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My son is having problems in the classroom. He is not listening, playing instead of working and not following directions. His teachers complaining that he always disturb others and play rough. If his friend hit him once for disturbing them he'll hit them back 3 times.

Recently, I receive two major written complaints against him within a week from his school. The 1st one was when he wanted to see his friend's book, his friend took a sharp pencil and poke at his back in return he poke his friend back at his head and the worst part, both were bleeding. The second one was when he drank finish his friend's water. His friend got angry and hide his bag. My son manage to locate his beg with others help but in return he threw his friend beg in a pond. I paid his friend for replacement of books.

He is always getting his name on the board and coming home with notes from the teacher regarding his behavior. Almost everyday the teacher will send him out to the counseling room. He misses his classes.

I would like to know how we can resolve these issues.

Please help....

Desperate
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you should set up a session with the guidance counselor(SP). they also have childs therapists and anger management people to help out. if hes doing all of this now think of what he could do when hes older. you need to seek professional help with this problem. yes it may cost money but one day it may save a life!


Hello, i woke up and my nipple been hurting for 2days now and sometimes underneath it, it aches..I wonder whats going on? (link)
you should go to the doctors to make sure its nothing serious. it may be your period is coming soon. but make sure you check it out so you know for sure!


my boyfriend hits me and i love him alot he wasnt like this before we meant i dont know why hes like that he throws me his ipod he phone anything he can get right away we have a bby now and i love her but i dnt know what happen what i do for him to start hitting me i dnt want to break up i want help (link)
alright you need to think about your safety and the babies safety. what are you going to do wait until he beats you to death? you could try to take him to anger management or to a therapist. they may be a helpful option and you still may stay with him. but if hes throwing things now what do you think hes going to do to the baby?


18/f

my best friend has changed dramatically. Well first she had a severe eating disorder, and that's when everything went down hill. That was last year, and now she is really
really religious. Like we have this one friend, who yes sleeps around often, but I don't see how what she does behind closed doors affects me...and my best friend is like she's disgusting and I refuse to talk to her. And she wears all these cross neclaces and Rings that have crosses and stuff. She never used to be like this. She has many symptoms
of a shcrizophrenic (sorry, that's probably no where near spelled right, hopefully you know what I mean)

she is extremely judgemental of me, and is so prissy and anal. What should I do about her? Should I say something? (link)
you should say something to her, maybe drop some hints if your too afraid of confrontation. make sure she knows how you feel, because to be friends you have to have fun and be comfortable together. if she doesnt want to listen to you give her some space an dmaybe some time to think your friendship through!!


Okay, I have had sex numerous times. And I can always tell when I'm done. But I've never actually had an orgasm. I've been close. Never did though. I've heard that it might be because of the guy, but I think it might just be me. Idk, it really bother me...
Anyone have any ideas? (link)
there are certain foods you can eat to help your body like oatmeal with get your body loose and ready for the big O. and for the guy give him some food with celery in it. celery gets his blood flowing ready to make you very happy!


i'm 22 f and recently got married to my husband 24 m we are trying to have a baby but i've had two misscarages already and the last one was rather bad. i'm on bed rest for the rest of the week. this is scaring my husband i'm scared that he won't want to try again. he doesn't really want to talk about it anymore. he avoids the subject of children all together. my sister in law has a 2 year old son and the other day i was playing with him on the carpet. i looked up and my husband was smileing at me. he leaned down and whispered that i looked like a mom with him. so i'm very confused what can i say to him on the subject. how do i approch the subject of children without upseting him please help. (link)
you should sit him down and talk about it. dont start with we need to talk, becasue if you do he will shut down and not listen. make sure you tell him how bad you want kids. maybe you could go to the doctor and see if there is anything else in the way of you not having a baby. plus you are only 22 take time to enjoy life and marriage!!!


Although happily married to a man, for 5 years, I find myself increasingly more attracted to women. How do I find out for sure without conducting an "experiment"?

thanks,

Karen (link)
well kiss a gal and if you like it then stick to a girl but if you feel uncomftable and guilty tell your husband what your going through and have him help you go through it. :)
P.S. Don't feel bad People go through this and you can too. stick to what you want and have a nice day Good Luck to you and who you going to be with


I really love my boyfriend but hes changing on me too much and its really taking a toll on our relationship.He recently stopped smoking (which is a good thing) but at the same time he decided to go on a raw vegan diet.Im happy for him changing his diet but he gets out of hand. Hes always judging me telling me I should eat that certain way.That people that are raw vegan are so much better.When I try to tell him to let me eat how I want he just calls me ignorant and says its not your fault its the food you eat.I told him its not right too think hes better than everyone else but he seems to think hes perfect ever since he chose that lifestyle I don't know if I want to be with him sometimes I love him I just wish he wouldn't act like he was right all the time. I thought about trying the diet just to stop the fighting but I cant't right now because im pregnant. Im also scared he will act like this towards our child. There is too much change going on right now what should I do? How can I make things better? I've talked to him but he just always wants to be right. (link)
maybe its time for you to be seperated for a little while. take a break form him to let him know your not happy. make sure you do what is best for the baby. do you really want him doing this to your child, i know it can be hard but you have to do whats best for you and the baby.


I am fucking depressed i hate my course help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
if you dont like your cource change it. you dont have to stick to something you dont like.


I've been having really bad craps on and off for a few days now. Does this mean my period is coming? Oh and I've never had a period. (link)
it could mean your period is coming, but it could also be just cramps, you shhould go to the doctors and get it checked out just to make sure!


I have recently separated from my partner of 6 years, he wouldn't communicate about anything and started drinking again after nearly 12 months of not drinking we have a 4 year old daughter & after many attempts from me to make our relationship work I asked him to leave now he is living 5 minutes away and calls nearly everyday or calls up whenever he is near and his excuse is to see his daughter....we have been getting on ok, until the other day when he informed me that he had been asked out and he was thinking about going out to dinner with this woman, this has hit a raw nerve with me feeling somewhat betrayed as its only been a few weeks since he left and feel he is just being cruel. I think i need to set some boundaries on contact as I'm really finding it hard to try and move on with this constant contact and information about this other person. (link)
set up a visting time or even let him take her with him on certain days for a certain number of hours. did you tell him you dont like to hear about this other women. tell him how you feel!


Ok, here goes, try to keep up. I'm a junior (guy), and this means junior prom and all that goes with it, getting a ride, getting a tux... I've hit a snag when it comes to finding a date. There is a girl, a freshman, she and I both play trumpet and sit next to each other in band, and are both in jazz band so I have had plenty of time to talk and get to know her. However, there is a problem, she is my friends sister. He is a good friend, we ski together, we hang out on the weekends etc. I'm worried that if I ask her it will really screw things over, any advice? (link)
ask your friend first! ask yourself do you really want to go with her or do you just want a date? make sure you are not just using her to get what you want.


Well first off, I broke up with this guy that was a 100% my type and I was really falling far him. My type of guy is the one thats athletic, preppy, talkative, respectful, pretty boy kind of guy. Everything about him was perfect and our families got along perfectly, but he lived an hour away. Then I always see girls on his facebook and he would get tagged in photos of him with other girls. So I ended, but I still think about him constantly.. Then another thing there's this guy named Dylan his the total opposite of all the things i'm use to in a guy. His rock style, listens to screamo, just total opposite of what i'm use too. I take a lot of classes with him, and I tell him everything about what goes on with me because I feel like I can trust him. We recently just started getting super close, I call him my partner in crime in classes because we always laugh and cut up in classes that teachers have to move us. He smokes weed then the other night I was on webcam with him and I told him how I really care about him and know that his smart enough not to do that. He liked smiled and got real quite whenever I told him I care about him. He also told me how he really likes me and he doesn't want to lose me. I'm really starting to get that feeling everytime I talk to him too, I just don't know how it would work out though because I know that his far from what i'm use to dating.. We don't even hang out with the same people, and I know my dad wouldn't approve my mom thinks his really cute though. I'm just so confused because of how much I really liked my ex and my dad really liked him which I have to have my dads approval on a guy and thats the kind of guy everyone in my family is like and Dylan just the total opposite so I have no idea on what to do.. (link)
yuo know how they say opposites attract well maybe thats whats going on there. maybe he is the guy you have been waiting for. it sounds to me that you broke up with your ex. you should try and losen up and stop talking about him so much. with every door that is closed another door opens, or maybe even a window. ;)


So theres this boy I like--- Story of my life I know--- but I dont know if he likes me too. We make effort to talk, buts its mainly about school. To drop a hint, I told him how I thought dark blue eyes were really cute (he has blue eyes) and he caught on, but thats it. Sometimes we walk to class together, but does this mean he likes me too?
(((I am a 13 year old girl))) (link)
hes probably not ready to take the leap to ask you out yet or he might be really shy. keep dropping little hints and keep being his friend. that way you can still be with him without being "with" him.


I have stretch marks on my butt. I hate them cuz it looks so ugly. What can i do to make them go away?
btw im a teenage girl. age 15-17 (link)
you may want to try buttermilk, it helps over time to lighten the color of stretch marks. they also have products that will help to rid of the stretch marks!


19/f

Okay so here is the deal. I live with my boyfriend and his mom two sisters and their boyfriends hahaha and well we each teamed up for a weight loss competition, cause we are all a little to a lot over weight. Anyways, i am about 5'3" 1/2 160 pounds and my boyfriend is 6'0 even but is 375. He is more than willing to try he is just afraid of getting a lot of loose skin if he were to lose the weight and I sometimes lack motivation. ANYWAYS what are some tips and tricks to that we can do together that is fun to help us lose weight and get us onto the road of getting more in shape? Oh and to win the competition of course :)

Sincerly, T (link)
in reference to lose skin, the only way to prevent this is to lose weight slowly, and build muscle, so theres something for the skin to cling to.

I say the best way to lose weight is to be calorie conscious, and so you need to identify how many calories you eat in a day, then slowly decrease the number of calories you eat. So if you are eating 3000 calories, eat 2700 for a week, then 2300 for a week and so on until you are burning more calories than you are eating.

the only way to lose weight is to lose more calories than you are eating. That means more excercise, less food. what you do eat, needs to be healthy. So half the plate of fruit and vegetables, 1/4 of the plate lean protein like chicken or shrimp, 1/4 of the plate carbohydrates, and a little fat.

When eating, eat consciously. By this, I mean cut small amounts, put you knife and fork down when chewing, and chew 25 times. Then pick up you knife and fork and and take a small amount, chew and put them down, and so on. This enables you to eat less, because you are thinking about eating. This gives you plenty of time for your stomach to tell your brain that you are full. Also, dont finish all the food on your plate because you dont want to waste it, even if you are full. When you think you are full, stop eating and put the food away. If you are hungry again later, eat more, but dont eat for the sake of it.

Also, finally, make sure that you dont go for seconds. I understand that maybe you may think you want more, but wait 20minutes, and you wont want seconds. Its natural for us to want more after eating, but a wait will ensure that you dont overeat.

Hope i helped, and if you need anymore advice, feel free to ask :)


I've decided to buy a voice recorder in this last year of high school since I'm struggling now and it'll be good for university anyways if I make it. Abd I haven't used batteries since like my toddler days for those loud toys. And I don't want to leave batteries in the voice recorder when i'm not even using it and I know from school that if you keep it in your pocket it'll like burn through. So what can i hold 2 AA batteries in for temporary storage until I place them back in? (Hate batteries, so expensive and bad for the environment! But all voice recorders must have them...) (link)
the other answer is all true but i use these cuz theyr cute http://www.meritline.com/aaa-aa-battery-case-holder-hold-four-pieces---p-37039.aspx just a little AA-battery case thingy! you dont need it cuz batteries are totally not going to hurt you but if you want a cute thing to hold them in your purse or whatever then here you go sweetie!


hi i'm 10 and a girl. i'm going out with this dude at my school and i think he's cheating on me should i dump he and go to my waiting list or stay with him? (link)
If youre ten, you shouldnt be dating in the first place. If he is cheating on you, It's probably with his momma. Thats if he's 10, too. If not, then i dont know. But dont worry about it now, you are too young. Hope i helped:)


I just got a new couch. I really dont want my cat jumping on it because she scratched up my old one really bad. How can I train her not to jump on it? Shes an older cat. (link)
Cats, like dogs naturally live in large groups with a structure or hierarchy. For example, in the wild you can see a lion, the Alpha Lion or Lioness, eats first, mates first etc. No-one can eat before them etc.

This is how cats live and thrive. The best way to prevent your cat from sitting on the couch it so simply pick her up, and put her down everytime she sits on the couch. You need to be patient, especially as she is older. Whenever she gets onto the couch, simply pick her up, and put her on the floor. Whatever you do, be consistent. If oneday you cant be bothered, and think "she's only sleeping...and im tired", stop, and move her off, as if you give her mixed signals, she will get confused.

What you can also do, it get a really comfortable cat bed, or pillow, and place it where you dont mind her sleeping. This can be her own territory, and she will be comfortable.

Hope i helped, and if you need anymore advice, let me know :)


Ok so i heard that verizon is getting iphones starting in february. I already have a two year contract with verizon so i want to know if i can get the new iphone when it comes out and how much it will cost? I have about a year left in my contract and i already own a cellphone but i REALLY want the iphone!!!!! Thanks in advance. xoxoxo (link)
heres the Verizon iPhone site:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/splash/iphone.jsp

Theres an FAQ, and plan option, aswell as contacts so you can ask questions directly.




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