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I'm going into the 9th grade this year. I'm looking forward to it, except for one part.. I have to ride the bus. I rode it in the 7th grade & part of the 8th grade. A bunch of the guys on the bus are total jerks. They harassed me & my friend & one guy even grabbed my friend's butt! And the bus driver doesn't give a crap about it. I dreaded going to school if I had to ride the bus that day. What can I do to prevent myself from riding the bus? I don't wanna be a victim of harassment anymore.

1.) Walk
2.) Someone who can drive can take you
3.) A friend's parent/sibling
4.) Bike

Hope that helps and you don't have to take the bus with those stupid boys lol. =P

xoxo Kourtney

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I have a problem with conflicts, well you could say that. And whenever I feel really bad I cut..... It's hard for me to stop, because it brings out anger, I don't really know what to do, and I need help.

What I do is I go in my room and listen to music. That always helps. Whatever makes you happy do that, like if music or talking on the phone makes you happy, do that. Don't cut yourself, try using a rubberband and snapping it whenever you feel the need to cut yourself. And if you have problems, you should go to someone you feel comfortable with and trust. Like a family member, a close friend, or a best friend. Or even one of the advice column people. I hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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I think im addicted to cutting.... and i like it but i want to stop.... how do i stop? (My parents know and im not talking to a damn physcologist)
~Kele~

I for one haven't ever cut, but I know people who have. So what I would do, is put a rubberband around your wrist and whenever you feel like cutting, snap it. Maybe that'll help you stop, and try not to think of things all the time that would make you want to cut. Go out and have fun! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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ive got 3 yrs left @ school nd i wna make it go as quick as possible, how can i deal w/ name calling?

MAN! I hate when people tease other people. Well school is suppose to be fun, so when they start to do that, just ignore them. Don't tell them off or anything because then they'll continue to tease you, thats what they want is for you to yell at them. All you can do is walk away and ignore them because after awhile they'll get the hint you dont care anymore! And you know what look on the bright side when school is done, you'll be doing something with your life, they won't be because all they did throughout high school was make fun of people!

xoxo Kourtney =P

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well i am going to see this guy i havent seen in awhile and when i meet him i want him to say wow u have lost weight!! lol so i need help starting a diet like i need excersize's and lol yeah i just need help!!

1.) Swim
2.) Run
3.) Biking
4.) Crunches
5.) Walking
6.) Eating healthier
7.) Drink water and not so much soda

Hope that helps! Good Luck!

xoxo Kourtney =P

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What do u think makes a Girl Hott??

I don't check out girls like that (only guys ;) lol) so I'll try my best lol. I guess by the way she takes care of herself. Some girls get way prettier if they know how to put their makeup on, or how to do there hair, or even they're fashion makes them pretty. No one can just get hot, they just are like that I guess. IDK how else to answer that. Hope that atleast helped!!! =)

xoxo Kourtney =D

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there this guy who really likes me. he follows me home and offers me rides home and gives me gifts for no reason. he ask me out and i said no. now he likes a girl who disses him. so now he is even worse. what should i do?

Even though you don't like him like that tell him the girl that he likes disses him. And make sure he knows you guys are JUST friends lol so he doesn't think you're getting jealous or something. Just be like "I like you as a friend, nothing more so its nothing about jealousy, but that girl you like, I don't think you should like her because she disses you" Tell him something like that and be nice about it. I hope that helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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Does anyone know what the solute thing is all about?? why do ppl do them?? i dont get it

A salute is when people hold up a sign saying they're name and they're username. Because some people have fakers who try to be like them and take there photos. So the real people make salutes because it proves to people they are real and not fake.

xoxo Kourtney

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Does anyone else have flashbacks about things they regretted doing or things other people did that unnerved you? I have never done LSD or anything like that. I know they aren't real. It doesn't keep me from doing things, but it makes me shrug sometimes in reaction to it.

Yea, I have them sometimes. I just get upset for awhile but just shrug it off like you do. Because there is nothing you can do about it because its the past and you can't keep living on your past. But I'm sure other people have them too, you're not the only one don't worry lol!

xoxo Kourtney =D

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My family expects me to be exactly like my cousin, "Sarah". Sarah's one of those preppy, popular girls, & I'm not even close to that. I have a few close friends & I'm more laid-back. Just because we look alike (we look like sisters), everyone expects us to act alike. I hate being compared to Sarah all the time & being expected to be like her. I don't want to be her shadow. How can I handle this?

Try to sit your family down and telling them you dont want to be someone that you're not. That you're your ownself and you like the way you are. They should understand. But you have to be serious and look them straight in the eyes when you're telling them that because then they know you're being serious. And just be like "I'm sorry I'm not Sarah, but I'm not like that, I don't dress like that, I'm my ownself and I'm happy with it" Just tell them stuff like that and how you feel. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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When I go out with one of my friends, she always attracts all the attention, shes really gorgeous. But it makes me feel weird, I know I'm not ugly... but when I'm standing next to her I feel that way. She's my best friend and theres really not much I can say to her, she can't help it that she's so pretty! What can I do to make myself more confident?

Some people feel that way. You know you're gorgeous and so does everyone else. For all we know you're friend may feel the samething as you. And you may not know it but you may attract all the attention too! You know how some people are oblivious when people like them? Well maybe you just dont see it that guys are looking at you. You just dont let it bother you because I'm sure guys check you out ALL the time. You just can't be so hard on yourself. And don't pay attention to the guys that are looking at your friend because thats whats making you think no one is looking at you. I hope this helps you!! If not, just post back and I'll be glad to try to help you again! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i'm really shy, and theres a guy i really like. we talk and stuff, but how can i get him to notice me without telling him i like him?

Aww its okay if you're shy usually guys like it when girls are shy. Talk to him more and be open with him. Does he have your number or do you have his number. In a conversation casually say "So who do you like" or "call me sometime we can talk" dont be too shy. Its okay, it can't harm you! Trust me I use to be just like that lol. I know how hard it is. But just take a deep breath and you can do it! I know you can girl lol. But just get to know him and let him get to know you and talk to him a lot and stuff. If you guys talk more he'll bound to ask for your number or something. But you could always just say "call me sometime" I hope that helps. Post back if you need any more help. Good luck hun!!!

xoxo Kourtney =D

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ok ima be a freshman this year n im afraid i wont fit in!!! i was 1 of da most popular girl in middle skool but now its high skool!!! i have friends in h.s but i dunno im just afraid! like the reason i got to were i was, was bcuz of my ex-boyfriend..(the typical bad-ass,hot populat guy)well im afraid of losing everything i have right now cuz like ima be in LA, NY n puero rico for da rest of da summa n i wont be able to be with my friends n stuff.... wut should i be prepared for in h.s?

Well every High School is different. But in High School there are so many people there. You just have to be friendly and outgoing and make sure you talk to people. I was the same way as you, I was friends with the popular group but I'm not saying I was popular I was just friends with them and once I got to High School I didn't know what to expect. But there is nothing to worry about really. Its kinda like middle school, except its bigger and a lot more people lol. But in my school we really dont have a group we really consider the "popular group". But I would just say, talk to everyone, be friendly and outgoing. And just go from there. I mean you already have friends to begin with so you'll meet the people they meet and they'll meet the people you meet and you'll be meeting tons of new people. Hope I helped. Have fun in High School and all those trips you are taking!!! lol.

xoxo Kourtney

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Look no further, this is real.

I express the way I feel.

I am proud that I am me.

I am what I want to be.

I feel used; I feel alone.

I feel upset; I want to groan.

I feel hurt; I feel deprived.

I feel angry; I hate lies.

I feel hunger; I feel pain.

I feel like I have gone insane.

I feel happy, I’m all smiles.

At least for just a little while,

I put my true feelings away

To face another lonely day.

Thats really good! Because I'm sure many people feel like that, I can relate to most of these poems haha. But keep up the good work and keep posting them!

xoxo Kourtney

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me n my gf always have nothing to do any ideas where we could go together we r gettin bored of movies, bowlin, n playin pool wut else can we do together?

1.) Beach
2.) Nice Dinner
3.) Hang out at each others houses
4.) Swimming (Or go to swim parks)
5.) Parks
6.) Picnic
7.) Mall
8.) Amusement Parks
9.) Hang out with friends like going to a party or whatever
10.) Or you could do a variety of things like: Dinner, movie, swim, etc. put all of them together or something.

I hope that helps =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I am learning to play the drums... is there anyway i could play All my life by KC and JOJO on the drums?

Hey. I've looked EVERYWHERE! lol. I really tried lol. But try to go to this website, that might help you there are a whole bunch of sites there. I hope this helps good luck!!! And tell me if it helped. I hope it did!!!

http://www.findfreesheetmusic.com/pages/Drums/

xoxo Kourtney

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I wish I could change I wish I could
I wish I were not the person I am today
I wish I never did the things that I did
I wish I could just be with you right now
I wish You could see how hard I am trying
To be the perfect person you want me to be...

WOW! Thats a really good poem. I feel like that sometimes thats for sure! And I'm sure many people can! I just love reading poems lol. Keep up the good work and keep posting them!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I just wanted to let everyone know that I had been asking lots of questions about what I should do since I had broken up with my boyfriend and I wanted him back. Well, we are back together!! =) =) YaY!! Anyways, my mom doesnt understand anything about me and why I still love my boyfriend but you just cant stop loving someone so fast. She's making me go out of town for a WHOLE week and I wont be able to see or talk to him and she says its for the best when its definitly NOT! My boyfriend is so good to me and is a very nice person, why doesnt my mom like him? How can I get her to accept us and let me do what I want to do?! Thank you for answering! Sorry its so long!

Well first off Congratulations on getting back with your boyfriend, you seem very happy!!! =D When it comes to their daughters going out with a boy they seem to be very protective. She's just looking out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt. But you should try talking to your mom and tell her why you like him and stuff like that. And then you should introduce your boyfriend and your mom. So your mom can see what a great boyfriend he really is to you!!! I hope that helps! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay, i have this friend,and we're going into 7th grade,but she still acts like we're going into like,3rd! and i talked to her,but i dont know if she listened.the same problem is going on with my other friend.but worse!she plays with her food at lunch and everything!i'm the only normal one of the bunch,and i hate it,it holds me back from the "popular people" which, i know i could be apart of,if they wern't so weird,you know? help me fast so i can try it before summer ends!!!!!

I had the same problem. My friends they did things I didn't like to do, and so I became friends with people that did the samething that I liked doing. I was still friends with them though. But, I was friends with everyone, or atleast I tried to be. I wasnt just in one group, I just talked to everybody. I mean you can hang out with the "popular group" and still be friends with your other friends. You have to do things that you like to do. And tell your friends who are messing around that they need to stop acting like they're in 3rd grade (be nice about it though lol). Just try talking to them one more time about it. And tell them whats up. I hope that helps. Good luck. And have fun in Jr.High!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay, well me and my husband got married like almost a year ago. the problem is im ready to have kids, but he says he doesn't want to have kids..ever! i really love him, and we have so much in common and we always have fun together, but this is like the first thing we have disagreed on and i really don't no what to do. please help.

Try talking to him about it. Say well why don't you want to have kids? Ask him questions that you want to know. And just be like well we'll be good parents, I'll get books, we can go to classes, etc. And just tell him its been a year that you two have been married and you really think its time to have kids now. And tell him you think he would be a good father. And be like well if we have a son, you can teach him how to play sports, if you have a daughter she can be daddy's little girl. Just give him some stuff that'll make him smile and really make him think about it. I hope that helps. Good luck!!!

xoxo Kourtney =D

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