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HE GETS TOO ORGASM... i dont. :(
everytime we have sex he gets off and i dont the moment he is done there is no fooling around extra bit or anything. its he is done now i feel used and depressed because once again i dont feel satisfied. then it makes me not want to have sex at all. are there different tips we can try or something new we can do for both of us?
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Sometimes it takes more than just sex for a girl to have an orgasm. I would suggest trying oral sex since that focuses on stimulating your clit. That should work.
You could also try new positions to see if he can hit a spot that feels good to you that can get you off.
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Hi I am probably old enough to be your grandfather. Hopefully the wisdom of my age will help with your problem.
Since you don't give your age bear with me while I make my point.
Sex is a beautiful thing to be shared by, hopefully two loving and consenting adults. Both partners need to consent to whatever form of sex act either wishes to try; be it the more acceptable forms or the more far out forms of sex, sex play and fetish. Nothing is truly weired as long as both participants consent and both understand no mean no and stop means stop.
The next thing about sex has more to do for the women's enjoyment than the mans. A man can get off just about anywhere. A women needs safety, security and comfort. Remove anyone of the three and the women is not going to get off and will feel used.
As a man I both resemble and hate what I am about to say; but unfortunately it is true. Every male thinks he is the worlds greatest lover. We are not. We have to be taught what are partners likes and dislikes are. That's one of the nice things about being young and starting with heavy petting, handjobs, fingering and oral sex. You get to learn about one another.
For most guys is a girl gives him a quick couple of jerks on his penis to make sure he is hard and then lets him enter her; he's happy. Unfortunately she is most likely not ready.
My advice is much like one of the other advisers. If you want to have a happy sex life: you have to tell and even show you partner what you like. If your more vaginal than clitoral. Then when he goes to stimulate your clit; tell him, no I prefer you to finger me. Tell him if you want him to pull on you nipples or gently bite on them.
My wife has a beautiful nose. When we first started having sex I would make love to her nose as I did to her ears, nipples and clit. She had to tell me she hatted having her nose played with and that she was more vaginal than clitoral. Once I found that out we had a better sex life.
Communication in your sex life is just as important as it is in every other thing in life.
I hope I have offered you some help.
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Don't let him inside of you until you're good and worked up. Make sure there's lots of foreplay. Have slow kissing and touching sessions before you even take your clothes off. Have him play with your hair a little. Don't let him just grab your breasts or stick his fingers inside. Have him caress your breasts and tease the nipples. Gentle teasing on your clit will get your juices flowing. Then when you've got your mind and body into it, you can let him inside of you slowly. When he's inside, try to control the rhythm. Don't be afraid to rub your clit while he's going. When he looks like he's ready to cum, pull it out and squeeze it a little to stop him. Give it about 10 seconds or so and let him go back inside. If he can't accommodate your needs or seem to care about your feelings, it may be time to find someone who cares enough to make sure your happy. I hope this helps and good luck.
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