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Sortof a love triangle going on...need help!
15/M
Well, on one hand, there's my ex who I still love alot, and she's just everything I could ever want. She knows I still love her and she loves me still, too. Only problem is that she isn't sure that she wants a relationship right now.
On the other hand, there's this girl I met through a mutual friend and we clicked as soon as we met. We both love each other [Yeah, actual love, not just liking] and we're perfect for each other. Problem here is that she lives in Ohio and I live in New York. Now, we both hate long distance relationships so that's not an option.
I really love both of these girls, but there's obstacles in the way of both. What should I do?
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think about the qualities of each and which would suit you more. then you kind of have to be careful about dating one of them because if you love them both, you can't really date one, ya know? just doesn't seem fair. try to just sort out your feelings, be logical, and decide what you would and wouldn't be comfortable with. try talking to each one separately, leaving the other completely out of the conversation.
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ha, seems one of my really really close friends has the same exact situation, and this may seem biased but, if you hate long distance relationships, and you're only 15, in new york, you don't have a license, are you sure that's gonna work for you? my friend says he likes to hold the person he loves, you'd rarely get that chance, i also know, in my friends case, the ex really does love him. and i think you should try to really talk about it with her, leave the ohio girl totally out of the conversation, talk only about you two, and what you'd be willing to do to make everything work once and for all. don't talk about the other girl to her, it'll make her feel bad, and like she doesn't have a chance, so when infact, you do have this talk she won't tell you how she feels because she'll think you don't want to be with her, like she's a back up plan because you couldn't be with the girl you really want to be with.
hope i helped. :]]
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Well, First lets take a look at your Ex. Why did you two break up? Are you both willing to give it another chance? You should talk to her one on one and figure out if shes serious about this or not. Now for the other one, the long distance girl, if you want try someone knew, see if she's worth the distance, why do you love her? is she only attractive? whats different about her then the ex? If you truley love her, could you make the long distance relationship work? These are questions you need to answer for youself and figure this out on your own. Just follow your heart, and good luck :)
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Well, starting with the girl in Ohio-- If a long distance relationship is out of the question, there's really not much you can do, right? I'm being blunt here. Unless you're moving to Ohio or she's moving to New York, which I doubt since you're 15, it's impossible to have a relationship since you've ruled that out. It would be great to continue your friendship though, so unless you hate long-distance friendships, go for that!
Now for your ex-- you love her and she loves you. The only reason you're not together is since she doesn't want a relationship. But she's not going to be like that forever.. so wait around until she's ready. It's worth it in the end, right? Best of luck. Hope it works out :)
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I cant really tell you what too do, but i would go with the one that lives near you. You both love eachother and it sounds like you guys could make that work. Take this into consideration but dont chose that because thats what i said.
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