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I like this guy, who is one of my friends... I know it's not right to be with my boyfriend anymore.
16/f
Ok so this is probably gonna be long...
I have a boyfriend, same age as me, and all that. We've been together for 5 months and I do care about him. Although he moved a state away and still wanted to be with me so we've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 months.
So here is another problem. I like this guy, who is one of my friends. He's two years older than me and I've liked him for about 2 years without telling him, I had a different boyfriend at the time and all that and I didn't want to ruin our friendship.
Before me and my current boyfriend started going out, me and my friend told each other we like each other. We didn't want to date or anything because he was gonna go to college farther away. We did kiss though.
So he left about about 2 months ago and we got in a fight over the phone so we didn't talk since.
I was starting to get over him but I guess I pushed it to the back of my mind. Now he texted me again and telling me he missed me, apologized for everything. He told me he just needed time to grow up and see how immature he was.
Now I know it's not right to be with my boyfriend anymore. I'm just afraid to break up with him. He's been so depressed and started talking about suicide. I freaked and I really can't do anything about it because he's not here and we don't get to talk as much because he is grounded and we get to talk like once a month.
I feel like a bad person for liking my friend. I don't know if I'm supposed to feel this way?
There is no problem with the age of me and my friend because we're not sexual and he's coming back for the summer so not seeing him isn't a big deal either. I've been best friends with his sister for 2 years so I'm always at their house, so I'm always gonna see him anyway. So I'm pretty sure I'm not gonna get over him...
I'm not sure what my question is but I'm so confused and feel so bad. If anyone can help, that'd be great. Sorry it was long and thanks so much.
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If the friend is age 18, He can legally get in trouble for having contact with a minor. There is no what, Ifs, But's about it. The fact is it is the law in many states that an adult shall not have contact with a minor. This is a risk you take if you two decide to date just know everything has it's consequences.
The boyfriend, A long distant relationship is stressful and takes a lot of commitment and time to make it work out. Trust, Plays a major factor in this case also. The fact is, Your boyfriend is in another state. I'm assuming that is an hour maybe more...Do you have the time and money to put into this relationship to make it work? Do you trust your boyfriend to be faithful while you two are currently apart in distant? These are all questions you should ask yourself. At the age of 16, You are too young to hold yourself back waiting for someone who is far away. A healthier option would be to explore and date other people.
Try and find someone closer and who is more in your age range. You avoid a waste of money and you also avoid consequences to the law.
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