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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angeladvice
Sometimes I think that dancing rules my life. I take a very rigid, strict class where everything must be "just so" and I can't do anything when I want to. One day when my friend tied a friendship bracelet around my wrist, my dance teacher saw it and personally cut it off my wrist so I wouldn't wear it again. Also, when I want to try a sport like soccer or basketball, my dance teacher is the one who refuses to let me, saying that I will twist something or break something and I wouldn't be able to dance. My parents just stand around saying "Listen to what she says, dear. Listen." Now I really want to get some gentle highlights in my hair and my parents said yes at first, but they changed their minds when my dance teacher said no. What do I do?
Talk to your dance teacher, getting highlights will never affect your dance, no matter what they look like. If you and your teacher can't come to some reasonable agreement on what you want to do in life, then maybe dancing wasn't as destined for you as you may have thought before, you should be able to do what you want as long as you don't miss dance or have to miss dance at any point. You need to figure out what you want more. Hope I helped -Angel
ok the guy who im basicaly going out with and we are inlove well he called me crying from work and he told me he doesnt know whats wrong and he is thinking about suicide and stuff and he just wants the world to die basically but i dont know why i need help to figure out what to do he is going to come over to my house in like three hours and i need to think of something fast and i want to know what is wrong does anyone have any clue or knows what im going throug???
I guess you could say I've had a suicidal, depressed boyfriend before, anyways, sometimes they just go through stuff like that and you have to support him mentally, but really you can't like help him or anything, don't be to nosy, and accept the fact if he doesn't want to talk about it then he doesn't want to talk about it, when he comes over, maybe you should have like something prepared for him, like some cookies or just something to let him know that you were thinking about him, be creative. Hope I helped and good luck -Angel
Today i feel like, well i dont know. Like i want to just cry and stuff..and i really dont know why. Im not upset, or anything like that.
Why do i feel like im going to cry?
some people just need a good cry sometimes, maybe you have something going on that doesn't seem important to you, but really does make you want to cry.. or perhaps you're in denial of something going on in your life, there are plenty of reasons why you would want to cry, anxiety, worry, depression etc but just let it out, maybe talk to a best friend, a family member, maybe a pet, just talk to someone or something about what's going on, maybe write in a journal, that should help you figure some things out. Hope I helped -Angel
I'm a bit overweight and so I've always been a little bit embarassed to exercise in front of people. It seems to just make things worse for me, because then I don't feel like I get enough exercise in the day, but I hate running because I'm slower and always afraid somebody will see me, and I don't even like doing stuff at home because my mom and dad might see me. Any good tips for conquering my fear or ways to exercise alone?
i used to be kinda like that, i would suggest a private gym, (i.e. at an appartment complex, like a country club/fitness center etc.) or maybe early in the morning you could go for a quick jog around the block, nobody has to see you but if you want to get over that fear, wear something that you like, listen to music, read, whatever makes you feel less tense and more relaxed, you never want to be stressed out when you're working out. also if you maintain a good diet, that helps as well, less carbs, sugars, starches etc. Hope I helped, IM me if you have any more questions sillyangel869 -Angel
okay well i'm going on a graduation trip in a couple weeks, and i'm kinda having 2 little problems, lol. i'm a teenager, a girl. we bunk with 3 other girls if that helps. anyway..
1. I don't think I'll be able to fall asleep lmao because if I do, I can be a very heavy sleeper and I'm not sure if I trust anyone to wake me up. I don't want to be tired the next day, should I bring like Starbucks double shot expressos or something haha?
2. I have a weird fear of rollercoasters, and I don't know why. I think it might be because I'm afraid of something going wrong. Should I just go on one .. or what ? lol I just don't know, I don't want to be all screaming and embarrass myself either.
everyone screams on rollercoasters, i used to be scared of them and say anything to get out of them, then i went on one with my friends and remembered it wasn't that bad. just try a mild one at first and work your way up, as for waking up in the morning, it really does suck, but if you set an alarm or something, that usually works, also i have realized that when you're excited to do something the next day, you tend to wake up pretty easily, starbucks espresso shots wouldn't hurt either. Hope I helped and have fun on your trip! -Angel
ok so I have been going out w/ my boyfriend since january 16, 05. and we have only kissed 4 times!...and this sucks for me...everytime we have kissed it was me kissing him!...i mean like he kisses back but he doesnt make the first move!...how in the world do i get him to kiss me first???....plz help me...i rate high*
Straight up ask him why he won't kiss you, tease him when you kiss him, if he's going to kiss back, pull away, touch his face, do little things like that, it will drive him crazy and wanting more. I know from experience, I hope it works for you. Good luck -Angel
I am going out with this guy who is in 9th grade and i am in 7th. I only get to see him on sundays, wednesdays, and sumtimes on friday and saturdays. I call him everyday but he never calls me. He thinks i might be prude but i never know when the right time to kiss him is. i am not prude and i dont know how to get this through his head! HELP!! i rate high if you dont have an answer that says just talk to him about it!
Of course he's gonna think you're prude, why do you think a ninth grader would go out with a seventh grader anyways? But if you really want this to work and you don't think he's not using you, then take some control over the relationship, tell him to call you, don't do everything he says just because he's some amazing older boy, believe me, I know from experience, you'll get your heart broken. Do what you want to do, and don't be a pushover, good luck sweetie and I hope I helped, keep me posted. -Angel
If u are trying to hint to your bf that u want him to kiss u, what are some good types of flirting to use to get the message across. I've tried things but they don't seem to work. Once I was heart broken becuz he pulled away when I was flirty. I'm so lost.
like go to kiss him, and then pull away, tease him a little bit, when he tries to kiss you, pull away a little bit and kiss him on the cheek, from my experience and others, that alwsays works. But at the same time, you have to know when and where to pull that kind of stuff, but I'm sure you would know not to kiss tease your boyfriend at your grandma's funeral. Hope I helped you out and good luck! -Angel
I just finished crying, letting it all out. All because of my parents. I'm making 14 very soon now, but when I was 12, I broke my virginity with this guy, and my parents told him not to call at all and not to come over. I admit, he was a bad influence, and he didn't care about me. But I learned so much from that. After that happened, I have been through numerous realationships, lasting anywhere from a week to 10 months. I matured very, very fast too. I have learned about all kinds of guys during that time, and I don't trust ANYONE now.I am currently in a serious relationship with a guy in his late 20s. He treats me so good. Never says a bad word to me. He says he's still shocked at how I am so mature for my age and says he's never met anyone as "real" as me before. The thing is, we can't go anywhere together. And I'm tired of letting good guys who're interested have to pass me up because my parents don't know me and think I don't know anything. I'm not saying I know it all, but I have been a street girl, and I know what it's like. i don't want that. I'm ready to settle down with one person. No cheating. And my age is what everyone looks at. Tonight I couldn't even go to a fair because "I'm too young to be out at night with 3 other girls." My parents don't know me. They don't know ANY of the things I have been through. I want to know how I can tell my parents that I feel too sheltered? It's not just that. My parents don't seem to understand that if they get me a cell phone, then they can stay in touch with me no matter where I am. They always try to keep me home. They won't even let me go to a high school dance, and I'm going there now. How can i tell them that age is anything but a number, and it's my maturity that counts? I'm sorry you had to read all that, but my life is getting very miserable, and I don't know what to do. I'm thinking a counselor...but I don't know. Please help and thank you.
Oh, and sorry if you misunderstand the part where I say i can't go anywhere with the guy in his 20s. I know why I can't go anywhere with him, it's illegal, but I can't go ANYWHERE with any boy, no matter what age. Many, many, endless scores of boys have asked me out to skating rinks and bowling alleys and three asked me out to the fair tonight. But I can't go because I'm "13".
Thanks again.
I've been through all that before too, now if you want you're parents to understand them a little better, be the mature person you are and talk to them about your life. Now, since I've been through all of this before, I know that dating an older guy right now isn't good, especially a much older guy. Maybe your parents don't give you your freedom for a reason? Find out that reason, and work on it, maybe something bad has happened when you have gone out before? Even still, you have so much to learn, and from my experience, when I was your age doing the things you do, I thought I knew everything, but since then I know I have learned so much, you really need to act your age, as for now, parents are parents, you may be able to bend them, but you can't change them. Hope I helped, keep me posted -Angel
Well my bf of over six months is leaving for the summer. Im not gonna be able to talk to him or see him all sumer till he comes back. So I'm thinking do we stay together or should I just tell him well see what happens when he gets back (not necciseraly breaking up)or should we just stick it out all summer and stay together. we both love each other very much Im confussed what should we do? I rate 5's!
no need to rate im here to help. but i was in the same situation, except my boyfriend went to jail and he'll be there til november, anywho. The summer really isn't that long if you think about it, I think you'd be able to wait, but perhaps if you think you'll make a mistake relationship-wise, a break may be necessary, not so you can go out with other guys, but just so that there's less pressure, and less pressure on him as well. I would suggest a break, because it will be a lot easier than having to think about eachother all the time and such, but you really need to follow your heart on this one, as cheesy as it sounds. Hope I helped, keep me posted -Angel
I want to change the way I eat. I'm not bothered whether I lose weight or not, I just want to be more healthy. However I hate 99% of all fruit and vegetables!! Is there any way I can eat healthily like this? The only vegetables I like are potatoes, broccoli and cauliflower, and I don't like any fruit. It's mainly the texture that puts me off and not the actual taste, so I was wondering if soup would help me? Although I can't eat soup at like every meal! What can I do? Has anyone got any suggestions on how I can eat vegetables and fruit more often, but not with them in their original state (like with them in a soup or w.e).
cook them differently, try new things, believe you can't hate everything, maybe you don't like oranges, but maybe orange juice? or you could eat yogurts and such, as for vegetables maybe salad with your favorite dressing? i have plenty of suggestions, i wont give up until i figure out something that would satisfy you lol IM me sillyangel869
ok now i had a question if i add all the pics to photo bucket then delete them from my comp will they still be there?
they will be on photobucket
ok well something happened to our comp and my dad has to uninstall and reinstall and i have all these pics on my comp and i want to save them but i dont know how. i have too many for floppy disks because it would be using way to many of them. i have cd-r and dvd-r disk and i was wondering if i could save pics on them and if i can how? if i cant use that kind what should i use? i have a cd burner but i am not sure how to get the pics on the disk.. plz help i have less than a week to do this!
you could put them on a website, like photobucket, or you could send them to a friend for them to hold for you, or you could send them to your email address. I'm not sure about the whole disk thing, but when my dad reinstalled the software on my computer, i just had all my pictures on photobucket. hope i helped and good luck -angel
When I was little I used to be really tan, but now I'm really white, lol. I want to be darker but it's not to easy for me to get a tan. Our yard is covered with trees so there's really no sun in our yard, I can't go to the tanning bed, and I'm not to sure about that stuff you can buy that you put on that makes you tanner... I always heard it makes you look orange, lol. So what should I do? Does anyone have some suggestions? If you need to know my age I'm 15.
well, if you could get dark when you were little, then you probably have somewhat easily tanning skin already, I would suggest tanning oil with SPF 8, and you could go sit maybe at a local pool, or on your roof if that's possible, or a friends house, somewhere where you can get a lot of sun. Hope I helped and good luck -Angel
Hey, i hope you can help me w/ some stuff..well my names Anna and i`m in love w/ this boy named Micah..well i`m in 7th grade but me and him went out in 6th grade for along time..but a couple of days ago..he said he`d like me..and i liked him back..so the next day he asked me out @ School and i said yes..b.c i was truely still in Love w/ Micah..but then we went to a park w/ some of our friends..Me and Micah held hands.and it was the bst feeling i`ve ever had..the words j/ cannot explain..so then i went home.then on aim he broke up w/ me and i j/ lost it..he was my frist true love and bodody could ever change that..so now i`m waiting and waiting for him...but he`s not comming back..so i was wondering if you could help me..i`d really be happy..
this happens to everyone at some point or another, you just have to learn to get over him, whatever you have to do. He may or may not come back, so you have to move on and find someone else. Start ignoring Micah when you see him, don't talk to him as much, dont look at him every time he's around. This usually helps, but it's more of an emotional thing, so just keep your mind busy with other things. Good luck, hope I helped. -Angel
i thought i was pregnant because i was giving my bf a handjob and he was fingereing me and i didnt know if he had some on his finger..because he jacked off b4..but anyways, i took a home test and it said ii wasnt and i went to planned parenthood and they said i wasnt. but i dont know i keep thinking i am..how accurate are planned parenthood's tests? because i didnt get a period for the month of m arch, but then again neither did my mom and she just got hers today and im usually right after her--but im freaking out..
you're not pregnant, enough said, stop being paranoid, it happens to everyone, believe me you're absolutely fine.
The other night, I was out with a friend, and we met up with these guys. I guess you could call them 'skaters'. So. The two of us walked around, while they skated around us. They asked us if we'd let them finger us, and we joked around saying yeah. We told them we'd have sex with them in an instant, even though we were kidding, which I guess they didn't realize.
So, we headed for a park by a school, and they got behind a bush and pretty much just pulled it out right there, and they were begging us to come back there and, well jerk them off. I wouldn't do it because quite frankly, I've got a little more self respect than that. I wouldn't let my friend do it even though she was tempted because she has a boyfriend and she knew she'd regret it right after she finished.
So, these guys were telling me I'm a total "downer" and a "prude" and later they told my friend that they really didn't like me, just because I wouldn't give them a handjob.
So, I feel really bad about myself, like I let them down or something, even though I know that they're just huge jerks. For some reason, I can't stop thinking about it and wishing that I had just done it and everything would be fine now.
I'd really like some advice about what I should do. Thanks.
no, you did the right thing, screw them, they should respect you. if you had done it, you would've regretted it because they would come back for more and tell their friends, thats how rumors spread, you definitely did the right thing, dont feel bad, you should be proud. those guys seem like whores, they're not worth it. hope i helped. -angel
i have 2 questions The first one is for prom i think most people get like long dresses and stuff but im not sure is itok to get like a knee- ancle length one ?
and 2 of my good friends already got pink dresses ..thers some pink dresses i realli like but now im thinkin i should get a different color cuz i dont want all of us to have pink dresses...so what do u think?
get whatever you want, if you like a dress, get it, prom dresses can be long, but it doesnt really matter, a knee/ankle length one would be just fine. As for your friends, if they liked pink, and you liked pink, its a perfect coincidence, if they get mad at you, at least you wore what you wanted to the dance. HOpe i helped -Angel
Theres a dance tomorrow and I dont know what to do with my hair! Its red with blonde streaks. Its about to the bottom of my chest. I hate putting it up but it might be hot to leave it down? It gets really hot in the gym.
Any cute hairstyles -or websites!!- would be awesome. Also, how should I do my make-up?? I have really fair skin.. Ill rate high! =)
xox
if you're wearing a cute outfit, try not to updo your hair and makeup too much, i would suggest a half up half down updo, and as for makeup, light shades, but depending on what your wearing, i would suggest earth tones, not too much eyeliner, and a light lipgloss and liner that isn't too thick. Hope i helped, good luck -Angel
i belive in no religion and i think i need a purpose in lif. does anyone know a good place for me to find about every religion since there is so many out there.
the internet