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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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My boyfriend and I were supposed to hang out tonight, but he decided to go out with his friends instead. This is not the first time that hes decided his friends are more important than I am, nor will it be the last.

I called him after he told me we wouldn't be hanging out, and told him that I felt like i wasn't as important as his friends. He proceeded to tell me that he didn't want to deal with it right now and that he would talk to me later and hung up.

What did i do wrong?? There have been times where hes told me hes coming to pick me up and then decided he was to tired and i've walked the hour home from work at midnight. I just am so upset right now i feel like i put all the effort in the relationship and as soon as i get my hopes up about something, he changes plans and i'm just not in the picture anymore.

I'm afraid to approach him because i don't want him to blow up and just call our relationship off. But i'm afraid to leave it alone because i know its bad for me to be stewing about it and not letting it out.

What should i do?

Im 20 hes 28. We've been together for a year and a half.

I've been in this same situation before, and let me just tell you, me and that guy aren't together anymore.

You have not done anything wrong. You are right to be upset with him for his behavior. If he wants to hang out with his friends, then he should tell you that straight up instead of making plans with you and ditching at the last minute. It isn't fair to you, and it's kind of rude. I'd be upset if my boyfriend did that to me, or wanted to hang out with his friends and didn't think to include me. Guys need their guy time, but you can come along sometimes, right?

Then you say he's left you to walk home from work at late hours of the night. That's insanely rude, for one, and dangerous. It also says that he doesn't really care about your safety. A guy once did that to me, and left me stranded. I eventually found a way home, but I got home late and got in trouble.

To be quite honest with you, I'd break up with him. I know you love him, but if he isn't treating you fairly and if he isn't willing to make things work out, then he's not in it for the long run and you gotta let him go. Sometimes it's just best to be single.

Besides sweetie, you're 20. You have tons of time to find a guy who will treat you properly!

I have two really good friends. I'll call one Jen and one Lydia.

Jen is nice sometimes but other times (I hate to call her this) she's a real b****. Lydia is nice all the time, for the most part.

Well because of Jen (usually) they fight a lot. Recently they have been arguing because on V-Day Jen said to us 'I love you, no homo.' I understand that she doesn't want to seem lesbian. Lydia doesn't. She says that we know we're straight and it's ok without the no homo.

I don't want to take sides. I agree with Lydia that we're close enough to just say it, but I also think it's ok to clarify the no homo. Also, Lydia has a gay brother. (we all accept this.)

I hate when they fight and I want to help them resolve their conflict. Currently they are ignoring each other. What should I do? Thank you

Also we're all girls, Jen and I are in 9th grade and Lydia is in 10th.

Personally, I agree with Lydia. The 'no homo' comment is so stupid, and kind of immature. Does it really need to be said? When I tell my friends I love them, I don't feel the need to add 'no homo' after it. There's no reason to. I'm comfortable with who I am, and I don't see why people would assume you're gay anyways if they know that you guys are close friends.

I mean, when you're visiting a dead relatives grave & you say "I love you" to them, are you going to add 'no necrophilia' after it? No. If you tell a sibling or family member you love them, are you going to add 'no incest,' to the end of it? Not really. You shouldn't have to add 'no homo' when telling your friends that you care about them and appreciate their friendship. Lydia has every right to be offended/annoyed with Jen.

If you don't want to get in the middle of it, then don't. Stay out of it and don't worry. They will make up on their own time, but if you really think you should speak up and back up Lydia, then go for it.

There is this kid in two of my classes. I haven't thought of him as a boyfriend until everyone started saying we'd look cute together. We talk everyday. I sit next to my best friend in a class and he sits across the room, yet he still manages to find a way into our conversations and she says he looks over at us a lot. I said that he could possibly like her but i've realized, in the class we're in together without my friend, he sits behind this beautiful girl that has a boyfriend, but this boy that I think likes me always asks me for my papers and what we missed when he's been out for a day. When I walk into school in the morning, I feel like he looks at me as I walk to my locker to put my jacket in there. He never seems nervous when we talk, so I guess that is a good thing. He's so cute, he's nice to talk to, I can get along really well with him. The one day after class was over and we had a few minutes before the bell was over, he walked over to my desk to talk, the conversation died down so he went to go talk to a guy and then he walked back, the conversation died down again, he walked away and then he came back again. Do you think he likes me? I'd like him to make the first move, I would never be able to tell him I like him unless I know he likes me. So, what do you think?

Thanks!

I would say that he definitely likes you. You should ask him out! Since you guys are in some of the same classes, you should ask if he wants to come over and do homework & study together. You could invite him to sit with you at lunch, or maybe go to the movies together. You could even go out to dinner or something over the weekend.

You have to make your move because he's already made his. Ask him! I'm sure he'd love to. :)

here's what happened..
yesterday i didn't go to school cause i was sick, but was feeling better. since i was i decided to hang out with this guys i've been talking to from my work. my mom called me around 9 30 and i couldn't tell her who was with cause he's 24. and i'm 17 so i couldn't say. so finally i did call her back after a million calls and said i'm with my friend livy. she got even more pissed but i said i was on my way home. when he dropped me off my mom was waiting outside for me. so i had him drive around the block to go to the front of the house so she wouldn't see. but when i got out she ran to the front of the house screaming saying that wasn't livy that it was a boy, i made up something saying it was her brother dropping me off. well then she held me by the hair and then dragged me to the back of the house not letting of it. then brought me into the house pinned me against the wall and started hitting me more. she told me to give her my phone, i said no. she hit more and i called her psycho so she went WAY more crazy. i said i'm going to my dads i don't wanna be here. she said if i did then she'd call the cops. i said if she did then i'd tell the cops what she just did. she said fine get out go live with your father. so i grabbed a few items then left. then she disconnected my phone. i stayed at my dads, i went to school, cheerleading, then went out with my one friend to the mall. the night went great until i realized i needed my uniform for tomorrow which was at my moms. so my dad had me go up there and stay the night. i tried saying sorry and all she did was still yell and say she wasn't putting my phone back on. and that if im staying then im grounded for a LONG time. i just walked up stairs. i called my brother saying i wanted to go back to my dads he said to just stay here to the weekend but its living hell.

but my question is..
should i live with my mom or dad?
my mom does pay for everything.. my dance and cheerleading and phone. and my dad can't cause he doesn't have a lot of money. and i love those things. but i cannot stand my mom anymore. plus its hard to live with my dad cause of memories from my childhood cause he used to physically abuse us. but there i can at least text and call people if i need to.. at my moms now i can't.
so please help. :\

If I were you, I would continue to live with your mother. I know she's making things difficult right now, but try to remember that you brought this on yourself.

I'm not saying you deserved to get hit because that isn't the case at all, but I do think you're in need of some discipline. If you stay home from school because you're sick, then that's where you should be all day. Just because you start to feel better doesn't mean you have the right to go out with nobody's permission. You may be 17, but you are not the parent here, and you don't get to make these types of decisions.

Anyways, your mom pays for everything. Without her, you wouldn't be able to do the things you love. She is mad at you now, but give her some time to cool down. Do things around the house when you're not busy with your extra curricular activities. Offer to make dinner on some nights so she can relax after a hard day at work. And you should especially not pull the stunt you did the other day. If you want your mother to trust you, you need to do what you're told and respect her rules. You are 17, and you know better. She raised you right.

Just apologize and try to do some nice things for her. In time, she'll forgive you, but she'll definitely be more strict with you. Besides, you're probably going off to college soon and won't have to deal with this for much longer. You can tough it out. :)

How to act and show my boyfriend that I no more care for him

If you don't care about your boyfriend anymore, and aren't interested in being with him, then break up with him. Ignoring him is only going to cause issues.

Be straightforward and tell him the truth. Do not act like a child because you're too much of a coward to be honest with someone.

How do I stop my period for a hour

You can't.

I am 15 and he is 18. I met him last summer and he was kind, nice, shy and sweet. After a while, he became my boyfriend, but he lives in America and I live in Greece. He always says that he loves me and that he'll marry me and that no girl is like me, but he has had 4 other girlfriends while we were together, other girls post dirty stuff on his fb wall, he's told me twice that I am embarassing him in front of his friends, and whenever I just have some tears on my eyes and tell him that I'm kind of bothered, he just laughs sarcastically and tells me that he cannot take any girl drama. I love him, but he's not the same person anymore. I can't really say no to him cuz if he leaves me i'll be alone and I just hurt. I'm not a slut, i'm a rebel, i deserve some respect! But I can't even talk to him, he always shouts :'( What should I do? I'm afraid I will leave him eventually...but I'm not ready to be alone again. He recently told me that he doesn't need me, that I just "add to his happiness". What should I do? :'(

Stop talking to him.

First of all, he's 18. I don't know what the laws are like in Greece, but in America, if you were to be dating each other, he'd be going to jail.

Second of all, he's a scumbag. He clearly has no respect for you. If he really "loved" you, he would delete those wall posts from other girls, he wouldn't say you're embarrassing, or call your feelings "girl drama." Plus he yells at you, and he told you he didn't need you.

Is that really the type of person you want to be with? Is that the way you think you deserve to be treated? I know you're 15, and right now it seems like he's the only boy who will ever love you, and all that nonsense, but sweetheart, you are 15. You live in a wonderful country with very cute boys who are bound to treat you better & love you the way that you should be loved. You have a long way to go. Don't get so dramatic over some American who doesn't care about you.

Stop talking to him. Delete his number if you've got it. Block his e-mails and delete him from Facebook. You're young, and you can do better. Don't dwell on this guy. He isn't worth your time. :)

what happens if yu get an eyelash in your eye?

It's gonna hurt. You need to flush your eye out with water to get it out.

So i have a boyfriend and i dated someother guy on the internet like 8 times & we r friends now, we haven't met like hang out only have seen eachother like 3 times and he said he wants to go back with me but i dont know because i love both of them.. /: help! i dont wanna hurt anyone :(
i know distant relation ships arent worth it but im in love with him and my bf /:

Truthfully, you shouldn't be in a relationship with either of them. If you cannot be faithful to your boyfriend, then you shouldn't be with him. But if you're only going to break up with him to be with someone else, don't expect him to speak to you after that.

I don't think it's really fair to either of them, no matter who you choose because you're in love with both. If you're in love with your boyfriend, you're still somehow in love with your internet friend. If you're in love with your internet friend, you're still somehow in love with your boyfriend. Either way, you're in love with 2 people which is unfair to everyone.

I would suggest that you stay single and date no one, but if I had to choose for you, I'd say to stay with your current boyfriend. You never know if the people online are who they really say they are.

well there is someone i like but i dont know if he likes me and i dont know haw to act so he can talk to me more i am 10 and i am a girl i am from mexico

Even though you're not supposed to be using this site for another 3 years, I'll answer your question anyways.

The best thing to do is to just come clean. Tell him how you feel about him, and ask if he feels the same. If he does, great, you're 10 and have gotten yourself a boyfriend. If he doesn't, it's not the end of the world and there will be other boys.

But also keep in mind that you're 10 and this is probably just puppy love. You shouldn't even be worrying about this type of stuff yet. Enjoy your childhood & don't try to grow up too fast. Better enjoy your youth while you've got it because once it goes away, you can't get it back! :)

how come my aim keeps saying attempted to sign on too many times, i waited for a long time nd it still wnt let me log on, what do i do?

Have you logged onto your AIM at someone elses house and forgot to delete your password from it? If you saved your password to someone's AIM, they may be trying to access your AIM account at the same time you are.

If you're didn't do that, it could just be a bug of AIM and you still have to wait a little bit. You could always close the program and then re-open it and try that. It might work.

To be honest though, I don't know what it could be because it's been years since I've used AIM. Sorry. Just try that.

How bad would it hurt for me to get a tatoo of a butterfly on my arm or hand?
On a scale from 1-10, how bad would it hurt?

It depends on what your tolerance for pain is. What hurts for us may not hurt for you, and vice versa. I have 2 arm related tattoos, and the one on my forearm hurt a lot worse than the one on my wrist.

Honestly, it probably won't hurt that bad. Even though my forearm hurt to get done, the pain was tolerable. If you're relaxed and not nervous or scared, it should hurt less. At least that is what the tattoo artist might say to you.

And before you get a butterfly tattooed on you, make sure it's something you really want and that it has a meaning because you don't want to look back and wonder what the hell you were thinking. Tattoos are a horrible thing to regret simply because they are on you forever, and should you decide to get them removed, it's painful & expensive.

I am 13 and the guy I like is 13 too. I am a female and he is a male. How do I know if he likes me? We are good friends. I know all his secrets and he knows all mine...we hang out a lot too. Does he like me, or like like me?

To be honest, it sounds like you are just good friends by what you've written here. I honestly don't know. I don't know how he is with you, or how he is with other people.

Does he treat you differently from other girls? Does he go out of his way to spend time with you and shrug other girls off like they are nothing? He may like you as more than a friend, but until I know how he is with you, I'm just going to assume that you guys are good friends and that's all.

Sorry.

what can u say to someone to make the person change his lifestyle.

You can't, unfortunately. It's sad but it's the truth. You cannot make anyone change just because you want them to. If they do not see a problem with their behavior, they will continue to go down that path. The only person you can change is you. So if you want this person to change and they won't, you must either accept it and move on, or stop hanging out with them.

all the boys be saying they like me and kissing on me what does this means

They think you're easy. And if you're letting them "kiss on you," then what they think is true.

So okay I've been dating this guy for like ten months. He's sixteen, junior and I'm fifteen, sophomore. Well about a month ago this random dude facebook messaged him like "Hey I saw your girlfriend at walmart today!" (They know eachother from a baseball camp I guess, not well though, and my boyfriend doesnt really like him. my boyfriend was alright cool and they had a conversation and what not, mostly talking about me I guess. I've never really talked to the guy much... he's kinda creepy, a little out there, not really in my crowd but he's pretty nice so we didn't think much of it. Well since then this guy keeps sending me and my boyfreind messages (also texts) but he'll send me facebook messages every single day, nothing really interesting (latelly I have not been replying). The interesting things are the things he's been sending my boyfriend. He's sent things saying:
"(My name) is a really great girl, you're so lucky." and eventually he go up to "Would you possibly let me hook up with (my name)" and my boyfriend was kinda like "excuse me??" thinking maybe he was joking or something. Keep in mind, this guy and my bf aren't friends. At all. At first he just didn't wanna be a dick but now that this kid is getting really creepy he's blocked him on facebook and is trying to block his number. He'll try to talk to my boyfriend when he see's him (cause they go to the same guym) and I guess he always brings me up... Some of the messages he's sent my boyfriend have really scared me. Even though my bf isnt replying to him (and he didn't want to show me the messages but I kind of made him) he's sent things like "I just wanna f*ck her till she screams" and "Everyone's gotta price man, I'll pay anything for a night with her"... I don't know what to do... Once the dude's number is blocked I think most of it will stop but what if he keeps bothering him...? My friends don't really know what to do either. I'm kind of freaked out but I'm trying to keep cool cause I don't wanna stress my boyfreind stressed out about it anymore than he already is... But he doesn't know how much longer he can keep it together with out confronting this guy. It's not like I can go to my school though because all three of us go somewhere different... I don't know what to do!

Block him on Facebook, or change your name on Facebook so he can't find either of you. If he continues to texts, have either your number changed, or get the phone company to block his.

However, your boyfriend still goes to that gym. Does that gym have more than one branch? Like a YMCA or Bally's perhaps? He could always go to a different location, or he can cancel that membership and go with a new gym so that this guy cannot harass him in public.

You need to do everything possible to avoid him but it all starts with you guys.

okay..so my bestfriend lives with me at my parents house. were both 19. im pretty sure she has done unprocted sex and she has had multiple partners...she usually gets her period a week before mine but this month i got it on the first. she then got hers a few weeks later but like for a day..or even just an hour. and it hasnt came back? i dont really talk to her about it but is this normal? do you think shes pregnant? its not like she can go see a doctor because she lives with me and she doesnt have a job at the moment to pay for anything.

Planned Parenthood offers free services like this for women. If you and your friend head down there, it is completely confidential and they will check your friend for pregnancy and STD's.

She's obviously not being safe though. She is putting herself at risk by sleeping with multiple people & not using protection. If she cannot care for herself or have enough self respect to take care of herself, then she cannot do the same for a child.

Get your friend down to Planned Parenthood, and maybe someone there can smack some sense into her while also helping her with her promiscuity issues.

i want speak english fluently

They have a program called Rosetta Stone that you could try. I'm not sure how much it costs, but they sell it at some book stores and online. You can try that because it's supposed to help pretty well and at a quick pace.

I would definitely try to watch English television shows, read books written in English and keep a dictionary with you at all times.

19-f
i got my period today for like an hour..or something. im not on birth control and im really confused that it only lasted a day..am i pregnant? or whats wrong with me? is that normal...
thanks

Have you had unprotected sex recently? If so, you may be pregnant. Anytime you have unprotected sex, pull-out method or not, you are at risk for pregnancy and diseases. You should always use a condom.

If you haven't had sex, it could just be an issue with your hormones, or maybe that's the way your body is right now. I honestly don't know. You should probably head over to Planned Parenthood so they can test you for pregnancy and other things. They will probably examine you with a pap smear and end up putting you on birth control should you decide you want to use that method to regulate yourself.

16/F

I am really worried right now. I'm talking to a friend of my sister's and he seemed like a happy go lucky guy, making jokes. He's a little overweight, really funny, he stutters, but he's still awesome to be around. Well, I've been talking to him privately on facebook and he's talking about killing himself, saying he can't get the girl of his dream, he can't talk right, he's hated, he's reached everything he's capable of and whatnot. He's about 14 or 15. I'm getting worried because he keeps saying he's gonna do it and he's trying to decide which way to do it. I want to tell his mother, someone, ANYONE, but I think I'm the only one he's told and I don't want him to hate me for trying to help. I'm trying to contact his mother. Is this the best thing to do?

You are definitely right for trying to contact his mother. If for some reason you can't get in touch with her, does he have any other relatives you can contact? A father, or a grandparent maybe? If not, definitely get in touch with the police. They won't arrest him, but they will go over there with paramedics and get him to a hospital for a mental evaluation. He could likely be there for a couple of days, maybe longer if they think he is unsafe to be alone.

Definitely tell someone though. He may seem happy on the outside, but if he's talking about suicide, there is something deeply troubling him and he needs help. Suicide is not a joke, and it's not the answer. He may be mad at you at first, but I wouldn't worry about that. Once he gets help and gets his life in shape, he'll end up thanking you for saving his life. Please get him the help he needs.

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