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13 and pregnant!
Iam 13 years old and Iam about one month pregnant but I don't know how to tell my parents becouse my mom is really overprotective and i don't know how to tell her without upsetting her and my dad is really mean and he told me if I ever got pregnant really young he'd make me move out what should I do?
pleae help me!
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Your father by law cannot kick you out of the house at 13. Until your 18th birthday, he has to take care of you.
You need to tell your mom. She can get you a doctor, get you looked at, and have your options discussed. You and your parents will have to make a decide together as a family about what path you are going to take, but the decision is ultimately yours.
You do not have to give your baby up for adoption if you do not want to, and you certainly do not have to have an abortion. Do what feels right to you, along with what will be best for the baby.
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Tell them.
The longer it's hidden, the worse it will be when you're found out, because chances are you WILL be found out. My cousin rana way from home when she was pregnant and was going to get an abortion secretly--her mother still found out...And after the dissapointment went away, her mother way very understanding and discuessed her options with her.
Making sure you take good care of yourself and stuff during the pregnancy is really important for the baby's health, so that's another reason to tell.
You can tell them one at a time or you can sit them both down, whichever way makes you both comfortable. Either way, both parents will know. They're your PARENTS after all.
Assuming your family relationships aren't horrible, they'll understand eventually. They'll HAVE to. They'll want to know who the father is, how you having sex came to be, whether or not you're going to keep the baby, how far along you are, and all that stuff (though that kind of talk will probably only come after the initial shock is worn off.) so try to think those things out.
I'd probably just say, "Mom... I gotta tell you something... alone." And when we were alone, and my mother asked, "What?" I'd just come right out and tell her. It's easier that way, it really is.
It's like diving into a cold pool--if you inch in step by step it's harder, if you just dive in there's no chickening out and you get used to the water (the 'water' in your case is the situation you're in and your mother knowing about it) more quickly.
Remember, whether it's at 13 or 30, most women get pregnant. It's part of the NATURAL CYCLE of things. You're just a bit early, that's all.
Sorry for the rambles.
Best of luck!!
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Okay well your going to have to sit your parents down and tell them. If you hide it for much longer, they will find out and there are a lot of things you need to do to keep a healthy baby in the early stages. I know it will be hard but they will have to deal with it. Your dad may have said that but that was most likely just a threat, but just in case make sure you have somewhere to go if he does kick you out. Yes they will be mad at first but i promise you they wont stay mad forever. Good luck and hope i helped =]
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oh wow i am really sorry to hear this. im not going to ramble on about why what you did was bad and stuff yada yada because im sure you already know you shouldnt be pregnant. if you want to keep the baby, make sure the dad would be willing to help you. write your mom a note if thats easier to do. leave it under her pillow or sumthing. if you dont want to keep the baby, consider adoption or abortion. dont try to keep this a secret, discuss your morals with your parents
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