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my boyfriend hits me what can i do and i love him
my boyfriend hits me and i love him alot he wasnt like this before we meant i dont know why hes like that he throws me his ipod he phone anything he can get right away we have a bby now and i love her but i dnt know what happen what i do for him to start hitting me i dnt want to break up i want help
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If theres one thing I learned being with an abusive boyfriend is that they don't show you their true colors after they feel you wont leave them. I had an abusive boyfriend before but he only hit me once. The abuse I got from him was he always put my self-esteem down. I loved him more than anything in the world and I only saw myself with him. I thought I wanted I baby with him and when I told him about it he was rude and shut down that idea. I feel deeply for you cause I know how confused you are but if theres one thing I know is that there are other guys out there that will treat you better this guy is not worth all that pain. Don't do that to yourself think about it do you want your baby growing up with this evirenment. Don't be selfish and thing about yourself think about your baby and want you going to put her through being in this terrible relationship...if you can call it that. My advice is don't be dumb and leave him take him to court and get child support on his ass. You don't need I garenttee that you will be more happy my sister is and I am too I found someone who loves me and treats me right. The good guys arent gone plus being single is better for you right now because you have a baby and I bet your smart enough to take care of yourself. Hopefully I helped you shine some light in your dilema. I hope you do the right thing for yourself and your baby.=)
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No one, I repeat no one has the right to hit you or abuse you in any way. Each state has their own laws against domestic violence. You need to get away from him before he hurts you anymore or before he starts hurting the baby.
You start by calling an organization called RAINN; this stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. They have a hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE, which is staffed 24/7 by trained volunteers who can help you. RRAINN is a nationwide network of grassroots centers that you can be referred to for emergency housing for you and your baby.
RAINN also has people who can help you file the paperwork for protection orders against your boyfriend and the appropriate police reports needed.
Your boyfriend has physically assaulted you which is crime. You need to report this for your own safety and the safety of others. Just like anyone else with problems such as alcoholics; an abuser will not seek help until he hits bottom. You can force him to seek anger management help. You can help him hit bottom by filing a police report about his abuse of you and the baby if he has ever hit or shaken the child.
Standing in front of a judge can have a very sobering on a person and may be just the wake up call your boyfriend needs. Hearing a judge tell him that society will not stand for domestic violence and what the consequences could be for future offenses may be all that is needed to get him to ask for help.
By reporting his abuse to the proper authorities, in. the police, you will be doing more to help him rather than hurt him. Yes the police arrest people and judges send people to jail; but not always. The police and judges are also there to help people get their lives straight if the person standing before the judge realizes his/her mistake and asks for help. Jail is not always the best option; sometimes anger management overseen by the court, meaning probation, is better.
TO help yourself and your boyfriend you need to do three things.
1. You have to leave him to protect you and your baby.
2. You need to contact the police and report his abuse of you.
3. You need to contact RAIN to get the help you need to protect yourself from him and to see to it that you and the baby are properly provided for.
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alright you need to think about your safety and the babies safety. what are you going to do wait until he beats you to death? you could try to take him to anger management or to a therapist. they may be a helpful option and you still may stay with him. but if hes throwing things now what do you think hes going to do to the baby?
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