It's totally up to you whether or not you break up with her. Have you told her WHY you want her to stop? She might not understand. Some girls don't get that their boyfriends don't want to hear about their exes. She might also have some lingering "I'm really pissed at him" feelings, and she might just be venting them at you. (I had that in the beginning of my current relationship. This guy was so great, it made me realize what an asshole my ex was, and I'm sorry to say I did vent some of that "I hate my ex, ex, blahblah" crap to him. He was tolerant, though. Lol)
Better idea - don't tell her why you want her to stop, ask her why she constantly talks about him.
That'll help get you inside her head and figure out why she's talking about him so much. Point out to her that she never seems to wanna get close to you. She might not realize she's doing it.
Talk to her, find out what's going on, get inside her head. COMMUNICATE!!
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

I would go up to your teachers and ask them to explain why you got the bad grades, and ask them to help you.
Despite popular belief, teachers are not the enemy. They're there to help you. It might involve a little sacrifice on your part (staying after school/going into school early), but if you wanna pull up the grades on those papers, you should be willing to work a bit.
So just ask them for help. Or your parents, maybe, whoever you're more comfortable asking for help. (I would ask the teacher(s), though. They can teach you to do what they want on the assignments.)
Once you figure out what the teacher wants, and/or what you can do to improve your papers, you'll find it a lot easier to write and your grades will go up. Trust me.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Instead of asking us whether she likes him or not, why don't you ask her?
Just explain to her that you're noticing some weirdness or awkwardness (or whatever it is that makes you think she doesn't like him), and you were curious about whether or not she actually liked him.
Chances are, he's a bit of a rebound guy for her. She recently broke up with her BF, she was lonely, and decided to go out with a guy she maybe didn't like as much as she thought she did. That's my take on the situation, anyway.
She's your best friend; she should be fairly open to explaining this to you, as long as it doesn't sound like an attack on her, or like you're accusing her of something. Don't tell her what you think is going on; ask her what's going on instead.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I think you should simply ask him what's going on. Point out to him that he just kind of gives you a thumbs up when you talk to him, and tell him you were wondering why he never really said anything back.
That should get you into his mind/get him to tell you what's going on. Doesn't it suck to not be able to read minds? Lol
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Wow, this has "communication issues" written alllllllllll over it.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend and ask him what he wants. Ask him "Do you want space? Is something else wrong?" Point out to him that you never sit together at lunch, and all that.
You'll never know what's wrong unless you ASK him. So, if I were you, I would.
Communication is key. KEY. Lack of communication can destroy relationships like a snap. It's so bad, but it happens so often.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

If you don't really like any girls, wait until you find a girl you DO like. Don't date just because you can, or you want to have someone "there." A girl will come along for you.
I mean, I met my boyfriend in math class, and I was trying NOT to end up with one. Lol.
So basically, the moral of my incoherent babbling is you should wait - someone will come along for you.
I can totally understand the feeling of jealousy. I felt that way, too, for awhile. It's hard. But make sure you're not LOOKING for a crush. Wait 'til you get one. You're a freshman; you're young; you've got four years to find a great girl, and I'm sure you will.
Hope this helped a li'l!
-Siren =)

However much you may love him, think about what he (and the relationship) did to you. He played games, he didn't seem to take you seriously, and he didn't seem to take the relationship seriously. It sounds to me, though, like you've already made your decision to try it again.
If I were in your situation, I wouldn't give the guy another chance. Sounds to me like he's already had a few too many chances, and screwed them all up by playing games and hurting you.
I would think this over very carefully, if I were you.
As for your question, I don't think a relationship like this could survive if you went out again, but you don't seem to want to let him go. Think it over HARD before you take him back, no matter how much you may want to.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

No. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You don't have to rush into everything. A lot of kids do. I didn't get my first kiss until I was almost fifteen. I realize it's different for a guy, but still. Who says you have to get kissed, or kiss someone by the time you're in high school? It's up to you, and you alone. Don't feel pressure to do stuff. Take your time. You're young.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Maybe talk to your friends about how you're feeling. They might be able to help your feelings of left outness. Ask them to get you invited to the parties they're invited to, if it bothers you that you don't seem to get invited. They're your best friends, right? They could put in a good word for you.
Just tell them you're feeling left out and admit that you're a little jealous, if you want to. They'll help you if they can.
I hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

First thing: Always, ALWAYS be yourself. If he can't like the great person you really are, then he's not the kind of guy you want to be with. Trust me. It's tiring to keep up an act. Much easier to just be yourself.
Wear something you're comfy in, that draws attention to your best features. Keep in mind that you'll probably be nervous, and you don't wanna wear something that makes you feel self-conscious, like a short shirt that you'll always be tugging down, or a tube top that you'll always be checking to make sure it hasn't fallen down.
I seriously doubt he'd say you were ugly. Guys don't usually go "ew, you're ugly" unless they're total jerks. Since you like him, he's prob'ly not a jerk, so don't worry 'bout that. =)
Talk about anything and everything. Your childhoods, high school, music, philosophy...(a typical subject of my friends') Just be you.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

MEDITATION. Lol. Sounds like he needs to slow down his brain. In through your nose, out through your mouth. As you exhale, think of exhaling your thoughts. Picture yourself at the top of a staircase. Inhale, go down a step as you exhale, counting backwards from ten in your mind. Every time a thought pops up, go up one step and start over from there. Like "*inhale* *exhale*/10...*inhale**Exhale*/9...*In**out*8...I should've done that assignment...wait...(then go up one step) *in**out*/9...8...7...and so forth until you reach the bottom or 1. By that time, you should be deep in meditation, or asleep. I have trouble sleeping too, and that usually helps.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

There's waaaaaaaay too much focus on boobs nowadays. Truth to tell, guys don't look THAT much at boobs. It won't - or shouldn't, anyway - influence whether or not they wanna go out with you. If it matters that much, do you REALLY wanna go out with a guy that cares only about your body? I wouldn't.
Anyway, I mean, I'm 16 - I'm a 34C, but I used to be a small B. You've just gotta wait for them to grow. They will, I can almost promise you. You're only 14. When I was your age, I was...like...a 34 almost B.
Don't worry about it.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I reccomend Tampax Pearl. I use those, they're really good. Playtex Slimfits work rather well, too. I also agree with you - tampons really are much easier and more convenient.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

You can't get high off of the whipped cream itself. It's the nitris oxide in the can that you can get high off of.
-Siren =)

There's always a chance of pregnancy if any amount of semen is anywhere near your vaginal opening. He could not have even touched you, but semen can swim. Like, they could swim into you, which isn't good. Be careful...I'd be on the pill if you're gonna start doing sexual stuff.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

There's nothing wrong with having PDA issues. Your friends just think you're a cute couple, I'm sure. (My friends do the same to me, except it's more like they catch my bf and me kissing goodbye before going to our classes, and tease me endlessly about what a sickeningly adorable couple we are)
Just explain to Jon that you don't feel comfortable with Public Displays of Affection, and that it's not him at all. Also, keep telling your friends that it really, honestly bothers you. They should stop if they realize that.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I always say if you're not sure about something, take the dive and do what it takes to get an answer. In this case, if you like a guy, ask HIM to homecoming. It's perfectly cool in society nowadays for a girl to ask a guy out. Unusual, since most girls are chicken, but not an issue. Just be blunt about it, if you have the nerve. Go up to him when he's alone (not surrounded by his friends or anything) and say "hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go to homecoming with me." or, take the less blunt approach and ask him if he has a date. When he says no, you say "me neither...wanna go together?"
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

If something's bothering you, always, always, ALWAYS speak up, no matter how hard it is. Just take a deep breath and ask him if he thinks you're rushing it a little bit, and remind him about the game and the chanting and all that. If he says he doesn't think so, tell him you do, and if he's the nice guy I think he is, he'll be okay if you tell him you wanna slow it down a little.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Honey, you're in high school. There should be no "leagues"...I mean, I'm a "choir geek" dating a guy who, like, knows the entire school by name...leagues...? Lol
Seriously, though, don't worry about "leagues". If you're getting to know each other, chances are he's interested in you on SOME level. Maybe only on a friend level, but he's still talking to you and all that, right? That indicates that he doesn't consider himself to be out of your league. Just keep talking/getting to know him and all that. You never know what might happen...
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Three years is not really that big of an age difference. Just keep in mind that as an older(ish) guy, he may want more than you do. Don't let him push you into anything and all that. You know the drill. You need to find out why your parents don't want you to have a bf. Is it that they think you're young? Is it JUST that he's three years older than you? Talk it out rationally with them and find out what it is that's bothering them.
It might also help if they met him. If they know what a great guy he is, they might change their minds...y'never know.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

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