't a criminal abuse of power. That's just parents not buying their kid candy. Parents do that sort of thing all the time ("We won't have pizza unless you clean up your room." or "We won't buy you that brand name purse unless you get an A in math.") You can argue it's not great parenting, but it's totally legal and very common.
And haircuts are not a parallel to surgery. If you don't want to cut your hair, just don't. Your parents won't take you any more seriously if you turn this into an irrational rage moment. Telling someone you'd like them to cut their hair is completely different than telling someone you'd like them to pay a doctor to cut up their skin.
If you are happy with your hair, you need to find someone else who'll help you get your hands on Mike and Ike. It's that simple.
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Being from the U.S. I am not familiar with the laws in the UK. Since our laws are based on British common law I would say that until a certain age, here it is 18, this is called the age of maturity, and your parents are legally responsible for your well-being.
IN this instance "Well Being" means that you have a clean and proper home, clean clothes, properly cared for (this is the loop hole you hair comes under), sent to school and have proper medical and dental care. Because you parents are legally responsible they have the legal right to force you to do certain things against you will. This could include getting a haircut. Until you reach the age of maturity in the UK the freedoms your country allows its citizens are the freedoms your parents give you.
To be honest with you teenagers the world over have the same problem you are writing about. Not necessarily about a hair style but about freedom to express themselves or freedom in general. Facts are in Western society until you are solely responsible for yourself your freedom is controlled by those responsible for you.
Your freedoms are granted under the Magna Carter ours under our Constitution. Other laws put in place by lawmakers expressed how those freedoms are granted and the limitations of those freedoms. Be thankful you father doesn't haul you down to the local hair cuttery and have your hair cut against your will. I believe he would be well within his rights if he did so.
My suggestion; not knowing how long you hair is I would suggest you see if there is a compromise length your parents would agree. The definition of a good compromise is something no one likes but everyone can agree to. If so then maybe your parents will also agree to allow you to order the Mike and Ike candy which I happen to also like.
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