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so i gave my boyfriend a bj for the first time...he has alot of hair down there (he said he'd shave it next time for me) but yeah i didn't want to say anything but it smelt like b.o. down there....i mean, it was gross...i mean i don't expect it to smell and taste like cherries but idk is it suppose to smell like that? or is it just cause of him sweating and the hair or is that just the way cum smells? i didn't really mind the taste i just can't stand the smell...should i say something?

AMEN RAHZIE! That's all I have to say AMEN! You too babe...you shower too and then y'all can have a party!

whats the fastest way to learn a song? besides listening to it over and over lol

The best way for me is writing out the lyrics. While it is playing you write the lyrics and make sure you are writing the correctly and say them while you are writing. This will really get it in cause you are using your listening your vocal and your motor? I think that's right motor...when you work with your hands and stuff :) this should work well for you.

I'd like to start yoga once I get into college which will be in 14 days. I don't want to do a class although I know they have them at my college's gym. How can I get started on my own and what are some good tips? I'm looking for a chance to meditate and just relax and also to increase my flexibility.

There are a ton of really great Yoga Videos on Youtube. Just type in Yoga for beginers. I have done some, or morning yoga...you can also get videos from video stores or amazon.com...just make sure it's for beginers cause that is some serious stuff hahaha

Im 21 and female. I broke up with a guy about 2 years ago and ive had feelings for him ever since. I basically broke up with him because of another guy and regreted it after. Weve kept in touch and im pretty sure im in love with him and have been even since we broke up. I recently found out he is going to propose to his girlfriend. This really upset me and i dont want him to marry her. I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell him how i feel about him since hes planning on marrying this other girl? Should i tell him or should i just leave it alone and try to move on?
thanks!

I would go ahead and say something. I would be modest about it and let him know that you are happy for him and that you still love him and maybe the universe will bring you two back together in the future...which has happened to people I know. He may be proposing cause she is the best thing available in his life right now...but you deep down in his heart may be better and he may be waiting for you to say something... on the other hand, don't be shocked if he gets mad...Frustrated. This could happen but at least you put it out there and he knows you still love him. Who knows in 5 or 10 years you two might end up married. Don't depend on it, but just be aware of the posibility. :)

This is a big deal. I have known this girl since we were five, and she was really drunk at a party. I helped her around and took her to the bathroom and stuff when she needed to puke, but I never did anything with/to her. My former friends were telling me I should, but she was waaaay too gone. I didn't. The next morning, they told her I took her clothes off and put my junk in her hand(for lack of a better way to say it, sorry). I got drunk the night before, but the most I did was thrust my pelvis near her. I had clothes on though, it wasn't a big deal. It was a joke. Now, she doesn't trust me and won't talk to me. Her friends, who were my really good friends, also won't talk to me. I told her I didn't do anything, but she doesn't really believe me. What do I do? What can I do?

Honestly, if i had a friend that got so drunk that she couldn't remember wether or not she was raped, I wouldn't be friends with her anymore. For your best interest. I wouldn't even stress it. Screw the people who don't believe you, there are always haters. You know what you did and the people who were there know what happened. People like that will get you in trouble, they will blame you for stuff and they don't even remember if it even happened. You don't need friends like that. And you REALLY DON'T NEED "friends" who tell you to rape someone! This is a big warning from the universe to make new friends! I would make whole new friends. Don't stress it either cause if you didn't rape here she wont be able to prove it even if she decides to take you to court. Dude...MAKE NEW FRIENDS...CLASSIER ONES.

what if your boyfriend stops calling like he use to when you first started out and hes moody and standoffish and bites your hrad off all the time and he acts like he doesnt want to talk to you or be arond you and he doesnt want you to touch him sometimes an d you think hes cheating because he comes with excuses to not want to be around you or do anything togehter

you don't have to rate me I'm just here to say that I totally agree with "ohitscassidy". That is exactly what I would have said :)

hey im a 14 yr old boy and i like this girl named haily. every time we hang out i feel that she can do so much better than me. its weird because i have no self confedence problems. she is really cute.

p.s. im not a shallow boy who just like girls for their bodies, i like haily for her personality. i want to pour out my feelings for her because i reallllllllllly like her but i don't think she wants anything to do with a relationship. what should i do? please help me.

you gotta be strong and ready for things to change. It doesn't mean they will but you gotta be ready for it. It could be the best decision you ever make or the worst. I had to do this before, I had to tell this guy that I thought he was my soul mate and I was scared that if I told him it would scare him away...but I said you know what, if he can't handle it, it's ok. I'm still ok with myself. If he can handle it then great. I told him and sure enough, he was feeling the same way. I think you should tell her how you feel, maybe you should write it down, sometimes that really helps. And see where it takes you. You gotta love you cause if you don't love you then no one else can cause you wont be able to allow the love in. Start telling your self positive stuff in the mirror every night. I have had people (that I wasn't personally attracted to) tell me that haha that if someone didn't think they were cute then there was something wrong with the other person and not them. haha and this is the truth. We are all the way we should be for the right people in our lives and for ourselves. Not realizing this is the reason for so much anorexia, bulimia, over done plastic surgeries and other stuff. Love your self and say hey if she likes me cool and if not her loss :) That's it, you just gotta grab your balls and do it haha :P

i like my friend but she doesnt like me im pretty sure but shes just dissapointed in what i did and she doesnt want to get over it, im not sure if its a jealousy thing she just feels let down cause she says she thought i was a different person and im being a hypocrite cause ive said i dont like kids that take advantage of girls

I have to agree with the previous guy...we are going to need specifics if you are going to get a decent answer...how do you like her? in a friend way or in a girlfriend way? What did you do? How are you being a hyprocrite? Taking advantage of girls how? Did you take advantage of her somehow? Hope this helps you to create a more specific question.

my parents make me go to church, even though they know i don't believe in organized religon. we go to a unitarian universalist church but even though it's a very open type of place i still don't like it. i think i could be doing much better things with my time, like clipping my toenails or doing my homework. they claim that it's "family time." how sitting in an uncomfortable pew listening to a reverend is family time, i dont know. How can i get them to understand that this whole "going to church" thing does NOTHING for me??
thanks,
~heart.

I know you might not like this answer, but I will have to agree with your parents. You may not be into religion or church or whatever, I'm not big into it, I don't go to church. I am into studying my own thing and finding my own way...but quality time is irreplacable. My mom used to make me sit and watch boring movies with here and watch oprah haha which I didn't used to like...but it was quality time, my cousin didn't get that. She was always in her room doing her own thing and her mom doing her own thing and on the phone. She grew up to pretty much hate her mom and hate being with her, where as me and my mom have a closer relationship than ever. You may not see it now but you will see it maybe after college. When you are like 23 or 25 or maybe not even until you are 30. They are not here forever and they will not always be at your disposal, so the time you can have together you should enjoy. My mom lost her mom just when they were starting to get close. That was really hard on her, and as silly as it sounds if they had done things like watch boring "old people" movies together, or went to chruch together and maybe had lunch or ice cream after, then she would not have had to regret not having time with her. So when you go, try to look at it in a different light...more like I am going to spend quality time with my parents and not so much they are forcing religion down my throat. You don't have to believe it, just go to be with them and be with your family. I could go on about all the people that wish they could go to church with their families instead of what is going on in their life with the war and all the other stuff...but I'm sure you get the point. :)

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I love fashion and I have a lot of really cute clothes. The only problem is that a lot of my clothes are short sleeved or used during warm weather or heated indoors. My school turns off the heating to save money, so my school is always freezing. I'm wondering if anybody could tell me how I could stay fashionable in a cold, freezing atmosphere. Kids in my school always wear the same jackets and sweatshirts because it keeps them warm and they don't have many of them. But I would just die if I had to wear the same clothing for an entire school year. Any suggestions? Please and thank you!

Ps: I live in Minnesota so the temp is around 40-50 in the fall and spring. And winter it gets as cold as -20. Summer it gets up to 70-80.

Well I would do some layering, layering is very fashionable especially in Japan. I would do like some cool thin long sleeved undershirts and some spandex under skirts and you could do a thing where you put the leg warmers over the spandex that is really cool my friend Rie used to do that (she is from Japan). You could wear some knitted styles, like a knitted shawl or something over your outfit. Boots are cute too with short skirt. I'll give you some links to pics:

The Girl in the Yellow:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/osaka.jpg

The Layers:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/fun.jpg

The Girl on the Left with the light Jacket:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/japan4.jpg

The Light Sweater:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/uniform.jpg

I forgot what these leg warmers are called but these with the warm boots:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/boots2.jpg

here is a good one with the leg warmers and spandex:
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/leg-warmers.jpg

You really want to keep your feet and head warm cause that's where most of the body heat escapes from...

These kinds of stylish boots with some tights or spandex or these:

http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o90/kaheamuziq721/tights.jpg

These types of tights will keep your legs warm when you wear skirts or shorts which would be really cute! Hope these pics helped! :)

so i have this 'step-mom' who isn't actually my step-mom i just tell people that she is. she is actually my fathers girlfriend whom he has a child with who is therefore my half-brother. so even though her and my father ar not married i call her my step-mom and ive known her for about three years. anyway, she used to be really nice to me, like even a couple weeks ago she was still nice to me, but lately she's been a complete bitch. i'm really sick right now and im getting surgery in a couple days, and when she gets home from work she comes in and yells at me for not doing anything and about how everythings dirty and how i didnt do anything all day and i just sat there and watched tv. what am i supposed to do, im freaking sick and i cant walk!!! she doesnt even look at me anymore, never talks or anything. my dad hasnt said anything about it either. she left on a trip with my half brother about an hour ago and didnt even let me say bye to him, and she didnt even say bye to me, she just left. what did i do to her? i dont know what i should do anymore, i try to be nice any chance i can but she blows me off. any suggestions?

I think you should talk to your dad in private and tell him how you feel. Say it in a way where you are not making her look like a bad person that way he doesn't feel threatened. Explain the digression and what you would like to see change. ie. she was nice she used to be social and now she is not looking at me, fussing a lot, not letting me say goodbye to my bro, etc. and this is what I would like to see change... Then ask him if you can have a meeting between the three of you before he talks to her that way she doesn't feel attacked. Then you can express your self and she can too. There may be something going on between them or maybe she is just stressed and taking it out on you...maybe even she is starting to feel like you are a threat, you never know what her and your dad have talked about or what her and her family have talked about. Have a nice open conversation and what ever you do, BE NICE...be as nice and reserved as you can be. This way you don't look like an angry little imature teenager...show them how mature you can be and show them that you expect the same maturity to be shown toward you and see what happens. If that doesn't work...come back on here and we'll help you out! :)

iv curly hair n i dunno what 2 do with em :( help me

your question is a little vague, could you be more specific? like do you want to straighten it, make the curls more defined, know how to style them...what do you want to do?

well i have a friend that we get together sometimes. please no judging! anyways he has trouble getting it in! i mean hes cool and what not. but its a total turnoff. what should i do?

Hmmm sometimes my guy has the same proble and he is really good :) It's dark down there haha, maybe (if you don't) you could shave a little more...not bare but maybe keep it at like an inch or two, that helps...getting wetter before you let him get ready to put it in, that helps, you can help guide it, that really helps! haha We mostly have that problem when he is going from the back and what I hate is that he get's it in and then he pulls it out trying to be sexy and tease me, which would work if he could find it again easily hahahaha...just communicate with him...and you may have to help guide it in...you know make it sexy for your self...rub it on your clit while you are guiding it in... that helps and feels good. having a low light on, using some lube, spreading your legs open more...stuff like that :)

I flirt with basically any boy I hang out with. It's getting insane, like to the point where I find myself flirting with my friends' younger brothers! (Not in a pedophilic way. They obviously aren't ten years old or anything, but they are still significantly younger than me.) It's not like the flirting ever turns into anything and I don't mean anything sexual by it, but it tends to be my automatic reaction and it's weirding me out. Fix it? 17f.

I am like that, different people have different personality trates...some people exhude more sensuality than others, my ex-boss said she studied it in her psychology class. It's ok, what you can do if you want to "fix it" is just start to become aware of when you are doing it, pay extra attention to your self. Ask people around you, "did that seem like flirting"? people who are going to be rational, not people who are just straight up hating on you and who you are...People who are going to say well I know you and your personality and for you that was or was not flirting. Then as you become more aware of your self then just tone it down... don't make that extra wink, don't do that extra touch, don't stand as close, don't add that extra bit of sexy to your words...hahaha i know a lot of guys have had to do a double take with me cause they were not sure if I was hitting on them :P Hey better too much than not enough :)

Hi, I'm 16 f and lately I've been losing weight. There are a couple of reasons for it. The first is that my belly sticks out. In every picture I take my stomach protrudes and I want it to go away. The second is that during the summer I usually tend to eat more and I gain about 5lbs. Well this year I didn't want to. Also my boyfriend broke up with me this summer so I guess I lost my appetite. I've always been skinny. I'm 5'4 and I used to weigh at my max like 118lbs. I probably weighed around 113 or so about a month ago. But over the last month I went down to about 103 at the least. And honestly I loved it! I looked great and the belly was pretty much non existent. But my parents being the control freaks they are decided that I was losing "too much weight" and have started beefing me up (not literally because I don't eat red meat). Lately my mom has been increasing my portions of food and literally forcing me to eat. But it really isn't fair because I eat whenever they do but I get full easier so I guess I eat less. But their plan is working and I'm getting this lump on my stomach again. They want me to be "healthy" but feeding me carbs all day isn't exactly healthy is it? My parents control everything about my life and are the main reason my boyfriend broke up with me and they always insist that I do things their way. It makes me so angry that I can't even control what I eat. :/

ok well I am going to focus on your weight thing. I think that if you are the right height and weight for your height, and that sounds pretty normal to me...I know a lot of people your height and weight that are very healthy, (I read that for your height 114 is a good weight, but if you go to your doctor or maybe a trainer and they say you are all good, then I would say it's fine. I think what you are going to have to do is add some stomach exercises to your daily routine. What you can do is just eat the carbs at home and then don't eat as much when you are not at home, better yet...you can talk to your parents about introducing more healthy carbs like whole grain or brown rice pasta, wheat pasta and fruits, lots of green vegies and stuff like that. These are good carbs that you can eat and still keep a good balanced weight. Say hey, if you want me to eat carbs then why dont you let me eat this stuff instead of that stuff, or if you are going to make me eat fried chicken, why not let me eat grilled chicken, that way i can maintain a healthy size. Something else you can do too is work off the extra carbs that you had because of eating with them...for example...if you eat 300 calories more than you would like, do a 30 min cardio exercise or something like that to balance out your calories for the day. This will not only help you burn off the extra carbs but you will also be active and feeling great. I would do something that focuses on belly work like pilaties or belly dancing and maybe some aerobics.

hey guys this one is for my friend! she says all her friends are really into sports and she doesn't play any at all. she said she cant go through H.S without doing anything active. so she wants to tryout for cheer leading. she has never done anything like it at all. but she wants to tryout. should i tell her to go for it even if she gets upset because she didn't make it?

Well first of all you have to be ok with rejection, that's the first thing you have to tell her. That is one way in which we learn and grow. Ok so with that said, i think she should think about whether or not she likes cheer leading. I mean you can't just try out for it just to do something you have to like it and enjoy it or you will hate it and will not be an asset to the troupe which you need to be. If she likes dance and gymnastics then yeah she should go for it. Also she should see if she likes the girls that are on the squad. If they are nice and they are the kind of people that she would want to be around all day every day then by all means try out. I would have her check out some cheer leading videos on youtube and see how she likes it. Who know's she might be a natural :)

I am 17 almost 18 and wishing to learn more about the religion so that I might practice it. Please only people with expierience with the religion only.

well i study buddhism and there is a book called "What the Buddha Taught by Walpola Sri Rahula" and this was the first book that the monks gave me to read. There is also one called "Buddhist Bibile" and that one is really good. I am not 100% sure about the title of the last one, but I will edit my answer tomorrow after I check. That is a really good one. That is where I suggest you start...and just work on understanding it. The next thing I worked on was the breath meditation where you sit and you focus on your body from top to bottom and then you just breathe in and out and focus only on your breath, if you start to think or your mind starts to wonder, you gently pull it back to listening to the breath and you work on doing this for an hour or more. The challenge from what we talked about was to have perfect quiet in the mind for at least 5 min which is pretty hard for me but you get better, the more often you do it the better. I just do it casually throughout the day. Here is the site to the monks I worked with, they have some cool chants you can listen to to meditate with... http://www.glbvihara.org/pirith4.html you can always call them too and ask to speak with sankicha and he will give you some good advice.

*It's called "A Buddhist Bible-Edited by Dewight Goodard, Introduction by Huston Smith. Also, adding to what the other person said...Talk to the monks and ask them to give you a rundown of what they believe, cause the basic principles are the same but different traditions teach different things...Like I know tibetians typically deal with multiple gods/buddhas...The monks I deal with don't deal with an All Mighty God...but they aren't athiest either, where as I have met monks that are athiest...then you have some that are ascetic. You gotta see what's right for you. :)

Whenever i read zane books they make me horny..After purchasing a new one today at the local bookstore and readin it i ended up masturbating until i had an orgasm and then my period came is that normal

i would think so, your period comes when it comes...I don't think the masturbation would have anything to do with it. You could be on the toilet and your period could come, you could be sleeping, you could be just rubbing lightly and it comes...you know, it just sort of pops up hahaha

Well my question is nice and simple.....I have so many pimples on my face and I wanna know how do I get rid of them fast and easy?

I don't know about fast and easy...because it is an internal thing that needs to be solved...but i know shark cartilage works. you can get it at GNC or one of the Vitamin shops. I know it works cause my friend started using it and he had pimples all over his body and they all went away. It's a good healthy vitamin too.

You know...Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II. Well, I live about 4500 miles away (or about 7200 KM), across the ocean, in The United States of America. I'm just an average U.S. citizen, and I’m only 18 years old. Granted I don't expect to carry on a full fledged conversation with the Queen of England. I would be happy with a handshake and a hello from her or something of those sorts. How on earth could I get to meet Her Majesty, Queen Elizabeth II? (Mind you, that I’m not exactly overflowing with cash so how could I reasonably meet her? It's my biggest dream to meet her!)

Anything is Possible. I never dreamed I would meet Kanye West or see Angelina Jolie or Taye Diggs or Niles from Fraiser...or any of them! I'm sure people are like dumbfounded when they get a chance to meet Oprah! But people meet her every day. Here is the deal. All you have to do is have a true feeling in your heart, ask the universe to meet her, See your self meeting here (not how you will meet her, just see your self in front of here maybe getting a wink or a hello or what ever you really want...even if it's a conversation) Then accept that it is truth and that you will meet here, then just simply let it go. I have met a lot of famous people in my life so far. :) Just kind of happens, you never know, you might get invited to something, she might be viewing art or you might be able to sing with a choir or something I don't know, what ever you do...the universe will find a way to make it happen. You just gotta trust it, I mean the Mayor of Detroit noticed me in a crowd of people when I was only like 10 haha How did he see my short ass i don't know, but he did and he winked and waved at me haha. You just gotta believe in your self. I'm sure elton john never emagined he would be dubbed a knight by here when he was young but hey it happened! People meet the queen every day and they are just like you, there is no difference. You just gotta accept that!
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