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New to the relationship world
Ok so I met a girl at a picnic. Shes very shy and so am I. Im 21 shes 19. I saw her again at another picnic the week after and I asked her for her number and got it and we hung out that whole night. I called her Tuesday and like she didn’t ask one question and I opened up somehow and asked a lot. Thing is shes very shy and actually never had a boyfriend before because she focused on family and school. So what do I do to open her up and find if she even likes me. Any advice is helpful.
P.S. What would a good first date be for some one who never had a bf?
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you already said that you've been open with her, so open her up to your feelings. tell her how you feel, don't be so strong though. don't be like, "i like you sooo much and i want to be with you so badly." that might scare her off (even more so since she hasn't actually dated yet). tell her that you think she's a great person and it'd be nice if there was a near future date with her..then ask her if she feels the same. re-assure her that it's totally fine if the feeling isn't given back, and that she's a worthwhile girl to wait for.
since she's shy it might be a good idea to make the date seem more like a hangout. I don't know her personality nor personally so i couldn't tell you. but either go with simple and nice, or huge and memorable. hope i helped
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Maybe the movies would be a good place to start and then work your way up. Maybe dinner, your house, ect. Get to know her and when the time is right, ask her to be your girlfriend. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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A GOOD FIRST DATE would be to bring her to the movies or out to dinner just dont scare her with something like the skateboard park with you friends or something or you could go on a double date find 1 of her friends who has a bf or something . . .***good luck***
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Treat her as you would any girl who isn't shy. She will open up once you get to know her better.
Ask questions and have her elaborate on her answers for you. She will get the hang of it before long.
A good first date could be a movie, wouldn't have to talk much. Then again a nice dinner where she HAS to talk might be even better. Ask her and see if she has something in mind. I bet you'll get an I don't care but you can ask to be polite (lol).
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You got a listener on your hands. At least for a little bit. She's probably taking notes. As long as she still wants to spend time with you, don't worry about it right now. If it continues after a month, then maybe you have a communication problem.
I would suggest meeting her for lunch. You have a set amount of time together, and if you want to continue after its much easier. Especially since it is in public. Be sure to pick somehwere moderately quiet so that you can hear one another. Johnnny Rockets did not work for one of my first dates because I couldn't hear him.
Another idea would be have her invite one of her friends and their date along. At least she is guaranteed to have someone to talk you and you can overhear some of the things she is interested in. Or you can talk to her friend and get to know more about her.
Just don't force the issue and it will be great.
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all you can do is spend time with her, get her more comfortable with you. i'm really shy too, and it took over a month before i was completely normal around my boyfriend. the only way to find out if she likes you is to ask. as for a good date, do something that wouldn't be awkward. i'd skip going to dinner, there'd be silence. maybe just a walk through the park, hanging out and watching tv, something easy where you can get to know each other but there's no pressure. or you could go to some sports game together, like football or basketball if you're into that. just be creative!
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take some time. us girls dont like to be forced opened and its definatly a turn off. *HINT HINT- DONT !!* if she likes you, she will tell you at one point. if you push her, chances are she wont even tell you in the end. for a good date ?? try the mall or movies. ask her about what shes into and ect.
hope i was of help.
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well..she maybe shy but i know there are things she has to like..find those out first and if shes a family girl well hang out with them with her..and get close to her that way. and thats also an advantage to find out her past. i would also try to get to know her more instead of figuring out if she likes you . i would get close to her first and then worry about if she likes you .. soem time people are better off as friends anyways
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