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Pressure into sex
Ok. I'm sorry if I make this akward but my boyfriend, nathan, sometimes pressures me into things I don't really want to do. I really love him and I have never felt this way about anyone. I don't want to break up with him but he pressured me into having sex in his friends house and now I feel like a slut. He males me feel that way sometimes and everything is always bout sex. He loves me and he cares slot bout me but idk what to do! Someone please help me!!! I'm a girl and I'm 13
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okay i am an mother of nine so you might not want to hear what i am about to say,
you don't need to be talking,doing breathing, dreaming or anything that io miss about sex................... now i feel better, now don't do anything you don't want to do if he make you feel that way them let him go....
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well, according to me....you shud dump that guy.....he jus wntz you 4 sex, nthn elze. he just sees you as a 'SEX OBJECT'. so why go for such a guy????. moreover baby, ur 13. you've just stepped into ur teenage life. why do you want 2 spoil it????. your a lady, and you got to be proud of it. i mean not giving your self up for any guy. why do you want everyone to think that your foolish and dont have any moral values???? another point is, if he realy lvs you the way you do, he'd never ask for such a horrid thing (n that 2 at his frends place:S:S). thats not love at all from his side. you never know, he might be telling the whole world about this. But i guess itz 2 late 2 regret....rie???? hmmmmmmm.....but i stil say DUMP HIM.
HOPE MY ADVICE HELPS YOU SOME WAYS...AND MAKES YOU A BETTER PERSON :):)
GOODBYE FOR NOW.....
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That's very common for your age. To feel pressured to do things that you don't want to do. And no, your not a slut so quit being so down on yourself. Tell him how much it really bothers you and if it continues, get rid of him. You deserve a lot better.
xoxo,
dottie4
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First of all, you are really young to be thinking about having sex. In a lot of countries you have to be 16 and older to have sex, by law.
You should NEVER have to do anything you dont want to do, just because someone else is pressuring you to do it, particularly when it comes to your body. It definately sounds to me like he is really only concerned about having sex, and doesnt seem to care that he makes you feel like a slut. I understand that you have a lot of feelings for him, and especially if you have never felt like that before, it is hard to see that what he is doing is wrong.
You need to tell him exactly how you feel. If he laughs it off, then you need to decide whether he is worth your time.
You deserve to be treated so much better than this - sex is a very personal thing, and no one should ever be forced to do it before they are ready.
Hope that helped, and good luck! xoxo
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You're your own person and you should be able to make your own decisions about what or what not to do. You should be able to just say no and Nathan should respect your decision.
13 is far too young to be even considering to be having sex so I'm very concerned on that front. Especially if you didn't use protection and I would like to know if you did or not because that could complicate things even further.
I'm sure he cares about you and loves you, but even then, he should know that you're both too young to be doing this kind of thing. However, I do have my doubts because nobody forces somebody to do something which they don't want to do.
Don't feel like that, because it wasn't your decision and he forced you into it. If I was in your position, I would go and get rid of him because he clearly isn't yet ready to have a girlfriend because he is still thinking that everything is about sex, so protect yourself from it from happening again.
This isn't a lecture, I'm trying to help you protect yourself and I'm sure you don't want that small incident from happening again.
Cliff notes version: leave him because he's not ready to have a girlfriend if he thinks that everything is about sex and pressurizing you into doing something which you didn't want to do.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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If your boyfriend really loved you than he would understand that you wanted to wait to have sex. He should not be pressuring you to have sex with him at 13! Next time when he pressures you to do somthing that you dont want to do just say no over and over again until he stops asking you. If he dosnt stop asking you then just leave. DO NOT GIVE IN! Here are some sites that may help you,
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Hope I helped!
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if he cares and loves you so much he wouldnt make you do things that you really dont want to do. 13 is way too young to start doing that stuff. i would get rid of him.
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