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kicked out of house
here's what happened..
yesterday i didn't go to school cause i was sick, but was feeling better. since i was i decided to hang out with this guys i've been talking to from my work. my mom called me around 9 30 and i couldn't tell her who was with cause he's 24. and i'm 17 so i couldn't say. so finally i did call her back after a million calls and said i'm with my friend livy. she got even more pissed but i said i was on my way home. when he dropped me off my mom was waiting outside for me. so i had him drive around the block to go to the front of the house so she wouldn't see. but when i got out she ran to the front of the house screaming saying that wasn't livy that it was a boy, i made up something saying it was her brother dropping me off. well then she held me by the hair and then dragged me to the back of the house not letting of it. then brought me into the house pinned me against the wall and started hitting me more. she told me to give her my phone, i said no. she hit more and i called her psycho so she went WAY more crazy. i said i'm going to my dads i don't wanna be here. she said if i did then she'd call the cops. i said if she did then i'd tell the cops what she just did. she said fine get out go live with your father. so i grabbed a few items then left. then she disconnected my phone. i stayed at my dads, i went to school, cheerleading, then went out with my one friend to the mall. the night went great until i realized i needed my uniform for tomorrow which was at my moms. so my dad had me go up there and stay the night. i tried saying sorry and all she did was still yell and say she wasn't putting my phone back on. and that if im staying then im grounded for a LONG time. i just walked up stairs. i called my brother saying i wanted to go back to my dads he said to just stay here to the weekend but its living hell.
but my question is..
should i live with my mom or dad?
my mom does pay for everything.. my dance and cheerleading and phone. and my dad can't cause he doesn't have a lot of money. and i love those things. but i cannot stand my mom anymore. plus its hard to live with my dad cause of memories from my childhood cause he used to physically abuse us. but there i can at least text and call people if i need to.. at my moms now i can't.
so please help. :\
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If I were you, I would continue to live with your mother. I know she's making things difficult right now, but try to remember that you brought this on yourself.
I'm not saying you deserved to get hit because that isn't the case at all, but I do think you're in need of some discipline. If you stay home from school because you're sick, then that's where you should be all day. Just because you start to feel better doesn't mean you have the right to go out with nobody's permission. You may be 17, but you are not the parent here, and you don't get to make these types of decisions.
Anyways, your mom pays for everything. Without her, you wouldn't be able to do the things you love. She is mad at you now, but give her some time to cool down. Do things around the house when you're not busy with your extra curricular activities. Offer to make dinner on some nights so she can relax after a hard day at work. And you should especially not pull the stunt you did the other day. If you want your mother to trust you, you need to do what you're told and respect her rules. You are 17, and you know better. She raised you right.
Just apologize and try to do some nice things for her. In time, she'll forgive you, but she'll definitely be more strict with you. Besides, you're probably going off to college soon and won't have to deal with this for much longer. You can tough it out. :)
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From a mom.... She cares about you and you are still only 17.. I mean are you keeping up with school work'? She doesnt want you to make some of the mistakes she has prob made thats all she loves you and your still her lil girl. No matter how old you are. Maybe you should try to be more honest with her to I know she must hate it when she finds out your lying to her....try to sit down and talk to her convince heryou are responsible and not immature! Talking is good and being honest is great!!!
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if your moms giving your life a living hell,just like my moms doing to me at this point,then i think you should just live with your mom,because if your dad was phisically abusive to you,then things like that wont change,it might not happen now,today or later,but if somethings bad goes wrong at work hell come hom and take out on you,people like your dad take everything out based on stress,and i hate for you to make the wrong decision :/,and plus your moms different then your dad,shell get over you trying to leave her because she loves you,she cant be mad at you forever,so just deal with it- but good luck!
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