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Should I break up with my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I haven't been together long but we were very close friends before we became a couple. We met just after I split up with my ex, who I was very upset about and took a long time to get over. I liked my current boyfriend for a long time although I still wasn't over my ex. When we finally got together, I was really happy and I can safely say that I no longer have any feelings towards my ex.
My current boyfriend and I both have alot of problems at home and always look to each other for support. However, recently I find that all I want is some stability, not a boyfriend who has just as many issues as me. We always have some form of problem with each other and I'm constantly finding faults in him. I worry that I'm only with him because I don't want to be on my own. I love him and he is like my best friend but I can't continue to do this all the time.
I really am at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to break up with him, but deep down I keep thinking I have to. I'm considering asking him for a break from each other, so we can both think about our real feelings but I'm worried that will cause more problems. What should I do?
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It all depends on how strong that man is to ask for a break....Honestly I believe you need a break you need some time to find your self you jumped out of your last realtionship and right into this one... You need some time dont be scared to be alone! Call up some of the girls and go out... Put on your best shoes and go out for real.. There is alot more to life honey, dont stay with someone because you are scared to be alone.....I f he is a strong man tell him you need a break some time to find your self explain to him its not because of anyone else because that the first thing guys seem to think!! Tell him you need some time to find yourself again.. If its meant to be it will be but you need to figure out how to love yourself and be able to be alone!! Find Mr. Right not Mr. Right now!
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Wel,, me and my boyfriend just went on a break. He said he needed a break from the whole stress of a relationship. A break is a good way to clear ur mind, but it is also good because you know that it is not necesarily permanent. It is more of a reality check. See if you are happier while on this break or when youre wwith your boyfrnd. then you can make your decision
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Like somebody said below, every relationship has it ups and downs. Just because right now you're sort of having a "down" doesn't mean you should give up entirely.
I like your idea of a "break", and I think that going on a "break" would be a good idea. This way, you can see how you'll feel without him, without totally breaking it off. But before you tell him you'd like a break from each other, talk to him. Tell him how you're feeling and be honest with him. Tell him that you're not breaking up with him, but you just need time to sort out your feelings and you think he should do the same.
If and when you DO decide to try going on a "break", wait a few days; then sit down by yourself in your room and think about how you're feeling. Ask yourself these questions:
- "Do I miss him?" and if so "How much do I miss him?"
- "Am I happier now without him than I was when I was with him?"
- "Would I rather go back to the way things were, or keep things how they are now?"
I hope this helps & best of luck.
-Laura (16-f)
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Okay, all relationships has it's ups and downs i should know because i been there and do understand how you feel,but to be in an realtionship it takes two and patients, so try to keep it togehter, if the two of you love each other than you can work it out but if not then break but don't do it because he have problems at home and you don't want to hang with him and his issues, do it because you two realize it's the best thing to do,but remember real true love will always have baggage that is been carried along.
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Hello well in life we all have obstacles and issues to go through in life.Sometimes the hardest decisions are the best decisions we can make. I personally think you should go with your instinct and do what is best for you. if you feel like you are going through too much and your boyfriend constantly makes it worse then in my opinion a break would be the best idea.Communication is key in any relationship so you should definitley tell him how you feel truly,I am sure he doesnt know he is making you feel this way. What you are feeling is totally understandable when humans go through hard times at home or through any issue they want to know that they have someone there for them and have some sort of security and stability. Once you open up with him and tell him how you honestly feel about this situation the two of you will come to a decision that is best for the both of you. A break is always good just to help to organize your thoughts and feelings. During the break you guys dont have to stop talking or anything,you can still be there for eachother because after all thats what you really want and need. I am sure he cares for you deeply and wouldnt mind being there for you when you need him,remember every relationship has its ups and downs but sooner or later everything will settle down for the best.Remember you are the main person to be worried about,how you feel and what you think is best is very important because if you arent happy then things wont go as they should,so all in all you should do what is best for you at this time and things will happen as they should,everything happens for a reason and everything will be just fine. I hope this helped and if you have any further questions or would like me to be more detailed you can send me a private message at any time I would be happy to help,the best of luck to you!:)
SINCERLT,DIAMOND:)
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