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Hi i'm 16 and i have had sex almost a year ago and i have lied to my mother she has no clue when i go to the doctor i lie about it ya i know its bad but just recently i had sex with a guy who was 18 he then got a gf the next day and told me that he was just using me because he was lonley and wanted someone and since he is 18 and he kind of tricked me into doing it with him because that day i had no intention in doing it with him is it rape should i tell my mom he doesn't speak to me at all anymore he ignores me what should i do
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you should never lie to your mom nor your doctoryou could tell your doctor anything he can't say a word unless he get serve with papers, and no it is not rape you gave in to him willingly, next time be care and tell the truth and shame the devil, for mre questions holla at me www.dear-askshay.com check out my new book on 2/20/09 Ask-Ask Shay
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It wasn't rape if he "tricked" you. Just like the person before has said. So, telling your mom he raped wouldn't be right, it would be causing a lot of trouble over something that was consensual. Just because he isn't speaking to you anymore and your angry, doesn't deem what happened as rape. You may not have the intention of having sex with him the day you did, but it happened, people have sex all the time without 'planning' to do it.
But, lying to your doctor isn't smart either, you should tell him/her. As your doctor they need to know what's going on. I suggest next time you go you let them know.
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1) Lying to a doctor is the height of stupidity. He is your doctor, he needs to know whats going on with you so that he can make sure you're healthy.
2) No, its not rape. He "tricked" you into it means that you made a stupid decision and regret it later. Seriously, if you had no intention of sleeping with him and then said yes, thats entirely on you.
Rape is when someone forces you to do something, not when someone sweet talks you into saying yes. Unless he held you down or got you intoxicated, its not rape, and pressing charges against him would make you just as shitty a person as he is. Take responsibility for your own decisions and stop trying to cop out. If it was rape, you wouldn't be asking us, you'd know, because you'd have actually SAID no.
3) Do not tell anyone about what happened between you and him other than your doctor. YOU did this, and the fact that he's a douchebag has nothing to do with your decisions.
Be truthful with your doctor, learn from your massive mistakes, and other than that keep it to yourself. He is under no obligation to talk to you just because you had sex, and maybe next time you won't sleep with a guy you aren't dating and know well.
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Wow.
What a jerk! I'm sorry :/
A mother deserves to know something like this, especially if it involves her own daughter.
You can indeed press charges if you feel like that's necessary and that he took conplete advantage of you and pressured you into it.
But telling your mother, as hard as it may seem to do, it's not that bad.
She'll feel more sympathy than anger and if you tell her it's rape, she can't be mad at you.
Just tell her the truth and see if she'll make you a doctor's appointment to get checked. You need to make sure that jerk didn't have any STD's.
I really hope everything works out for you.
Feel free to ask further questions or update me about anything at any time to my personal inbox.
Best of luck. God Bless You. :)
-Kayla
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What i would do if you do not want to tell your mother at lease tell your doctor you need to get check to make sure he didnt have anything. And yes i would tell your mother what happend she will be able to walk you threw this and help you prevent this from happening again.
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If you agreed to having sex with him, then it wasn't rape. Even if you intended on saying no, but you ended up saying yes, then it wasn't rape. If you made the choice to have sex with him, then it isn't rape. It's rape only if you DIDN'T choose it, but it happened anyways.
It's rape if you don't consent. It's rape if you say 'No. Stop.' and they don't stop.
It's not rape if you decide afterwords that you made a bad choice, and that they are an asshole who lied to you. That makes them a jerk, a pretty bad person and yes, a bit abusive, but not a rapist.
You are also probably old enough that it wasn't statutory rape either.
If he DID rape you and force you to have sex, then yes, you should tell your mother, and the cops.
Whatever you choose, DON'T LIE TO YOUR DOCTOR. EVER.
They can't tell your Mom anything. There are laws to prevent that. Doctors exist to keep you safe and healthy, so do NOT lie to them. It's not safe to lie to health care professionals.
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