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So, my friend wants me to hangout with her tomorrow (Friday). She says that we were gonna tell her parents that were going to the movies (lieing), and have some boy pick us up..idk what to do. She said were gonna drink. Were 15 years old..I just dont feel comforable. What should i do?



Don't go

Trust yourself, If this "friend" has to lie then don't you think she sounds like s bit if a bad influence? Also, not only can you get in trouble for underage drinking but you NEVER drink witjh people you do not know. Bad news written. On this one, Take a pass.

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Hi all,

The birthday for a good friend of mine is coming up and she's absolutely love to have a mason canning jar, with a straw.
On Etsy, it is listed as "Tall Canning Jar Tumbler with Straw"

The problem, however, is that although the price is fine, it is another 15 dollars shipping here to The Netherlands.

I was wondering if anybody knows an European or perhaps a UK site that sells similar products?
Any information would be much appreciated! :)



Never spend money on these types if things

They are so easy to make as I have made then before.

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Only people with fashion sense please!
What would go with a green lacy dress?
Eg: accessories, footwear, tights?

I'd wear it for college so it has to be a dressed down loook

Thanks anyone who answers



You could mix it up

Leggings, Flats with a large purse.

Drop earrings, metallic necklace

Boots, instead of flats

I petsonally would choose leggings over tights but that's just my taste. It's a bit hard to say exactly as I would need to see the dress.

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I am 11 and still sleep with my mom



You should be sleeping in your own room. You are 11 and going through changes. Sleeping with Mum at age 11 is not appropriate.

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I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for eight years now. He has always hung out with people who are not good for him, but to my knowledge he had never really done anything bad. Last year he showed up at my parents' house high on xanax and then did it again this year. Those are the only two times that I know of he has done it for sure but I have suspected that he has been doing it more. I just can't trust him anymore but I love him more than anything and I don't know what to do. His whole family had been addicted to drugs at some point which scares the hell out of me. Should I stay with him and learn to trust him, or is he probably still doing drugs?



If your boyfriend cannot break the habit over the course if 8 years then you should begin to realize you may be wasting your time.

Like the advicer said below, there pribably is a high chance he is on drugs. If someone has not helped themselves in 8 years... I would of moved on by now. Sounds like a deadbeat

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So my friend sent me a text saying "RIP to everyone that died in the military. Send this to 10 people and check your wallpaper. It really works! Ask your phone company!" So I sent it and I saw my wallpaper and it was slightly different. M


How'd they do this? I'm sort of scared... I had a polka dot wallpaper and after I sent the message it had lines in some of the polka dots. I went to the app where I got the wallpaper from and the lines were still there! How'd they do this? I'm a little scared...



You should bever respond to these types of text messages. ometimes a certain number will send you a "spam' and these messages are shown to hack phone information once they are clicked.


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21/F Sorta long but PLEASE read I need help!
So I was dating this guy for about 5 months (he's 19) and at the beginning it was really fun, I mean A LOT of fun like I've never had someone who I can just talk to about anything and everything and be able to laugh so much with. Anyway, once I told him I liked him it kind of went down hill from there.
He started showing his insecure side he would say things like "how can you like me I'm a loser and I'm not going anywhere with my life" and I just let it go because he really was such a nice guy and I loved talking to him.
So we became official about a month after talking and the neediness subsided, at least so I thought. We talked all the time I mean all the time if I didn't text him within 10 minutes he would text or call me again. I guess I didn't really think much of it until the "honeymoon" phase ended for me and I was like dude I DON'T have to be texting you alllll day leave something for the imagination. I guess it doesn't help that I'm very very independent. I LOVE long distance relationships because i love my own space. I can't stand having a guy all over me all the time.
Well I eventually broke up with him because I couldn't take the "Do you love me? What do you love most? Do you see us getting married? Come lay with me. Come cuddle with me. I need you. You are the only thing I have going for me. If it wasn't for you I don't know what I'd do"
I told him we just need to be friends (we tried but he kept asking me why I didn't want to be with him like everyday so I told him we can't be friends anymore) But now he won't stop texting/calling me. Am I a bad person because I really really really don't miss him like at all. I miss laughing and joking but that's it. What do I say to let him down gently and to get him to just back off already!!! Him doing this is not making me want him but just making me glad that I broke it off.



He was needy, he was insecure and little by little he was dragging you down. A guy that cannot trust his partner and respect that person should not be in a relationship.

If someone smothered the shit out of me, I would do the same the thing.

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20/f

I just had my very first gyn visit today. I am not sexually active but I had been having problems so I thought it would be a great idea to go. Even though my nurse and my doctor we very kind, the whole appointment hurt so bad that I cried and bleed a little and it was so so painful. My doctor said that he could barely get his finger in the vagina to feel for any issues, and he said he was trying to avoid to do any more extensive testing because it was so painful.

The problem is that me and my boyfriend (who are abstinent) are planning on getting married this summer. After the visit, I am just so worried that I will never be able to comfortably have sex because of how tiny my system is. I want desperately to be able to have fun and have a great physical relationship with my husband.

Is going to the gyno more painful on the vagina and cervix than intercourse is?

Is there anything to do to help me feel more comfortable?

Has anyone else felt this way and might be able to help me?

Like I said, I want desperately to be able to have such a wonderful relationship with my soon-to-be husband. This has scared me so much that I am just feeling like I will never be able to have sex without so much pain.

Please help :(




A vagina is designed to pass a baby. You will be fine during sex stop stressing.

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18/f.
I'm just wondering if I could get into any kind of legal trouble for posting loser guys kiks on craiglist? Sometimes I'll have guys I don't know randomly kik me pictures of their penis without ever prompting or asking or even being WARNED. To get some satisfaction for myself I thought of posting their kiks on craigslist in the man seeking man section but I don't want to if I could get into serious trouble. Can I? I didn't think so since you can easily block people on the kik app but then again, I don't know for sure.



Yes you can


You are false advertising, Also, I cannot begin to tell you how many creeps are on Craigslist.

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I'm lonely. Really lonely. I live on a college campus and there are thousands of people around me all the time but I still feel so alone. I have plenty of friends..but that isnt what i am looking for. I want to meet a guy...but I don't know where to look. I know people are like when you meet the right person it will just happen...you can't go looking for love...when the time is right...blah blah blah. But what if my fate is to make the first move? I can't meet someone if I spend all my free time trapped in my dorm room doing mindless busy work.

So where should I go? What should I say? I am generally not a shy person but I've never been one to strike up a conversation with a total stranger and have it go anywhere.

The reason why I am so anxious about this is because I graduate after this semester and when I do I will be moving back to my parents house in my small town where everyone knows everyone and the chance to meet someone new will more than likely be shot to hell. I need some pointers on meeting new guys...before i have to go back to little town on the prairie and have to pick between the 5 or 6 boys that arent engaged to their highschool sweethearts -_-

Any advice?!



Sometimes the best way to meet someone is through friends.
I met my husband through a friend, I never knew him directly but we went to high school together. If you have a certain hobby you could join a club, Go watch the basketball games at your local college. Get involved

Maybe one of your friends knows a friend who knows a friend? Etc.

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i wanted to ask that i wanted to have sex with my girlfreind she said that if i wore a condom she would not have sex and i fear that she may become pregnant



Do not have sex unless you use a condom.

You are not ready, sex should be 50/50 and not based on pressure. If she can't respect that then tell her to find someone else.

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I'm with a guy I've been with for 18 months, who is usually a dream guy.

However, he has a very short temper, and with snap at me over nothing. He also calls me annoying to other girls, and has said to my face multiple times that he's sick of 'having to handle me' and 'I'm Impossible to deal with'. His favourite things to call me are delusional and ridiculous. He will happily reduce me to tears and then say 'you can't just cry every time you have to face the truth'. He is usually this nasty after I ask him to control his temper, which he claims is 'baiting him' so I 'bring it on myself'

I dont feel like I should have to put up with this, but I love him so much, and we can have wonderful times together

This isn't really an abusive relationship but I didn't know what category to put it in.

Am I over reacting? What do I do to make it stop? Trying to reason with him Doesn't work :(



Leave him

This IS a mentally abusive relationship. You're boyfriend does not respect you, he does not value you and he does not treat you right.


People who care about one another do not put them down by calling them names. Yes, he is a good for nothing asshole.

Dump him

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I am 13 years old, and I have not taken a babysitting class yet. So, the parents of a 7 year old boy, is still going to be home working while I watch the little boy next Saturday. But this will be the first time ever babysitting someone. What should I do with him?



Play board games, Watch a movie.

Do what little kids like to do, Ask him.

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whenever my in laws come over i got to my room, the kids are either younger or older than me and I'm 17. Am I wrong for going to my room ?




I find it too be a bit rude. When someone has company
expecially if it is family you should be respectful and communicate with your guest. Going to your room is very uninviting.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and a half now and I actually do love the kid, he's amazing and completely faithful and he loves me but I think Im falling for my best friend, the way he looks at me gives me butterflies and I cant help but blush whenever they mention his name, and I love talking to him and I feel like I melt when he looks me in the eyes and I notice the way he always stares at my lips when we're talking and then glances at my eyes every five seconds or so, I sometimes feel like I'm friend zoning him but he's never really actually told me he likes me like that and he likes some other girl or so he says. But, I have no idea what I should do, help ? (P.S this is the first time this has happened to me)




I agree with the user below me, If you love your boyfriend tjen you need to do what's right by taking time apart from your friend. You're boyfriend is good too you, Then why exactly are you allowing yourself to drift? Good guys are
hard to find and you should not let them them go. It could be a mistake you will end up regretting. Stop spending so much time with this friend and draw the line. You need to give your man respect

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So...I'm fifteen (female), and I have had a crush on this guy for a while. A couple days ago, I finally found the balls to go up and ask him out. Kind of. It was more of a confession than a question. So here's what I said: "I just wanted to tell you that I totally wouldn't refuse if you asked me out. Or, you could always say yes when I ask you to go ice skating with me." And then he said "okay" and he smiled at me.

At first, I thought that was a yes, but the next day, he practically ignored me (I think it's because he was with his friends), and when he wasn't with his friends, he kept giving me these anxious/awkward looks (they practically screamed "come talk to me", but I can't be sure). I don't know what to do next. Give him my number? Ask him out again? Give him a time and place for a date? All I know is that I'm not going to wimp out again...I'm going up as soon as I get back to school.

Any advice for when I do?



I don't get the whole speaking "boy" language thing.

If you like him just ask him to hang out sometime. You could say " hey there's this cool movie playing and I wabted to know if maybe you would like to see it with me?" Just be casual. You never want to come across as needy or implying. I personally would not of said " I would totally say yes if you asked me out".. that is imply and i t is not exactly catchy. So yes, next time just ask him to a movie or if maybe he wants to grab lunch.

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Last month I got my period 3-4 days late and after that I did not have any sexual contact with my husband because he is working out of state. So this means I might not be pregnant so why am I late on my perid. Exactly one week late. Please help me



I do not understand why people ask us?

Take a test!....










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what happen if i swallow my own sperm?






Nothing.

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I have spent 2 valentines day without someone, the last time I had a boyfriend was 2011, he jilted me and it really hurt, since then I haven't had a serious relationship and that's what I am looking for.. Since 2011,I have been with about 4 guys not basically a relationship but a fling or I just decide to say yes out of pity and then break up... I haven't found what I want, someone who would fill that space my very ex boyfriend left, someone who I would love and who would love me back... I don't club, or party, my 2 close friends think my life is boring, they have boyfriends and they always spend the week or vals day with them I just feel so left out, my roomates also have boyfriends, I'm very pretty, 5'5 and slim but I don't know why I can't get someone within the age of 25 to date me... Please tell me what to do its been 2yrs




There is nothing wrong with your lifestyle. I never partied. Or went to clubs but I ended up finding someone.

Sometimes what the best thing to do is to let someone find you. I met my husband through a mutual friend, I didn't really know him personally but we went to school together. I was not looking, It just happened. You are young and ai know it doesn't feel that way too you but you have all the time. I was 22 years old when I met my husband and I didn't. Actually settle down and get married until I was 26.

People can meet people almost anywhere. You have to put yourself out there. Volunteer, Join a club or a sport or sometimes there are single people right where you work. Get involved ;-)

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Hi, so I'm a gay male. I've been married for only half a year. My husband and I had been together and deeply in love for a year before we got married. But he's changed a lot in the past couple months. (Ever since we said the I do) he temper has gotten awful, all we do is fight. He doesn't want to allow me to dress how I used to. Doesn't let me see friends. He won't let me go back to school or get a vehicle of my own. He talks to other guys online. Tells people how much he hates me. But to my face he says he loves me and cares about me. Our fights start about any little thing you can think of, and blow out of proportion and turn into huge fights. I've heard that the first 5 years are supposed to be the best but the first 5 months have been an emotional roller coaster. He loves me one day and hates me the next. The only time I get attention is right before bed and only if he wants sex. Other than that I just don't matter until he needs money or cigarettes. He won't get a job. I pay for all of his expenses. Including the car (that is not mine) that he "lets" me drive to work. I feel he may have cheated. He leaves with his friends and doesnt ever let me know where he is when im at work, and gets mad if i ever want to go out. hes really isolated me from my friends and family. He's extremely controlling and mentally abusive. He's basically destroying me. And I just don't know if I should keep trying anymore. He used to treat me like gold. Now I'm just dirt on his boots. Happy valentines day-



Hun

This marriage is abusive, controlling and probably even a bit manipulative. Someone who loves somebody will treat them right and respect them, Your husband does not own you and you are not his object.

Yes, This marriage needs to end. It is not healthy and you do not deserve that.

1, You need to stop making payments on his car. The car belongs to him it is his responsibility not yours.

2, I personally would not want to sleep in the same bed as someone who treats me so little.

You deserve way better

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