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There is a guy harassing me and my boyfriend and I am worried!
So okay I've been dating this guy for like ten months. He's sixteen, junior and I'm fifteen, sophomore. Well about a month ago this random dude facebook messaged him like "Hey I saw your girlfriend at walmart today!" (They know eachother from a baseball camp I guess, not well though, and my boyfriend doesnt really like him. my boyfriend was alright cool and they had a conversation and what not, mostly talking about me I guess. I've never really talked to the guy much... he's kinda creepy, a little out there, not really in my crowd but he's pretty nice so we didn't think much of it. Well since then this guy keeps sending me and my boyfreind messages (also texts) but he'll send me facebook messages every single day, nothing really interesting (latelly I have not been replying). The interesting things are the things he's been sending my boyfriend. He's sent things saying:
"(My name) is a really great girl, you're so lucky." and eventually he go up to "Would you possibly let me hook up with (my name)" and my boyfriend was kinda like "excuse me??" thinking maybe he was joking or something. Keep in mind, this guy and my bf aren't friends. At all. At first he just didn't wanna be a dick but now that this kid is getting really creepy he's blocked him on facebook and is trying to block his number. He'll try to talk to my boyfriend when he see's him (cause they go to the same guym) and I guess he always brings me up... Some of the messages he's sent my boyfriend have really scared me. Even though my bf isnt replying to him (and he didn't want to show me the messages but I kind of made him) he's sent things like "I just wanna f*ck her till she screams" and "Everyone's gotta price man, I'll pay anything for a night with her"... I don't know what to do... Once the dude's number is blocked I think most of it will stop but what if he keeps bothering him...? My friends don't really know what to do either. I'm kind of freaked out but I'm trying to keep cool cause I don't wanna stress my boyfreind stressed out about it anymore than he already is... But he doesn't know how much longer he can keep it together with out confronting this guy. It's not like I can go to my school though because all three of us go somewhere different... I don't know what to do!
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Block him on Facebook, or change your name on Facebook so he can't find either of you. If he continues to texts, have either your number changed, or get the phone company to block his.
However, your boyfriend still goes to that gym. Does that gym have more than one branch? Like a YMCA or Bally's perhaps? He could always go to a different location, or he can cancel that membership and go with a new gym so that this guy cannot harass him in public.
You need to do everything possible to avoid him but it all starts with you guys.
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This is harassement, plain and simple. He's texting lude comments and that's got to stop. Save all the texts and talk to local law enforcement. Don't be afraid to do this. This nut could easily progress from texting sexually explicit messages to something more serious. Your bf (and you) should adjust your FB security settings so that you can only receive messages from friends (I'm assuming this psycho isn't a friend on FB). Also, go to FB's security "help" page and report this guy. He's stalking you and it started on FB. He got your cell numbers from your FB profile so hold FB accountable. See what they'll do about it. There's a whole section on there about harassing behavior. Please don't let this escalate. This is creepy stuff and needs to be handled asap. Good luck!
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Tell someone, Harassment can only go so far before it really becomes a problem.
If your boyfriend is having a hard time blocking him on his cell phone, Call the phone company and let them know you are being harassed. Sometimes the phone company will charge you a small fee (Usually 10 bucks or so) to block a number. You can also buy a new sim card for the cell phone transfer the number that way also. This is NOT okay, Ignoring it isn't working and this is where you need to let an adult know what is going on.
In the meantime until you do so, Continue to ignore the messages, Keep him blocked on facebook.
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