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My family expects me to be exactly like my cousin, "Sarah". Sarah's one of those preppy, popular girls, & I'm not even close to that. I have a few close friends & I'm more laid-back. Just because we look alike (we look like sisters), everyone expects us to act alike. I hate being compared to Sarah all the time & being expected to be like her. I don't want to be her shadow. How can I handle this?
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tell them your not Sarah you are you and if that dosent work then im really sry
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Tell your family how you feel and what you just said in your advice column. Tell them you want to be your own person not a complete clone of your cousin Sarah. They should understand, and if they don't tell them it's not what they want it's what you want...
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Talk to your mom or dad or someone who you are having this problem with. Tell them you are a very different person and you don't want to be exactly like your cousin. They probably love you a lot they will understand you.
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**Bridgette**
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Try to sit your family down and telling them you dont want to be someone that you're not. That you're your ownself and you like the way you are. They should understand. But you have to be serious and look them straight in the eyes when you're telling them that because then they know you're being serious. And just be like "I'm sorry I'm not Sarah, but I'm not like that, I don't dress like that, I'm my ownself and I'm happy with it" Just tell them stuff like that and how you feel. Good luck!
xoxo Kourtney
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Tell your family your not her and she's not you your not going to follow in somebody else's footsteps all the time you may do something that sarah does but not exact your going to follow in her footsteps a lil bit but take a detour tell them to love you for who you are for who they want you to be!-trix
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Talk to your family, tell them how you feel and just because you look like your cousin you do NOT want to be exactly like her, you want to be an individual and orginal. I'm sure your family, at least I hope your family understands that veeryone is different and like to act like a different person and not like somebody else
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I think that you should tell your family that even though you are not like your cousin you are special and unique and that you are going to be you. No one can change who you are and you shouldnt feel pressured to change yourself for your families approval. Just talk to them about it
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You should confront ur family about it and tell them that u are just U and not Sarah. and that just cuz u look like her doesnt mean u 2 have the same personality. That's all the advice I can give u for ur situation. Hope I helped n good luck
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Whenever someone says "Why don't you ________ like Sarah?" or something along those lines, shrug and tell them that you don't because you're NOT Sarah. Don't be too sarcastic, as much as you think they deserve it, and do be polite.
If it gets to be too much of an issue, no one's paying attention to the fact that you don't like being compared to her and you're having a very difficult time handling it, talk to your parents and explain that you are a very different person from Sarah. Maybe if they watch what they say and don't compare you, the rest of your family will stop.
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hi, try to relax...n make clear to who ever that u wanna B UR SELF!! when someone's expecting u to b like her tell them that just b/c we look a like or we cousins or w/e dat dont mean we have to act alike or b alike...or have the same god damn mind...tell them that u like being u...n thats it...xoxo effy
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I know this is hard but maybe doing something outstanding that sarah hasnt done! Like a sport or some other kind of activity. Show them that your, your own person and that you dont want to be like your cousin! I hope things work out and your family start to realize you wont be like your cousin. good luck
-holly-
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Tell them that even though yall look alike, yall are diffrent people and yall dont and wont act the same. Yall are to diffrent people and yall shouldnt act like each other. Show them that you have your own life and your not going to be like her. rate me plz*
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