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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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Play hard to get. works everytime. guys are the most jealous creatures in the world and if another guy comes into the picture for you he will want to work for you. guys dont want back a girl who is depressed and down all the time. why let a guy effect your grades? it sounds like youre obsessed. id say get over him, there will be other guys believe me. but if you really want him back then get your act together and make him want you back. making him feel sorry for you wont work. tried it. does nothing. guys want what they cant have. remember that
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I was at a sports game and I saw this girl warming up with her ipod and she was dancing and trying to get warm for her game and she was doing this sweet dance move. She was listening to music so i'm assuming its from a music video? i'm just not sure which one. I took pictures of myself doing the dance so here they are-
STEP 1- http://img408.imageshack.us/my.php?image=feet1.jpg
STEP 2- http://img26.imageshack.us/my.php?image=feet2.jpg
STEP 3- http://img26.imageshack.us/my.php?image=feet3.jpg
and she was doing those back and forth for a while. anybody know?? it was fast paced too so it should be hip-hop/rap genre.
please and thank you :) (link)
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its called the spongebob. i do it all the time haha here my youtube video of me doing it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF4jUuf6sP0
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Okay. So as my precious question. How to get my boyfriend back. I got him back. A week after he broke up with me. We got back together. Im the happiest person alive. I love him with all my heart. Its been almost a week. We spend every minute of every second possible together. But he still has his doubts that I might be talking to that guy from LA. And im not. I told him that I didn't want nothig to do with him.
But I want to know how can I prove to my boyfriend that im being faithfull and honest. It hurts me to see that he doesn't trust me. I know its only been a week or so but how can I prove that im not talking to anyone. I love him wit all my heart. And I don't plan on loosing him ever again. (link)
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well heres something you can do to show him that you are not talking to the guy in LA. but just because he believes you about this, will not mean that he trusts u. send the guy in LA a text saying that u never want to talk to him again because you are happy with your boyfrend n wudnt dream of cheating on him. then leave your phone ouot by your boyfrend and leave the room for a while. maybe your boyfriend will go through your texts and realize you are telling the truth. if not then show him the text yourself. hope i helped!
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Iam 13 years old and Iam about one month pregnant but I don't know how to tell my parents becouse my mom is really overprotective and i don't know how to tell her without upsetting her and my dad is really mean and he told me if I ever got pregnant really young he'd make me move out what should I do?
pleae help me! (link)
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oh wow i am really sorry to hear this. im not going to ramble on about why what you did was bad and stuff yada yada because im sure you already know you shouldnt be pregnant. if you want to keep the baby, make sure the dad would be willing to help you. write your mom a note if thats easier to do. leave it under her pillow or sumthing. if you dont want to keep the baby, consider adoption or abortion. dont try to keep this a secret, discuss your morals with your parents
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So there's this one and he basically owns my heart and my world. I know that he struggles with depression and I honestly do believe that he's suicidal. We have this thing going on, and I don't mind it when it's going well, I love talking to him and he always makes me feel good about myself. However when it's not going well and he's shutting me out, it hurts like a mother fucker.
I don't think that he's playing games, his family knows about me, he sought me out from day one, he was the first one to say I love you, and this summer he even told my brother that he liked me. Yet I'm on this emotional roller coaster with him and have been since Christmas time. It's like whenever it gets closer to the time that we'll see each other, he wants to push me away. I believe that he's afraid of getting closer with me and perhaps having his heart broken. He thinks that pushing me away is better thing to do, and it always hurts me.
He feels like a failure, like he's failed our relationship. Yet our “relationship” even though it's barely begun has so much potential, and he does as a person too. But he's so used to his dad putting him down, his father really isn't the positive male role model and I don't know how long it's been like that for. He's always put down by his dad and I think that in the end his dad is one of the reasons why he has so many problems with letting people in. That, and his grandmother died when he was 9 years old, he's been like this since for almost 10 years (he's 19 now) and he thinks that he's this big tough guy and can get through it on his own, but he can't... this is going to wind up killing him and I don't know how I'm going to be once his commits suicide.
I want him to know that my intentions aren't to hurt him. I honestly want to be with him, every time I give him his space and I'm close to giving up on him he doesn't want me to, he's right back in my life. This is the only thing that I would change about him as a person, the fact that he does this stuff to me.
He's an amazing person as far as I'm concerned, he just needs to get through this thing. I'm trying to convince him to go to counseling. He went and he was doing really well, he was starting to see the guy that I see in him, instead of just this lame asshole who bluntly sucks.
Do I just give up on him, or try to talk him into going to counseling? I don't really know how to do that, most of my friends are like tell him that he either goes to counseling or he loses you. My family just wants me to give up on him, but in a way I don't blame them... I don't know what do anymore. All I know is that I don't want to get hurt again anymore. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? What do you think I should do?
I'm seriously praying to God for help in this, and just trying to give him what he says that he wants. (link)
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My boyfriend is the exact same way. not bipolar but always trying to push me away. saying he needs space. What you ahve to do is give him his space when he wants it. thats all you can do. but let him know that you are here if he needs you. He really needs someone like you to be there for him right now because he is going through a hard time. Dont give up on him. In time things will work out but for now you have to stay strong and if ou two get through this, you will have a very strong relationship. I know things seem really hard right now but please dont give up. Help him out and be there for him
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16/male.
[sorry this wont make sense if i don't do from start to finish]
okay.. so it all started dropped for me since December 4th... or October 2nd to be precise..
Me and my girlfriend were together for a while, then her mom decided to get married, well the person she married [at an offaly fast timing] lived in Texas... Well, we were happy with each other, i knew i was in love, the ACTUAL Love. nothing fake... She told me she was as well.. She moved on October 2nd and it tore us both apart inside. We stayed in touch for a long time, but i noticed a change in the way she would talk to me over the AIM and Emails and such, we could not talk on the phone because her mother didn't want her to talk to anyone unless it was free; unfortunately it was around the time both our Verizon phones got cut off.. and so she went to Alltel and i am still phoneless to this day.. But after she moved i tried my hardest to keep everything up.. i never thought about breaking up with her. i loved her so much, i didn't care how far she was from me.. But on December 4th.. i asked her if it bothered her when i told her "i love you" and she told me "Yes, only because it hurts and we cant see each other" well, Later.. she broke up with me because the distance between us was killing her.. she couldn't take it, she was to upset about it, the following week though she came to visit for her cousins Band Concert.. she didn't know about it... that was the last time i saw her too..
Well, Since school has started back up, iv tried moving on.. but no matter how hard i try, whom ever i try to get into a relationship with, i also stop myself to the thought of how much im in love with her still. i cant get over her, i cant talk to her still.. my email wont receive hers for some reason..
Oh well.. i talk to her now and then i guess, we are still friends yes..
But recently i tried to move on, and i met someone [E].. she was dating someone with the same name as me, but she told me she liked me a lot.. and "loved" her bf even though they just got together. well, it went on for a while. i walked to her house with the intentions to hang out, it worked were she wanted me to bite her neck.. Well, of course being a teenage boy i did it.. but then she told her mom and everyone half the story, she bit mine as well... But she only told them that "He bit my neck, and it scared me" so everyone thought i was the bad person. i told everyone who asked me about it the entire story.. she still said she liked me.. later on she broke up with her boyfriend, and then a few days later BLAMED it on me... i took the blame for everything, because i liked her.. even though i still had my ex on my mind more then her.
I tried talking to friends about it, but i didn't get the answers i wanted.. my mind has become mentally unstable, because i left the person i liked just a week ago.. [we weren't together i just got tired of the lies, the using and of course, the hurting]
She hurt me, i don't know why i liked her, now she struts around school with her "new" boyfriend and i feel like she's trying to make me jealous.. its not working, just annoying me making me think she's a whore or something. because when she blamed me for her previous break up she would go around saying "I shouldn't have left him i am in love with him" .... yeah... right..
But anyways, my friend [SG] got a new girlfriend, she reminds me of My ex girlfriend soooo much its incredibly awkward. at first i was scared to meet her 'cause me [sg] and her were suppose to hang out' so we did. but at first i thought nothing of it, [SG] is my ex cousin so you know. but i confronted him about it, and told him and he agreed in a way.. said she did in some ways. but he still dates her, and i told him never to break up with her. but i cant really control that... so, i hope he doesn't do it.. but anyways, i met her friend.. thought she was cute and funny.. :) So i started talking to her.. but over the week iv been gaining feelings for my best friends gf not meaning too! and for the past 4 days iv had non stop dreams about her each night.. i dont know what they mean.. but i told her how i felt about her the other night.. and she didn't have a response honestly. i don't want her though.. like, in a way i want her, because how she reminds me of my ex.. and then again, i want to be with her friend.. but i want to get to know her more.. but as well as, i want to be with my ex again.. i dont think im ready to love someone else; love never goes away from what im told... they were right... but
Please, help me.. i don't know WHAT to do! my feelings are split into so many different ways, it's making me daze out of school completely, and as well as making my anxiety attacks more frequent. and even give me suicidal thoughts whenever the anxiety strikes...
I just want to be happy again...
My ex told me not to long ago i still keep her calm.. because we were talking and she said something about her step sister drives her insane, and she told me over the phone that im the only one to keep her calm...
and she told me again... and it made me think she may still have feelings for me?
Someone.. if you can, if you bothered to read this.. please, please please please, help me.
iv gotten to the point where i dont want to be
alive.. but i just want to be happy again...
she was the only one to make me truly happy..
I have feelings for my best friends gf..
i am still in love with my Ex..
I like my best friends gf's best friend..
what should i do.. my dreams are not helping me at all! (link)
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well it seems like u are definately confused and what you need to do is eliminate as much stress from your life as possible. get away from the other girls you like, for now at least. if the relationship is meant to be, it is meant to be. 1st you must start getting over this relationship. well you are 16 and in 2 years you will be able to move anywhere you want. Keep talking to your ex and stay friends with her. Even if you cannot have a relationshp right now, you can still get closer while far away. She is going through the same thing you are, but it is easier for her to just let go. You must do the same for now and in a few years who knows what will happen. If its really love then her feelings for you will not go away either. No one knows what could happen in the future but for now you must accet the fact that you cannot have a relationshop with her. Dont get in a new relationship until you are truly ready. you may think that you will never be ready but i promise time heals. just give it a while and everything will work itself out. for now do what makes you happiest and stay busy. you may not want to but that is all you can do for now. talk to someone about it and express how you feel. you can write it in a journal or talk to your dog. haha anything helps. just dont keep your feelings bottled inside. i wish u the best of luck
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My boyfriend and I haven't been together long but we were very close friends before we became a couple. We met just after I split up with my ex, who I was very upset about and took a long time to get over. I liked my current boyfriend for a long time although I still wasn't over my ex. When we finally got together, I was really happy and I can safely say that I no longer have any feelings towards my ex.
My current boyfriend and I both have alot of problems at home and always look to each other for support. However, recently I find that all I want is some stability, not a boyfriend who has just as many issues as me. We always have some form of problem with each other and I'm constantly finding faults in him. I worry that I'm only with him because I don't want to be on my own. I love him and he is like my best friend but I can't continue to do this all the time.
I really am at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to break up with him, but deep down I keep thinking I have to. I'm considering asking him for a break from each other, so we can both think about our real feelings but I'm worried that will cause more problems. What should I do? (link)
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Wel,, me and my boyfriend just went on a break. He said he needed a break from the whole stress of a relationship. A break is a good way to clear ur mind, but it is also good because you know that it is not necesarily permanent. It is more of a reality check. See if you are happier while on this break or when youre wwith your boyfrnd. then you can make your decision
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Please help me out.
I love this guy I really do. I care more about him than anyone else and I thought he felt the same about me. We broke up a while ago for a very silly reason.
Cause i didnt tell him which mall i was going to with my friend(which is a girl). He is a very jealouse guy, and i know thats bad but i love him and i dont care.
We have always been able to work things out but that time we couldnt. He got to mad and he yelled at me so i hung up on him. ONe thing led to another and we broke up. I called him and it seemed as if he wanted nothing to fo with me but i know thats not true I know him more than anybody does.
I was with him for two years. And I cant move on. He got another girlfriend to try to get over me. And he doesnt speak to me anymore. We go to the same school and he avoids me. I know he thinks that if he gets back with me he'll get hurt cause he is so jealouse. But I love him soo much. It's been so hard to see him now. I want to just hug him and tell him i miss him, but he has a girlfriend..and i think he really wants to get over me.
Do i just give up? I dont want anyone else I loveeee him. I think he loves me still but he's so stubborn =/. I dont want to call cause i did once already and wen ever we have a problem i always have to fix it, and it hurts so much that he cant do that for me even once.
I dont know what to think or what to do. I dont know whats the right thing to do anymore. Its been about 2 months since we broke up. It seems like a year. Its killing me, I atleast need him as a friend, but he avoids me. I know it's cause he still has feelings for me. I just dontknow what to do I want my baby back, we were so happy =(. I dont know what happened. PLEASE HELP =( (link)
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well i went through the same thing actually. Me n this guy who i was in love with broke up n it devastated me. we were best frends and everything. he was also the jealous type n broke up with me because apparently i hung out with too many guys but i really misssed him. I decided to give him his space but then he got a gf. I was really upset and i tried to hold it back but i just couldnt. I texted him everything n exactly how i felt and it turned out he felt the same way. He had been trying to get over me the whole time because he thought i didnt wanna get back together. Talk to this guy. Tell him exactly how you feel. If he loves you he will understand. If not, hes not worth it.
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16/f Okay, well.. the beginning of this summer I dated a boy that I dated about a year ago. When we dated the first time, we kinda just broke up and never talked about it. So then Idk, I missed him. He was a perfect boyfriend. Seriously, I don't know why I was so stupid to let him go. But that's besides the point. When we dated at beginning of this summer, we were only talking for a few days before that so it didn't make the relationship work that well. Well we broke up, it was a very nice break-up & we stayed really close throughout the whole summer. I liked him so much, I might have even loved him, I don't know. But we told eachother everything. It was like we were best friends. Towards the end of the summer he didn't talk to me as much and when he did it wasn't how it used to be. It hurt. SO bad. The first day of school I found out he liked my OLD best friend, and I asked him and he said yes, ugh i was devastated. Then i found out they were dating, and it was more the fact that he talked shit about her for a while becase she wasn't exact;ly a good kid this summer. at all. dirnking, doing drugs, having sex with random people.. ALL THE TIME! he knew it to. she told me and him. anyways i was so mad at him. like i was flipping out at him, and him being who he is never lost his cool with me once, and was always nice. and idk. but then i asked him if he could bring me home one ngiht from a football game, he said yes so me and him were talking and he told me how his girlfriend desrespects him, is very demanding, doesn't appreciate what he does for her and he wanted to break up with her. i was happy, bc i realized how much i still cared for him. well then he decided h e didnt want to break up with her. i was so mad. but then ni found out they broke up. for good. and i wasa like WHOA., i texted him for the first time in a while and we talked and he told me he was sorry for not reaching out and talking to me and missed being ym friend and stuff and i told him i still liked him. thenn the next ngiht i asked him if i would ever have a chance with him again he goes i honestly dont know since i just got out of a relationship but possibly, its hard to tell. iw as like okay, better than a no. then he texted me in the mroning at sch ool and apparently his ex told him i told her that me and him were going to go out yet i enver said that to anyone cause he didnt say he would so why would i lie. then i found out she calls me the GROSS GIRL. yet i never did anything to her, and she tries to act like i did. but shes the one that took a guy i cared for more than anything from me, and cheated on him and everything, but apparently im the gross one. this is confusing know, i just need advice on waht to do. thanks ♥ (link)
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well its obvious this girl is jealous. She really liked this guy but wasnt ready for a relationship n now her way of getting over it is getting mad at you because she is jealous that you have more of a chance than she will now. ive been through this and believe me if u 2 really love eachother, you will end up back together. While this girl is being immature just stay on a higher level and be better than her. Dont stoop to her level n call her immature names. If she says something to you just ignore her or say oh thats mature. she'll get over it eventually. Shes just jealous right now. HOPE I HELPED!!!!
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I have these red things on my tounge, they are small in the front and are bigger in the back.. What are they!? My Mom doesn't know, and it's really freaking me out.. They weren't ever there before from what I remeber.. (link)
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taste buds : )
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