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Girl thinks I raped her
This is a big deal. I have known this girl since we were five, and she was really drunk at a party. I helped her around and took her to the bathroom and stuff when she needed to puke, but I never did anything with/to her. My former friends were telling me I should, but she was waaaay too gone. I didn't. The next morning, they told her I took her clothes off and put my junk in her hand(for lack of a better way to say it, sorry). I got drunk the night before, but the most I did was thrust my pelvis near her. I had clothes on though, it wasn't a big deal. It was a joke. Now, she doesn't trust me and won't talk to me. Her friends, who were my really good friends, also won't talk to me. I told her I didn't do anything, but she doesn't really believe me. What do I do? What can I do?
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You need to see if the people who told her that will clear things up. Even if they're your former friends, they might see the seriousness in the situation and let her know they were lying about that.
If they won't do it or she doesn't believe them, there's two things you can do. You can either try to explain to her again and see if she'll listen, or you can contact the police and file a report against her for false rape claims. Which is a huge offense since that can completely wreck your life.
It seems extreme to do that, but if you think she's going to falsely accuse you of raping her to her parents or the police, it's best to be a step ahead of her. If there were people at the party that you were around the whole time that can back you up on it, they can talk to the cops if it comes to that and defend you.
It would be good if it didn't have to get to that point though, so try to remind her that you have known her since you were five and that you'd never do something like that to her or anyone else.
As a result of all of this, I'd head for the hills no matter what the result. Even if she realises that you didn't do it, she's a crap friend. I mean, a really crap friend. I would never, ever accuse any of my guy friends of that. Even if someone told me that a guy friend did that, I'd believe my friend over my friend's ex-friends. They have a reason to lie about you since they're not your friends anymore.
Anyone who gets that drunk, is stupid first in the first place. She must be quite the brainless slag to get so drunk at a party that she doesn't know if up from down. Gullible, stupid, naive people like that can get you in a lot of trouble. Once this clears up, I'd declare that friendship nearly demolished.
Good luck,
Darby
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Honestly, if i had a friend that got so drunk that she couldn't remember wether or not she was raped, I wouldn't be friends with her anymore. For your best interest. I wouldn't even stress it. Screw the people who don't believe you, there are always haters. You know what you did and the people who were there know what happened. People like that will get you in trouble, they will blame you for stuff and they don't even remember if it even happened. You don't need friends like that. And you REALLY DON'T NEED "friends" who tell you to rape someone! This is a big warning from the universe to make new friends! I would make whole new friends. Don't stress it either cause if you didn't rape here she wont be able to prove it even if she decides to take you to court. Dude...MAKE NEW FRIENDS...CLASSIER ONES.
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There's not much you can do if she won't believe you. All you can do is try! Try to get someone who was nearby (a "witness") to tell her what actually happend. You can't force her to believe what you're saying. Your friends obviously aren't good friends if they would do that to you.
If you can't find a "witness" to help out..try as hard as you can to convince her of what really happend. Say something like, "We've known eachother since we were 5. Do you honestly think I'd ever do that to you? Those guys are lying jerks who just find it funny to say stuff like that. I promise, I never did anything like that to you. I was helping you out that night when you were drunk. I don't why you'd ever think I'd do this. I can't force you to think differently. I guess if you want to believe them over me, then I can't change your mind.." or something like that. She should trust you if you've known eachother that long! If not, then I don't know what to tell you..because as I said, you can't force her mind to change.
Oh..and also, dump those friends of yours. Obviously they're jerks who find it funny to do this to there friends.
Good luck !
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