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I can't orgasm
Okay, I have had sex numerous times. And I can always tell when I'm done. But I've never actually had an orgasm. I've been close. Never did though. I've heard that it might be because of the guy, but I think it might just be me. Idk, it really bother me...
Anyone have any ideas?
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A lot of girls actually have a hard time getting an orgasm, so there is nothing wrong with you. Different positions can help out. So, experiment with your boyfriend :)
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I cannot tell you why you are not achieving the big "O". What I can do is give you some tips that might help.
Just so you know I'm one of the older advisers on this site and your question is one of the reasons I chose to be an advisor to help with questions like yours and to pass along information I know to be correct.
Let me start by saying sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting partners. Nothing is weird or strange as long as both partners are willing. One example of what I am saying would be anal sex. If one partner wants to try it and the other partner is not wanting too then mutual consent is missing and the willing partner should not try to force the other partner.
The other thing about sex has mostly to do with the female. In order for the female to get the most out of a sexual experience she must fell safe in her environment, she must be comfortable and she must feel secure. In this instance safety and security are not the same.
Safety: Someplace that is clean, where you will not be seen or overheard by others.
Comfort: On a bed or a couch, not the back seat of a car or bent over a table for a quickie. Wile the last two can be exciting once in awhile as a standard method of intercourse it counter to all three rules.
Secure: Being disturbed or discovered during sex can take all the pleasure out of it for most females. If you are worried about being discovered getting to that big "O" is going to be just about an impossibility.
With safety comfort and security you can instruct your partner in what type of foreplay you need. If you know your partner is quicker on the trigger than you are than you need him to spend more time on foreplay. If your rushing to get sex done for fear someone will come home and discover you or interrupt you; then you will not have the stimulation you need.
If you are not physically comfortable, say in the back seat of a car or some other place where you need to be a contortionist then again you are not going to get full enjoyment.
For a guy sex is more physical stimulation. If his penis gets the right amount of stimulation he will cum, its that simple.
My feeling is that if you are having sex in a safe, comfortable and secure location and you TEACH your partner how to please you; you will have that big "O".
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there are certain foods you can eat to help your body like oatmeal with get your body loose and ready for the big O. and for the guy give him some food with celery in it. celery gets his blood flowing ready to make you very happy!
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