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I am a 24 year old pre-op transexual. I have been on hormones for almost three years now, look real good and live 24/7 as a woman. I always tell my dates up front my birth gender. I find that most of the men I date seem to think that transexuals are sex machines. Most of them ask for a BJ at the end of the date. Most of the time I will give them what they want and chalk it up to a bad date. Are there other girls having this same problem?
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Well, no. Because most girls, when a guy makes the mistake of thinking they is up for sex on the first date wont go down on him and think "Meh, it was a bad date." They tell him to go to hell and think "Meh, it was a bad date."
Honey, stop going down on people you don't like anyways. Blow jobs are for the good dates, not the bad ones. The best dates probably don't even ask for one.
It's a common, unfair idea that many straight people (especially straight men) have about anyone who is queer, bi or trans that their life must be all about sex. That they are sex-obsessed and game for anything.
If you are sex obsessed and game for anything, fine, go ahead and give blow jobs on the first date if you enjoy it. But if you are looking for a relationship, then you can't hook up with every date who expresses an interest in you. It will take some time to weed out the guys who just want you because you are exotic and different. There are lots of guys who'd be totally into you exactly as who you are - but the ones that want a blow job on the first date are more likely the ones who are only thinking of you as a transsexual, not as a possible partner.
If the date was only 'Meh' and you aren't really feeling the person, don't go down on them. At worst - they are using you. At best - you are giving them mixed signals about what is really going on in your mind.
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