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I can't make myself happy, can I ?
Wow! Thanks for even looking at this. Well basically my life is in the crapper right now. In other words that are more understandable It SUCKS! Everyone is always telling me the same things. You are only 14 and everyone goes through it around your age or my fav! " Your life is not that bad" But yes it is though! My friends dont like me anymore and I dont have a boyfriend! Yes! I sound pathetic as hell but I am pathetic. I mean why does life have to be so damn hard. What made it this hard? Was it my fault? I sit in my room all day watching tv and I just cry because it sux! Everyone else has a boyfriend and friends that they can call and hang out with. Not me though! I just dont know how to make myself happy without having any friends! I mean I tell myself that this will pass over and one day everything wil get a lil bit better. And whats even worse is that I try to get A boyfriend but they dont like me and they use me then call me a whore and plus they always want another girl. They say I'm hott and I'm sweet and skinny but I dont feel that way anymore. Is this a sucky age or did I make my life this way? Cause I try to make things better and I try to make guys like me and notice me but that never works cause they always have a reason as to why they cant have a relationship with me! I cant take it anymore. And I've talked to everyone and they all tell me the same damn thing. Nothing works because at the end of the day I still have no friends and no boyfriend! I mean I'm nice! I'm not a bitch and I'm not that ugly. And everyone tells me I'm not mature enough to have a boyfriend but when I see everyone else thats not but like 1 year older than me have a boyfriend I cry because I feel like an outcast or like I dont belong in this world. Thats why I want to kill myself sometimes because what am I living for? Not myself because I suck at life. I try to play the game of life but it doesnt work ! does anyone know how to deal with my problem?
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Well, I went through something preeeeetty close to that + having the people who weren`t my friends anymore start rumors about me + parents almost getting a divorce.
Those 'friends' who don`t like you anymore ... they`re immature. They`re just looking for a reason to start crap. If someone doesn`t like you -- too bad -- it`s their loss. Just try & find new friends, but yeah, that`s hard at first. If that`s difficult, do you have any cousins? Visit them & let them introduce you to their friends. Just forget about those other people, please. I did that & I`m so much more happier after I realized how immature & mean they really were to me after I did NOTHING to them.
Set time aside each day to go for a walk. If it`s too hot during the middle of the day, get up early or walk in the afternoon. Get a pet -- for some crazy reason, they help. Take something called Omega 3, 6, & 9 ... it contains this fish oil stuff, which does this stuff (haha, I forgot)& it helps keep you happy. Drink 6-8 glasses of water a day, that keeps you happy too. Also, exerciseee! It helps reduces stress ALOT & it helps take your mind off of things. Yeahh, I read all that in some book.
Take a break from guys for a while. Most of the time, they just bring you down cause half of the time, ya`ll aren`t gonna be together forever. You don`t need a guy to make you happy, TRUST ME.
I don`t have one & I`m smiling right now. =]
Good luck!
If you need anything, just me leave a message in my inbox & I`ll help you.
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you need to not focus on guys, when you do that, they're all over you, believe me, i've been there. and as for friends, you need to be yourself around new people, there has to be someone who'll be there for you, my best friend and i stopped talking about 2 years ago, and it killed me, i didn't know what to do with myself, but i realized, there are more people in the world, i don't know what your friends don't like you anymore, but if that's the case, they're not your friends. take some time to sort things out, hang out with new people, and with that, will come boys, don't be so hard on yourself, you'll get it.
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well, it is always good to make new friends. try not to focus on finding a boyfriend so much as finding friends for now. there is a guy out there for you, and when the time is right he will show up. as for friends, if you are friendly and outgoing, you should have no problem making friends. if youve tried making friends at your school and cant, go somewhere else. join a club or sports team that isnt run at your school. join a dance class or an art class. find what you love to do. when youre doing what you love you are happy. thats just how it works. if you love to swim, then do that as often as possible. whatever you love, do it often and you will naturally be happier. just cuz you dont have any friends right now doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you. it means you need to go find better friends who will appreciate you. it could just be a phase you are going through, or maybe you have a good reason to be upset. whatever it is, as hard as this is to believe, IT WILL PASS. it always does. there are people out there who will value you, and there is a guy out there that is meant to be with you. you have value, and the world needs you, for whatever you may do. EVERYONE HAS A PURPOSE, INCLUDING YOU. you are here for a reason. dont throw that opportunity away. YOU ARE WORTH IT. if you ever need someone to talk to, email me. x_viciousxpunk_x@yahoo.com
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Why do your friends hate you? Dude, I have no friends and I'm not that bad off. Friends are overrated sometimes. If you see how bad people really are and how much they suck that may help. You can always hang out with your family and close family. Pets?
Being one year older sometimes does matter, especially at the ages 12-15. Where are you making these boyfriends? At your school? You can join clubs and have hobbies outside of school and busy yourself with that stuff and be preoccupied with that instead of thinking about boys. In the end there will probably be heartbreak. Are you sure you can't wait it out? Relationships take a lot of work and is it that important at this time in your life? Why do you want a boyfriend?
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