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To the parents of teenage kids out there(meaning 13,14,15 year olds), you know your kids are smoking, popping, doing drugs and partying. Do you care? Do you try to stop them? , i'm really curious, becuase now-a-days it seems like everyone's doing it, and there parents dont even care.

I'm not a parent but I do know that most parents care but just don't know. My parents really care... my mom doesn't even want me to have half of my dad's beer inside the house with just them and both would never in a million years approve or overlook me doing drugs. they don't know anything i've ever done...i learned from it and never doing any of that stuff again so they'll never find out. a lot of people just talk all big saying that their parents don't care but they do... they probably don't know either.

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okay so tonight i went out with a guy that i know pretty well. we both like each other and we have french kissed once as friends. so this was kind of our second date i guess. anyway we were at a friends house with a few people. they said if we wanted to chill alone there was a guest room in the house so we both knew why we were going in there. so we of course started to make out and then we got under the covers and he took his shirt off and then i took off my bra etc. so i took my jeans off so i was completely naked then. he was too and he was saying how far have you gone and i said i've given a guy a hand job sorta before. and he said hes kinda at the same experience level as me. and then he said i mean would you give head i mean you dont have to and i said i wasn't ready yet. and of course i try to give him a hand job and he says it would be easier if my hand was wet so i did. and he said you know it might be easier if you wet it with you mouth because my mouth was so dry for some reason. so i did and then it still didnt work so we both went into the bathroom butt naked and i gave him a hand job. and then he goes pee and he says so do you want to go back outside. and i said yeah. i just feel so violated but i feel like it is my fault. and i feel like such as ho/slut.

I know how you feel but just know that it happens to the best of us and next time you'll know what to do. Don't feel like a slut... you're fine as long as you don't do it all the time. if you need any more reassurance, lemme know.

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Can your body get rid of strep throat naturally, without antibiotics?

I'm [retty sure it only gets worse... like rheumatic (?) fever. my friend tried that and they just found out she has arthritis from it so get the antibiotics if you can.

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Doesn't everyone tell you it's incredible stupid, dumb, and unhealthy to do drugs like weed and cocaine, etc? Then why on an ADVICE site does it have questions asking about drugs. No, not like educational things about them, like "Oh when i smoked weed I threw up, is this normal?". I was expecting every answer to be like "You shouldn't have smoked weed in this first place, these are drugs and they are unhealthy." But no the answers were more like encouraging the people to try it again and see what happens? What the heck? Is it ok to do drugs now?

i guess it's just me but I don't really think experimenting with weed a couple times is horrible. I don't encourage it, but I don't tell people it's badbadbad and they will die if they do it. other things like coke and stuff i do completely and totally discourage.

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do you guys prefer myspace or facebook better. I have a myspace, but I always hear people talking about facebook, but i think its stupid to be addicted to 2 websites you know (not litterally addicted, but have to login everyday)

so my question is do you guys prefer myspace or facebook? (I'd appreciate it if people tried both) and why do you prefer myspace or facebook?

I have both... I enjoy both. I guess I'll make a comparison chart?

Myspace +/-
30 some pics plus all the ones you put in with html.
colorful.
top friends.
bulletins.
picture comments.
hackers.
viruses.
music.
messages.
bands can be friends.

Facebook +/-
groups.
organized by school/where you live.
safer.
no color.
unlimited pictures.
comments.
can't leave comments with pictures.
you can see who is in a relationship with who.
no top friends.
notes.
can say how you know the person.
messages.

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when people write 'yew' is that like 'you' or is it like 'yoooohooooo!!'

sorry, but whats it mean?

I think it's "you". Maybe you should ask them and make them feel dumb for typing like that.

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pleaseeee give a good- like really good answer. Okay this might be long but please. So, I need advice on a couple things, one of which is like at school, people call me a lezbo- WHICH I AM TOTALLY NOT. Like people (even popular) say it sometimes to my face, behind my back, or like say something kinda like "So make out with any hot girls lately" or something like "Yeah, you would look really good with all your hair chopped off- like a dyke", pretty much something like that in a really wise ass way. And I know from reading this you probably think I'm a total nerd, but I'm actually average. People are usually nice to my face but still, it really bugs me thats everyone once in a while people I don't even know, or do, talk about me and say stuff that they don't even know is true. I really would like for someone to help me GET OVER THIS and GET THIS TO STOP. It started last year so I really really want this to stop. I mean I would rather be known as a slut then a lezbo (no offense to anyone). I know I shouldn't care, but it's not something you can really not care about. I don't know maybe its because I never had a boyfriend (not like i don't want one, but that anyone who ever asks me out I don't want to go out with because either i don't know them, or they are one of my best friends) PLEASE! I really need advice, I get so upset about it. One more is, I really need help making new friends. Like I have about only three friends that I actually hang out with outside of school and act like myself around and then the other people are either from other towns or we only hang out once. I have like friends in school, but not the kind that you want to talk to on the computer or call or hang out with. I know its kind of pathetic, but I really do need to make new friends. I'm kid of shy at school and I know if I just acted like how I do around my normal friends (funny and like loud and around guys a total flirt) that I most likely could be in with the "popular kids". ha. yeah so all I want to do is have those rumors stop, and make a WHOLE new bunch of friends. One of my best friends,Casey, ALWAYS hangs out with me and kinda sorta follows me. Im pretty much her only friend because she NEVER talks in school. I really need to kinda of pull away from here because I'm spending all my time with her and not focusing on meeting new people&makin new friends.
Please help.!!!!

I've never been in this kind of situation before so I'm not really sure what to say. I think i would just not say anything when they call you a lezbo so it's not like funny to see you get all worked up about it. show them that you are boy crazy.. tell them who you like and you might even get them so you'll have the bf thing worked out.
new friends.. talk to people with similar interests and maybe ask them what lunch they have or if they want to go see a movie sometime. if there's some kind of big school event, ask to go in a group with someone. don't over include yourself but make yourself a part of it. when you're not with casey, make new people but don't blow her off completely.

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hey...i really wasnt sure if i should even ask this on advicenators but i seriously need advice and when i was searching columnists to ask, i saw yours and it said to ask you ANYTHING cause youve seen it all so...

okay well...this is probly so weird but...how do you give a blowjob/handjob

i guess just both in one...just how to work with a guy and give him a blowjob/handjob and stuff

like what should i do...i know exactly what they are and sorta like how to do it...but what should i do from the beginning to end...how should i start, continue, and finish to make it great for him?

sorry if this is totally weird!

Well I'm not sure how I'm allowed answering this but I can give you a link to help you
www.sex-project.com
just look around.. they have all kinds of resources.
here's some answers from a while back when advicenators could actually answer this:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=348241
if you need anything else, just let me know.

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I was wondering why you're not aloud to just take your medicine and that you always need to eat food before you take your medicine? Like if it's really serious, you don't have time to eat food, you gotta eat your medicine as soon as possible and hope it's working!

some medicines will hurt your stomach and other organs if you don't eat anything. some will make your stomach hurt so yeah, eat something! i know it usually sucks but its for your own good.

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Is there a very helpful site that could give me words that sound really effective with a New York accent? Such as, instead of mustard-mustid!! I need the accent for an audition.

what are you auditioning for? if it's a musical, listen to the whole cd and you should pick it up. if its a play try getting anything goes or guys and dolls on cd. let me know if you need anything else... it took me a while to pick it up so i might be able to help ya!

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16/f

My boyfriend is always doing really cute things, like showing up at my house at 2 a.m. just to tell me he loves me and to give me flowers.

PROBLEM #1:
He does things like this ALL the time and I want to do some things for him in return, but I have no idea what to do!!

PROBLEM #2:
I'm not as creative as he is.

I would love it if anyone could give me a list of really sweet/cute ideas! :) or maybe websites?!

Thank you so much!

I have some cute things that i just found in the lateset issue of 17. if you on't have those already, i'll type 'em out for you - jus lemme know.

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Ok well Im 13 & I have never kissed a guy. I really want my first kiss because I just want to know what its like. I had my chance to kiss a guy before because when I was going out with my boyfriend(i dumped him a couple days ago) he asked me for a kiss but I said no because there were to many people around.

Im not say that im ugly or a geek or something, because I have had plenty of boyfriends, we just have never been at the right place at the right time ya know?

But anyway is it weird that im 13 & I havent had my first kiss yet?

No, it's not weird. I was 15 and it was REALLY worth the wait. it was perfect so don't rush it!

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i am a fifteen year old female. the boy i have been making out with recently wants to step up our relationship. he wants to finger me which i am totally ready for and excited for. the only concern is that i have a lot of pubic hair, so i wonder if he will be grossed out. should i shave it for him? Thanks.

i would sugest shaving most of it but leave a strip of trimmed hair around the actual area. do whatever YOU like.

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Just out of curiosity,what kind of music do all of you here on Advicenators listen to.Also,why do you enjoy listening to it?

My reason for asking is because it seems like music is steadily going down the drain,and people have lost a sense of what good music actually is.

classic rock --powerful. creative.
rap -- wakes me up & gets me pumped
musicals -- something to sing to.

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Ok well i'm a 14/f and i've never been asked out by a guy before...
I know that i'm only 14 and shouldn't be worrying about this but my question here is "what if A guy asks me out? How should I react?"
I'm a shy person and there was one time in 5th grade when a guy said he liked me, but he was more on the popular side... soo i kinda liked him too and said yeah, i like you too. Then he started laughing and ran towards his friends, pointing at me and saying "she fell for it!!"

to make this shorter- the next time a guy asks me out... how can I be sure its a joke, or for real?? and how should i respond to both a joke and if its real? since i'm really shy.

THANX!

oh that's horrible! i hate 5th grade boys!
the way to know is if you guys talk like before. usually before people go out, they get to know each other and talk all the time before the guy asks the girl out. you'll usually just know. if its a joke just play it off like yeah, uhm, never. if its for real say sure or yes.

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I dont want to have sex until im married. Do guys respect that or not?

they do. if they don't, they're not worth it.

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is yahoo jukebox free?

yes it is.

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i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care?

most don't care. if you don't want to have an issue with it, skip that base.

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is it normal and stuff nowadays for teens to drink and do drugs...
ages starting at 13-14?

yeah it pretty much is but it doesn't mean that it's right or something you should do.

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Well my boyfriend tried to finger me, but it hurt it was kind of a discomfortable hurt. I asked him to stop and he did, then we tried it another time and it hurt but not as bad. Is it normal for it to hurt? One of my friends asked me if I bled but I told my friend that I told him to stop before he went in to far because it hurt. Are u suppose to bleed? thanks!!

yes it's normal if he popped you cherry. if he was just scraping you with his nails, then no. make sure you're wet before he does it. relax your body to get it in easier. ask him to only used one finger, not any more for now. make sure he's getting it in at the right angle too..
if it's not feeling good, don't do it. have him rub your clit instead.

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