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ABUSE AND BROKEN DREAMS
My boyfriend is such a jerk to me! We have been together for a cuple of years now in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit me every 3 months but its such a drag to convince him! He is always making me feel bad and saying mean things to me. He is a jealous control freak! I feel that its my fault beacuse I let him do that to me in the first place. I've never been a party girl,I would say that im a stay at home girl. I dont have much friends..Im always with my mother..to me shes like my friend, sicne I share with her everything. I'm pretty confused i don't know what to do I really love him and i know that he loves me too but hes hurting mee verbaly and i know the consequences of that but i just can't let go of him. i live in US and he live in Mexico and i am willing to leave everything for him!! I know that its such a stupid attitude!!
The big problem here is because he doesn't trust me at all and I have told him that I am willing to do anything to show him that he can trust me. He tells me that I probably cheat on him and stuff like that. But why would i cheat on him? What would be the point of wasteing money on phone calls on wasting all this time with him i i has someone else right? I feel so depreate!! What can I do? I feel like i have tried everything and nothing seems to work! I just don't want to let go him just like that. I truly love him. We have talked many times of marrige. He will be turning 21 and ill be turning 19 soon.
So what can i do!
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okay, i am going to give it to you straight and simple, if he ia accusing you of cheating hello he is doing it , yes he is cheating, when you accuse someone of something that means you are doing it yourself and any time there is verbal abuse then down the line it will be pysical abuse you seems like an nice girl and i normally tell people to follow your heart or you gut feelings but in your case let him go, because he sound like to me like he is controlling and you don't need that from personnal experience once you get to deep you can't get out so let him go, you can find someone better and who will treat you like an princess you are.
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Any guy that accuses his girlfriend of cheating on them only goes to show how insecure they are about themselves. And I hate to say this, but almost 98% of the time, he's blaming you for cheating on him only to cover up him cheating on you. No guy especially your boyfriend, know's what they have until it's gone. I realize you two have been together for a long time but if he is treating you this way - you deserve SO much better. You may think only because you love him that he's going to change, but he's not. No time can heal what he's done to you.
Trust me, there are good guys out there and I can prove it. No girl should stay with their boyfriend if she is accused of cheating when not and when being verbally abused. Not to offend you so please don't take this the wrong way - but your boyfriend is making you look like an idiot for staying with him. There are plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of MEN that are willing to do whatever it takes to take care of you and treat you right. You can't search for him - he will come to you. You should really drop this one like a fly. Don't take it as - 'Oh I wasted all this money on phone calls and trips out to see me' take is as - 'What a lesson learned - someday he'll regret losing me because he had no idea how good he had it and he'll never find another girl like me'.
Don't let him take you for granted. Good Luck!
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Think about this,
He says mean things to you, controls you, and you have to convince him to come and see you in the US.
Honestly, He doesn't even sound like he is worth your time. If a guy treats you like that then you should know that you are better than that. Staying with him and letting him beat you down is only going to cause you to be or become miserable. I say maybe its time to focus on your happiness and let him go
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Girl. don't let him say things to you. if he's a jerk to you, don't let it get to you. seriously. If he really loved you.... he wouldn't say those things. Also, let him know how you feel. explain to him how you aren't cheating on him and if you were you wouldn't be wasteing your time on calling him and things.........
he shouldn't be having those thoughts in the first place, it should actually be the other way around. maybe he's trying to make it a gentle break up? in a secretive type way?? i hope this problem goes away shortly.
good luck.
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