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Cutting
I HAD a problem. since i was 12 i started cutting. I dont know how to explain it to people that dont do it becuase its something you have to have gone through to understand. its like a drug i was addicted for 4 1/2 years, slowly killing myself. anyway everyone found out and i had to stop.
the question is like what am i supposed to replace it with. Ive tryed running writing (which is my passion) and everything in between. I just need some good advice as how to stop.
Please help, anything will be appreciated.
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I know how cutting can be a drug. It is a drug actually. Someone i know used to cut when they were 5 years old.They stopped but its even hard for them now. If writting is your passion the you should that. Or you can take up a new hobbie. Also talk to someone you trust (like a parent, older sibling, mature adult). Have sort of a support system. That should really help you. You CAN beat this. Just belive in yourself. :^)
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i guess i know how u feel. i have anxiety issues,...like...really bad, and low self confidence. And that often has to do with embarrassing situations i end up in. And I guess i blow it out of proportion, and I end up hhhating myself. Like, "why did i do that?!".. or "why did i say that?!".. or "why dddidnt i do or say that?!".. and many times I get dissappointed in myself and I feel like I deserve to be punished; I have to give and receive the punishment. But how would that make me feel better? I dont know, but sometimes i would just like to make myself bleed. I never cut myself. I've tried to bruise myself,..I've trrried to "cut" myself with things like pen caps, and I'd leave marks, like ones that would stay for like a week. But never successfully drew blood and never with a knife. But all of that is detrimental to your well-being. that's dwelling on miserable experiences that made you want to cut yourself in the first place. I don't know if you've ever tried to kill yourself,.. but I suggest finding your purpose in life. whatever you wish to be, with passion.... whatever you rrealllyyy want to do or be, even if you think it can never happen.. you should focus on that. because the truth is, it CAN happen. All that is required is your believing. and you can not everrrr stop believing that it can be true one day. Remind yourself that you will be that admirable thing that you want to be, constantly. And say to yourself that you have that to live for and to look forward to. And if you have anything else to focus on, make sure you do that, as long as it is positive. Because negative thoughts only bring more negative experiences into our lives.
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Hiya,
I know exactly how you feel. I use to be a cutter myself and eveytime i look at me scars i think why did i use to do that but then i think i had problems. It is like a addiction i couldnt stop even when i had couciling i didnt stop. You have to try your hardest not to want to do it think of the people that care. I use to write poetry whilst listening to music and just write a poem how i felt. I thought that really worked. Try and find a hobby to do or when you feel like you want to cut just find a friend to talk to or distract yourself. I know its hard but i believe in you. Thats all i can say. You Can Do It!!
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you sould maybe try doing things that keep you buissy so you can keep your mind off of even thinking about cutting your self.now i do understand that it is habit but try doing things that help keep your mind off of cutting your self.
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ok this might sound a little random, but trust me IT WORKS.
try going in a room, turning the lights out, putting on headphones or a CD player, and put on crank up a high energy emotional song (for example try helena by my chemical romance) and then just dance, scream the lyrics and forget everything around you. it really works trust me!
also, by cutting yourself, you were doing nothing but dwelling on whats negative in your life and what made you cut yourself in the first place. instead of dwelling in the past, try to eliminate what had happened and move foward, because its only weighing you down. you are only as good as you believe you are, and learing to respect yourself is the first step. truly everyone has something great about them find that something great!
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I am not going to pretend I know everything about cutting. But I do understand what you mean when you say that nobody would understand unless they too are cutting themselves. I still want to help you, so I got you some websites to visit, that I think can really help you. :-) Let me know if this helps
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^This website in my opinion is my favorite. I think it will help you the best because it has different things you can do in different situations, and different types of cravings you get. You will understand once you look at it. :-)
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You should know that you are worth so much more than what you've been giving yourself credit for. Respect yourself and know that things will get better.
Writing down your feelings and letting it out on paper is great. Getting more hobbies, finding things you like to do, and participating in them will keep your mind occupied.
I've also heard that when you feel like cutting, instead of for example, using your arm and a blade, substitute the paper for flesh and the pencil for the blade. Get things out in a more healthy manner.
Also, if you have some close friends, remember to talk to them and don't keep everything bottled up inside. There are people that have been through very rough times too. You aren't alone.
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I think what will really help you is to get to the source of why you started cutting in the first place, was it a family issue, something with your friends, etc. Since writing happens to be a passion of yours (mine as well) i suggest you write down what makes you feel the need to do it, i understand there is a dependency to this addiction but people normally tend to look for an addiction to something when they feel a certain element of their life isnt being fulfilled, what you need to do is look inside yourself and figure out what you feel is missing because if you dont confront it you will never truly be okay. Keep a journal of your thoughts and jot down anytime you feel you need to express something inside of you and re-read what you have written. Eventually it will become clear to you what you need in your life through your writing.
good luck anything else i can help with please send it to my inbox.
Brittni
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