I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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I've loved to sing my whole life and just recently I've sang in front of friends and they say im good but need to work on diction. but i want to know how to make my voice fall... and sometimes when i hit certain notes my throat feels weird and i wont hit them right. but the song im trying to make my voice fall is "Put Your Record On." thank you! xoxo F/13 (link)
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What I did to improve was to sing quietly to songs and I try and relicate those songs and I listen especially to how the singer pronounces the diction in the song so that I can practice it like that until its more or less perfect. I also could leanr to how improve the range in my voice so I knew how high my range was a and whether or not I'd be able to reach the other notes in other songs.
But yeah, keep on practicing and sing along to songs so you can sound the words right.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok, so;
My voice ranges from quite low in my chest voice to really high in my head voice
but i am having trouble!
I need a song 3 songs to sing to show off every aspect of my voice;
but if you list more that would be nice because i will have more of a selection :)
Thankyouuu ! :D
(by the way, i love songs that are meaningfull.) (link)
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'We Belong Together' is a really good song to sing if you want to show off your vocal talents and you've really got to belt the notes out at the end. If you can, the live versions of the song are a 1000 times better than the orginal. Just go and YouTube and see.
Another great song for vocal talent is 'Bye Bye', also by Mariah and if sung corectly, you could bring a few tears to people's eyes. Plus, there is high note if you can reach it after the bridge which will really bring the house down should you be able to get it!!!
Finally, maybe 'Hero' (new version) would be a good choice. Getting the low vocals with the few twitches here and there can really bring out the meaning of the song.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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this guy i rlly like .. ui went out with and then he broek up with me bc he was havin emotional problems.. well we talk all the time on the computer.. he is perverted in his ways.. i love him.. well he asked me if he can violate me.. lol what does that mean.. thanks and i will rate you (link)
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Cliff note version: "Can I have sex with you?" is basically more or less what he's asking you.
If he's having emotional problems, I wouldn't go for it. Just wait until both you and him are in a stable realtionship before going into anything. I'm not telling you how to live your life, just to be cautious.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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soo i was wondering if their was any songs that say like im better then any other girl you could ever find, no one will love you more then me..stuff like that. thanks! (link)
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Someday - Mariah Carey
We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
triquetra
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my boyfriend just went to jail and is gonna be gone for 2 years..what are some sad songs that are about missing someone but also staying strong about it..country or r&b or anything is fine. thanks in advance (link)
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We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
Now That I Know - Mariah Carey
Just To Hold You Once Again - Mariah Carey
All I've Ever Wanted Is You - Mariah Carey
Don't Forget About Us - Mariah Carey
Without You - Mariah Carey
Through The Rain - Mariah Carey
Sorry, I know it's sad but she's the only whom I like!!!
triquetra
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well me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago, we still talk and stuff. but we haven't seen each other ever since the break up.. and I miss him like crazy, and so does he.. and ever since we broke up he's been acting different.. he told me he feels like his concious left meaning he doesn't care for anything or anyone.. and even his mom doesn't like it WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?.. my brother told me its probably because of you guys, cause you guys had to break up from the situation (we had to break up because I'm moving to pennsylvania, and he's going to iraq in may) and I think my brothers right of why he is acting like that but I don't know.. I miss him like crazy.. and main reason I need help is because should I just meet up with him or come over his house? because I get to scared if I invite myself over and if he doesn't want me over I'll feel stupid =\... he calls me like at 1am most of the time just to talk to me haha, he's crazy ;).
so I don't know help me out! what should I do, what should I say? anything!
Please help!
thankkss xoxo. (link)
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Follow your gut instinct, if you feel that you should go and see him, then go and do that and talk it over face to face. My guess is that he's reacting to this breakup to very different way to other people.
I'm going to take a guess here and say that since he broke up with you, he may feel as if he likes/loves anything or anyone, he'll get hurt again and he may be trying to protect himslef from being hurt again. I'm assuming that the relationship has been going for quite a while if you're feeling like this.
Go, see him and talk it over and what you want to do because I think it will be the best thing for the two of you to do right now. And if he doesn't want you there, then just say you want to talk and I think the fact that you drove/walked etc. to go and see him should show him that you're serious about talking to him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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my boyfriend got arrested for threatening his adopted parents and hes in teh hospital under suicide watch. he supposedly in there for 3 weeks and his phone got turned off and everything. thats all i can think about and i cant stop crying. what can i do? (link)
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Go and visit him, right now, he needs support from the people around him and try and help him get through this perios in his life. If you can, trya nd find out why he threatened his parents and see whether you can help him.
You're his girlfriend, I'm sure that the Hospital will let you go and see him and talk to him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What are some songs about like messin around with someone that has another boyfriend/girlfriend. & you like eachotherr but they wont leave their other boyfriend/girlfriend.
haha, kinda like the sogn "cant let you go" by fabolous and lil mo
thanksssssssssss (link)
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Don't Forget About Us - Mariah Carey
Honey - Mariah Carey
Can't Let Go - Mariah Carey
You Need Me -Mariah Carey
We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
Sent From Above - Mariah Carey
Sorry for the very limited list, I'm just a huge crazy fan of her's!!!
Anyway, hope they helped,
triquetra
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This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.
Well, i was having sex with this guy and its not the first time ive been with him, but we didnt have a condom. He said he didnt mind and he would just go in me, and i am not on any birth control or anything and he knows that. He said it was up to me, and he said he really wants to. Other times when we've had sex, he would always hint it, or say something like, "I just want to go in you so bad" or something along those lines.
What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?
Thanks everyone :] (link)
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Never been in this situation before but I'll tell you what it means.
Basically, he wants to ejaculate in you. Depending upon how old you two are, he wants you pregnant.
triquetra
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Can anyone tell me how to tell if a guy friend is a boyfriend or just a friend? Or...if he's neither or a little bit of both, what do you call that? (link)
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A boyfriend is somebody whom you're having an intimate relationship with whilst a friend is well, just a friend.
If he isn't a friend nor a boyfriend, then he isn't a friend unless you know him, but not well enough to be a friend, then call him "somebody I just know".
And I guess you still call him a friend if he's both (say you like him like you would with a boyfriend, but like him only as a friend).
Ouch, this really hurts my head just re-reading this!!!
Hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok. I'm sorry if I make this akward but my boyfriend, nathan, sometimes pressures me into things I don't really want to do. I really love him and I have never felt this way about anyone. I don't want to break up with him but he pressured me into having sex in his friends house and now I feel like a slut. He males me feel that way sometimes and everything is always bout sex. He loves me and he cares slot bout me but idk what to do! Someone please help me!!! I'm a girl and I'm 13 (link)
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You're your own person and you should be able to make your own decisions about what or what not to do. You should be able to just say no and Nathan should respect your decision.
13 is far too young to be even considering to be having sex so I'm very concerned on that front. Especially if you didn't use protection and I would like to know if you did or not because that could complicate things even further.
I'm sure he cares about you and loves you, but even then, he should know that you're both too young to be doing this kind of thing. However, I do have my doubts because nobody forces somebody to do something which they don't want to do.
Don't feel like that, because it wasn't your decision and he forced you into it. If I was in your position, I would go and get rid of him because he clearly isn't yet ready to have a girlfriend because he is still thinking that everything is about sex, so protect yourself from it from happening again.
This isn't a lecture, I'm trying to help you protect yourself and I'm sure you don't want that small incident from happening again.
Cliff notes version: leave him because he's not ready to have a girlfriend if he thinks that everything is about sex and pressurizing you into doing something which you didn't want to do.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I am 4 mo. pregnant and the babies daddy left me penniless, homeless, and with out a car. I am about to be homeless in a few days and the sad part is I'm not a bad person. I don't do drugs and I don't drink and violence of any kind is just not in my nature. I love this child and its not even born yet. I live in the country and there are no homeless shelters anywhere near. I have no friends and family and will do anything to keep and raise my baby. Please help me what should I do. This child deserves its mother.
Terra (link)
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Terra, I'm going to have to agree with the other columnists below: you need to go somewhere where you'll get a roof over your head and good decent meal each day. Go to a care centre, church, the police, anywhere where you feel safe and secure for both you and your baby.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I'm a freshman, about to start my second semester of Community College. I'm really average.. my GPA is about 2.9, and I've been studying psychology and literature and stuff. Recently, I've really figured out what I REALLY want to do as far as a career goes.
I want to be a cinematographer so bad. I'm SUCH a film buff, and I've taken only one film analysis class and I excelled at it. Everytime I like a movie, I always watch it again with the commentary on it to learn about the director's ideas and discoveries.
Are there opportunities to pursue this carreer path at a mere community college?? What kinds of classes should I be looking for? How can I really get started?
Thanks SO much!!!
-Film Fan :) (link)
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Drama would be one subject to think about, along with Media Studies.
However, there is a danger with doing Media Studies which I think you should know about it and it is that most universities in this world don't recognize it as a subject at A level or whatever exams you're taking, so be sure that when it comes to your exams, that you keep your psychology and literature.
So when it goes beyond college, ensure that your chosen university will recognize MS as a subject.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I'm writing an essay in English concerning the different life styles of teenagers in high school. If you guys could answer a few questions just to give me a few ideas, I'd totally appreciate it. :)
1. What kind of things do you do? (Sports, clubs etc.)
2. Do you have 1 best friend that you spend a lot of time with or a group of friends you spend all your time with?
3. Does your school have lockers outside? Anything cool about your school-block schedule? Stuff like that.
4. Are drugs and drinking big concerns at your school?
5. Finally, is your high school life fun? Do you spend most of your time studying or hanging out with friends? Do you go out with friends every weekend? What kind of stuff do you do?
You can answer some or all of the questions, I'm just trying to get a few different ideas. Thanks! (link)
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1) I'm do fencing at my school.
2) Personally, I try and hang out with whomever is around whenever I can really.
3) We've got our lockers inside thank goodness so we're out of the cold most of the time.
4) Yes, to the point where you're even caught with drugs, you're promptly expelled. How much you're allowed to drink is strictly monitored.
5) I do both studying and hanging out. There are range of activities to do so you can't get bared that easily. Don't really go out with friends at weekends, I mostly like to just have some "me time" and just relax!!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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14/f
So every night *almost every night* I always cannot wait to go to sleep because of this one dream I like to have. The dream consists of me being pregnant in my middle school hallway with a like terrorist trying to attack me, and there are gunmen keeping all the students in their classrooms so nobody can help me. But once the man grabs my neck and squeezes it, he bangs my head against the locker and I get knocked out for about 2 seconds. When I get back up he is about to take a bat to my stomach and I scream no please, I am pregnant! (in real life i am not sexually active) Then the dream just stops there I guess. Is this normal? please help sorry if this was long. (link)
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Well, let's just say that if I had that dream, I would be desperate to forget it.
However, this is interesting because of a few certain things which you're seeing:
1) You don't try to protect yourself when the terrorist is attacking you.
2) But you protect your baby.
Now, this may sound completely weird and I would understand that because even I find this weird: are you the kind of person whom would try and protect people whom you've never met, even if it meant getting hurt in the process?
If so, then this dream is a reflection on your personality. If not, then I've got it completely wrong!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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17/f. i have had an eating disorder before but i got better and got over it. is it back??? =s
i dnt eat much. somedays i barely eat anything but i always end up eating at least one thing each day so its not that bad.
but sometimes i go a bit crazy and eat lots and lots until im completely full and then i throw it up. wats wrong with me?
i will go for heaps long hardly eating anything to eating everything in site and then throwing it up.
how can i stop myself thinking of food and stop myself eating heaps at once.
[i think its called bindge eating not sure but the i throw it up cos i eat too much] wen i eat lots i cant stop myselft from eating until i make myself sick. i dnt get it!!! =[ PLZ HELP!!! (link)
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Personally, what I say is if it is getting to be all to familiar, then you've got what ever it is again.
If you think your eating disorder is back, I strongly recommend that you go to a doctor to be properly diagnosed.
My two cents, from what I can gather, you didn't eat much when you first had you eating disorder, right? Well, I get the feeling that now, you feel you need to compensate for what you didn't eat, by overloading yourself with food till you're sick. Does that make sense?
But get checked out first and take the doctors advice.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Okay, my Boyfriend (18) and I (15) have been dating 11 months today, (12-25-08). WE'VE flat out been through HELL! His ex girlfriend, has egged his house, threatened to kill me, I had to take the psycho to court! Me & him made it through that, and that was definately crazy!
Here lately, we fight, not over huge things, but over small stupid things. When we fight, its over stuff like me buying him something and him simply not giving me the money to do it in the first place. Well, my mother had this chat with his mother, she says he wont even let her buy him anything, which i know is true.
Earlier today, we was at his house I was opening presents, and he gets mad at his dad, or aggravated because he cant keep anything over in his garage cause it gets ruined.
Okay...tonite, he was over at my house for christmas, he bought me a promise ring and a journey necklace. We then came up to my room, i took a nap and when i woke up, he was mad?!
He's got a horrible temper, the smallest things turn him off, and I know this, he isnt dangerous or anything though.
I'm just wondering why we fight all the time, and what we can do to stop it, he's going away to college in june, and i dont want it to be the end of this, we've got our minds set to spend the rest of our lives with eachother.
I'm terribly sorry that this is so long, and it probably doesn't make any sense. Thanks for trying! (link)
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Wow, sorry but read your question over, it does not say that all of this happened a year ago so don't get started on that with me young lady. For all I know, it could've happened recently.
If it doesn't involve his ex then don't put it in, if you hadn't, then my answer would've been very different.
So, sorry that I misunderstood, but it is you who are in the wrong for putting something there which really has no significance to this situation as you put in your feedback.
I suggest you re-think as to how YOU responded and see whether it was fair or not. I gave a suggestion which was based on something not relevant, but you put it there, not me so I've got to work with what I've got. As I said before, if it hadn't been there, then the answer would've been different.
triquetra
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15/f
well i know i cant even work at a animal shelter till i'm 18. But i want to take care of animals as a career.. Not like a zookeeper with lions. Just devote my time to taking care of cats or dogs. I do not want to be a Veterinary though. All they do is give the animal shots to make them feel better. My job is probably unrealistic but any ideas? (link)
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It is quite possible. You can work in animal shelters where dogs and cats are brought it and cared for, not just by the vets, but by their carers as well. You know the adverts for animal shelters on TV? Well, you could take a look round at your local shelter if you want and see what you think. That's one idea anyway!!!
This link takes you to Google which has got loads of sites for you to go through:
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=Jobs+in+animal+shelters&btnG=Google+Search&meta=
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My boyfriend (20), and I (18) have been dating for almost two years. Over the few months, I've noticed that he doesn't say "I love you" anymore. He used to say it just randomly sometimes and always say it back when I said it to him. So it's just really weird that now when I say it to him, he'll just either ignore it, change the subject, or just crack a joke. So I'm just like, wtf. What do y'all think is going on? (link)
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Considering your age, could it be possible that he's more busy than usual? Stress can make you behave differently but this is just a slight possibility.
Personally, I think you should talk to him and make some observations: does he act differently? Does he spend less time with you? Does he not answer/call you back? If the answer is no, then it's just a normal problem.
But seriously, if you're really concerned, then talk to him. If it's that important to you, then you should bring it to his attention. And one more note, if he tries to to divert the subject, then try and find out why. Be understanding and patient, that's the key to get past this small hiccup.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Me and my boyfriend fool around and dry hump. and one day we were dumb and put two plastic bags over and did that bare and he went a little inside me but not far at all. and then we realized that the bags broke, but he didnt NOT cum and i dont even think there was precum on it cause we stopped and started a bunch. anyways, i missed my period by 2 days and i dont know if i should get a pregnancy test or not. I got it on November 18 last month, and now its Dec 20. I usually would get it on Dec 18, 31 days exactly after. However, last month i got it at midnight afer the 18th.
I know there is a CHANCE i could be pregnant(there always is), but what ARE the chances? (link)
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If he didn't cum inside you or anything of that nautre, then there the chances of you being pregnant are slim, however, I can't be sure and neither can anybody on this site be sure unless you get a pregnacy test which is what I'm highly recomending right now.
Not excerising shouldn't affect your period in any way.
I'm sorry I couldn't be more help,
triquetra
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