Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. we talk everyday our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her
i think you need to pay her a surprise visit, go to her job, see how she is doing, bring her something thought so she want think you don't believe her.. then go from there.
Askshay
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Ok,so about a month ago I was dating this guy.I had liked him for a long time and he sort of played me when we were just friends making me think he liked me.Then we dated around a month ago and we lasted 2 weeks and he broke up with me saying I was "too young for him" ....when I'm only a year younger than him? So I said ok(he broke up with me right before valentines day too) I actually found out the real reason he broke up with me is because I wouldn't have sex with him.He said I was good for nothing but looks! So I tried to move on and after a month I'm emotionally exhausted of acting like I don't care about him.I tried so hard to forget him,I quit talking to him,I wouldn't even look at him,I started talking to hoards of other guys,even his worst enemy! But I still miss him,so,so much! All my friends hate him because he's been known to be a player,but they told me if it makes me happy to go for it.One of my friends is good friends with him and she tells me he talks about me alot,but its not very appropriate talk.Its stuff about how he likes me and wants to screw me and he wants me to give him blowjobs and how he wants to hit my G-spot and all this other sexual stuff.I know its bad but,I fell hard for him I wouldn't ever have sex with him or anything else and he knows that and that's why he ended the relationship in the first place.He always asks me if I hate him and why I don't talk to him anymore but,I just thought itd be the best thing to do! But he makes it so hard to forget him when he texts me,always looks at me,talks about me to my friends,comes to my locker,tries to talk to me! So the question is based on the information I gave you do you think I should take him back and try it again,I just want him to change he wants sex and I want a relationship.
I don't know,there's plenty of other guys that like me,and they're not ugly...I just don't want them and I don't know why? So any help is appriciated thanks in advance!(:
By the way I'm 14 and he's 15 if that helps with anything.
ok let's say this first, i am proud of you, you are indeed to young to be think or having sex right now,
if this guy really like you then he will respect your wishes in not doing the DEW yet, having sex should be with someone you love not to just get his approval, he sound like you need to freak him first in order to be his girl,boys at that age only think of sex, personal if a guy keep putting pressure on the fact then he aint good anyway.
so basely follow your heart which seems like its in the right directions , wait till you are ready , L.I.G. HIM honey ,he indeed not worth the time ,effort,or the topping to go with anything.
Shay
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my boyfreind for about 10 years said he just want to live together but just be friends i really love him and i know he have another girl on the side but if i don't let him move in with me he might leave what should i do
confuse.
i wound not say he's your boyfriend because you say's he have another female on the side if he was your man then you should be all he need and the next thing is living with you on an friendship level is indeed an NO for the simple reason is he will be bringing his female friends to your house when every he wants because he lives there and you are just friends instead of lovers you do not need that kind of drama it will only piss you off and then you will snap i should know i was there when i was in my early twentist it's not worth it at all so find you someone who will lovw you in return the way you needs to be love okay
i hope this help
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I really dont know wether this would go under Sex or Love Life. so, here it goes. i figured, since your thing said your a mother, that maybe you'd be able to help me.
OK, first, i should probably tell you, i'm 16 years old and i'm female.
I've been dating m boyfriend (we'll call him "L") for the past year. he's 17.
he's been really sweet... you know... about the whole sex thing, but he's starting to kinda push. and he's getting very...well, he hit me, the other night, when i made him stop, like, taking off his clothes and touching me. its not that i dont love him, you know, but im just not ready. for that.
the thing is, this isnt the first time he's hit me. its happened before. 3 months ago, he bruised my shoulder cause i was talking to some guy he didnt like. 2 months before that he shattered my ankle cause he pushed me, and we were at the top of, like, 4 steps, and i fell. i had ta tell my mom that i fell when i was outside with our dog, cause he's a BIG dog, and has caused harm while playing before, nothing like a broken bone, but some pretty hefty stuff, so it was easy for her to believe. i didnt tell my mom cause L kinda threatened me. nothing serious, he just kinda threatened the other ankle.
i really wanna leave this relationship, but im afraid. i still refuse to have sex, but he's still hitting me, and latly the threats have been becoming more alarming and menacing, like, "kissing isnt exactly satisfying, anymore, bitch, so you better come up with something new, fast."
i dont know if thats a threat against my physical being, or my virginity.
im really really scared and i dont know what to do. im afraid that if i break it off, he might get really angry. i know he has a gun and im afraid he might come after me if i do break up with him.
i dont wanna bring the police into it if i dont have to, and same with my mom and dad, cause i know they'll be pissed that i've gotten myself into this. but it kinda looks inevitable.
please help.
im terrified.
i'm pretty sure this isnt how first love is supposed to turn out. :(
Scared Beyond Belief,
Julie P.
okay julie it's time for you to leave and report all violence to your mom and dad and the POLICE or as Madea say's Po PO and carry you some mace or something for your protections an be sure to let your parents know everything that been happening. right now it is no time to be playing with your life i am sure your parents will agree to, believe it or not they are here to protect you no matter of what.so let them know now before it is to late, i hope this is helpful
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I was dating this guy for about a year and it was going really well and we got on so well! About a month ago he dumped me I am mixed raced and he is white he said me being mixed raced confuses things to much and he cant get to serious with me becouse I am mixed? I still dont know what he means as we dated for a year unless he finds me weird.
okay there is nothing wrong with you so dont put your self down like thatokay next - he just use that excuse to break up with you because he was seeing someone else and did not want you to ind out about it so youshould just let him flow and move on to someone else who will love you for you an not for the color of your skin, you will find that person soon i am here if you need me you can email anytime or visit me at www.dear-askshay.com
enter your question and i will holla back soon
i hope this help
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Okay there's this guy that I've been talking to since August of 2008.... I'm blk and 21 yrs old, he's whte and 31 (if it helps any). He has a son by a woman who cheated on him with his best friend which he was engaged to at the time (so if he dosen't really tust women I understand).
Anyhow I have to admit we're pretty close now... we've gotten closer I would say since New Year's... we've been on a few dates, and what not and overall you can tell there's a vibe between us and it seems as if we've known eachother for years. I'm proud to say we've taken things really slow until recently...
Well just this past saturday we both went to a party together where we FINALLY shared our first kiss and then we went and got a hotel together and had a "night cap" (yes with the happy ending)... I can honestly say I love him... and I know he cares alot about me... and nothing is awkard between us even though it happened...
So I was wondering what could be done to get us to that next level... I'm ready if he ready, but we still both two shy and stubborn people... any ideas?
If you love him and he feels the same way then make that move , plan an romantic dinner you want that night to be special so it will be special and romantic, so as i said make that romantic dinner for two and place an rose on the table and rose petals on the floor and bed/ bath water and some nice slow music and learn how to do the belly dance it will make all nature rise in him and once dinner is finish then have an slow dance together and then take him to the room an give him an performance of an belly dance an watch how happy he will be now you might not beable to finish the whole dance (i know i was not) , then have fun and head for the tub for the next round.
i hole this help.
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when a guy tells me that he isnt glad he is diabetic because im so0 sweet hat does that mean.. does it mean he rlly likes me.. i mean i really think he likes me.. plz answer and i will rate U.. thanks
girl that means he like you an whole lot, stop playing and get with him
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My boyfriend and I haven't been together long but we were very close friends before we became a couple. We met just after I split up with my ex, who I was very upset about and took a long time to get over. I liked my current boyfriend for a long time although I still wasn't over my ex. When we finally got together, I was really happy and I can safely say that I no longer have any feelings towards my ex.
My current boyfriend and I both have alot of problems at home and always look to each other for support. However, recently I find that all I want is some stability, not a boyfriend who has just as many issues as me. We always have some form of problem with each other and I'm constantly finding faults in him. I worry that I'm only with him because I don't want to be on my own. I love him and he is like my best friend but I can't continue to do this all the time.
I really am at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to break up with him, but deep down I keep thinking I have to. I'm considering asking him for a break from each other, so we can both think about our real feelings but I'm worried that will cause more problems. What should I do?
Okay, all relationships has it's ups and downs i should know because i been there and do understand how you feel,but to be in an realtionship it takes two and patients, so try to keep it togehter, if the two of you love each other than you can work it out but if not then break but don't do it because he have problems at home and you don't want to hang with him and his issues, do it because you two realize it's the best thing to do,but remember real true love will always have baggage that is been carried along.
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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees
there's nothing wrong with you so stop stressing ,you are never alone you can talk to anyone you want you can talk to me throw an live chat at www.dearaskshay.com or throw my webpage www.dear-askshay.com or even email me askshay1@yahoo.com i check my columns mondays-wednesdays-fridays and i check my emails everyday so holla at me okay. as far as that guy dust your shoulders off honey he's nothing but the dust the winds blows to get rid of negativity, people can talk all they want thye are just jealous of you and as far as him talking it was good to him he just don't want to ment it, so enjoy your life /have fun make new friends hit the malls
and find that special guy it's getting close to valentines day smile and love yourself.
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Hi i'm 16 and i have had sex almost a year ago and i have lied to my mother she has no clue when i go to the doctor i lie about it ya i know its bad but just recently i had sex with a guy who was 18 he then got a gf the next day and told me that he was just using me because he was lonley and wanted someone and since he is 18 and he kind of tricked me into doing it with him because that day i had no intention in doing it with him is it rape should i tell my mom he doesn't speak to me at all anymore he ignores me what should i do
you should never lie to your mom nor your doctoryou could tell your doctor anything he can't say a word unless he get serve with papers, and no it is not rape you gave in to him willingly, next time be care and tell the truth and shame the devil, for mre questions holla at me www.dear-askshay.com check out my new book on 2/20/09 Ask-Ask Shay
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Ok so i recently had sex with a jerk who i don't talk to anymore now i am still sort of interested in my very first love he goes to high school with me but is a freshmen because he failed but he has always been thier for me and did love me at one time i would like to have him back in my life but of course he has new girls and has moved on also so should i send him a myspace message because i don't have his cell anymore and tell him how i feel and see if we could rekindle what we had or should i not and just let it be
okay will yeah, send him an myspace message and make small talk first then wait awhile an see if he feels the same way,Holla Back either her or on myspace
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My boyfriend is such a jerk to me! We have been together for a cuple of years now in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit me every 3 months but its such a drag to convince him! He is always making me feel bad and saying mean things to me. He is a jealous control freak! I feel that its my fault beacuse I let him do that to me in the first place. I've never been a party girl,I would say that im a stay at home girl. I dont have much friends..Im always with my mother..to me shes like my friend, sicne I share with her everything. I'm pretty confused i don't know what to do I really love him and i know that he loves me too but hes hurting mee verbaly and i know the consequences of that but i just can't let go of him. i live in US and he live in Mexico and i am willing to leave everything for him!! I know that its such a stupid attitude!!
The big problem here is because he doesn't trust me at all and I have told him that I am willing to do anything to show him that he can trust me. He tells me that I probably cheat on him and stuff like that. But why would i cheat on him? What would be the point of wasteing money on phone calls on wasting all this time with him i i has someone else right? I feel so depreate!! What can I do? I feel like i have tried everything and nothing seems to work! I just don't want to let go him just like that. I truly love him. We have talked many times of marrige. He will be turning 21 and ill be turning 19 soon.
So what can i do!
okay, i am going to give it to you straight and simple, if he ia accusing you of cheating hello he is doing it , yes he is cheating, when you accuse someone of something that means you are doing it yourself and any time there is verbal abuse then down the line it will be pysical abuse you seems like an nice girl and i normally tell people to follow your heart or you gut feelings but in your case let him go, because he sound like to me like he is controlling and you don't need that from personnal experience once you get to deep you can't get out so let him go, you can find someone better and who will treat you like an princess you are.
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I can't get turned on! I DON'T KNOW what it is! What happened?! Am I thinking too much about it?? Is there something wrong with me?! HELP ME!!
okay you need to there is nothing wrong with you
you need to experiment some try different tecniques and poitions,or even an dance like belly danceing or exortic dancing when you find that person believe me he or she will turn you on so high it will be hard to turn you down just keep your thoughts in the right places and you just might find the way to get turn on..
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Im female 17 and my mom is very very overprotective...I dont go out at all. Only to school, saturday mass with my family, and school related things which arent many. my mom doesnt like me to go out, doesnt let me go out with friends, she even scares my friends away by calling them and insulting them. I do have one good friend though that stands it all...my mom told me not to hang out with her anymore. It really sucks cause Im in my house all day...I feel like im throwing away my youth i dont want to party all night but i want to hang out and have fun with my friends now and then. She even locks the door with a key. I can count all the bad things that i´ve done in my life with one hand. My sisters did some really bad stuff...but thats not my fault...im not like them. Im always quiet and I dont rebel...I dont know how long I can live like this. She lies to me to get me to tell her whatever it is that she wants to hear, she blackmails me, shes created problems for me both with my teachers and my friends...I could go live with my dad, but i know that she would never talk to me again. Im also afraid because of college. She´s always critizing me...everything´s my fault in her eyes...im evil in her eyes she´s told me herself...she doesnt even act like a mom giving sarcasms and harsh critics and just been plain mean.....i´ve thought about suicide...but the people that love me keep me going. Other people i know have done so many bad things and their moms arent like this. Its not my fault that we´re not rich and that she married my dad. I just cant have a day of peace because she has to make me feel like crap at least once a day. please help me i feel like im dying in the inside
okay breathe ,relax, now that you have done that i can relate because my husband does the ame thing with our childrens but that's because it is alot that goes on around our way, but when he's at work i let thm go out with and check in physical every 2 hours they seems cool with that, but any way, have an mommie / daughter day with her that's an day you too get to know each other on the ohter side like paint eacher nail, watch an movie and so on let her feel more relax around you, stress free and ask her one day if you and her can talk, express your feelings in an calm and respectful way let her know that next year you will be going to college far from home but in the time that you are here you want her to let you breathe some and you are willing to call or physical check in every two hours or whatever you just want to spend some time with your friends the days you too are not hanging out, if you can get her to hang with you for awhile she might feel more at ease and easy to talk to , and as far as you goes try to meditate and relex , stress free, you will be in college soon having an blast okay if you need to talk to me more don't hesitate to email me when you need an friend i am here for you okay remenber you are almost there to have fun and do girl stuff just hang in there and meditate it will release a lot of stress and maddness...
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my boyfriend call me last night after we had sex for the first time and told me it was over ,i am so hurt i feel like i been use did he break up with me because i am fat or what i weight 190ibs and i am 5'6 is that the reason.
there is nothing wrong with your weight you are not fat you r heathly he just use you to get what he waned and that was sex you are what the new age say phat so don't be upset it's his lost okay just learn rom this lesson to wait to the time is right, take an hot bubble bath and get him out your head.
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hi askshay, I AM REALLY REALLY DEPRESSED!! PLEASE HELP ME!
MY STORY: well in childhood i had a mild problem in urinating which was latter corrected, now at the age of 25 my penis though well developed still is small in length!!!!!! yes to add to it recently my doc said that I CANNOT FATHER A CHILD!!!!!! since i dont have enough sperms!!!! However he did say that the size though small was adequate for me to satisfy. I AM SHATTERED FRIENDS AND I M REALLY DEPRESSED!!! I M TRULY IN LOVE WITH A GIRL AND WE HAVE BEEN GOING AROUND FROM PAST 10 Years and i will definately tel her every thing!!!! but idont know WHY ME WHY??????? I HAVE STOPPED CONCENTRATING ON MY WORK, MY PERSONAL LIFE IS AFFECTED, you know how being able to father a child is treated as masculine in our world!! i dont know what to do. HOWEVER I AM SURE THAT I CAN KEEP MY GIRL HAPPY AND SATISFIED AND WE DID GET PHYSICAL SOME TIME AROUND AND WE HAVE GOOD CHEMISTRY BUT SOMEHOW I DONT KNOw HOW SHE WILL TAKE THIS NEWS (she is 21 years old)??!!!! OH GOD PLEASE HELP!! AND YOU FRIENDS PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO BECAUSE I AM REALLY DOWN.......PLEASE ADVICE ME. I found to be one of the right person since you are matured enough for this question.....and i really need your help!
okay that an deep breathe and relax now if your girlfriend is happy and satisfy then you have nothing to worry about if you are planning on being with her for ever talk to her and let her know your conditions and ask her to marry u on valentine's day and look for option for adoptions if the two of you want children so don't stress it will be alright.
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Yesterday I tried using a new concealer called invisible concealer medium by covergirl. when i woke up this morning i had very small skin-colored yet notable bumps under my eyes, but no where else where i applied it. i did not remove it before i fell asleep. why would this happen and how can i prevent it from happening again? if i need to remove it, what is a good way to remove make-up?
you ned to clean your skin before bed and then if it occurs again then you can not wear it so try something else made for sensitive skin.
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I have dry skin around my nose and black dots on it too. how can i fix this?
Wash your face with some skin cleaner for senstive skin and wipe in the morning and before bed wih some witch hazel and use so Euerin cream then you will be good to go
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13/f
i have no idea how to apply make-up or anything and i need a make-over. how can i give myself a make-over or get a free or cheap make-over?
try some lip gloss and eye liner or you can go to the mall where they have make-up and tell them you will like tosee what color look good on you and this is your first time wearing make-up they will hook you up
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Recently I went to my friend's house for a sleepover. During the night I got hives on my face. She has a cat and two dogs, and I'm allergic. What are some good creams, pills, etc that will make them go away next time I'm there?
Thanks guys :] I appreciate any answer.
go to the doctor he or she will give you some medicine for it and you will be good to go.
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