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My best friend in the world needs help and I dont know what
Okay. I kind of need a quick reply, please...
My best friend went out with a boy (we'll call him Shawn) for 7 months. She was head over heels for him. But then while she was on vacation he called and broke up with her through a VOICE MAIL.
Well, her best friend (we'll call him Mike) was there for her through it all. Now, being a bystander in this, I could tell mike had feelings for her. And recently he asked her out. Mike and Shawn were best friends...and as soon as shawn found out he began calling my friend wanting her back. It's been 4 months since they broke up, and I think he just doesnt want her with Mike...what should she do?
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if he only started asking her out right after he found out that mike was interested in her, it is almost 100% likely that he is doing it purely because he doesnt want mike to be with her. personally, i suggest that your friend does not go out with shawn again, because he is probably just using her. and he broke up with her over voicemail?!?!? who would want to date a guy like that? your friend deserves better.
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the fact that shawn broke up with her through voicemail, says alot about him. he seems like a coward, and doesnt care about her feelings. plus i also think he only wants her back because his best friend is dating her (im assuming he is, you didnt specify).
but this mike kid sounds like a keeper. he was there for her when she needed him, and seems to care about how she feels alot. and also, dating his bestfriends ex, is kind of against the guy code, so that means he'll bend the rules for her.
i think mike is definaly the better choice.
and she and mike should both talk to shawn and tell him that she doesnt like him.
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okay recently, i was in almost the same situation, and honestly right now i'm just sitting it out, not being with anyone. because i couldn't bare hurting ethier one of them. your friend needs to figure out who she's happier with, and if it's the first guy, she needs to understand he might nt be as trust worthy as the other guy, he hurt her once, and it could happen again. she needs to be with the guy that makes her happy, don't play games with their heads. just pick one and stay with that, and if she can't, she should maybe find a new boy. there's a lot of them out theree.
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Well she should follow her heart. Tell her to write down pro's and con's for each guy.
But if you want to know what I would do if I where her, then read this:She should go out with Mike. Shawn broke her heart and he doesn't deserve a second chance UNLESS she still has feelings for him. After all what he did wasn't the worst thing in the world but it's still not excusable.
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ok well,
there is no way she should go back out with him if he treated her like that there is no need for him back.. he had his chance and he lost it.. so.. his loss not hers
Forget about him and move on
Dont fell bad we all have to do it!
.:Much Love:.
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i totally know the type of guy... ive dated them. the reality is that he probably doesnt respect her or any other girl, i mean he did break up with her through a VOICE MAIL. shawn doesnt care about her, hes just realizing now that his best friend wants her that maybe she was a good girl that he should have kept around. she deserves better than that. Mike was there for her through all of it and if she likes him, thats who she should be with. This other jerk is obviously just possessive. they look at girls as a challenge and not actual people that they could have a relationship with. please tell her not to go running back to shawn for me, because that would just be feeding to the egotystical ways of dumb guys. she needs to go for the one that will treat her right.
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I think he's just jealous, like it's a competition with his best friend. You said that as soon as he found out he wanted her back. He broke up with her over voicemail? That sounds heartless and gutless to me. I don't think she should get back together with this Shawn person because it only sounds like he's trying to not let anyone else be with her and he will probably end up breaking up with her again after Mike backs off.
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Whatever she does is her choice- not some kid that was so shallow as to break up with her over the phone- Scratch that! Over VOICEMAIL!
If she wants to go out with Mike, she should. She doesn't have to listen to what Shawn says.
--Jack
(15/m)
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