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Can i tell him how i feel?
Im 21 and female. I broke up with a guy about 2 years ago and ive had feelings for him ever since. I basically broke up with him because of another guy and regreted it after. Weve kept in touch and im pretty sure im in love with him and have been even since we broke up. I recently found out he is going to propose to his girlfriend. This really upset me and i dont want him to marry her. I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell him how i feel about him since hes planning on marrying this other girl? Should i tell him or should i just leave it alone and try to move on?
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In my opinion, it would be wrong to tell him.
Telling him now puts him in a difficult and unfair position. It places a burden on him I don't think it's right for you to do so. After two years, neither of your are the same people you were when you were togeather. I believe you should leave him in peace.
However, if you really feel you need to tell him, tell him, BUT, also make it perfectly clear that it is OK if he doesn't respond to your feelings at all. That means it's okay if he NEVER talks to you about them agian. If you tell him your feelings it should ONLY be a confession. Don't expect anything at all back from him. If he chooses to respond somehow, that's good, but make your peace beforehand that he might never address the issue with you. Make it clear to him that you are telling him because you feel that you need too, not because you expect him to do anything about your feelings.
DON'T expect him to do anything about your feelings.
Even before you tell him, try to move on. Try to move on even after you tell him. Telling him must not be about getting anything from him. That ship has sailed. The only reason to tell him, is if you feel it's something you must. As I said before though, I don't believe telling him is the ethical thing to do.
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I would go ahead and say something. I would be modest about it and let him know that you are happy for him and that you still love him and maybe the universe will bring you two back together in the future...which has happened to people I know. He may be proposing cause she is the best thing available in his life right now...but you deep down in his heart may be better and he may be waiting for you to say something... on the other hand, don't be shocked if he gets mad...Frustrated. This could happen but at least you put it out there and he knows you still love him. Who knows in 5 or 10 years you two might end up married. Don't depend on it, but just be aware of the posibility. :)
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Move on, If he is getting ready to propose obviously he is in love with someone eles and has moved on. It would not be right for you too exspress your feelings too him 2 years later, He has a girlfriend/fiance now. Think about it, What if someone did that too you?
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