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Q: 16/f
I have heard that saying someones name often in conversation and smiling are great for appearing likable and friendly. What are some other tips for this? The more the better, thanks! =)
This site may help!

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-People-to-Like-You

Q: hi.
i'm 15/f and i really wanna learn how to skate and i have a few friends that skate so their gunna help me. i hope. but i was just curious if anyone knew a book or something i could read so when they say do a ollie [i know what that is but...for example] i won't be like uhh what?

anyother advice for me and my soon skating career. hah
YouTube videos! You can actually see people doing it. There are a lot of skate videos online. As for books, I'm not sure..

Q: i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?
That happens to me a lot. I don't know why he said you didn't capitalize and why even if you did, you did not deserve a 5 instead. Maybe your answer was detailed but did not help him because maybe he did not provide enough information about his problem to be helped.

Q: my teeth are like yellow, & I brush them 4 times a day& floss& use whiting mouth wash, how can I make them white?
They might be naturally a little yellow.

Maybe the whitening mouth wash is not working. Try Crest's White Strips. I heard they help loads. Or you can professionally get them done for $300? but they are not a sure guarantee and you may have to repeat the treatments.

Q: where can i see the movie Thirteen online?
See it at a friend's house.

Q: does anyone know any deep love/life question that make people think?
theres always the general ones:
what is the meaning of life?
define love.
why do you love what you do?
is death as important as life?

Q: Wow! Thanks for even looking at this. Well basically my life is in the crapper right now. In other words that are more understandable It SUCKS! Everyone is always telling me the same things. You are only 14 and everyone goes through it around your age or my fav! " Your life is not that bad" But yes it is though! My friends dont like me anymore and I dont have a boyfriend! Yes! I sound pathetic as hell but I am pathetic. I mean why does life have to be so damn hard. What made it this hard? Was it my fault? I sit in my room all day watching tv and I just cry because it sux! Everyone else has a boyfriend and friends that they can call and hang out with. Not me though! I just dont know how to make myself happy without having any friends! I mean I tell myself that this will pass over and one day everything wil get a lil bit better. And whats even worse is that I try to get A boyfriend but they dont like me and they use me then call me a whore and plus they always want another girl. They say I'm hott and I'm sweet and skinny but I dont feel that way anymore. Is this a sucky age or did I make my life this way? Cause I try to make things better and I try to make guys like me and notice me but that never works cause they always have a reason as to why they cant have a relationship with me! I cant take it anymore. And I've talked to everyone and they all tell me the same damn thing. Nothing works because at the end of the day I still have no friends and no boyfriend! I mean I'm nice! I'm not a bitch and I'm not that ugly. And everyone tells me I'm not mature enough to have a boyfriend but when I see everyone else thats not but like 1 year older than me have a boyfriend I cry because I feel like an outcast or like I dont belong in this world. Thats why I want to kill myself sometimes because what am I living for? Not myself because I suck at life. I try to play the game of life but it doesnt work ! does anyone know how to deal with my problem?
Why do your friends hate you? Dude, I have no friends and I'm not that bad off. Friends are overrated sometimes. If you see how bad people really are and how much they suck that may help. You can always hang out with your family and close family. Pets?

Being one year older sometimes does matter, especially at the ages 12-15. Where are you making these boyfriends? At your school? You can join clubs and have hobbies outside of school and busy yourself with that stuff and be preoccupied with that instead of thinking about boys. In the end there will probably be heartbreak. Are you sure you can't wait it out? Relationships take a lot of work and is it that important at this time in your life? Why do you want a boyfriend?

Q: I can't dance. I look really weird when I do. I hae to go to my friends quince and everyone is going to be dancing for like 4 hours. What do I do?
One piece of advice my friend gave me is to rotate your hips in a motion that would spell out your name. Watch everyone else. Basically move back and forth, side to side. Or better yet, dance with a friend, take their hands in yours and just move your arms up and down and no one will notice because they will be too busy dancing to notice.

Q: is there anyway to look up someones screen name? i met a guy at summer camp and i like him. i asked him if he had a myspace, he said no. but i forgot to ask him his sn. so is there anyway to look up someones sn?


thnx in advanced (i'll rate for any help !!!)
Maybe you know his friends and their myspaces and you can ask them?

Q: i think that i have like mental issues.
right now i think that i am really a retarted person who is living in the perspective of a normal one.
ahhhhh whats wrong with me!?
what should i do about it?
i need help!!!!!!!!!!!
I go through the same thing too. If you can explain more, maybe we can help?

Q: Hey! I was wondering, what are some really cute and flirty perfumes? Also, can you tell me where i can find them. Prices arent an issue, as long as its under $100.
There was a similar question:

"sorry that this is so random.
but what is a really cute and flirty perfume?
and where can i get it?"

Here is my answer to that one:

In the mall they sell all sorts of perfumes like in Macy's and random counters throughout the mall.

Perfumes, I think, smell different on every person (hormones react to chemicals differently, read more here: http://www.madsci.org/posts/archives/2001-11/1006805763.Gb.r.html) so you should try it out before you buy it. It depends on what kind of scent you're looking for.. flowery, citrusy.. Britney Spears's and Sarah Jessica Parker's perfumes are delicious.

My personal favorites are ones from Victoria's Secret and Moschino's I Love Love.

Q: I really don't know what to do. There is this new school that opened up and has really high scores like the teachers teach better curiculum. My school is like on the bottom list and I barely learned anything. I want to go to the new school, but to leave all my friends and everything behind is just so sad. I know I can see them but just the whole school. And I also really like this guy and I would probably never see him again. Please help!
That happened to me too! (the school thing)
I don't know how it happened but I adapted somehow. Your grammar and spelling is almost perfect, so you sound intelligent. I think you can handle it. You never know with these kinds of things. Just because a school has higher schools does not necessarily mean you will fail or something. You can always get help from teachers, tutors, parents, guidance counselors, and new friends if you are ever having trouble. What grade are you going into?

As for the guy, what is your relationship with him? You should tell him. Long distance relationships can work. Do you have a Myspace or Facebook? It's one way to keep in touch in addition to e-mail and old-school letters or just plain visiting if you don't move too far away.

Q: sorry that this is so random.
but what is a really cute and flirty perfume?
and where can i get it?
In the mall they sell all sorts of perfumes like in Macy's and random counters throughout the mall.

Perfumes, I think, smell different on every person (hormones react to chemicals differently, read more here: http://www.madsci.org/posts/archives/2001-11/1006805763.Gb.r.html) so you should try it out before you buy it. It depends on what kind of scent you're looking for.. flowery, citrusy.. Britney Spears's and Sarah Jessica Parker's perfumes are delicious.

My personal favorites are ones from Victoria's Secret and Moschino's I Love Love.

Q: sorry if its the wrong category

how can you get rid of split ends?
how can you prevent them?

THANKS
=]
You should trim your ends every month or so, for 1 or 2 inches.

"Leave-in conditioners and hair oils only temporarily stick them back together, too. None are permanent repairers, for nothing can repair split ends."

Cause of split ends:

• Excessive hair coloring

• Vigorous brushing

• Perming solutions

• Hair Straightening

• Heat during hairstyling work

• Not trimming your hair regularly

• Sleeping with your hair in a ponytail

• Too much sun

• Poor health

To prevent split ends:

The best treatment is to cut off the split end. Get a trim every six weeks.

Regular trims will keep the ends neat and help prevent them from splitting further.

You can prevent split ends by keeping your hair hydrated and healthy.

• Don't brush your hair too often or too extensively.

• Don't brush wet hair.

• Use brushes and combs with smooth, flexible, wide-spaced teeth.

• Avoid nylon bristles.

• Condition after shampooing, and use a deep conditioner once a month.

• Apply conditioner only on the tips after you dry your hair.

• Avoid prolonged exposure to the sun and wind.

• Wear a hat to minimize sun damage.

• Use shampoo rich in ceramides.

• Rub olive oil into the ends of hair 2-3 times per week. Leave the oil overnight and wash out in the morning.

This should be enough to eliminate your split ends.

Sources:

http://www.hair-styles-secrets-revealed.com/split%20ends.htm
http://ca.essortment.com/splitendshair_rili.htm

Q: Okay. I kind of need a quick reply, please...

My best friend went out with a boy (we'll call him Shawn) for 7 months. She was head over heels for him. But then while she was on vacation he called and broke up with her through a VOICE MAIL.

Well, her best friend (we'll call him Mike) was there for her through it all. Now, being a bystander in this, I could tell mike had feelings for her. And recently he asked her out. Mike and Shawn were best friends...and as soon as shawn found out he began calling my friend wanting her back. It's been 4 months since they broke up, and I think he just doesnt want her with Mike...what should she do?
I think he's just jealous, like it's a competition with his best friend. You said that as soon as he found out he wanted her back. He broke up with her over voicemail? That sounds heartless and gutless to me. I don't think she should get back together with this Shawn person because it only sounds like he's trying to not let anyone else be with her and he will probably end up breaking up with her again after Mike backs off.

Q: Weird, I know, but does anyone know where I can find a place online that sells like Japanese style clothing for teens, but its in English and possibly shipped from the USA? Even if it's on the style, it's fine with me, or any other country's styles- I love unique looks.. thanks!
What about shopping online?

http://www.asiajam.com/

Check out this livejournal community:
http://community.livejournal.com/fruits/

Here:
http://community.livejournal.com/fruits/tag/shopping+-+us+-+california

I don't know where you live, but if you live in New York there are a ton of places. Check out the Livejournal communities. You can post a shopping question too!

Q: I want this one Japanese movie that has English subtitles. Problem is NO ONE has it. If you could name stores or websites that carry the movie, Battle Royale. Please help me out. I will rate high.
Dude, definitely get a subscription to Netflix! AWESOME. That's how I rented a copy of Battle Royale.

Q: where can i find colorful clothes (or japanese street fashion sort of style) at without the stores name written all over it? :\ i live in CA,USA.
No name-brands, right? I dislike having the store/company's names on my clothes too.

What about shopping online?

http://www.asiajam.com/

Check out this livejournal community:
http://community.livejournal.com/fruits/

Here:
http://community.livejournal.com/fruits/tag/shopping+-+us+-+california

Q: Does anyone know any Asian (Indian/Chinese/Korean/Japanese/Spanish/French/German/etc) punk musicians?
Japanese punk musicians:

Asian Kung-Fu Generation*
Ellegarden
GO!GO!7188 or go go nana ichi hachi hachi
5.6.7.8.'s* (Their music is on the Kill Bill soundtrack)
Shonen Knife
Pillows
Thee Michelle Gun Elephant

For ska, there is Judy and Mary* (Try the "Cheese Pizza" song). Loveholic is another wonderful band but they are not punk, just Korean pop rock more like. Cibo Matto is like indie rock and so is Gazette. Dir en Grey is like hard rock and metal. I don't like them that much but others might.

Ugh! I wish I knew other punk musicians! I don't know where to search. You can also try Ask Yahoo! for more help.

* = (AWESOME)

This site may help some too:
http://www.punknews.org/countries
http://www.google.com/search?q=j-punk&hl=en

Q: HI, im just wondering if anyone could help me find any of those cute japanese online diary things that people have? Ive searched everywhere and i cant find any.....
Thank you very much!! xx
Whoah this question was asked a long time ago but I know how to help!

Visit:

http://jace.scabpicker.net/pdiary.htm

The PentaDiary is the best! I've been using it since forever. I love the password lock on it. :) Enjoy~

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