I know there have been alot of kiss questions lately so I'm sorry if this has been asked before. When my boyfriend & I are kissing, we don't use any tongue & I think that's because we haven't been dating for long & we're just getting used to eachother. Is there anything we can do to make the kisses more exciting without tongue?
Thanks,
Elle
There is nothing wrong with kissing with no tongue. I have been doing it for 3 years. I would suggest more kisses or longer kisses. And kisses no one expects is always fun. It helps me most when I keep my eyes closed and "feel" the kiss more.
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I have a very bad case of Arachnephobia. I've always been afraid of spiders, but it wasn't always like a phobia. (Phobia here is defined as an irrational fear that interferes with normal living). It started about a year or two ago, when after a shower, I was toweling off, and there was a large spider on my towel. I hated spiders, so I flung the towel across the room, and spend the next half hour curled up, crying. It scared me half to death. Then later, my cousins and I went to a park, and there was a profusion of spiders. My little cousin Andy loves spiders, so he pointed out every single one. They were each about 4-6 inches long. After about five minutes, I couldn't take it anymore. I hid in the car and cried. Things reached their worse when last month, I woke to find a strange bite on my arm. I figured it was just a bug bite, and ignored it. By noon that day, the area near the bite had swollen into a huge bump, about three inches long and one across, and at least a half inch high. I was feeling naseous, and terrified. I was so afraid that I refused to sleep in my bed that night.
Things have just gone down hill from there. Some nights, I won't sleep because I am afraid of the spiders. I check my blankets almost every night, and sometimes sleep in another room. I shake my towel out before using it. I check the shower and garage for spiders before entering. I know this is irrational and abnormal, but somehow I can't help it. What should I do?
You need a therapist. I am not trying to be funny, but this is a very real problem that needs real help. Especially since it is a day to day issue. It may never go away, but you can be given tools to help you lead a more normal life.
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Ok so I met a girl at a picnic. Shes very shy and so am I. Im 21 shes 19. I saw her again at another picnic the week after and I asked her for her number and got it and we hung out that whole night. I called her Tuesday and like she didn’t ask one question and I opened up somehow and asked a lot. Thing is shes very shy and actually never had a boyfriend before because she focused on family and school. So what do I do to open her up and find if she even likes me. Any advice is helpful.
P.S. What would a good first date be for some one who never had a bf?
You got a listener on your hands. At least for a little bit. She's probably taking notes. As long as she still wants to spend time with you, don't worry about it right now. If it continues after a month, then maybe you have a communication problem.
I would suggest meeting her for lunch. You have a set amount of time together, and if you want to continue after its much easier. Especially since it is in public. Be sure to pick somehwere moderately quiet so that you can hear one another. Johnnny Rockets did not work for one of my first dates because I couldn't hear him.
Another idea would be have her invite one of her friends and their date along. At least she is guaranteed to have someone to talk you and you can overhear some of the things she is interested in. Or you can talk to her friend and get to know more about her.
Just don't force the issue and it will be great.
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I'm 16/M... i never had sex before (im waiting til im married) but i get erections WAY too much...like 6 times an hour and its really annoying, i get them when im not even thinking about anything close to sexual. i dunno what my problem is but i was wondering if its normal or not? please resond.
You are normal. You are a teenager and your hormones are going nuts. It will settle out eventually. Don't panic.
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Okay, so I've been doing piano for like 5 years now. When I first got a piano I really wanted to take lessons, but that's when I was like...10? Now it's become insane. It ruins my social life, and I don't practice so my really mean Russian teacher gets really mad! I've asked my mom to let me quit, but she gets so mad whyen I ask and says no! What do I do? I want to quit!
You aren't going to like this. I had to/wanted to quit when I was 14. I had been taking a few years and was on my 3rd piano teacher. I broke both of my arms and it was over. I am not saying go break something. I am saying that I wish I could remember one song because there is a Steinway D on the stage 100 feet from my desk and all I can play is freaking jingle bells.
I am happy I did take all of those lessons. I think it help me appreciate music more. But if I did, I could be stage managing opera right now becuase the cues follow the music.
Me me me...any way. It sounds like you need to manage your time better so that you can still have a social life. Have you tried hanging out with other people who would either appreciate listening to you practice or practice themselves? You could have a nice duet.
And I have done all the stalling...15 minutes of scales, repeating stuff I already know. Going through the entire book. Go listen to some symphony or chamber orchestra to inspire you. Some very young people are playing some awesome music. You may never be a virtuso, but you can lead your family in Christmas Carols and other fun stuff.
Have you tried asking about a specific piece of music you would actually like to learn? Even something very comtemporary? You could try making a deal with your teacher: one classical or what she wants, and one you want. You have to do some homework to find it, but you will.
You just have to wait until your mom wears down if you are really set on quitting. Tell her what you would like to spend your time on. And its going to have to be good for you as in sports or volunteer work.
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recently i just ended the three year relationship with my boyfriend all for good cause (basically, he's been treating me like pure shit lately. this includes verbal abuse, possessiveness, and odd male mood swings that he takes out on me). as you can imagine, i've grown some emotional attachment to him during those three years...and i want to know if there are some ways that i can move on?
like a co-worker asked me today if i had a significant other, and since i chose to end the relationship, the answer should be no, right? well, for some reason i still said that i did, when i know for a fact that it's over between us. it's like everything i look at or do reminds me of him, and it's bugging me because i don't want to go back. i never want to go back...yet i can't grasp the ability to just forget about it all and move on, ya know?
i want to hope that things will be alright, but i've done that all too much these past few years all ending in disappointment. i just want to feel happily single again, without a care in the world, without this horrible feeling on my shoulders...i just don't know how.
can anyone help?
It will take about 6 months to a year to get over him. You just going to have to keep yourself occupied with other hobbies, other friends,and let it ride it's way out.
It is normal to feel horrible. It is very similar to grieving because in essence he's dead to you. So you are going to have to work through the sadness and anger associated with it.
Just keep your head up and know you are a worthy person that deserves the best you can find for yourself.
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*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*
Maybe take one memory from the scrap book and use it as a clue to lead to the next hint/location. I don't know if you are just doing it in your house or what. You could use locations where you have dated and a memory from that on a little decorated note card stuffed somewhere nearby.
I would try to keep it to 3-5 locations.
If you are doing it in the house, ribbon could just attach and he could follow it.
At least he'll think you are clever.
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I forgot to say that I'm going to be playing basketball...She thinks all of my time will be devoted to basketball and we won't have any time to spend together. Now, do you think it can work?
You can go back and edit your question. Otherwise, we don't have a clue.
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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it!shes not allowed to have a boyfriend so i guess that stops things really and hes always said ill never do anything sexually with anyone but you! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!
He's a control freak. The reason he didn't want everyone to see your very large PDA on your blog, is because he wants to keep control of the relationship. And from the looks of it, he just sees you when he feels like it, or when he can't get attention from Melissa.
In other news, he is probably seeing someone else (M!) and don't want them to be alerted that he has the hots for you. Secrets are never a good thing in a relationship, either from each other or friends. Lose him. He is just letting you hang on to the little shred of attention he pitches your way to keep you off kilter. Find someone who respects your feelings a little more.
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i am 14 years old and i have masterbated quiet a few times. I was wondering......i have not had my period for 6 monthes now and wanted to know if my masterbating could have effected that? also i wanted to know if a gynocologist can tell if you have masterbated? because i do not want my mother to now! please help me!
Masterbation has nothing to do with it. And they can't tell the difference between masterbation and using a tampon physically. So have your mom take you to the gyno and see what is going on. It may be totally normal if you haven't had your period more than a year.
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Where can I get really really really really really really really really inexpensive clothes that are cute?Inexpensice ones like jeans that are 10 bucks but not thrift store type places.
Please help i rate high!
You can get really good jeans at the thrift store, you just have to look a lot harder. I have seen like abercrombie and fitch stuff occasionally.
Two words: yard sale.
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well this girl used to be one of my best friends but then she got all pissy to my boyfriend so i got mad at her then i became her friend after a couple of months but i was talkin to this kid and he all of the sudden said dont talk to me n i looked at his profile and my page said that this girl made up a little thing call the Hayley Haters thing and all they do is talk about me! and there are people in it! what should i do because its pissing me off! PLEASE HELP! i rate high!!!
So how do you join the Hayley Haters club? I mean you could use subtrefuge and mess up their neat little thing. Wow an actual concerted effort.
Forget em. These losers have nothing better to do with their pitiful boring lives than talk about your exciting one.
They are jealous and immature. So be mature and do something else with your time. Grab all that anger and pour into something creative or helpful.
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OK well I was just talkin to my b/f and hes like "call me tomorrow cuz im tired n stuff and i wanna talk to you when im not tired so i can tell you the truth and not be all silly n stuff" and i was like "truth about what" and he wouldnt answer me but hes like "good luck tomorrow on your thing" then i was like "thanks.." and hes like "bye love ya" and i just don't know what to expect and don't know if i should call him or not and if i cant trust him and he cant tell me whats up then i dont know if it'll work out..what do u think will happen and what should i do?
Guys usually say what they mean. He was tired and needed a break. Maybe the truth is just the opposite of sarcastic and silly. You are worrying too much. If he asks you to call him, call him. Just don't call him a billion times. Let him call you when he feels like talking to you if he doesn't answer right away.
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I'd like advice with a matter ive often thought about but never done anything about.
Im just turned 50 now. but during my school years I was often bullied, maybe because i was a quiet shy sort of girl at the time. The sort bullying kids make a bee-line for.
But i went through a thoroughly miserable traumatic time throughout my last 2 years of secondary school between 1968 and 1970. Thats age 13 to 15. I was consistently bullied by gangs of other girls, mostly within the same school year, every day of every week. All the time, all year. It was ceaseless and i never had a moments peace from it. It was sometimes the threat of something awful possibly happening that kept me frightened and nervous, but often it became violent, maybe being pushed down stairs at school or literally punched in the face for absolutely no reason at all. All everyone else did was laugh. I was on my own and couldnt do anything about it. I was all the time afraid and introverted.
My parents didnt understand or believe me, neither did anyone else. The teachers did nothing to help.
I ended being sent to court and sent away into a childrens home twice, Once at 14 and then just before i was actually 15 in may of 1970. Each time it was for a period of 3 or 4 weeks. but it was horrendous, i was scared to death. staff tried to give me internal examinations and once i had to stand naked while the homes doctor looked me over, for what reason i dont know, that was so embarassing and humiliating.
And all this simply because i was too frightened to go to school or left during the day before anything else happened to me. Once i was seen outside by the housemaster, Mr Cleary of Plant Hill High School of Blackley in Manchester. He dragged and pushed me around to get me outside the head masters office, I would have willingly gone there if he had just asked me. But as soon as the headmaster came out,instead of asking me whats wrong, he strapped me on my hands. I was so shocked, i suddenly wet my clothing. I then couldnt go into the class room.so i went crying into the wash room and then went home.
Since then i have been affected by no confidence, I cannot mix well with people. I am insecure, nervous. and still after al these years, think of it all the time. It was such a terrible growing up time. I have no self confidence or self esteem at all. People can easily dominate and patronise me and they often do, and i dont know how to deal with it. If i had felt happy and confident during my growing up this would not be happening. I would have the positive life and be able to cope like the rest of my family.
Is there any way i can be paid compensation for what i suffered then, and have suffered since, due to my experiences?I personally believe i should be paid at least four thousand pounds for what i went through. Maybe a couple of thousand for each year i spent each day filled with fear and taken from my home,being punished for being a victim. I suffered through no fault of my own, and i should be helped to have some happiness and contentment now that i am getting older and should be be having some peace now. I would so much appreciate your guidance on this matter.
I have no idea what the laws are like where you come from concerning compensation. The people involved in ignoring your problem may have moved on or are dead. There is no amount of money that is going to make you feel better, unless maybe if you use it for much needed counseling.
Have you thought about maybe mentoring or volunteering at a school nearby to help someone who was once in position you were in? You could at least help someone else develop some self worth and belonging.
We are all bullied at one time or another in school; it's mostly how our parents teach us to deal with the problem that helps. Too bad your parents were oblivious. So your job now is to try to reteach yourself that you are worth something and that people aren't out to get you. It's hard, and sometimes impossible but if you reach out to someone you will feel better. You can start with your priest. And I find that helping those less fortunate than me is most satisfying, even if I can only do it once in a while.
Best wishes.
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What is the best age for a girl and a guy to get married?
And what should be a good age difference?
The best age for a guy and a girl to get married is when they both are at least able to care for themselves and carry their own responsibilities. Then they can share better. They should also date for at least a solid year. This happens for some people when they are young, and some when they are older.
It's not age difference as much as a compatible level of maturity. If you don't see eye to eye on money, children, and religion, don't marry them. And if you can agree to disagree on some issues, that's not too bad.
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hey my family is wealthy...we have like houses all over tha world...i got a hummer h2 SUT for my birthday...i used to go to skool in a Limo...my mom and dad have ashton martins...but now people are juss trying to be my friend cuz they think that i will pay for them to go everywhere and stuff...what do i do?
Tell them you have a budget and they aren't in it. If they are your true friends, they won't care about the money. I had this problem just because dad bought me a cool car. Every body on the damn planet wanted to ride in it. So when I got tired of all that, I told them my parents won't let me drive anyone but my siblings anymore due to legal issues.
And don't pay for theirs unless you want to. When you are talking about hanging out, make sure they understand that you can only pay for yours. There is a fine line between being generous and being used. So you have to figure out where your friends loyalties lie. Dude, ask them for their share of gas money. If they make a face, tell them to get lost.
And I am glad you are in college and learning something instead of truly loafing on your parents dime.
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Can someone give me a good recipe for a dessert mochi?
Try epicurious.com.
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I'm kinda scared of shots, and tomorrow i have to go to the doctor to get a physical and i have to get a tetnis shot. im freaking out. do u have any tricks to help me relax or to numb the pain? i need some advice asap b/c the appointment's tomorrow morning. thx!
signed, shot-phobia
I have a huge shot/taking blood problem that is totally embarrassing at my age. So these are the things I have tried:
1. Drink lots of water before you go if you can. If not drink them the day before.
2. Bring a Cd player, ipod, or other headphones to listen to while you get your shot.
3. Relax your breathing as much as possible.
4. Read a book.
Tetanus shots aren't that bad. It hurts a little after, like most shots. But getting tetanus is much much worse.
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I had a huge choclate craving than i started to cry while eating the chocolate ice cream that was in the freazer. was wrong with me? i have been all grumpy latly and i'll say things i don't mean and i'll think about it later and i'll be "why did i say/do that" or "that was stupid"
nothing bad has recently happen to me! i what should i do?/?/?/?
please i'm so confused
Bad things don't have to happen for you to have problems. Are you frustrated with something? Do you seriously need some time for yourself? This happens to me sometimes.
It could also just be PMS. I know I sometimes get mean and irrational just before my period. It varies according to how stressed out I am and how much water I had to drink before hand. It is common to crave ice cream right before your period.
If it isn't your period and it persists, seek someone to talk to: mom, friend, dad, counselor. Someone who can objectively help you out. It could just be mild depression and you act on it by being mean to others.
Don't panic.
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I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
You can't figure out if he likes you without talking to him just a little bit. I would say you have a nice stack of evidence that he is at least interested in your welfare. Bring up a current event that you have a strong feeling about or something interesting you read somewhere and ask his opinion.
Asking your friend to ask for you is uncool because it shows lack of confidence. Confidence in yourself lets other people have confidence in you. Writing notes only get into the wrong hands. Maybe just maybe figuring out/asking for his s/n might be fun. At least you don't have to be bashful. But after you creating a small bridge, let him have a turn at chasing you. Because you don't want to be desparate. And if you look at it as if you are gaining a friend instead of focusing on "this guy is going to be my boyfriend before I know anything about him", then the transition will be much smoother.
Best wishes.
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